Judson and Brian compare Valentine’s Day plans and reflect on their first Valentine’s Day dinners with their now-husbands. They then share the news about their second live show and first Dads and Daddies party on Friday, March 28, at the Cockpit in Hell’s Kitchen, New York City. Judson recounts an emotional week at work, having survived a significant round of layoffs, and Brian describes his week of multiple misfires on the apps. The two then tell each other their stories of the biggest breakups...
Feb 25, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Judson and Brian compare how they are attempting to find balance and peace in unsteady times and provide updates about how they were each happily surprised this week by some unexpected playtime. Brian talks about time spent with his kids before getting on his soapbox about the unrealistic expectations for parents set by the cartoon show "Bluey." The two then explore the concept of "friends with benefits"—how they define it, whether any of their current friendships fall into that category, how fr...
Feb 18, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Brian and Judson compare notes: first, on masturbation–how frequently they do it, why they do it, and when–and, second, on how frustrating the logistics of hookups can be, particularly if they take place in New Jersey. Brian then looks to Judson for guidance on making hookups happen that include his husband, and what ‘playing together’ looks like in Judson’s marriage. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener whose bisexual husband wants permission to have sex with a female friend...
Feb 11, 2025•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Judson recounts a perplexing dream, and Brian shares news of his renewed sexual activity. They gush over the return of "Severance" before welcoming "Big Brother" icon Will Wikle, whose diverse career spans mainstream entertainment, sex work, and now psychiatry, having opened his own practice, Peace Park Psychiatry. Will regales them with a series of incredible stories, including a lucrative escorting experience, how self-love is handled on "Big Brother,” and the support he received from Julie Ch...
Feb 04, 2025•1 hr 39 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Brian recounts his first week of recovery from his lower eyelid surgery and hears Judson’s perspective on their trip to Sephora with Brian’s kids. Judson shares a lovely Daddy/Son experience and talks about how he navigates some of the challenges of a corporate job. The two then talk kissing–from their first kisses to practicing on their pillows to what makes a good kisser to how much more there is than lip-kissing. They end with Judson reaching into his own experience to address a listener's qu...
Jan 28, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Brian’s nine year-old asks the big question. Judson spreads the word about the Instagram purchase that has changed his life. The two chat about some of the latest TV they’re obsessing over. Judson and Brian then dive deep into an exploration of intimacy–with their husbands, with their friends and with their hookups.This week’s episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question that asks our Dad and Daddy to provide a more thorough explanation for the term “sex positive.”
Jan 21, 2025•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Brian celebrates his first rave review on The Blowers, and Judson details his experience of the “Solid Gold” exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. The two then welcome to the podcast the inimitable JIMBO the Drag Clown, winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race All-Stars Season 8 and current star of Drag the Musical off-Broadway. JIMBO talks about his journey from behind-the-scenes artisan to realizing his dream of starring in a musical, his family life with his partner and two stepkids, his education as a clown a...
Jan 14, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Happy Birthday to Judson! After a mini birthday party for everyone’s favorite Daddy, Judson and Brian also celebrate the 13th anniversary of Brian’s first date with his now-husband and the first anniversary of the text exchange between Judson and Brian that resulted in this podcast. The two compare notes on their New Year’s Day polar plunge experiences and share their personal growth goals that the Earth’s most recent rotation around the Sun has inspired them to think about. Judson then chronicl...
Jan 07, 2025•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Judson laments having missed an opportunity to have a chance encounter with Luigi Mangione. Brian reflects on the past year and how it has changed him and his relationship. The two are then joined by adult content creator Guy Woof. Guy talks to Judson and Brian about his crush on John Oliver, his transition from locksmith to porn performer, the business behind having sex on camera, and finding success on OnlyFans. Guy also details attempts to make actual dates on the dating apps and compares not...
Dec 31, 2024•1 hr 21 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Judson tells Brian about the night he invited a hookup to stay for dinner, and how it evolved into a beautiful sharing of grief. Brian shares a story about a hookup that went against most of his own rules, in what he views as a culmination of a year of learnings from Judson. They are then joined by award-winning porn actor and social media star Jonah Wheeler. Jonah talks about the “enthusiastic and joyful” vibe of the content he creates, his dominant-yet-caring Daddy persona, the origin of the J...
