In this episode, I discuss making friends and building community as an adult with Rachel Saslaw, the founder of StoryTell. She also happens to be my childhood best friend! We talk about the difference between community and friends, how to be open to new platonic connections and the various ways Rachel has made new friends in cities that she has lived in. We also talk about being an "inviter" vs being a "participater" in a friend group, and the importance of focusing on what needs friendships can...
Aug 02, 2024•1 hr
Are you obsessed with figuring out if your crush or date likes you back? Do you find yourself spiraling over someone who's sending mixed signals? This is the episode for you. I'm breaking down why we need to focus more on ourselves (our emotions, actions, and experiences) than on the other person's behavior in early dating. I provide tips on how to make this mental and emotional shift and what happens if you don't start dating more "selfishly." At the end of the episode, I answer a dating dilemm...
Jul 30, 2024•37 min
In today's episode, I talk to Todd Baratz, LMHC, about the importance of self-awareness, why it's more than okay to be clingy in dating and relationships, and how our dating checklists hold us back from intimacy. We also discuss how we make dating more challenging for ourselves and how to focus our energy on analyzing other people's behavior inward instead. At the end of the episode, Todd shares his take on some of the most common dating advice on Instagram. Connect with Todd: https://www.instag...
Jul 26, 2024•45 min
You've heard of the slow burn, but how do you take it slow in dating? This episode covers 10 of the most effective tips for taking it slow in early dating and not rushing the process. At the end of the episode, I discuss dating dilemmas such as asking for gifts in a relationship and dealing with a lack of physical affection. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.co...
Jul 23, 2024•46 min
In this episode, you'll hear Matchmaker Maria and I get into a ton of topics, from social media's effect on today's dating culture to whether or not my fiance and I should combine finances. We talk about online dating, meeting people IRL and a lot about how her company's matchmaking services work. We also got into Maria's 12 Date Rule, Green Dress Theory and living with a partner before or after engagement. At the end, we do a rapid-fire round of "Ask A Matchmaker." About Agape Match: https://ag...
Jul 19, 2024•1 hr 5 min
If there's one mistake to avoid in early dating, it's following each other too early. In this episode, I explain why it's best to wait to connect on social media, how it amplifies our anxieties, and how it breeds miscommunication. I also share best practices for navigating connecting on social media in the early dating stages and how to talk about it. At the end of the episode, I answer two dating dilemmas about not feeling attracted to people right away and what to do when the people you date a...
Jul 16, 2024•32 min
In this eye-opening conversation with writer Jessica Slice, you'll learn what it's like to date with a disability and chronic illness. We get into so much in this episode, like when to disclose a disability, tips for using dating apps, where dating apps fall short when it comes to inclusivity for disabled folks and tips for what to do when you encounter someone in your dating journey who has a disability. We also talk a lot about Jessica's amazing new book, Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up an...
Jul 12, 2024•52 min
So, after a few months of listening to this podcast, you find yourself in a new relationship. Yay! Now, what do you do? This episode is about the four main things to focus on in the early stages of a new relationship after you've decided to officially become a couple. Listen and learn how to make the most of the honeymoon phase and keep learning about each other and integrate each other into your lives. I also get into handling conflict in the early stages of a relationship. At the end of the ep...
Jul 09, 2024•43 min
What kinds of questions are you asking on dates, and are they the kind that will help your date open up? In this episode, I talk to Topaz Adizes, Founder of The Skin Deep and creator of the Emmy award-winning series {The And} about how to have deeper, more intimate conversations. We get into the types of questions that lead to deeper conversations, tips for listening and more. This was such an insightful conversation! Also - I am now partnering with The Skin Deep and offering a discount on their...
Jul 05, 2024•59 min
If dating were easy, this podcast probably wouldn't exist. This episode is packed with reminders and mindset shifts to help you stay positive on your dating journey, even when you keep striking out. I discuss believing vs. hoping, checking our own expectations, and examining the reality of what's actually happening in your dating life, despite how it feels. At the end I answer two dating dilemmas! One is about maintaining a FWB while looking for a long-term partner, and the other is about talkin...
