You are never going to get any sleep You aren't going to have time for anything You really think you can afford to have a child Your relationship is totally going to change I knew it, you are not the same that you used to be Whoa...chill....Those aren't surprises, those are called expectations. That's for a whole other episode. In this episode we are going over the 6 Biggest surprises about fatherhood. No doubt, fatherhood is full of surprises. While I sort of knew what I was getting into, I rea...
Dec 25, 2018•23 min
No doubt that when you become a father, life gets a little more complicated. You were already trying to balance your work, relationship, and friends. Now you have a child. You may even have a couple of them. So how do you balance it all? How do you make it all work. In this episode we are going over some tips to help you achieve work life balance. As a man, you could have many roles: - Your a father - Your a husband or boyfriend - You a son to your parents - You could be a brother - You are an e...
Dec 18, 2018•23 min
We all have good intentions when the baby is born. But realize you are going to make mistakes. We all make them. Of course there are tactical mistakes like not having enough diapers, not buckling car seats correctly, or not bringing enough change of clothes for the baby when you go somewhere. But the mistakes I want to review involve more of your thought process , emotions, and your overall well being. 1. Taking the baby's crying personally - Your newborn is not trying to ruin your life. Althoug...
Dec 12, 2018•14 min
I was born in the mid 70s and grew up in the early 80s. Times were different and parenting was definitely different. There was a huge difference in what people thought was safe and what kids were aloud to do. I thought it would be fun to go over some of the things we did as kids and see how times are quite different now. Helmets - I'm not sure how many concussions it took for people to realize that it's probably a good idea to wear a helmet. Bicycles helmets weren't required until about 1987 and...
Dec 05, 2018•22 min
Since the beginning of time, children have relied on their parents to pass down wisdom and knowledge about the world. Unfortunately, parents have taken advantage of this and have told their kids some lies. We are not always sure of the motive for the lie, but it happens all the time. 1. Sitting too close too the TV will ruin your eyes - in the 50s they were worried about radiation. This is no longer a concern. You might get some temporary eye strain bu their is no long term effects. 2. Carrots w...
Nov 28, 2018•14 min
I'm sure when you found out you were going to be a father, you said to yourself: I got this. I know everything there is to know about being a dad. It's easy. Dealing with a baby, my wife, work, family, I got it all handled. Ok, reality is that being a new dad is awesome but most likely you are trying to figure out what you need to know. So in this episode we are going over some skills every new dad needs to master. I came up with 6 really important ones. Most dads think they need to learn skills...
Nov 21, 2018•21 min
We are guilty of being defensive in some aspect of our lives. In happens in our personal relationships and our work. Being defensive typically involves us justifying our actions or words or trying to protect ourselves from either looking bad or being wrong. We certainly don't want to admit responsibility. So why would we want to stop being defensive? It's not constructive, and usually eats away at the relationship. It can make you look insecure, overly emotional, and close minded. How do you kno...
Nov 14, 2018•19 min
I know it can't just be my house, but getting your child to listen to what your saying can be frustrating. This is why I have a podcast....so i can pretend that at least someone is listening to me. When children are really young, it just seems like they are never listening. We offered some tips in Episode 168 if listening is a topic of interest. It turns out if you have a toddler (2-3 years old), it's said they only respond 50% of the time..... There are a few suggestions for kids this age, prim...
Nov 07, 2018•15 min
I'm thinking back when my wife was pregnant and I had this combination of feelings....being really excited but also really nervous. I knew nothing about babies. I was never really around kids. I didn't know how to change a diaper, feed a baby, or even hold it. I was pretty clueless. Well my kids are now 8 & 10 so i have been through quite a bit. In this video, I'm giving you 4 crucial things that soon to be dads need to know. There is only 4 so this will be easy. Being an expectant father ca...
Oct 30, 2018•12 min
One of the things I think we don't prepare for very well (at least in America), is our aging parents and how we deal with that. Kind of like parenting, you aren't given an instruction manual but even worse, it's not really talked about. Dealing with aging parents can be difficult. Whether it's physical, financial, or emotional issues, we just aren't prepared for these changes. So in this episode, I thought we would cover some of the things that you may experience as your parents get older. I thi...