Dec 24, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Recorded on December 13, it’s Brian’s birthday! Brian describes his plans to celebrate, which exhausts Judson just by hearing them listed out. Judson shares a glowing review for Ricardo Tavares’ bathhouse-based “Morning Glory” sex party, which led to one of Judson’s top 3 hookups of 2024. The two compare stories of “setting traps” on the apps. They then welcome comedian Sam Morrison to the podcast and cover the target age demographic for his comedy, discrimination by sex party promoters, the str...
Dec 17, 2024•1 hr 30 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Judson and Brian commiserate over sudden end-of-year demands at work and compare notes on the time they will spend with family over the holidays, including how they each set (or try to set) the necessary boundaries. Judson then educates Brian on the concept of “fraysexuality” before welcoming writer, performer, curator and creator/host of the podcast “Giants in the Sky,” Ben Rimalower, to the show. Ben gets personal about his first-time boyfriend, balancing his desire for a relationship versus t...
Dec 10, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Judson and Brian catch up on the Thanksgiving preparations in Brian’s home, compare family rules to keep Sondheim out of Sundays and show tunes away from the dinner table, and recap their experiences recording their first live show. They then discuss the various iterations of family in their lives - the biological families they grew up with, their nuclear families now, and their chosen, or logical, families. For this week’s Go Ask Your Dad, a listener who identifies as an active member of the le...
Dec 03, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 27
It’s Judson and Brian’s first live show! Recorded at The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio’s Redeye NY, a towel-clad Judson and Brian chat about Judson’s 7th anniversary off crystal meth, Brian’s elder daughter’s 9th birthday party, and reviews of Anora, Wicked, and the Broadway musical version of Death Becomes Her before welcoming one of the most influential forces in queer culture, David Lauterstein, to the podcast. Co-founder and CEO of the iconic fashion brand Nasty Pig and author of the...
Nov 26, 2024•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Judson and Brian alternately celebrate and lament the actual arrival of fall as Brian prepares for the coming season of birthdays and holidays in his household, including a fashion show-themed slumber party for his 9-year-old, and Judson prepares for his father’s celebration of life. They then dive deep into an exploration of the ins, outs, highs, and lows of hooking up with men who are not their husbands, from the challenges of making a hookup happen to the importance (or not) of face pics to t...
Nov 19, 2024•1 hr 15 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Judson and Brian recap their initial reactions to the election results, including Brian’s escape to the new Broadway musical Maybe Happy Ending and the new movie A Real Pain. Judson shares the music, TV show, and book getting him through the week. They then move into a deeper exploration of Self-Care. They discuss what Self-Care means and looks like for each of them, from finding pursuits that fulfill their needs to be of service, to feel valuable, and to be creative to Judson’s daily practice o...
Nov 12, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Recorded this past March (don’t worry, Judson is back on the apps by now), Judson and Brian chat about taking fashion cues from younger generations, making sex efficient, parents’ influence over their kids’ tastes, and go deep into the myth that gay men with money are entirely self made. They explore how each approaches financial responsibilities as married gay men, the relationship between gay identity and consumerism, and respond to a listener question about when to bring up the desire to have...
Nov 05, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Judson shares some very personal news before moving into a recap of his recent trip to Las Vegas. Judson and Brian are then joined by award-winning playwright, author and performer Isaac Oliver. Isaac gives the two a sneak peek into his exciting projects–the upcoming Broadway musical ‘Just In Time’ starring Jonathan Groff, for which he’s co-writing the book, and the upcoming TV series, ‘Etoile,’ Amy Sherman-Palladino’s follow-up to ‘The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel,’ which he describes as a workplace c...
Oct 29, 2024•1 hr 35 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Judson and Brian compare their pop diva icons and share their review of the super fun DRAG: The Musical. Judson prepares to be best man at his brother’s Las Vegas wedding and Brian may have met his match when it comes to prioritizing kissing. The two then go deep into the subject of group sex – the logistics of making it happen, how to make sure each person involved receives appropriate attention, the ideal number for a group, the differences between enjoying group activity with their husbands v...
Oct 22, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Inspired by the change of seasons and the approach of the winter holidays, Judson and Brian chat about Jewish Christmas Envy and Judson’s penchant for making matzo balls. They then celebrate Judson’s wedding anniversary and National Coming Out Day by sharing their stories about how they each came out to their parents. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks what to do when a regular hookup tells him that he’s living with an STI that he’s treating and has under control...
