Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to save $15 off your first dermatology visit! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save thirty-five percent! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! Gabby's Group Date blouse: https://bit.ly/3C6UghC Our Episode On Kaitl...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 457
It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Abby, has a family dynamic she has been navigating her entire adult life. While her parents divorced well over a decade ago, her father continues to badmouth Abby's mother and stepfather while deflecting his responsibility in the marriage's demise. Should Abby just "keep the peace" by continuing to bite her tongue, or is it time for a confrontation? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Abby! 40:55 - Shandy Debrief If you hav...
Aug 11, 2022•52 min•Ep. 477
Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals across 7 boxes, plus 3 free gifts! Time Stamps: 00:41 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 5 01:41 - Episode 5 Kick Off 2:30 - Logan Visits Rachel 7:47 - Rachel’s Group Date 9:15 - Jesse Visits Rachel 1...
Aug 09, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 467
Today's conversation has been a loooong time coming! So many of your questions over the last 2 years have swirled around whether or not to become a parent, or seeking #parenthoodclarity. Since Shandy is far from qualified to give you advice on the matter, we're thrilled to be joined by clarity coach Keltie Maguire who also happens to be #ChildfreeByChoice. Obviously none of us can answer this deeply personal question for you, but what we can do is have a conversation. We chat about everything fr...
Aug 04, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 436
Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4. Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:27 - Overall Thought...
Aug 02, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 466
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a woman is open to dating older, what should that actual bracket be on the apps? If a guy won't let you see his place, is that a red flag? And how does Sharleen *really* feel about Andy's white V-neck uniform? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! 0:00 - Q1: What Should Be My "Max" Age When Dating Online?...
Jul 28, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 439
Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Download the free Upside app and use code SHANDY to get up to $5 cash back off your first purchase of $10 or more! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:42 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 3 4:31 - Episode 3 Kick-Off 6:32 - Zach's 1-On-1 With Rachel 15:06 - Matt White (Platinum Package) 16:10 - Zach's Dat...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 478
It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Abigail Heringer (The Bachelor, Season 25) and Noah Erb (The Bachelorette, Season 16), who you saw meet and date on Bachelor In Paradise, Season 7! They share the behind-the-scenes we didn't see on Paradise, when and how Noah reached back out to Abigail post-filming, how they complement each other today, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor!...
Jul 21, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 451
Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 4:00 - Episode 2 Kick-Off 5:39 - Group Date/"Pageant Of Sorts" 9:15 - Evening 14:12 - Jordan V's 1-On-1 With Rachel 20:27 - Evening 25:46 - Nate's 1-On-1 ...
Jul 19, 2022•57 min•Ep. 425
It's a 2-for-1 Caller Day! Today's first caller, Nicki, is in the thick of wedding planning, and while she and her fiancé agree on just about everything, they don't see eye to eye on wedding vows. He wants to opt out of writing them at all. Should she insist or prioritize his comfort zone? Our second caller, Kate, finds herself involved in a confusing "friendship", years after extricating herself from the emotionally manipulative ex they have in common. How should she handle this relationship, a...
Jul 14, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 432
Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 ...
Jul 12, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 470
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a dealbreaker if a guy asks you to Venmo him for your first date together? Is it reasonable to expect your date to be as invested in safe sex as you are? Where's the line between sharing the laughs and respecting your partner? Finally, a beautiful letter written by a Shandy. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for your free in-depth hair consultatio...
Jul 07, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 429
It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Emily, is at her wit's end. Her boyfriend still lives with his ex, and while he has his reasons, she's wondering how patient she should be. At what point is having empathy detrimental to our own selves, and is this relationship automatically doomed by its rocky start? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and us...
Jun 30, 2022•48 min•Ep. 437
This is Sharleen's all-time favorite Hot Topic conversation. You will probably also learn more about Andy's mind and thought process here than in any other episode Shandy's ever done. Are you deeply moved by sad music? Do you find comfort in a rainy day? Does the word "poignant" resonate with you? If you answered "yes" to these, you just may be the Bittersweet type. (Spoiler alert: so are both Sharleen and Andy!) According to our esteemed guest, author Susan Cain: "Bittersweetness is a tendency ...
Jun 23, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 449
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like the guy but not his style, is it superficial to want to change it? Andy has long said the "maturity threshold" for men is age 36—does he have an age equivalent for women? And is refusing to go down on your partner a potential dealbreaker in the world of dating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 fr...
