I've seen it repeatedly in my dating life and heard stories about people withdrawing after sex from the Dating Intentionally community. For some reason, after you have sex with someone you're newly dating, they tend to pull away. Why does this happen? This episode lays out the five most common reasons this happens and what you can do it about it in the future when/if this happens to you again. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www....
Apr 23, 2024•31 min
Have you tried tracking your dates? This episode features Jillian Romero Chaves, the founder of Clara For Daters (Not A Dating App), which lets daters track their dates and stay accountable. Jillian talks about how taking notes on her dates using Clara helped her (and other users) gain clarity in the process and make more informed decisions. Get Clara for Daters: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clara-for-daters/id1667355360 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ F...
Apr 19, 2024•56 min
Dating outside your type seems to work for many people, but how do you do it? And what if it leads to dates where there's no attraction? This episode walks you through all my tips and tricks for dating outside your type and how to navigate a lack of attraction when it happens. I also share my experience, my type, and how my fiance doesn't fit into it at all. Thank you to everyone who shared what their type is on Instagram! My type: https://www.instagram.com/p/CexiXgIL33l/ Slide into my DMs on IG...
Apr 16, 2024•30 min
"If he wanted to he would" is one of the worst dating rules and on this episode Ali Jackson, the host of Finding Mr. Height, shares why. We also get into what happened when I hired Ali as a dating coach 2 years ago, dating through grief, meeting dates IRL, how to stop minimizing parts of yourself in dating, Ali's personal dating "rules" and so much more. Ali is a wealth of knowledge and you're going to love her practical dating advice! Follow Ali: https://www.instagram.com/findingmrheight/?hl=en...
Apr 12, 2024•50 min
While we spend so much time looking out for red flags in early dating, we have to pay attention to green flags too! This episode features my top 10 green flags to look out for in dating, as well as more green flags submitted to the pod from the Dating Intentionally community on IG. As you listen to these green flags, I want you to reflect on whether or not YOU embody them as well. You know what they say: you need to have the qualities in a partner that you want. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://...
Apr 09, 2024•33 min
When do you talk about income? How do you approach dating if you're in debt? Is it a red flag if they bring up crypto? These are just a few topics money coach Delyanna Barros and I discuss in this episode. You'll learn how and when to bring up essential topics around finances in early dating, what red and green flags to look for and how to talk about money in a playful way. Follow Delyanne: https://www.instagram.com/delyannethemoneycoach/ Get the 90-Day Money Slay Guide: https://delyannethemoney...
Apr 05, 2024•46 min
This episode breaks down exactly how to approach hard conversations with someone you're romantically involved with so you never have to say the dreaded words "we need to talk." Listen to the full episodes for my scripts, tips, and mistakes to avoid when starting serious conversations, as well as my experiences doing this with an avoidant and securely attached partners. This episode will help you whether you're single, newly dating someone, or in a relationship. Episode 31 about love bombing: htt...
Apr 02, 2024•35 min
Would you still want to date someone after going through their phone or talking to their mom before going out with them? In this episode, we hear from Alli Goldberg, the mastermind and host of the incredible live comedy show Love Isn't Blind. We discuss how she came up with the concept of a dating show where men can't speak, why she's over dating apps, and what she's learned about how men and women date from running Love Isn't Blind. We also learn how to make dating fun by following your interes...
Mar 29, 2024•52 min
Have you ever gotten the ick in dating? In this episode, you'll learn what the ick is, the three categories of icks, and how to tell if your icks are dealbreakers. I also talk about why you get the ick later on in a relationship sometimes and how I addressed mine in my current relationship. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating ...
Mar 26, 2024•31 min
Do you feel like your expectations are too high? Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Listen in on this amazing conversation with Damona Hoffman, who's been a dating coach for over 15 years. We talk about her new book, "F The Fairy Tale" and the four dating myths, specifically the myth about dating rules. I love what Damona has to say about embracing the messiness in dating, how expectations set us up for constant disappointment and why being realistic isn't the same thing as settling. We also tal...
