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Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchickredcircle.com

Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!

Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!

If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.

Send us your brunchtalk questions at [email protected] or leave your question in a review!

Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/

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Episodes

BONUS: This is 40 - Yue interviews Julie

It's a celebration, y'all! We're talking about milestone bdays as Yue interviews Julie about turning the big 4-0 and the celebrations that followed (ummm still feeling that wine country trip). We discuss how love hits differently with each decade, why there's always mixed emotions about getting older, and ways to keep creating the love life you've always wanted in this next chapter. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more c...

Jul 26, 202340 min

BONUS: The Friendship Episode

Today we're talking about one of the most important relationships of all: friendship! Julie and Yue discuss the importance of friendship, yet why it often gets deprioritized in the hierarchy of relationships. We discuss the ways we approach platonic relationships differently than romantic ones, why even our friendship needed some extra TLC, and how to keep every relationship in your life healthy and thriving. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website...

Jul 19, 202329 min

Bonus: Are We Dating The Same Person?

So you’re dating someone new - would you want to know if someone else had intel about them before you went on a date? Or would you want to find out if anyone had dated (or was currently dating) your long-term partner? Julie and Yue debate the pros and cons of these ‘Are we dating the same person?’ groups and if they are helpful or harmful to your dating life. We discuss the concept of paying it forward to other daters, why it doesn’t always to work to skip to the end, and how to use these groups...

Jul 12, 202331 min

BONUS: The Next Chapter Post Breakup - Julie interviews Yue

What happens when you discover your partner of almost 5 years has been unfaithful? In this episode, Julie interviews Yue about her recent breakup. We discuss how she's processing what happened, why she still views this relationship as a "success," and the reasons she's excited about the next chapter while still very much believing in love. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit In...

Jul 05, 202348 min

S16E20: Finding Love At Any Age w/ May Lee

Gone are the days when you need to lock it down before you're 30 – we're firm believers that you can find love at any age! We're chatting with another fan favorite, former CNN journalist May Lee, about how she's now engaged for the first time at age 57 – and couldn't be happier that she took her time finding the love of her life. We're discussing why it's never too late to fall in love, how to navigate different views on marriage, and why the past played out the way i...

Jun 28, 20231 hr 24 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Meet More People IRL?

Ah the age-old question: How do I meet people in the wild? Nowadays it seems like a lost art yet we're craving this organic meet-cute more than ever before. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing why it's so challenging in the first place, ways to approach and be approachable, and how to discover the best types of places that could actually help you meet quality people. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafch...

Jun 25, 202324 min

S16E19: Discovering Your Core Gifts In Dating w/ Ken Page

What if what you thought was your biggest fault ended up being your greatest asset? We're digging into how to use our core gifts as we chat with one of our favorites, psychotherapist Ken Page. We're discussing why focusing on our flaws is so detrimental, how to start recognizing your core gifts, and ways you can use your core gifts to find a partner that's right for you. Follow Ken @deeperdating, listen to Deeper Dating Podcast, and learn more about Ken here: https://deeperdatingpodc...

Jun 21, 20231 hr 2 min

#brunchtalk: Should You Move In With Your Partner?

Do you need to move in together to move your relationship forward? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the right time to move in together – and if you need to at all, how different scenarios and children factor into the decision, why moving in is such a milestone, and other ways you can move a relationship forward even if you don't decide to cohabitate. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplaton...

Jun 18, 202321 min

S16E18: The Truth About Love & Money w/ Meredith Goldstein

Money, money, money! We're diving into why money is so much more central in dating and relationships than we even thought as we chat with journalist Meredith Goldstein from The Boston Globe Love Letters column & podcast. We're discussing why the conversation about money spans way more than what someone earns, how our upbringing/relationship with money plays into our future partnership, and ways you can talk about money more openly even on the first date. Follow Meredith @loveletters_...

Jun 14, 20231 hr 4 min

#brunchtalk: How To Respond When Your Ex Asks To Be Setup With Your Friend

So you got a text from your ex....and they're asking to be set up with your friend. Wait...what? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to respond when you get something from your ex that feels a bit in left field –and not to mention uncomfortable. We discuss if there's ever a time when your past romantic partners and friends should date, why someone may think it would be a good idea to try to expand their dating pool this way, and ways you can respond in a way that preserves y...