Oct 15, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Judson celebrates his patriotism and then elaborates on three curious text messages he sent Brian over the course of the week. Brian tells Judson about taking his family to Council Bluffs, Iowa, to see Chappell Roan in concert. The two are then joined by the amazing Molly Roden Winter, New York Times bestselling author of More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. Judson, Brian and Molly go deep into discussing the similarities and differences of open relationships for gay and straight couples, and what e...
Oct 08, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Judson counsels Brian on his continuing saga of the hookup that just won’t happen. The two are then joined by Dr. Israel Martinez, author of the new book, “Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex.” Israel talks to Judson and Brian about shame and validation, the concept of Responsive Arousal, his own Daddy issue around the pressure to have kids, and what self care looks like for him. Israel also joins the two in helping a listener process ho...
Oct 01, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Judson analyzes his recent ambivalence about sex and reveals he’s having a “Bottom Autumn.” Brian shares his daughter’s follow-up questions on the sex talk and comes clean about why he may have sounded so jealous on the recent Jealousy episode. The two then compare how they each answer the age-old question asked on the apps, “Into?,” and dive into an exploration of kinks. They end by offering advice to a listener who’s having trouble getting the last guest to leave at the sex parties he throws....
Sep 24, 2024•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Judson receives some unwanted attention. Brian has “the talk” with his 8 year-old. Then, Bob Levine, celebrating 69 years as both drag icon Rose Levine and as a denizen of Cherry Grove, sits down with Judson and Brian at the Belvedere Guest House for Men as he prepares for Rose's Green Room 42 debut next month. Subject of the documentary “Roseland: The Ballad of Bob Levine,” Bob lets Judson and Brian in on the secret to his happy life, and recounts seven decades of gay history through the lens o...
Sep 17, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Brian shares his review of “Beetlejuice Beetlejuice.” Judson recounts how an Instagram ad for mushrooms led to getting his ears pierced. The two then compare notes on their experiences of jealousy and envy in their open marriages. They close by counseling a listener who confesses that neither he nor his partner are all that comfortable initiating sex.
Sep 10, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 15
This week’s episode begins with a celebration of Judson’s home state of Ohio and a post-mortem on Brian’s most recent visit to a sex party. The two then dive into an exploration of sex while traveling – from the sampling of the sex on offer at various destinations across the globe to how our sexual behaviors, interests and tastes may change while on vacation. They close with a travel-related Go Ask Your Dad in which a listener wants advice on how to navigate wanting to travel without one’s partn...
Sep 03, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 14
After a chat about exchanging X-rated pics and a shared need for privacy screens, treating children like adults in day-to-day life, and treating adults like children at work, Judson and Brian explore safety concerns and self-preservation regarding hookups. Judson recounts a recent experience when he asked a hookup to leave his home, and things turned ugly. The two then discuss hookups' physical and emotional safety as it relates to themselves and their relationships. They end by responding to a ...
Aug 27, 2024•58 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Dads and Daddies goes to Fire Island! Broadcasting from the historic Belvedere Guest House for Men in Cherry Grove, Judson and Brian first compare thoughts on their experiences of Fire Island before welcoming legendary gay nightlife impresario Daniel Nardicio to the podcast. Daniel discusses his life producing and promoting some of the community’s favorite sex-positive parties, bringing stars ranging from Liza to Gaga to perform on the Island, his thoughts on aging gracefully, the effects of the...
Aug 20, 2024•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Judson reports the exciting news that one of his longest-standing fantasies could be realized very soon. Brian somehow evolves the conversation into discussing his frustration about being left off a text chain with other families planning an outing to the Botanic Garden. The two then enter into an examination of sex parties – how the current state of sex parties came to be, the different categories of sex party and, most importantly, how they feel one should behave when attending one. They end b...
Aug 13, 2024•55 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Judson shares a story about a repeat hookup gone right. Brian shares his fear that there may be a hacker interfering with his hookup prospects. Brian then interviews Judson at his most open and honest about his drug and alcohol addiction, and his ongoing journey through Recovery. This week’s Go Ask Your Dad is on theme, as Judson and Brian respond to a question asking how to approach a friend when there is serious concern about their use of substances.
Aug 06, 2024•57 min•Season 1Ep. 10
