When you meet someone ah-mazing it's hard not to imagine a future with them. But what's the line of getting ahead of yourself vs. giving it your all? Join us for this week's brunch talk as we talk about a methodology to give yourself a gut check, how even the best of us can fall into fantasy mode, and a surefire way to set expectations according to what you know. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website...
Aug 14, 2022•21 min
In our last week before Season 15, we're talking fboy island and how we've changed our perspective on dating (from our episodes, silly, not fboy island!). We go back in memory lane through the many seasons talking about why you can't find 'The One', why maybe your type isn't your type, and how to persevere through it all on your quest for love. Episodes referenced: S4E16: Why You Can't Find 'The One': https://www.dateablepodcast.com/episode/s4e16-why-you-canno...
Aug 10, 2022•52 min
No matter how long you dated, breakups are oh so painful. From unraveling a life with someone to mourning the life you'll never have, this is by far the hardest part of dating. Join us for this week's brunch talk as we talk about the first thing you should do after a breakup, when is the right time (or not) to start dating again, and how to move through, not over, this difficult time in your life. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateabl...
Aug 07, 2022•24 min
We're coming in confident as hell as we chat about giving relationships a second chance (as inspired by JLo and Ben Affleck), in addition to reairing the episode we did on the podcast 'The Confidence Collective' about maintaining confidence while dating even through the bumps in the road. We discuss how to shift your mindset when you're feeling like you're "no one's cup of tea", how to use dating apps more intentionally, and why relationship chicken is the biggest...
Aug 03, 2022•1 hr 7 min
So you're looking for a long-term relationship, but for now you got that "friend" you may call when you're looking for a little something something. While you know they aren't 'The One', it's better than nothing, right? You're still getting something out of it...but are you? Join us for this week's brunch talk as we talk about how this arrangement may be setting you back despite realizing it, the exceptions for when a friends with benefits may be helpful, ...
Jul 31, 2022•23 min
We're continuing the off season for just a few more weeks! Join us as we talk about Yue's layoff and the parallels of feeling disposable in both work and dating. We're also reairing the episode we did on Katie Sturino's podcast 'Boob Sweat' answering all your dating q's. We discuss dating app burnout, the art of meeting people IRL, and how to get back out there after a long-term relationship. Follow Katie @katiesturnio and check out her podcast 'Boob Sweat', b...
Jul 27, 2022•1 hr 4 min
Whether it's defining the relationship, saying the l-word, or moving in together, how do you know when it's the right time or if things are moving too quickly? Factor in if you've had less than desirable role models, unhealthy past relationships, or limited relationship experience. Don't worry, we got you as we discuss what it even means to move 'too quickly', how fear can get in our way, and how to have these important convos with your partner (and yourself). Got a quest...
Jul 24, 2022•24 min
It's the offseason baby! Join us as we talk about Julie's bday celebration that Yue was in town for plus the big debate we got into re: sleeping with a partner (not in the way you think). We're also reairing the episode we did on Sydney Lotuaco's podcast 'Something to share' all about how to navigate modern dating in today's world. We discuss avoiding dating scenarios like the extremes of West Elm Caleb and the Tinder Swindler, th e shifts in dating over the past 6 ye...
Jul 20, 2022•1 hr 14 min
So you've met someone wonderful and you want the world to know....so when is the right time to introduce them to your friends? And what happens when they've met your crew but you've yet to meet any of their pals? Add in family to the mix and we got a whole discussion to unpack in this week's brunch talk. We talk about the timing of the introductions, what this step means for different people, and why some people may be eager while others are gun shy to bring others into the buddi...
Jul 17, 2022•23 min
What can the social and life sciences tell us about the most fundamental and unquantifiable human experience—love? Join us as we chat with Dr. Anna Machin about why we love and the science behind our closest relationships. We discuss the importance of not just romantic love but the love we share with friends, family and even pets, why we're all wired differently from how we love to when we say the l-word, and why it's essential love bravely even in a world where it feels like dating suck...
