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Dear Shandy

Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levineart19.com

Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine—aka "Shandy"—combine dating advice and reality show recaps for a fun analysis of modern romance.

Sharleen and Andy are two former commitment-phobes who have now been married for over a decade. They don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the tough dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, non-judgmental & honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership.

As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge (combined with Andy's hilarious commentary) to deliver what are hands-down the best Reality TV recaps in the business. They interview reality TV (or reality-adjacent) couples in double-date style episodes called Love Fests. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during TV seasons, twice a week.

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Episodes

Q&A! Living With Mom, Mismatched In Dancing & Sending A Bad Text To The Wrong Person

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! When timing doesn't feel like your friend, should you send a "If you're single in the future" message? Is it wrong to be turned off that your boyfriend lives with his mom? If your partner's dying to dance with you but you're uncomfortable on the dance floor, who's got to give? And don't pretend it hasn't happened to you: when you send the wrong text to the wrong person... 😱 Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Than...

Dec 01, 20221 hr 5 minEp. 500

Platonic: Navigating Friendships With Dr. Marisa G Franco

Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your fri...

Nov 24, 20221 hr 6 minEp. 472

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale Part 2 | Victoria, Johnny and Greg... Oh My!

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 16, aka the finale part 2! Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! -Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:28 - Overall Thoughts On Epi...

Nov 23, 20221 hr 9 minEp. 478

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale Part 1 | First Comes Fantasy Suite, Then Comes Neil Lane

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 15, aka the finale part 1! Thanks to our sponsors! Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 15 2:22 - Episo...

Nov 22, 202247 minEp. 431

LOVE FEST! Ben Zorn & Stacy Santilena On Going From Friends To More And Surviving Stagecoach

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.") Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids...

Nov 17, 20221 hr 26 minEp. 493

Bachelor In Paradise Recap Eps 13 & 14 | Andrew Has 99 Problems And Jessenia Is One

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 13 & 14! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and enter code SHANDY at checko...

Nov 16, 20221 hr 14 minEp. 475

Q&A! Venting, Mismatched TV Tastes, And Is An Old Flame Worth Revisiting?

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to vent to others about your partner? Is it worth revisiting things with an old flame? And a sticky "Am I The Asshole?" question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Head to https://www.go.factor75.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 to get 60% off your first box! 0:00 - Q1: Is It Wrong To Vent To Others About My Partner? 14:21 - Q2: I Ran Into An Old Flame And There Was Chemistr...

Nov 10, 202257 minEp. 465

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 12 | Rodney, A Tragedy In Three Acts

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 50% off your first order with free shipping! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and enter code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! - Go to https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY to try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free! Our Word ...

Nov 08, 202250 minEp. 428

I Broke My Ex's Heart & Think I Want Him Back—Help!

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth who has quite the complicated high school sweetheart story that ended in her breaking the guy's heart. Fast forward to 5+ years later and he's still on her mind—but is she on his? And if so, is it worth closing the distance and potentially becoming the "other woman" to pursue, or are some things better left in the past? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth! 48:00 - Shandy Debrief If you have ...

Nov 03, 202255 minEp. 450

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 10 & 11 | Red Flag Banquet And Boring In Stereo

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 10 and 11! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.tryfirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY to get 20% off your order! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop...

Nov 02, 20221 hr 14 minEp. 481

How To Manifest Your Best Life With Roxie Nafousi

Today's Hot Topic theme addresses the relationship you have with yourself—your deepest desires, your beliefs, and what might be getting in the way of your own goals and happiness. Our guest, Roxie Nafousi, wrote THE book on manifesting and has been hailed “the manifesting queen” by Forbes and “the face of manifesting” by The Times. While the idea of manifesting might seem surprising for longtime Shandies, we were truly blown away by the ideas and perspectives Roxie shared in this delightful conv...

Oct 27, 20221 hrEp. 480

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 8 & 9 | Shanae 1.0 Returns While A Love Triangle Brews

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 8 and 9! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Download the FREE Upside App and use promo code SHANDY to get $5 or more cash back on your first pur...

Oct 26, 20221 hr 20 minEp. 451

Q&A! Stealing Baby Names, Vocal Fry, And Refusal To Put Down The Toilet Seat

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What should you do if you've always dreamed of living elsewhere but your partner has no interest in moving? If your baby name is stolen by someone close to you, is it cause for confrontation? And is refusing to put down the toilet seat a simple act of laziness or a sign of something more? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Q1: I’m Secretly Dating My Brother’s Friend After He Explicitly Told Me Not To—How Sh...

Oct 20, 20221 hr 16 minEp. 490

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 6 & 7 | Down Goes Casey While Michael Flies First Class

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 6 and 7! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TryFirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get ...

Oct 19, 20221 hr 23 minEp. 491

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 4 & 5 | Salley Finally Lands And Also... Peter

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off and free shipping - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get...

Oct 12, 20221 hr 27 minEp. 440

When, If Ever, Should I Disclose My "Number" In Dating? Help!

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by not one, but TWO delightful callers. Our first caller, Ray, has been texting with a guy daily for 6 whopping months. The catch? They live in different countries and have never even kissed. How can she take things to the next level? Our second caller, James, had his "number" used against him towards the end of his last relationship. When, if ever, should one share The Number, and is honesty really always best? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00...