Jun 11, 202321 min

S16E17: Getting Married in the Metaverse

We're going into a galaxy far away to experience the ultimate commitment – the very first legal marriage in the Metaverse! We're chatting with long-standing guest Sheel and his now-wife Amruta about their Taco Bell Metaverse Wedding that got written up by People Magazine (yup, you heard that right). We're discussing how a metaverse wedding even works, what happens when two people aren't always on the same page regarding that next level of commitment, and how weddings are being re...

Jun 07, 20231 hr

#brunchtalk: Is It A Red Flag If Your Date Texts Too Much?

So you have a date set up but they are a bit text heavy before you've even met in person. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the line of texting and how much is too much or too little We discuss everyone's texting preferences, why evaluating based on texts before you know the person isn't a good strategy, and ways to actually spot red flags while dating. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and ...

Jun 04, 202318 min

S16E16: Why Divorce Doesn't Have to Suck

Whether you've been divorced before or you just fear it, we're going to debunk why the D word doesn't have to be so scary by talking to divorce expert and coach Alicia Robertson. We discuss how divorce (or any big breakup!) doesn't have to define you, why it's important to not let fear prevent us from moving forward in relationships, and how your ending can actually be an exciting new beginning. Follow Alicia @lemonadelifecoach, learn more about her work at https://www.lemona...

May 31, 20231 hr 10 min

#brunchtalk: Help! Am I coming on too strong?

Have you ever been worried your anxious attachment style sabotages your relationships? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re dissecting what "coming on too strong" even means and how to reframe it. We discuss guidance on how to approach the initial stages of dating, ways to make sure your real self – not your date self – is shining through, and how to be more confident you aren't scaring away the wrong people. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follo...

May 28, 202318 min

S16E15: What Would Your Ex Say?

Ever wonder what your ex would say if someone were to ask them about your relationship? Dates don't usually end with a satisfaction survey, yet we rate everything else in our lives, from Uber drivers to local coffee shops. We're talking about why feedback from the past can help us move forward, what inspired us to create our limited series 'Exit Interview', and what you all (our listeners!) want to learn from your exes, past dates, or situationships. Follow us @dateablepodcast. C...

May 24, 202346 min

#brunchtalk: How do you deal with negativity on the apps?

So you're on the dating apps and you start to encounter a ton of negativity – so much it's making you start to rethink dating at all. Do you just give up? Of course not! In this week’s brunch talk, we’re talking about how you can still persevere through it all even if it feels like dating apps are a trainwreck. We discuss how to change your mindset and way of using the apps, what the negativity we're seeing can mean for us, and ways to not let others get in the way of you finding lov...

May 21, 202319 min

S16E14: From Casual to Committed

So you're not looking for anything serious....sh*t. Whether you've been here before or you're wondering how something more casual may shift into serious relationship territory, we've got you as we chat with Jonah & Paola about how their relationship has progressed over the last year. We discuss what makes a relationship fall into the casual bucket, why our past dictates how we come into the dating pool, and ways you can explore non-monogamy while having a serious relationship...

May 17, 202358 min

#brunchtalk: Should You Have A List?

So you're dating and trying to find your person. You know what you're looking for...should you make a list? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re debating the pros and cons of having a list, what are the most important things to include if you choose to have one, and ways you can be more intentional about what you're looking for while still staying open to the package in which it shows up. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast...

May 14, 202319 min

S16E13: How Your Childhood Wounds Impact Your Love Life w/Vienna Pharaon

So is the reason our love lives are so f#*ked because of our...childhood? While we aren't blaming our parents, we are unpacking our childhood wounds with marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon. We discuss the five core wounds that many of us experienced, how these wounds may play into your experiences dating and with relationships, and ways you can heal your past so it doesn't define your future. Follow Vienna @mindfulmft and check out her book 'The Origins of You: How Breaking...

May 10, 20231 hr 12 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Go In For The Kiss?

You know that moment...the date's going well, and you're wondering: should I go for it? Should I go in for that kiss? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re chatting about why this once "male" role is more fluid nowadays, ways to ease into making the move that makes your intentions known, and how to mitigate the risk of putting yourself out there. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Chec...

