How much do you like yourself? On today’s episode, I’m sharing essential strategies for building self-esteem and self-respect. We'll discuss the importance of facing fears, taking 100% ownership of your life, and maintaining consistent self-care. Discover actionable steps to align your actions with your values, enhance your relationships, and live a life of integrity and fulfillment. Inspired by my 'Shatterproof Yourself' course, this episode is packed with insights to improve your self-percepti...
Oct 23, 2024•32 min•Ep. 134
Today we're examining why you want to change your mindset to foster personal growth and freedom. I've faced my own battles with fear and anxiety and learned the power of shifting one's mindset. In this episode, I'll share three compelling reasons to focus on changing your mindset, especially when you're stuck in negativity. We'll explore practical techniques, like expanding your time horizon, to help you face your fears more effectively. We’ll also discuss how adopting a flexible mindset opens u...
Oct 16, 2024•29 min•Ep. 133
Today we get into the transformative power of asking great questions. As someone who's battled a lifelong fear of rejection and anxiety, we’ll discuss how curiosity and meaningful inquiries have shaped my journey as a coach and therapist. There is great value in stepping outside your comfort zone, engaging with others, and building connections through open-ended questions. Learn how these questioning techniques not only reduce stress and anxiety but also provide transformational clarity and stre...
Oct 09, 2024•20 min•Ep. 132
Today we are going to cover the importance of making every 15 minutes count in our lives. We will discuss struggles with distraction and explore how small increments of time can lead to significant transformations. I explain how using 15-minute blocks productively can help in various life areas such as mental health, relationships, career, and personal growth. We explore how to identify and make better use of wasted time and I share a personal story about facing fears by playing frisbee golf. Tu...
Oct 02, 2024•19 min•Ep. 131
In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, I’m going to tell you exactly why I don't like 'old people.' Now, I'm not talking about age; I'm talking about a mindset that refuses to grow, challenge itself, and embrace new experiences. I'll share my personal journey, including a recent skiing trip that tested my fears, and explain how the DCG (Decide, Courage, Grow) model can help you stay young at heart. We'll explore the negative effects of an 'old' mindset on anxiety, physical health, an...
Sep 18, 2024•27 min•Ep. 130
In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, I’m opening up about some tough times I've been through. My business fell apart, I went through a divorce, and had to rebuild from scratch. I share how I turned these big challenges into opportunities to grow and find success again. I'll also talk about the experiences of some of my clients who have faced their own hurdles. This episode is all about shifting your mindset to tackle life's obstacles head-on and turn them into something positive. T...
Sep 11, 2024•23 min•Ep. 129
In the second part of our series on Relationship Building Actions, hosts Adam Gragg and Brent Coppock dives into practical strategies for enhancing relationships. We discuss the five love languages, emphasizing their importance and offering examples like walking and hiking to integrate these languages. Brent shares personal anecdotes, including a challenging hike with his family that ended in a memorable experience, to highlight the benefits of doing hard things. Then we talk about the significa...
Sep 04, 2024•28 min•Ep. 128
Today we are welcoming Brent Coppock, a licensed professional counselor, for an engaging discussion about actions that build strong and healthy relationships. Brent and I explore the significance of taking intentional steps in relationship building, sharing personal stories and professional insights. They cover essential elements such as creating a safe environment, the importance of going first in relationships, and practical strategies like understanding love languages. This insightful convers...
Aug 28, 2024•38 min•Ep. 127
Today we’re diving into some surprising truths about self care. I share my personal journey of overcoming a major sleep issue and anxiety, and how I realized that my self-focused mindset was holding me back. Inspired by a powerful sermon from Craig Groeschel, I discuss the importance of thinking less about yourself, thinking more about others, and shifting your perspective for better mental and physical health. I challenge you to take actionable steps that might feel uncomfortable but are crucia...
Aug 21, 2024•27 min•Ep. 126
In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, we delve into practical strategies for confronting and overcoming your biggest fears. Drawing from my personal experiences, like tackling my fear of flying and challenging myself in a paddleboard yoga class, I outline three essential steps: counting the cost of avoidance, recognizing the opportunities and growth in facing fears, and leveraging your strengths to tackle daunting tasks. I emphasize the importance of action over insight and encourag...