Jun 16, 2022•58 min•Ep. 444
It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a true ambassador for body positivity, Sarah Nicole Landry, and her partner in crime, her husband Shane Landry. You already know Sarah from her massive The Birds Papaya empire, spanning her Instagram, blog, app, and podcast, and we're thrilled Shane agreed to join so we could talk the dynamics of their partnership in true Shandy fashion! We learn about their "high school"-like courtship, how parenting four (yes, FOUR!) children affects their relation...
Jun 09, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 428
And just like that... it's Caller Day again! Today's lovely caller, Taylor, was in a passionate romance that felt like The One. But when she confronted her partner about something that made her uncomfortable, things unraveled pretty quickly. Who was in the right, and did she overreact or execute poorly? And looking bigger picture, was this relationship always doomed? Listen on for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Welcome to Caller Taylor! 45:50 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write ...
Jun 02, 2022•57 min•Ep. 462
Today we have the pleasure of speaking with Blair, the “exvangelical” brains behind @TalkPurityToMe, a humorous account dedicated to unlearning the shame taught by purity culture, both on Instagram and TikTok. Purity culture, based on the belief that sex should be had only within heterosexual marriage and that all lustful thoughts before marriage are sinful, has been a theme among our Shandies' questions, so we're excited to finally have a conversation on the topic. With Blair's help, we unpack ...
May 26, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 479
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Does "The Ick" speak to good instincts or just being overly picky? Should we trust that if a man wants to make a move, he will? Is sending an ex a letter always a bad call or are there exceptions? Finally, a great "Am I An Asshole?" question. (Turns out we like those!) Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off your...
May 19, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 499
It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a Bachelor Nation icon, Courtney Robertson Preciado, and her husband, Humberto Preciado! You certainly know Courtney as the winner of season 16 of The Bachelor (and the New York Times Bestselling Author of her subsequent tell-all, "I Didn't Come Here To Make Friends") and we're thrilled Humberto agreed to join for his first ever pod appearance! These lovely parents struggled finding a sitter for their 5 month old daughter, Paloma, so we get a very cu...
May 12, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 455
Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates of messages and emails opened, so we do our best to cover the most common themes today, including when to reveal your mental health struggles in a new ...
May 05, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 474
It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Kelsey, introduces us to a popular new term (Platonic Life Partner, or "PLP"), redefining what one's "soulmate" might look like. But Kelsey also has quite the conundrum: she has developed romantic feelings for her PLP. Are these feelings real and should she act on them, even at the risk of the special platonic bond and partnership they've developed? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use cod...
Apr 28, 2022•59 min•Ep. 441
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to fantasize about other people if you're in a committed and happy partnership? If you find someone great but just can't come to find them attractive, is that worth ending things over? And just how important does Shandy find sleep compatibility? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to ht...
Apr 21, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 482
It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's couple has been hotly requested for so many months, it's about time we brought them into the Shandy fold for a double date! Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of the wildly popular Bachelor Nation News Youtube channel, and his fiancée, blogger Tasha Courtney, join us to chat. We learn about the long journey that led to their courtship (complete with a grand gesture or two), how their first impressions have changed, how they navigate working together, and of cour...
Apr 14, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 435
Today's lovely guest, Nicole Sodoma, is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades and the managing principal at Sodoma Law, based in Charlotte NC. Her debut book, "Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney" will be released on May 24. She has also been through a divorce of her own, so needless to say, she's beyond qualified for today's "Confessions" episode! Nicole answers all of YOUR burning questi...
Apr 07, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 445
It's Caller Day! Today's call will likely be very relatable for those dating out there. Today we're joined by Lauren, a young single mom who knows what she wants and has been crystal clear in what she's looking for. However, the guy in question says one thing and does another. Is this a dealbreaker? And how much does "double dipping" affect things? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology vi...
Mar 31, 2022•49 min•Ep. 484
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How should you proceed if you love your partner but not his very frequent, very loud hobby? Why do guys stop trying when they get the girl? And what are Shandy's thoughts on the woman proposing to the man? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go...
Mar 24, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 485
Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! 0:00 ...
Mar 17, 2022•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 501
Parasocial relationships are defined as one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other’s existence. Have you ever wondered how the celebrity in this situation, or the "persona", feels about this dynamic? Today we're joined by accomplished actor, writer, and Youtuber Josh Peck, to chat how it feels to be on the other side. With 3.5 million Youtube subscribers, 7 million TikTok followers, 1...
Mar 17, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 471
It's Caller Day! Today's is Andy's all-time favorite call. We're joined by Fiona, who is in a one year old relationship. As things have become long distance she finds herself and her partner fighting more than usual. However, the more questions we asked, the more we learned there's more to her story and her reservations. Listen on for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe ...
Mar 10, 2022•50 min•Ep. 423
