Dads and Daddies features frank, unrehearsed conversations between one Gen X Dad of two and one Millennial self-identified ‘Daddy,’ with a focus on their personal stories of sex, love and marriage, plus topics spanning parenthood, Daddyhood, family, friendship, identity, money, addiction & recovery, and so many more that reveal the deeply intimate details of what it means to live life as adult gay men today.
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Judson enjoys a restorative night to himself. Brian bemoans his recent difficulties making hookups happen. The two share thoughts about keeping sex with their husbands steamy after more than a decade of marriage. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener flying some particularly friendly skies. Brian and Judson are then joined by Vanity Fair culture writer Chris Murphy, making his return to the podcast after serving as Dads and Daddies’ very first guest 60 episodes ago! Chris updates the two on hi...
Judson meets a possible long-lost relative during his very own Hookup of the Week. Brian gushes over Morgan Bassichis’ one-man show, "Can I Be Frank?” and finally scores his seventh review on The Blowers. The two learn that elementary age kids have caught onto the fact that ‘Daddy’ has sexual connotations. Both are turned on by the voice that delivers this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. They are then joined by adult entertainment mogul turned DJ, Boomer Banks. Boomer shares his lo...
Judson shares a significant life update with both pain and optimism while Brian goes on a perfect date. A listener submits a Hookup of the Week in which he experiences Judson’s definition of Daddyness. They are then joined by actor, writer, comedian and star of his own off-Broadway solo show, ‘Ta-Da!,’ Josh Sharp. Josh talks about how fun it can and should be to live outside the norm as queer people, recounts some of his formative sexual experiences, reminisces fondly about the days of finding s...
Judson and Brian celebrate the return of their husband and daughter (respectively) after three weeks apart. Judson feels his age taking in the fashions at a Bushwick dance party, while Brian feels his age due to the constant medical upkeep his body suddenly requires. The two are touched by a Hookup of the Week, submitted by a listener who credits the podcast for its inspiration. They are then joined by José Rolón, known as @nycgaydad across social media, where he has garnered more than 750K foll...
Brian gleefully becomes a Provincetown convert and extols the virtues of Family Week. Judson shares two recent learnings about language. Together they follow a listener's incredible adventures while traveling on the "Hookup of the Week." The two are then joined by Rabbi Jason Klein, senior rabbi at the largest LGBTQ synagogue in the world, Congregation Beit Simchat Torah in New York City (not to mention Brian’s first serious boyfriend over 25 years ago). Rabbi Klein talks about his path to becom...
Brian and Judson delve into personal stories, including negotiating "sexy errand" rules for Provincetown, Judson's stressful work week, and Brian's parental withdrawal. They also address diverse listener questions, covering topics from communicating post-hookup desire and integrating one's gay self at work, to navigating shame, STIs in open relationships, and a complex demisexual long-distance relationship challenge, concluding with a listener's unique quest for love.
Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new ways he and his husband have found to enjoy their open marriage over the previous few weeks. Judson ...
Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the iconic Eagle in New York City, “James Anthony’s House,” James tours the world as a much sought-after DJ...
A gang of neighborhood kids accosts Judson. Brian struggles with parenting solo while his husband is away on business. Judson helps Brian through his anxious feelings about a sex party they both plan to attend. They get a huge laugh from a relatable listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” The two then enter into a deep discussion about spirituality. They talk about how they each define the term, what spiritual practice looks like in their day-to-day lives, their personal histories with religion...
Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek provides insights into the infamous Cookout Alliance he initiated, ultimately resulting in the show’s fi...
Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what love looks like within friendships. The love chat continues when this week’s Go Ask Your Dad comes fr...
Judson is self-reflective after a week of anniversaries, experiences the highs and lows of a company-wide work event, and may have met the ultimate hookup partner. Brian also experiences an incredible hookup and reaches his 5th review on TheBlowers. Judson learns a new Daddy trick from this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. After the break, they resume their friendly fire, and Brian gets emotional, sharing how the principal at his children’s school reacted to a particular component o...
Judson recuperates from an intense period at work and enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor. Brian bemoans that it has been a frustrating week on the apps. The two debate the virtues of white chocolate and whether or not liking it is at all specific to the queer community. A listener shares a Hookup of the Week story about their first Daddy experience. Judson and Brian then chat all about Pride! They share their favorite Pride memories, reflect on what Pride means to them, how they each celebra...
Judson visits a childhood friend’s new home in upstate New York and exchanges feedback about their lives with one another. Brian hosts an event at his home to get fellow parents in his community thinking about how to talk about sex with their kids. Together, they enjoy a particularly daring Hookup of the Week submitted by a listener. They are then joined by multiple Tony Award-winning Broadway producer of Rent, Hamilton and more--and now the author of the new memoir Theater Kid-- Jeffrey Seller....
Judson spends a glorious Memorial Day Weekend on his second annual trip to Naked Yoga Camp in Austin, this time with his husband. Brian is redeemed for the hookup gone wrong almost 18 months ago, which led to the birth of this podcast. He also explains the concept of semen to his nine-year-old daughter and receives a perfect review on TheBlowers. Judson and Brian then enjoy a listener-submitted Hookup of the Week before launching into a conversation about Playing in Public. Judson and Brian shar...
It’s Dads and Daddies’ first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas they bring to their home lives, work lives, creative lives, sex lives, friendships, and time alone w...