Jul 02, 2024•33 min
It's always so interesting to hear dating advice from a different perspective. This episode features Blaine Anderson, the founder of Dating By Blaine who was recently featured on Shark Tank! Blaine spills the tea on what men look for on women's profiles on dating apps, why they're hesitant to approach women in public and what women can do to be more approachable. We also broke down her adorable meet cute story with her husband, who she met at Barry's Bootcamp. This conversation was truly eye-ope...
Jun 28, 2024•53 min
I'm switching it up this week with a new format! I answer five of your dating dilemmas. Submit your dating dilemma below to have a chance of getting it answered on the pod! In this episode, I answer questions about needing more words of affirmation, making the decision to pursue single parenthood in your mid-30s, how to define the relationship, dealing with a dry texter in early dating, and what to do if you're not getting past the first date. I also talk about how I've been dealing with rejecti...
Jun 25, 2024•31 min
Shame holds us back from what we truly want and need in dating, sex, and relationships. Jessica Stahl shares how she transformed her shame into something else - something way more empowering in the form of a feminist cartoon named Vanillacooldance, which takes on taboos around female sexual pleasure, normalizing bodies, speaking up for yourself in dating, and so much more. Jessica and I talked about how she created VCD, how to address shame around sexual pleasure, and how to speak up for your ne...
Jun 21, 2024•57 min
You've done so much healing work, so why do you still feel so emotionally triggered? In this episode, I get into why you still feel so emotionally triggered in some situations, despite all the work you've done on yourself and how to manage it in a relationship. I talk a lot about what has triggered me in my current relationship and how I deal with it. At the end, I share wedding updates! Three months to go. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: htt...
Jun 18, 2024•38 min
Today's episode features the amazing hosts of Dateable Podcast, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. They have been sharing their dating advice for 8 years with thousands of daters everywhere. We get into super practical tips for having better conversations on dates, the importance of screening your matches, and the mindset shifts you need to be more curious and less attached to the outcome. We also talk about the common thing that successful daters have: wanting a relationship, not needing one, and know...
Jun 14, 2024•59 min
Have you ever been on that nightmare date where they don't ask you a single question or make an effort to get to know you? Unfortunately, it's a pretty common situation. In this episode, I explain why your date (usually it's men) doesn't ask questions and share various ways to handle that situation. I also provide ten of my favorite date questions for your next date! At the end of this episode, I answer two listener questions. The first one is from a woman who could never convince her ex-BF to g...
Jun 11, 2024•34 min
Did rom-coms ruin how we view relationships? This new series, Rom Com vs. Real Life, featuring my fiance and fellow film nerd Johnny, examines that question. In this episode, we're looking at the film He's Just Not That Into You and what it's teaching viewers about dating, relationships and how it all works. This move is packed with rules, exceptions and marriage-obsessed women. What is this movie teaching us about dating and relationships? Is it helping or hurting the way we perceive long term ...
Jun 09, 2024•1 hr 27 min
In today's episode you'll hear from confidence and assertiveness expert Talia Bombola, who's also a professor and LMFT. We get deep into where confidence truly comes from, why we look for it in a partner and an unexpected way to start building it up on your own. We also talk about the importance of assertiveness and why it's tough for women specifically to practice, as well as ways to use assertiveness on dates (you know, when your date just won't stop talking about themselves). Finally, we disc...
Jun 07, 2024•58 min
Maybe you've heard the advice "date multiple people," but you have no idea how it works, if it's even possible for you, or why you should try it in the first place. This is the episode for you! I'm breaking down exactly how to approach talking to multiple people and entertaining a handful of potential matches before committing to one person. This approach doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for me. It's worth trying if you tend to get attached quickly, can easily get dates and want to speed...
