Dealing With My Grief

My name is Darwyn M. Dave, and I lost my father in April of 1978 when I was just 10 years old. Even though that was a long time ago, I have realized that I'm not "over" his death, but in fact I'm still dealing with it. I've started the Dealing With My Grief podcast to discuss how I have been coping with grief and bereavement since that time. It is my hope that in creating this space I am able to connect with others who have lost someone close to them and in some small way help them deal with their pain.

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Episode 12 - Grief and the Social Issue of the Day

John Lennon was shot and killed in 1980, This was the first time I'd heard of the term "gun control." After President Ronald Reagan was shot, it became a nation issue in the United States.Why was gun control not so important when my father was killed?Do people believe that their social standing shield them from grief and tragedy?I don't believe grief considers who you are when it decides to strike. I can be contacted by: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com twitter - http://www.twitter.com/deal...

Apr 13, 2016•8 min

Episode 11 - Grief and Revenge

The man convicted of murdering my father was the first person to receive the death penalty after Missouri re-instituted capital punishment in 1977. His penalty was later overturned and her received life without the possibility of parole for 50 years.How do my personal feelings and religious beliefs factor into whether or not I think he should be put to death for his crime.I can be contacted by: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com twitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgrief web - http:// www...

Apr 08, 2016•13 min

Episode 10 - Is There a Relationship Between Grief and Addiction

How are grief and addiction similar... how do they differ? I find that even though each may be caused by some difficult experience that we face in life, at least I have the ability to overcome my addiction. I don't think the same can be said for grief.Psychology Today's definition of addiction - https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/addictionYour are encouraged to leave feedback: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com twitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgrief web - http:// www.dealingwithmy...

Mar 30, 2016•14 min

Episode 9 - My Grief and My Mother

My father was my entire world as a child. Wherever he went I wanted to go with him. It seems as if I was always by his side. Once he died, my mother became the central figure in my life and would instill in me core values that I carry with me to this very day. she would sacrifice all that was important to here to make sure I would have everything that I needed, And she'd always make herself available to me no matter what the circumstance.Your are encouraged to leave feedback: email - darwyn@deal...

Mar 23, 2016•13 min

Episode 8 - 28 Minutes From Grief

I have often wondered what would have happened if my mother and I had stayed at my parents store for an additional 15-20 minutes. Would we all be alive, or would we all have perished that night.It is a question that consumed me for a long time. Eventually, I just had to let it go.Your are encouraged to leave feedback: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com twitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgrief web - http:// www.dealingwithmygrief.comMusic provided by Oren Levine (oren@ohljazz.com)...

Mar 16, 2016•10 min

Episode 7 - High School and Grief

Even though I had an uncle and my grandfather who would become the male role modes in my life after my father passed, I did not ask them to accompany me to any of the father/son events at my high school. My reasoning was simple... they were not my father. Grieving the loss of my father - some 4 years after he died, blinded me from reaching out to the two men that could have helped me the most during arguably the most trying four years of my life. Your are encouraged to leave feedback: email - da...

Mar 09, 2016•12 min

Episode 6 - I Dont Have a Monopoly on Grief

When I was younger, if I heard people discuss the loss of a loved one I would always think that the somehow they got more time with them than I got with my father, or at least they had time to "prepare" for the loss of their loved one.I now realize that every loss is significant and hurts regardless of when the person passes or the circumstances of their death.Everyone must learn how to cope with their own grief. Let me know what you think of today's episode: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.co...

Mar 02, 2016•12 min

Episode 5 - Dealing with Grief Triggers

Episode 5 - Dealing with Grief TriggersDo grief triggers always have to make me sad?I have several grief triggers:Food - ham and cheese sandwichesTimes of the year - the month of AprilHeirlooms - a thermos and sofaAll of these remind me in one way or another, but do the all still make me sad.While I can avoid eating certain foods, I can't stop April from coming every year, but I can use some things that have been passed down to me to remind me of good times I had with my father. Those items make...

Feb 24, 2016•13 min

Episode 4 - I can run, but I can't hide

I've been trying to get out of the shadow of my father's legacy. Once I graduated from high school, I decided to go to school out of state to get a fresh start... to be another face in the crowd. After running out of money after my sophomore year, I decided to join the Army. I didn't want to go back home, because my mother had already sacrificed so much for me. I needed to make my own way. The army was perfect because I didn't have to go home a failure after not graduating from college. Please s...

Feb 17, 2016•10 min

Episode 3 - It Could Be Worse

Is it possible that losing my father was not the worse thing that could have happened to me?Growing up, I had friends whose parents weren't together. Many of them carried the burden of thinking that their parents weren't together because of something that they had done. In other words, it was their fault that their parents weren't together.I had one friend who would wait for his father to come pick him up when it was his father's weekend for custody, and his father inevitably would be a no-show!...

Feb 14, 2016•8 min

Episode 2 - God and Grief

How religion or a belief in something greater than ourselves impact the grieving process? Is it possible to truly be angry with with God? I was born and raised Catholic and am still a practicing Catholic. While I may not be the best Christian walking planet Earth, I still believe God has a plan for me. I can be contacted using by:email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.comtwitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgriefweb - http:// www.dealingwithmygrief.com Music provided by Oren Levine (oren@ohljazz....

Feb 10, 2016•11 min

Episode 1- When Does the Grieving Process Start

Does the grieving process always begin the moment we lose someone in our life?For me grieving didn't start until a week and a half after I lost my father. I truly believe this is because I couldn't really process what had happened due to my age at the time (I was 10).Please send me your feedback:email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.comtwitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgriefweb - http:// www.dealingwithmygrief.com Music provided by Oren Levine (oren@ohljazz.com) Thanks for listening...

Jan 20, 2016•9 min

Episode 0 - Dealing With My Grief

My name is Darwyn M. Dave, and I lost my father in April of 1978 when I was just 10 years old. Even though that was a long time ago, I have realized that I'm not "over" his death, but in fact I'm still dealing with it.I've started the Dealing With My Grief blog/podcast to discuss how I have been coping with grief and bereavement since that time.It is my hope that in creating this space I am able to connect with others who have lost someone close to them and in some small way help them deal with ...

Jan 15, 2016•4 min

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