Aug 14, 2024•23 min•Ep. 125
In today’s episode, we discuss the importance of facing fears, based on my own experiences including a risky cab ride in Montreal. Throughout the episode, I explore seven unexpected benefits of confronting fears: reduced anxiety, a smaller ego, increased creativity, improved relationships, access to new opportunities, better health, and enhanced confidence. I challenge you to take noteworthy action by identifying and tackling small, uncomfortable tasks to build momentum for bigger challenges. Jo...
Jul 31, 2024•28 min•Ep. 124
In today’s episode, we dive deep into the pervasive issue of distraction and its impact on our lives. I start by sharing my own struggles with distraction and how I often fall victim to addictive algorithms. I discuss the importance of taking ownership of our attention and share advice from strangers on minimizing distractions. We explore the three pillars of focus: managing emotions, creating productive environments, and building meaningful connections. Through personal anecdotes and practical ...
Jul 24, 2024•24 min•Ep. 123
Today we are going to spend some intentional time on the critical topic of owning your attention amidst a world full of distractions. I share my personal struggle with getting sucked into my phone and how it can derail an entire day. Today, we outline three key strategies to reclaim focus: starting your day right, ending your day right, and stopping the spiral of distraction by facing underlying fears. I offer practical actions and routines that have worked for me and challenge you to create you...
Jul 17, 2024•24 min•Ep. 122
In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, we delve into the crucial topic of avoiding the negative impact of toxic people in your life. I discuss three essential truths that you need to understand: recognizing your own toxic behaviors, identifying toxicity in others, and owning your attention as your property. Drawing from my 25 years of experience as a mental health professional, I'll guide you through actionable steps for setting boundaries, managing your attention, and taking charge ...
Jul 10, 2024•30 min•Ep. 121
Welcome to episode 120 of the Decide Your Legacy podcast! Today, we're diving deep into the topics of facing fear and asking for what you want. Joined by my special guest and father, Eric Gragg, we'll explore how addiction and fear can act as major roadblocks in life. We'll break down the fear of rejection and offer three powerful tools to help you ask for what you want: cultivating courage, maintaining a positive attitude, and staying organized. Eric shares his invaluable experiences from his p...
Jun 28, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 120
Today we delve into the common issue of clients avoiding confrontation with their past traumas due to the fear of being labeled as 'playing the victim'. We discuss the importance of facing and acknowledging past hurts like trauma, abuse, or betrayal to avoid being perpetually victimized by them. I outline four crucial steps: admitting the impact of past events, recognizing their effects, discussing them with a trusted person, and finding value in the experiences. By following these steps, you ca...
Jun 20, 2024•31 min•Ep. 119
Today we delve into the struggles and pressures of constantly seeking validation from others. I share my personal experiences and highlight the detrimental effects of comparison and people-pleasing on mental health. In this episode, I present four practical tools to help break the cycle of trying to impress others: sharing your vulnerabilities, being true to yourself, measuring progress against your past self, and finding meaning in your experiences. I encourage you to take actionable steps towa...
Jun 14, 2024•30 min•Ep. 118
In today's episode, we dive deep into my personal struggles with negativity over the past several years and share how I've learned to tackle these challenges head-on. We'll discuss the ease of falling into negative thought patterns and how common this struggle is for many of us. I'll share three actionable strategies to help you stop being negative: eating healthy with your mind, recognizing and replacing negative thoughts, and seeking discomfort for growth. Using personal anecdotes and practica...
Jun 05, 2024•39 min•Ep. 117
Welcome to episode 116 of the 'Decide Your Legacy' podcast. Today we're diving deep into how you can recognize when someone is struggling and what you can do to support them. I'll be walking you through practical methods to encourage, build trust, and connect emotionally with others. With personal anecdotes and research-backed strategies, this episode is designed to help you transform stress into strength—both in your life and in the lives of those you care about. We'll explore how consistency, ...
May 28, 2024•38 min•Ep. 116
In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of coaching, comparing and contrasting it with counseling. Reflecting on my personal journey, I share how the evolution from a controlled, teaching-centric approach to a more liberating, coaching-oriented mindset has brought immense joy and fulfillment into my life and the lives of those I work with. We are joined by Adam, also known by the affectionate nickname 'Lloyd', a valued team member of Decide Y...