Judson reports back on the insanity taking place at work and on trying a new experience during a hookup. Brian reflects on the passing of his family’s pet. GayVN award-winning porn actor and adult model Joel Someone then joins them in Brian’s basement. Together, the three talk about Joel’s career and how it was born from his need to get out of his native New Mexico, his path from escort to porn star, losing his virginity to a woman on camera, his parents’ discovery of his line of work, and his r...
Comparing their week on the apps, Judson laments an aborted mission, and Brian comes up against ageism. Brian shares a glowing review for the Broadway play, “John Proctor is the Villain.” The two then welcome to the podcast Nathan H. Lents, author of The Sexual Evolution: How 500 million years of sex, gender, and mating shape modern relationships . Together, they discuss the difference between sexual and social monogamy, the egalitarian and sex-positive lifestyle of the lesser studied bonobo chi...
It’s Dads and Daddies’ 50th Episode! To celebrate, Judson and Brian dedicate this week’s episode to the listeners by responding to FIVE Go Ask Your Dad questions! Ranging from a listener struggling with a toxic friends-with-benefits situation to one who wants help being verbal in bed, to another who wants to ensure his partner’s first hookup outside of their relationship goes off without a hitch, to one who’s having trouble balancing the difference between his sense of adventure versus his husba...
Judson shares a moment of pride felt as a Daddy for a Son. Brian reflects on four weeks without sex outside of his marriage. The two discuss feedback from a listener who feels that they prescribe open relationships as being right for everyone and doesn’t agree. They then begin preparations for summer by going deep into the anxiety brought on by vacationing in gay destinations. They explore the reasons we choose to vacation in gay destinations and how those reasons can be at odds, why they feel t...
Judson tells Brian about his first week back at work, which wasn’t without its shocking moments. The two then recount their double date at the new Broadway musical they both loved, Just In Time, starring Jonathan Groff as Bobby Darin and co-authored by previous Dads and Daddies guest Isaac Oliver. Judson and Brian then welcome Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and Sacred Intimate Court Vox to the podcast. Court shares how he helps people develop and grow their comfort around touch, er...
Judson comes to the end of his sabbatical and reflects on everything it has brought him, including a significant amount of sex over the past week. Brian recounts the night he took his family to Kylie Minogue’s first-ever concert at Madison Square Garden. The two are then joined by Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge, hosts of the YouTube series and podcast “Dweeb Wars,” and contestants on the currently-airing 37th Season of “The Amazing Race.” Carson and Jack go deep into their friendship that goes b...
Judson and Brian return to The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio’s Redeye NY for their second live show! Having just reunited with Judson after three weeks apart, Brian regales him with stories he’s been waiting to share about his daughter hearing him and his husband having sex, his struggles using AI to help navigate a Grindr conversation, and having “the talk” with his kids. Judson responds by sharing the memory of finding his parents’ sex tape as a child. The two then welcome Leo Wyatt an...
Judson and Brian are reunited after Judson returns from three weeks of globetrotting with his husband. He recounts highlights of his restorative trip to Sri Lanka, plus a sexy 36-hour layover in Istanbul. Brian happily reports on his recent stress reduction, having survived a dreaded business trip and having come to the annual end of his seasonal blues. They share some listener feedback about inaccurate medical information discussed in an episode from a few weeks prior. The two then welcome to t...
Recorded last September, Judson and Brian share some unusual propositions they’ve each received on the apps before delving into a discussion of the lost art of cruising. They delineate the steps to proper cruising, reminisce about cruising successes and fails they’ve experienced over the years, and make a case for bringing cruising back in the current landscape of hookup apps. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with feelings of jealousy of his friends who he beli...
Recorded last May, Judson and Brian share the details of their travel over Memorial Day Weekend ‘24 - Judson to Austin for a weekend of naked yoga, where he performed a stand-up set and met his spirit animal, and Brian to London for a celebration of his tenth wedding anniversary, where he and his husband saw a number of shows and enjoyed a playdate together with a ‘certified werewolf.’ Judson then interviews Brian about his path to fatherhood, from the origins of Brian’s desires to be a father, ...
Judson shares learnings from time spent with his 95 year-old father-in-law, and checks in on Brian’s stress-induced vision impairment to ensure he’s addressing it with the proper amount of self-care. The two then enter into a discussion about affection–what constitutes affection, how important it is to each, and how it manifests in their relationships with their husbands, their families, their friends, their coworkers and even with strangers. This week’s Go Ask Your Dad question comes from a lis...
Judson helps Brian turn his frown upside down by making him reframe how he looks back on the past week, and challenges Brian to think about managing his stress with lessons about the mind-body connection Judson has taken from the works of Gabor Mate. The two then welcome the brilliant and hysterical actor and comedian Jeff Hiller, co-star of HBO’s “Somebody Somewhere” and author of the forthcoming memoir, “Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty Year Trail to Overnight Success,” to the podcast. Jeff...
Judson puts a label on his relationship with Brian and reports on his experience Daddying a third alongside his husband. Brian recounts a magical night attending Jinkx Monsoon’s Carnegie Hall debut and shares the highlights of his family’s trip to Puerto Rico over the midwinter break. The two then examine how vanity manifests for so much of the gay male community, and what it will take to answer the question Judson poses: “When will you look in the mirror and feel great?” Judson and Brian close ...