BONUS: Ask Abuelita!

the spot. I can do that to our listeners. If you've ever wanted advice directly from an abuelita like me, well now it's your chance. Dm us with your dating questions at Date my Abuelita First on Instagram and I will select a few questions to answer. Now let's get the advice trained Roland. Here we go again. The question comes from Matthias. My girlfriend of six months is throwing

hints that she wants to move in together. It's more than hints now because in the last couple of weeks she started sending me listings on Zillow and Craigslist that she likes. And while she has an outright said she wants to move in, the writing is on the wall for sure, and we've definitely talked about it casually before.

While I'm a little apprehensive to move in together, I gotta say it would be nice that she lives a bit far from me and we only get to really see one another once a week, which doesn't feel like enough. Despite wanting to see her more and see what it's like to have that kind of intimacy, I don't know if I'm ready to move in. I'm thirty seven and I've never lived with a partner before. There's a lot about the possibility that excites me and a lot that

makes me hesitant. I'm a little scared of losing my autonomy and my alone time. I'm unsure when I'll know if it's the right time or if I should just go for it and see what happens. Another big factor is I've lived in my current place for over ten years and it's rent controlled. I live in a city we're finding a good place to live at an affordable price is really uncommon, But I know my girlfriend would prefer to live in a different part of town. I

want us both to be happy. What should I factor in and making such a big decision, and is it too early. What do you mean too early? Are you looking at the clock? If there's any clock that you should be looking at right now, it's the fact that you are thirty seven years old and there is no more time to waste. You have heard those simple words that everybody mentions, life is so short. In regards to her looking for places on Zillow and Craigslist, I think

that's pretty cute. I think that shows her enthusiasm for this relationship though it is six months old. Sometimes it takes six years, sometimes it's never. But you have the opportunity to do it now. Now you're apprehensive about a couple of things, rent control, really, really, we're talking money already. No, how about we just get it done now. Do you have that kind of intimacy in order to fulfill this dream? Well? Do you? You will not be questioning unless it was there.

You are excited about the possibility, But at the same time, you're on that sense, a bit hesitant and a bit scared you're going to lose your autonomy. You're alone time. How about your togetherness? How about enjoying all that beautiful life that you have with someone that you can truly truly enjoy your life? With don't be so hesitant. If you're asking questions is because you are ready for the answer. You want someone to tell you what is right, and

Awilita is right. Here, make a chance, leap with great faith, follow your heart. What can happen? It doesn't work, at least you gave it your best shot. Are you ready for another question? This one is from Rex. I was talking to a super hot person on a dating apple. Here we start with the hot one TVH. I was looking for a fun, spicy encounter. They told me they were going out of town, but with text. When they got back, I thought, oh, yeah, right, no one ever

follows up. Well, to my surprise, when they got back, they texted asking what I was up to over that weekend. I invited them to hang out the next day, but didn't hear back. The next day they texted saying they'd been sick. Yeah, possible, but a bit sketchy. We made plans to hang out the following weekend. Hang out arrived, I hadn't heard from them and sent a text no answer. The next day I received texts from them, but from a new different number. Oh my goodness. They had gotten

a new phone and yeah, lost their contexts. Sure, they were so sorry for ghosting, and that that hadn't been their intention. I don't believe them throughout all of this. My friends said, it seemed sus slash red flaggy, but not totally out of the realm of possibilities, and I could try one more time. I replied, nicely but succinctly. I asked if they wanted to hang that week. They

said yes, excitedly, and we decided on a day. Well, two hours later they texted again and said that they actually weren't very available with the lame excuse, they had so many opportunities to ghost. Why follow up after their trip out of town? Why tell us they got a new number? Why tell me they got a new phone. I just wanted to f a blank si kay explanation, exclamation exclamation, Well is their loss? Now? Tell me I will need that. What was up with this person? And

how do I avoid situations like this moving forward? Well, if you put yourself on the spot, take what comes with it. Your first sentence to me said, you're looking for a hot person to have a spicy encounter. Well there was nothing serious there. You were not looking for someone who was real and honest. No, and this person they got the drift. They knew they could do whatever

they wanted, especially since you kept texting them. Once a person ignores you the first time, do you really need a second opportunity to be put down or abused or ignored? This is how the relationship will continue. Your intentions are good, but maybe your thoughts should be a bit more condensed than saying, maybe I'm looking for something else. This person did not want to connect with you. This person did

not have the time for you. This person did not have the respect enough to tell you anything that was real. There was no honesty, no truth, and you accepted it. And remember that in the process of it all. You can ask a million friends how they feel about the situation that you are going through, but they are all

talking about their own life experiences. Now Awilita is telling you about a whole world of experiences and giving you the best advice I can so that you can find that goodness, that humbleness, that kindness, that light that will shine in your life. So move on, find reality and stick with it. When MISA artists don't forget to listen to date my Awilita first on Thursdays and while you're listening. Don't forget to click that subscribe button. Come on, do

it now. Find us on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever it is that you listen to your favorite shows like Date My Awilita, First Love You Miss Mitos Mitas mtis And if you have a burning question that is keeping you guessing, well don't guess anymore. You know that Awealita has your back all the way dm us at Date My a Wilita first on Instagram and we'll work on getting this answered for you. I'm a real, real Awilita and I've got all the advice in the world. You all