Oct 06, 202257 minEp. 473

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 2 & 3 | Suitcase Sagas And Fruit Fly Time

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 2 and 3! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY ...

Oct 05, 20221 hr 25 minEp. 468

Navigating Mismatched Libidos With Sexologist Shan Boodram

Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards rais...

Sep 29, 20221 hr 6 minEp. 447

Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 1 | Logan Drops A Luce

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to HelloFresh.com/shandy65 and use code shandy65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Download the Flip app for FREE today and save thirty percent on your first order with code shandy! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Hou...

Sep 28, 20221 hr 15 minEp. 456

Q&A! Rom-Com Scenarios, Cringey Pet Names And Sliding Into His (LinkedIn) DMs

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like a guy but not his pet name for you, is it worth saying something? If reconnecting with a former flame via LinkedIn has reached a roadblock, when is it OK to up the ante? Plus a classic Andy-I-Need-Your-Male-Perspective-On-This-Guy's-Intentions question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Q1: I Like The Guy But Hate His Pet Name For Me 6:29 - Q2: What Are His Intentions? 13:45 - Q3: I’m Finding M...

Sep 23, 20221 hr 4 minEp. 487

Bachelorette Recap: Finale | A Breakup House And A Tino Kebab

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12, aka the GRAND FINALE! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel un...

Sep 22, 20221 hr 17 minEp. 461

LOVE FEST! Kenny Braasch & Mari Pepin On Homebody Life & Age Difference Upside

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Kenny Braasch (The Bachelorette, Season 16) and Mari Pepin (The Bachelor, Season 25), who you watched meet and get engaged on Bachelor In Paradise Season 7! They're now over a year into their relationship (just ask Andy about his famous bet!) and they live together in Chicago. Today they join Shandy to share their first impressions, how their 15 year age gap works for—not against—them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy N...

Sep 16, 20221 hr 6 minEp. 452

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 11 | A Kafka-Esque Battle Of Semantics

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 11, aka the Finale, Part 1! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals across 7 boxes, plus 3 free gifts! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SH...

Sep 15, 20221 hr 19 minEp. 446

Should I Pack Up And Move My Whole Family For My Own Personal Happiness? Help!

It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Hanna, is happily married with 3 young children. Everything's as it should be in their very small town, but she feels drawn to nurture her personal and social lives with a move elsewhere. Sounds simple enough, but when she considers one option, she can't help but weigh the pros of the other. At what point does a fear of a choice not taken become a fear of making any choice at all? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Hanna! ...

Sep 08, 202255 minEp. 454

Bachelorette Recap: Eps 9 & 10 | Fantasy Suites, Hold The Fantasy

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 9 and 10, aka Fantasy Suites Part 1 and 2! Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! -Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:24 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 9 & 10 2:45 - Episode 9 Kick Off 5:45 - Erich’...

Sep 07, 20221 hr 37 minEp. 496

2 Year Anniversary Q&A | Answering Our Shandies' Questions! - Ep 156

It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 2 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and you sure delivered with quite the variety of Qs about this podcast, our relationship, and in general, our thoughts on a ALL THE THINGS. Thank you, Shandies, for another year of making us feel so seen, understood, and appreciated. Come join us in our living room to chat! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:24 - Who Is On Each Of ...

Sep 01, 20221 hr 20 minEp. 488

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 8 + Men Tell All | A Bewitching Hometown, Villains Gone MIA, & First Impression Rose Head

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Aven's Hometown and Men Tell All. Thanks to our sponsor! -Go to https://www.Nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:57 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 8/Men Tell All 1:57 - Episode 8 Kick Off 3:52 - Aven’s Hometown 10:53 - Evening 14:15 - “Rose Ceremony” 14:45 - Men Tell All Kick Off 22:28 - Chris 24:46 - Hayden 26:20 - Logan 34:14 ...

Aug 30, 202251 minEp. 436

Q&A! Hot For Teacher, Turning The Other Cheek, & A 25 Year Age Difference

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your boyfriend accidentally sees your fetish in your search history, should you address it or leave it be? Is it worth it to explore a crush on your tutor? And is a relationship with a man 25 years older doomed to fail? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! 0:00 - Q1: How Should I Break Up With Him If I’d ...

Aug 25, 20221 hr 16 minEp. 476

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | A Clown Car Of Hometowns

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7. Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! -Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! Referenced Today.com article: https://www.today.com/popculture/tv/bachelor-podcasts-rcna43186 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping (And Other Tangents) 3:25 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 7 4:13 - Episode 7 Kick Off 5:53 - Jason...

Aug 23, 20221 hr 17 minEp. 459

LOVE FEST! Blake Horstmann & Giannina Gibelli Talk DJ Life And Misconceptions

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Blake Horstmann (The Bachelorette, Season 16) and Giannina Gibelli (Love Is Blind, Season 1), who met filming Paramount Plus' All-Star Shore! They share how familiar they were with each other prior, some early hurdles post-filming, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a questionable Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game but all's well that ends well! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors!...

Aug 18, 20221 hr 8 minEp. 443
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