Oct 23, 2018•23 min
Here are some examples that you might identify with: 1) You are at the playground and instead of participating with your child (or let's say even watching your child), you are on your phone. Your child asks you to come on the monkey bars and you are on Facebook. 2) Your are eating dinner and you are responding to email instead of interacting with the people around you. 3) You are at your child's sporting event and instead of watching the game, you are shopping on Amazon. These 3 scenarios are ex...
Oct 17, 2018•14 min
If you are new dad or soon to be dad, you hear a lot about the challenges that come with fatherhood: "Oh man you are never going to get any sleep" or how about this one: "forget about going out with your friends anymore." and the ever so positive....."whoa kids are so expensive. You just wait." Well I'm here to tell you that being a dad is incredible. There are many reasons why the journey is awesome, but I have narrowed it down to my 6 favorites things about being a dad. There is enough negativ...
Oct 10, 2018•15 min
You may have hear the term before "Boys Will be Boys". When someone says this, what does this mean to you? It's a term used to express the view that mischievous or childish behavior is typical of boys or young men and should not cause surprise when it occurs. Today we are going to talk about why that phrase is total BS. There are numerous areas where the term Boys Will Be Boys could be applied: 2 young boys wrestling aggressively, a boy with an extremely messy room and lack of hygeine, or a teen...
Oct 03, 2018•14 min
I'm not really a controversial guy, but boy do people have strong feelings about this one. It is true that moms have a tendency to post much more about their kids than dads do, but dads are guilty as well. The topic for today's episode is sharenting The topic of sharenting has become pretty serious. There are some issues that come along with sharenting. Let's look at some of these issues: 1) Legal issues - an 18 year old girl is suing her parents for posting a baby picture she didn't like. She d...
Sep 26, 2018•23 min
In this episode we talk with Alex Nemet, an ultramarathon runner who has learned to push himself beyond his limits. Here are some of his stats: - He has been doing these races for over 15 years - He is approaching 50 - 100 mile + races - He has climbed the highest peaks on 5 of the 7 continents - One of his races included 352 miles across the arctic - pulling a 60 pound sled, not by dogs, he was the dog - At the time of this interview, he is in the middle of going after the triple crown of 200 m...
Sep 18, 2018•48 min
I think stereotypically in the beginning of relationships, women are typically considered more needy than men. However I think there is a shift for married men and especially when the kids come into the picture.....we become more needy. Our expectations may increase this can manifest with various needs: We need everything to be clean We need more attention from our wife We need our kids to listen to us We need our free time We need more sex We need this, we need that Let me make a disclaimer, if...
Sep 11, 2018•15 min
In this episode we are going over some bad parenting styles and their effects on kids. 1) Helicopter Parents - First used in 1969 in the book Parents & Teenagers by Dr. Haim Ginott's. Teens said their parents would hover over them like a helicopter; This is when parents are over focused on their kids. It's really over parenting. They are driven by fear, whether they think something bad will happen to their kid or they will feel embarassed themsevles. The parent might make sure they get a cer...
Sep 04, 2018•20 min
In episode 105 we talked about how punishing your kids doesn't work. We discussed why people punish their kids and then provided some tips on what to do. One of the things I wanted to expand on was talking about specific scenarios that happen with your kids and how we can handle them. Parents often solve the problem with grounding their child. Grounding is probably one of the biggest parenting traps because we think that it works but the reality is that it doesn't. Let's look at even a more craz...
Aug 28, 2018•24 min
I have heard this topic come up more and more lately. I know a few people that suffer from this. I have seen some discussions in the Dad Facebook groups about it. And then I recently saw a brief clip of Henry Rollins on the Joe Rogan podcast in which after Henry got done saying all of these things about himself, Joe says, well it sounds like you have social anxiety. On a tangent, if you know of Henry Rollins, it's a really interesting interview. He has no friends (or very few, no family, no wife...
Aug 21, 2018•24 min
Most people are pretty aware on whether they are a jealous person or not. For those that are, they may create scenarios in their head. Most of the time reality has nothing to do with it. But certainly there are times when something just feels off or quite not right. Psychologists often point to deep insecurities or traits about your personality that may need some "work". But jealous feelings are different than jealous behaviors. If your actually confirm your wife does something you don't agree w...