Jun 04, 2024•39 min
If you're using dating apps or thinking about creating a dating app profile, this is the episode to listen to. Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge joined me on the podcast to talk all things dating apps. We get into what makes a good profile, how to swipe more effectively, what mistakes to avoid when using dating apps and so much more. At the end we play a game I made up called "Erika Explains" where she answers a bunch of your dating questions. Follow Erika: @alittlenudge https://www.ins...
May 31, 2024•51 min
Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are good to have in early dating and how to enforce them in a direct way (not a mean way). Slide into my...
May 28, 2024•39 min
Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober, how to support someone who is sober if you're not and the best dry date ideas. We also discussed alc...
May 24, 2024•53 min
We're switching it up this week with some Q&A! I answered 10 questions you submitted on Instagram. Some are dating questions I've never really touched on before; some are personal questions about things I rarely get to talk about publicly. Questions I answer in this episode: How do you genuinely keep hope of finding your person when dating seems hard? How to do long distance in the early days? We are 1.5 hours apart. Do you or your partner have any spicy preferences? How did you bring it up?...
May 21, 2024•34 min
Break ups suck. Luckily, we have experts like Amy Chan, who wrote Break Up Bootcamp, to help us through them. In this episode, Amy and I discuss where to start with healing after a break up, the importance of anger in the process of moving on, why it hurts more when a short relationship ends and how to know when a relationship is worth trying to save vs when to let go. We also talked about being friends with an ex and how to know when you're ready to start dating again. Connect with Amy: https:/...
May 17, 2024•54 min
Worried you're heading into situationship territory? This episode breaks down what a situationship is, what it isn't and why they're not ideal. I get into 10 different signs you're heading into a situationship and how to steer clear of them altogether. This episode is your guide for what to do and NOT do when you feel like the person you're dating is not on the same page but wants to keep dating anyway. Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? Find out in this episode. At the end, I sha...
May 14, 2024•40 min
In this episode, I talk to dating coach and former psychologist Jackie Glaser about how our inner world and the stories we tell ourselves dictate so much of how our lives unfold - especially when it comes to dating. We get into how to feel our self-worth, how to date when you feel like no one has ever been interested in you, showing up authentically on dates and so much more. This was such a powerful conversation and I love Jackie's spiritual approach to dating! Connect with Jackie Glaser: https...
May 10, 2024•46 min
How do you know you're ready to date? How do you start dating if you've never done it before? This episode is the pep talk you need to get out there (or back out there) with a healthy mindset and knowing what to expect. I talk about how to know you're ready to date vs how to know you're ready for a relationship, my best advice for having the right mindset going into dating after a long break and practical tips for getting dates on the calendar and feeling more confident. You got this!! Slide int...
May 07, 2024•29 min
If you're looking to feel more comfortable and confident during sex, this episode is for you. I talk to Claire Perelman, a certified sex therapist and one of my favorite creators on social media, about navigating sex with a new partner, approaching sexual situations when you're newly out as queer, and creating safety while enjoying physical intimacy. We also talk about her coming out story, how to properly give feedback to a sexual partner, healing from sexual trauma, and so much more. At the en...
May 03, 2024•59 min
Rejection will happen in your dating life, so you better be prepared! These ten reminders will help you stay grounded and positive when rejection happens, and I hope by listening to this, you'll be able to shake it off faster. Which reminder did you need to hear the most? DM me on IG and let me know! @dating.intentionally. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://b...
Apr 30, 2024•23 min
Are you curious about manifestation? Do you want to learn how to have more of an abundance mentality? In this episode, I talk to business coach Tiffany Cheung about how to tap into your own magnetism, embrace an abundance mentality, and how she approaches dating as a single parent to a 9 y/o. Tiffany shares her story about overcoming financial hardship, being on her own with a child as a teen mom, and healing from trauma. Her journey has had a lot of ups and downs, but it has led her to build a ...
Apr 26, 2024•1 hr