May 07, 202321 min

S16E12: Dating In Different Cultures

Buckle up as we're about to embark on a trip around the world to find out what it's like to date when you're the one immersed in a new culture. We're chatting with Kat about her experience dating (and finding love!) in Brazil and Andy, who has been living (and dating) in Sweden & Germany as ex-pats from the US. And then we'll hear from Ai about the culture shock she experienced when dating in the US coming from Japan. We're discussing how dating "works" in dif...

May 03, 20232 hr 39 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Date Someone Avoidant?

What happens when you find yourself dating someone who is avoidant? How do you navigate conflict especially when you may be more on the anxious side? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re chatting about how you rectify your differences when you're dating someone, when it's time to work through it or cut ties, and how you can approach relationships from a place of love and growth regardless of your attachment style. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Foll...

Apr 30, 202317 min

S16E11: Coming Back Stronger After Heartbreak w/ Gabrielle Stone

What happens when you experience not one, but two gut-wrenching breakups within a couple of months? You go on a solo trip to do some soul-searching! We're chatting with author Gabrielle Stone about her eat, pray, #fml solo travel experience that set her on a new path to finding love – with herself. We discuss how you can rebuild your life after it feels like it has fallen apart, why the 'almost' relationships can almost string harder, and how the growth that comes from the pain can a...

Apr 26, 20231 hr 5 min

#brunchtalk: How Much Should You Share On A Date

How much do you need to share about yourself, your upbringing, or your past relationships in the early stages of dating? In this week’s brunch talk we’re chatting about the line between oversharing and not sharing enough, how you can spin conversations you’d rather veer away from, and why the last thing you want to do is trauma dump on a first date. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our...

Apr 23, 202317 min

S16E10: Taking Sexual Attraction Out Of The Equation

If you were to take sex and attraction off the table, what does it mean to have a relationship? We're diving in with David and Yasmin about their experience being asexual and how that plays into dating, relationships, and falling in love. We discuss what it's like not to experience sexual attraction in a world so driven by it, the difference between being asexual and aromantic, and how you can have a relationship that works for you. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonpla...

Apr 19, 20231 hr 3 min

#brunchtalk: Can I Use ChatGPT On Dating Apps?

How well does ChatGPT work for dating app convos? Is it ethical? We're diving in to discuss (and find out!) in this week's brunch talk. We’re discussing how you'd even use AI (artificial intelligence) from the opening line to the whole conversation, how this compares to a bot or hiring a human to have conversations on your behalf, and the line between using this technology in an authentic and inauthentic way. Plus, we test out ChatGPT in real-time and give you a verdict if this is a ...

Apr 16, 202322 min

S16E9: Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?

Whether you're screaming YES or you're extremely skeptical, this episode is going to be relatable for all as we chat with Kate about her experience meeting her wife, and how she had that gut feeling when they first met –despite being in a serious relationship with her boyfriend. We discuss why we need to listen to our bodies (and hearts) while dating, why it's important to take it slow when you have this intense feeling, and ways to get out of the should so you can start having the l...

Apr 12, 20231 hr 7 min

#brunchtalk: How Much Communication Should Happen Between Dates

So you met someone who seems fantastic and everything has been moving along well...except that you don't talk much between dates. Should you be communicating more? Or is just setting up the next date sufficient in the early stages? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how different people operate with texting/calling/video chats, etc, ways you can up your text game to build connection, and how to bring up the fact that you'd like to talk more. Got a question you need answered? Hi...

Apr 09, 202315 min

S16E8: Healing Your Past to Feel Dateable

We all have a story about ourselves that explains why our love lives aren't falling into place...but are they even true? We're chatting with Ben about how his lack of dating and sexual experience has caused him to identify as undateable – and how he's letting his past get in the way of his future. We discuss why we struggle to see ourselves the way others often do, how to let go of the past so it doesn't take over your present, and ways to date in a way that brings you closer to ...

Apr 05, 202358 min

#brunchtalk: How To Go From "Fine" Dates To Great Ones

Maybe you had a date or a series of them that were fine. You *could* see them again but would also be perfectly OK if your paths never crossed again. But all this does is make you apathetic about dating and seeing them again. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to start having great dates, why giving people more chances can work if you change your approach to each date, and ways to make the whole process a lot more enjoyable. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@date...

Apr 02, 202318 min