Aug 14, 2018•29 min
In this episode Jason interviews Alan, the co-host of the podcast. We learn about Alan's childhood, his personal and professional journey, and a little about his current interests. Sit back, relax, and enjoy the hearing the man with the really deep voice!!
Aug 07, 2018•36 min
Mealtime can be frustrating, especially with toddlers. Whether they refuse to eat or act just like a crazy child, it can really get to you as a parent. We are primarily talking about dinner, but certainly it can apply to other meals. I can't tell you that I have this one totally figured out and my children are now 8 and 10. Granted things are much easier and smoother now but I do think it was many years of battles. Here are a few things that seemed to have help us with reducing the mealtime batt...
Jul 31, 2018•20 min
hen a baby is first born, men often indicate that they don't feel very close to the baby. Although mom's carry the child for 9 months, feel it kicking and turning inside of them so the relationship foundation begins much earlier. I know with my first child I struggled to feel that bond right away. I certainly loved my child, but the deep emotional connection was not as strong as my wife's. I think this is a common issue with men. So for this podcast, we are providing some tips on how dads can in...
Jul 24, 2018•13 min
For years many women in the workplace have been concerned that taking time off when having a baby could negatively affect their career. Would the perception of them at the company change? Would there be too much of an impact on the company? Well a new problem is emerging. Companies are offering paternity leave for men and they are not taking it. First, let's make sure we understand what paternity leave is. It is the period of time when a father stops working because he is going to have or just h...
Jul 17, 2018•18 min
In America, like many countries, alcohol is a big part of our society. It's part of celebrations, parties, holidays, and even relaxation. Alcohol beverage sales in the US in 2016 were appox. $223 billion It's also the 3rd largest preventable cause of death in the US with aprox 88000 people per year dying of alcohol related deaths. This episode isn't about the dangers of alcohol or even whether you should drink or not. It's really about whether or not it's ok to drink around your kids. From the r...
Jul 10, 2018•16 min
We have had discussions on work/life balance. Is it better to spend a short amount of quality time versus a larger amount of time that is not as high of quality? I don't think we do this in other parts of our lives? If you were learning to read and only spent a short amount of time focusing on it, would you learn it? Probably not, you have to have good quality over a long period of time. It's actually both that is needed. How about a marriage? Can a marriage be built and survive by only seeing e...
Jul 03, 2018•17 min
In episode 171 we talk about 8 lessons to teach your daughter. In this episode we touch on some important life lessons to teach our sons. #1 - Men can have emotions - It's ok to be vulnerable, it's ok to cry #2 - Treat people with respect - Treat others how you want to be treated. #3 - Chivalry is Alive - Be a gentleman. hold the door open, say please and thank you. #4 - Stand up for yourself - defend yourself and those you love. Don't let other people push you around. #5 - Make your own decisio...
Jun 26, 2018•16 min
We all want our kids to thrive and do well. Unfortunately, some of the things we say to our kids are doing more harm than good. Here are 9 things you should NEVER say to your child and what you should say instead: #1 What not to say: "I'm So Proud of You" Instead say "You should be proud of yourself" our child should not be looking to someone else for approval. We want to teach them to have that feeling from within...for themselves. #2 What not to say: "You are bad" Instead say "You made a bad c...
Jun 19, 2018•24 min
I wanted to create an episode that I thought would be really important for my young daughter to listen to. This episode is from the perspective of me talking to her. If you are able to communicate and teach these lessons to your own daughter, that is awesome. However, you can also listen to this podcast with her and use it as reference to talk about the different points. We will cover 8 life lessons every dad can teach his daughter: #1 - You are capable of solving problems yourself - You don't n...
Jun 12, 2018•16 min
You just had a child, whether you have a newborn, or your child is now a toddler, she's tired. She's tired of cleaning up after the kid, tired of taking the child places, and most likely tired of you complaining. While for some guys it may be as simple as you are just wanting more physical intimacy, but for other it may just be that you want her to recognize that you are in the house. There may be an entire spectrum. So I wanted to put together a few tips for guys to help them with their situati...
Jun 05, 2018•19 min