May 09, 2024•46 min•Ep. 115
Today we will delve into the profound importance and transformative potential of having unforgettable conversations. Drawing from a personal experience of reconnection with old friends, I illustrate how engaging, meaningful dialogue can strengthen relationships and foster deep connections after years of distance. We will detail three essential strategies to make every interaction memorable: letting go of outcomes, focusing on the other person, and coming equipped with a list of meaningful questi...
Apr 24, 2024•27 min•Ep. 114
Today, I want to share my conviction that life balance is key to success and happiness. This episode revolves around understanding the life wheel for consistent self-assessment across seven crucial life areas. I unpack three critical secrets to living a balanced life: redefining life balance with healthy, realistic expectations, the importance of getting organized to avoid distraction, and the power of trusting your gut to guide life decisions. We will aim to inspire one another to face our fear...
Apr 16, 2024•23 min•Ep. 113
Today we are going delve into the often misunderstood concept of life balance. We are going to challenge the common belief that life balance is unattainable, proposing instead a realistic approach to achieving it. We will discuss the seven essential areas of life: spiritual, family, health and self-care, intellectual, social and fun, career and business, and financial. By sharing personal stories and engaging with the struggles I face, I aim to demonstrate the importance of assessing and intenti...
Mar 27, 2024•25 min•Ep. 112
Today on the Decide Your Legacy podcast we are going to dive into the topic of building trust. Drawing from my experiences working with fatherless kids and men in prison, I reflect on the stark reality of fatherlessness among the incarcerated and its impact on trust. We will discuss the seven pivotal keys to nurturing trust: nurturing self-trust, mitigating overthinking, championing consistency, enhancing predictability, valuing actions over words, embracing vulnerability, and committing to hone...
Mar 20, 2024•26 min•Ep. 111
I'm thrilled to take you through a journey of understanding the critical role of accountability in personal growth and self-improvement. From the release of my new course, Shatterproof Yourself, to overcoming personal challenges with nicotine addiction, I share firsthand the transformative power of having accountable relationships in our lives. I'll share four compelling reasons why accountability is indispensable - it helps us think, feel, and act better, and accelerates our change process. Thr...
Mar 13, 2024•30 min•Ep. 110
Today, we're unpacking a question close to my heart and crucial for our mental health—how do we relax? Inspired by a client's struggle with finding calm in the chaos, we delve deep into the art of relaxation. Together, we explore the significance of engaging with others, the transformative power of letting go, and the pivotal role of choosing productive distractions. Furthermore, I demystify mindfulness and distinguish between functional and dysfunctional ways to unwind. I also share my personal...
Mar 06, 2024•29 min•Ep. 109
In this episode we will dive into the profound impact of mentoring. Special guest David Riffel, executive director of Mentoring Warriors, joins me to share his inspiring story from facing a life-threatening health scare to founding a non-profit focused on mentoring young men. David unfolds the significance of 'father wounds', the necessity of being a safe and trustworthy mentor, and the mutual growth both mentor and mentee undergo. Together, we explore the challenges of fatherhood, the lack of m...
Feb 28, 2024•50 min•Ep. 108
On this episode, host Adam Gragg discusses the importance of dealing with past trauma. He highlights how individuals achieve life-changing transformations by confronting their past and working on self improvement. Through these transformations, he observes clearer vision and direction in life, improved mental and physical health, and the ability to express love to oneself and others more freely. Adam then uses case studies from his coaching clients, demonstrating the profound effect that process...
Feb 23, 2024•29 min•Ep. 107
On this milestone 100th original episode of the Decide Your Legacy Podcast, we are going to talk about the three main reasons that I struggle with change: pursuing comfort, giving in to fear, and holding onto a flawed identity. We’ll cover my personal experience and perspective, touching on my journey as a therapist and content creator. Today I’m going to challenge you to recognize and confront your fears, to shift your mindset, and to redefine any flawed identities. The ultimate aim of these ch...
Feb 14, 2024•30 min•Ep. 106
In this episode, we are going to discuss seven profound self-care secrets inspired by my client's decision to make a 'life list' of things that make him happy and things he wanted to improve. We’ll talk about asking for help, avoiding hypocrisy, self-retreats, creating a self-care plan, managing finances, creating a happy list, and being rigid in prioritization. Self-care plays a critical role in individual well-being and the realization of a personal legacy. 00:57 The Concept of a Life List 01:...
Jan 31, 2024•21 min•Ep. 105