Mar 22, 2024•49 min
Have you ever been ghosted? Afraid of getting ghosted in the future? This episode has you covered with exactly what to do (and not do) when you inevitably get ghosted, as well as my thoughts on why people do it in the first place. If you tend to ghost people, this episode will walk you through how to stop doing that and start sending anti-ghost texts instead. My anti-ghost texts: https://www.instagram.com/p/C2VJ8QOxRtv/?img_index=1 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intent...
Mar 19, 2024•25 min
Dating after a divorce or a big breakup can feel daunting, confusing, and overwhelming. In today's episode, life and dating coach Sade Curry discusses how to navigate dating after divorce, discover your needs in a partner, and enjoy the process of getting to know new people. Sade also discusses how she met her husband on Bumble after her divorce. Follow Sade Curry: https://www.instagram.com/sadecurry/ Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: http...
Mar 15, 2024•56 min
What does it mean to settle? Is accepting someone as they are the same thing as settling? This episode breaks down the difference between the two in dating and relationships, and why practicing acceptance is so important. I also get to a few questions about this topic in the episode that you asked me on Instagram! Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2...
Mar 12, 2024•36 min
5 juicy dating questions we get into: Should you give someone a chance to change/prove themself? How do you know if you’re aligned after 3 months of dating? What’s the best way to communicate after a first date? What do you do if your friends don’t like your partner? If you live in Brooklyn can you date someone in NJ? Ilana also talks about how she met her fiance on Hinge! It’s a great story. Connect with Ilana on IG Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow...
Mar 08, 2024•53 min
If you just started seeing them and you're having doubts, this episode might confirm (or deny) what your gut is telling you. These 10 signs don't mean a new relationship will 100% not work out, but if one or more are present, then that's going to be a potentially painful relationship for you to be in. Don't forget to rate, subscribe and follow Dating Intentionally! Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentiona...
Mar 05, 2024•29 min
Why is asking for our needs to be met so scary? And how can we be our own secure base? These are the two main questions I explored with guest Rikki Cloos, who wrote an amazing book called Anxious Hearts Guide. We talk about what's happening when our anxious attachment is activated, what to do when we feel anxious in early dating situations, what's normal to need in a relationship and how to create more emotional safety for ourselves in dating. Rikki also talks about how she ended up in a long-te...
Mar 01, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 51
Don't you hate it when you meet someone amazing, but their kissing skills aren't up to par? Don't worry. There are ways to address this. In this episode, I'm sharing different ways to handle a "bad" kisser and how to make sure YOU aren't the one whose kissing skills need work. I also talk about how to ask for consent before kissing without making it awkward. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My ...
Feb 27, 2024•27 min•Ep. 49
Do you feel like you have no idea how to flirt? Does flirting feel awkward? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, shares his best tips for getting started with flirting, even if you have no idea how to do it. We discuss the five dimensions of the flirt, the four different flirting styles and how to use body language in a subtle way to flirt in real life, without feeling awkward. Flirting is a skill you can learn! Follow Benjamin Camras: @benjamincamras Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instag...
Feb 23, 2024•47 min•Ep. 47
I get so many questions about what to do when the check comes at the end of the date. The easy answer is, that whoever asks is who pays. However, it goes so much deeper when it comes to heterosexual dating. In this episode, I deep dive into the reasons why women believe men should pay and why men are increasingly bitter about it. What we're experiencing now in dating is the growing pains of traditional courtship between men and women catching up with the progression towards gender equality (even...
Feb 20, 2024•35 min•Ep. 50
Do you feel like you have to wait until you lose weight to start dating? Are your feelings about your looks holding you back from getting on the apps or putting yourself out there? In this episode, I talk to Leah Kern, and anti-diet dietitian, about how to approach realistically improving your body image. Because you can't go from hating how you look to loving your body overnight. Leah shares so many helpful tips and insights for getting started on improving your body image so you can date with ...
Feb 16, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 45
We need to stop chasing sparks in dating! Just because you don't feel a spark does not mean that connection is doomed. In this episode, I talk about what the spark is and what it isn't, and why we feel attracted to some people and not others. I focus heavily on tips for building chemistry in early dating, but with the caveat that chemistry alone can't carry a long-term relationship. That's where compatibility comes in. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Foll...