Jul 13, 2022•1 hr 12 min
The age old debate: who should pay on a first date? It's the battle of the modern and the traditional when it comes to modern dating etiquette in the initial stages of dating and what a "date" even means in today's world. During this week's brunch talk, we debate whether the man (in hetero relationships) should still pick up the bill, why we need to stop with the fake reach, and how to plan dates where the expectations are more clear upfront. Got a question you need answered?...
Jul 10, 2022•27 min
Whether you had to think for awhile or you can recall your last time like that, we're chatting with She Comes First author and sex therapist Ian Kerner about the pleasures of sex and how sex can help us bring us closer to our partners (and in light of everything going on, we all need that reminder more than ever!). We discuss the importance of being 'cliterate' and not just putting the emphasis on intercourse, how you can start to explore in the bedroom in a way that doesn't seem...
Jul 06, 2022•1 hr 14 min
We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. But is that even realistic? And how do we know if we are making the right choice? It can be tricky especially if we have had little relationship experience to benchmark it against. Join us for this week's brunch talk as we discuss if 'The One' even exists, signs you are with the right person, and how to distinguish between fear and if thi...
Jul 03, 2022•24 min
With everything that's been going on overturning roe v wade, we wanted to do a special episode where we talked to three different women (Janis, Mikala, and Priya) about their own experience with the decision to have an abortion (or not). We discuss how you don't ever know what you'll do until you're in the situation, the importance of choice, and why this decision has many layers and complexities that simply doesn't belong in our government's hands. Follow us @dateablepod...
Jun 29, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but does it really justify staying in a relationship not meeting your needs? In this week's brunchtalk, we explore whether to try to salvage your current relationship or cut bait and how to reframe your mindset about what "starting over" even means. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepo...
Jun 25, 2022•26 min
What's the difference between self-care, self-sacrifice, and selfishness, when it comes to dating & relationships? We're chatting with Raeann and Kristina from the Confident Collective about the balance of not compromising your own needs while compromising for others. We discuss the importance of taking care of yourself through all stages from early dating to having children, why it backfires to bend over backwards for someone else, and how to still put your loved ones first without ...
Jun 22, 2022•1 hr 10 min
Office romance...is it a do or a don't? While your co-workers could definitely be viable prospects, there's also a lot more on the line when you start to date people from work which makes this a tricky subject. Join us for this week's brunch talk as we dissect the pros and cons, why the fallout of the #metoo movement and the introduction of remote work changed the dynamics, and how to navigate making the move if you are going to shoot your shot. Got a question you need answered? Hit ...
Jun 19, 2022•25 min
These days there's no on right way to have a relationship, so why would having a family be any different? We're chatting with David, Zeke, and Avary about the rise of the 3-parent family and their arrangement as co-parents with Avary & Zeke being a married couple and David being their asexual platonic friend. We discuss why they opted to do things differently as a non-nuclear family (and how far they went to make it all legally binding), the importance of chosen family especially whe...
Jun 15, 2022•1 hr 5 min
When the relationship ends and a platonic friendship is on the table....could it work or is it better to remove this person from your life? On this week's brunch talk we're talking about if you can stay friends with an ex, what boundaries need to be in place, and how to determine ultimately what is best for you. This is a tricky one but we dissect all the ins and outs so you can use this as a guide to assess your own situation. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateabl...
Jun 12, 2022•23 min
We think we're self aware, but are we? And why is this so essential for romantic relationships? We're chatting with Dr. Tasha Eurich about why it's so essential while dating (and having long-term relationships) to hone into our awareness of ourselves,others, and the impact we have on one another. We discuss how we're all a little less self aware than we think, the shift from talking about the why to the what, and how relating to ourselves and others just 1% better can dramaticall...