Feb 13, 2024•24 min•Ep. 44
In this episode, I talk to veteran dating expert Evan Marc Katz about all things early dating! We get into why your confidence is the first thing to work on in your dating journey, tips for moving on from a past relationship you’re still stuck on and why you might be having a hard time finding men you actually like. I also had Evan give his take on one of my Instagram posts which he kindly disagreed with so it was fun to get into that more and hear his point of view. Evan's free guide: 7 Mistake...
Feb 09, 2024•54 min•Ep. 42
On this episode of Dating Intentionally, you'll hear our engagement story (including a real-life nightmare scenario) from my fiance, Johnny, and how he selected a ring for me! I also talk about why I proposed back to him and how I chose a ring for him as well. At the top of the episode, you'll hear a mini tangent about Valentine's Day and the importance of communicating your expectations around dates and gifts. Where Johnny got my ring: Adiamor Where I got his ring: Richter Scale Rings Johnny's ...
Feb 06, 2024•52 min•Ep. 43
Yes, you can work on healing your attachment wounds even if you're not in a relationship. I got to talk to Julie Menanno about her new book, Secure Love, and how to apply its insights even if you're single. Julie and I cover steps to healing attachment if you don't work with a therapist and how to tune into your body to figure out what you need when you feel anxious, and what's at the root of your emotions. We also talk about spotting the negative cycle in early dating, the healthy way to naviga...
Feb 02, 2024•57 min•Ep. 41
Are you following your intuition and trusting your gut feelings, or are you self-sabotaging? In this episode, I talk about why we self-sabotage and how it's different than trusting your gut. I get into eight different ways we get in our own way and tips for tapping into your intuition more. I'm also sharing a very exciting update on my relationship! Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free ...
Jan 30, 2024•28 min•Ep. 40
Not sure how to get your needs met in the bedroom? Feel awkward talking about sex with someone new? Abigail Jensen from @vibeslut and I get into how to talk about sex and navigate new experiences with new partners with confidence and ease. Abigail provides so many practical, realistic tips for good sex and great communication in this episode. Connect with Abigail on Instagram Listen to Abigail's new podcast Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok...
Jan 26, 2024•48 min•Ep. 39
Have you heard of the whole feminine and masculine energy framework in dating? If you haven't, I'm sharing examples of the type of dating advice you'd hear if you go down the rabbit hole of tapping into your feminine energy to attract a masculine man. In this episode, I cover why this dating advice makes dating more complicated and causes us to overthink. There's one part of this advice I do like, which I talk about as well. At the end of the day, you get to try different styles of dating advice...
Jan 23, 2024•30 min•Ep. 38
In this episode, I got to talk to dating creator and author Lauren Josephine about what she learned during her decade-long dating journey and going on over 200 dates until she met her current boyfriend in an unexpected place online. We get into how to recover from situationships and fantasy relationships that don't pan out, how she got over the ick with her bf, bad advice she took in her journey and the mindset that works if you want to delete dating apps. Lauren provides so many useful nuggets ...
Jan 19, 2024•42 min•Ep. 36
Do you get first date anxiety? This episode walks you through each step of a first date, from confirming the time to deciding if you're going to hug or kiss at the end. I also share tips for having fun conversations on first dates, as well as having a solid mindset so you don't let your anxiety run the show. At the end, I'm sharing your awkward first date stories with my boyfriend, Johnny. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tikt...
Jan 16, 2024•43 min•Ep. 37
In this episode, I'm talking to Julia from the Pretty Much Done podcast. We cover how to deal with comparing yourself to people in relationships, how to navigate being single when you thought you’d be married with kids by now and what the path to self-acceptance looks like. We also get into her dating life a bit in Austin, Texas and how she’s experimenting with meeting people in the wild. If you’re single and struggling or you’re thinking about getting out of a relationship where you know you’re...
Jan 12, 2024•45 min•Ep. 35