Jun 08, 2022•1 hr 7 min
Ah the million dollar question: when to define the relationship. How do you make sure you don't do it too early? Or do you risk doing it too late that they could end up with someone else? On this week's brunch talk we're talking about why time isn't a factor into the DTR convo, how to have a series of low pressure chats starting early on, and why the focus should actually NOT be on defining the relationship (but rather something else). Got a question you need answered? Hit us up ...
Jun 05, 2022•23 min
As we grow older and wiser, what we want and need from a relationship can shift dramatically. We're chatting with Rob about his journey from dating people that he knew weren't long-term potential to how he became more intentional with his dating life to meet his now partner. We discuss the changing definitions of what it means to be in a relationship, the importance of certain qualities as we age, and why all the people who didn't work out are here to help you out in the long run. Fo...
Jun 01, 2022•1 hr 4 min
When another date or budding relationship doesn't work out, it can feel like a sucker-punch in the stomach. You start to question what you're doing wrong and if you're destined to be alone forever. Trust us, we get it and we've been here ourselves too. On this week's brunch talk we're talking about what rejection really means, why it keeps happening, and how this can actually be a great thing if you choose to see it that way. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at...
May 29, 2022•23 min
With the racism from COVID-19 and the rise of Asian hate crimes, it's been a scary time to be Asian American. But how does this extend to dating? We're finding out as we chat with Janet Wang about how her experience has changed over the last couple of years. We discuss the need to be with someone who understands us culturally, how the future of interracial dating may look different, and ways to be an ally to AAPI friends and dates. Trigger Warning: We discuss Asian Hate Crimes Follow Jan...
May 25, 2022•1 hr 7 min
Everything's all fun and games until finances enter the picture – especially when there is a big pay disparity between partners. Is your relationship set up for failure for the long-haul? Is there a way to navigate the wage gap in a way that still makes both partners feel like equals? On this week's brunch talk we're chatting love and money and how it plays into the future together. So grab yourself a mimosa and let's chat as we go through some of the scenarios of how to make it ...
May 22, 2022•20 min
As cliche as it sounds, the right person can be right around the corner....or maybe even someone you already know. We're chatting with Trace about how he started over after ending a 12-year relationship only to propose after 3 weeks of dating one of his newfound best friends. We discuss knowing when to think things through vs. take a leap of faith, what marriage, love, and commitment mean in today's day in age, and why friendship is the foundation of any relationship. Follow us @dateable...
May 18, 2022•1 hr
When it feels like you're always the third wheel or the only single one in the group, it's tough to not be jealous that your friends found their special someones. For this week's brunch talk we're diving into it all from validating your feelings in a way that still allows you to want the best for your friends, embracing and enjoying the various stages of your life (including being single), and reframing how you view being the odd one out. Got a question you need answered? Hit us ...
May 15, 2022•22 min
Even the best of us can start to believe that inner voice that wonders if we’re too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too light, too dark – whatever it is that gets in the way of thinking we’re worthy of love. But have no fear, we’re silencing the self doubt as we chat with Katie Sturino about how she regained her confidence and rocked the dating game even at her lowest point. We discuss how our earliest trauma still plays into the way we think about ourselves when dating, the importance of ...
May 11, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Ever been in a situation where you know it's not your person....yet you keep staying because the sex is so.damn.good? We feel you as we chat on this week's brunch talk about how to break free from the dickmatization, if being p*ssytized is even a thing, and how to have faith that you'll find someone eventually that meets all your needs – in and out of the bedroom. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our websit...
May 08, 2022•23 min
Sex can be so enjoyable yet so stressful at the same time....especially when you're dating someone new. We're chatting with Dean about recovering from erectile dysfunction and what that meant for his sex life. We discuss our societies views on sex and the expectations of men, why not being able to get it up rarely has to do with the partner, and how to get through sexual dysfunctions with your partners. Want to learn more about how Dean navigated ED through therapy and other mental/psych...
May 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min
