Coming Out Late

Ep. #165: Discourse & Discovery w/in the Coming Out Late Community

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Voice Memo #3: What Is It YOU Plan to Do?

Ep. #164: Mercy & Compassion for All LGBTQ People

In this episode, Robin discusses the recent interview Rachel Maddow did on MSNBC with Bishop Mariann Budde. Bishop Budde spoke directly to Trump and Vance, during the National Prayer Service, about showing mercy for the vulnerable people targeted by his policies and Executive Orders. You will learn about… The key principles of Bishop Budde’s plea aimed at Donald Trump. What is moral leadership? What is the importance of compassion and mercy? What did Bishop Budde mean by, “I filled a space that ...

Monday Morning Memo #2: Coming Out Late & Coming Into Our Strength

MONDAY WAS THE PRESIDENTIAL INAUGURATION - HERE'S WHAT I'M THINKING: It's going to be a looooong, hard four years. But? We've all done hard things, for a loooong time. We've got this! Don't allow the current political climate deluge your future. Build your queer community and go where the good feelings and support are. Detach from all the external negativity and focus inward on being compassionate to yourself and your family; practice daily grounding techniques and surround yourself with positiv...

Ep. #163: Coming Out Late - What A Difference A Year Makes (Replay, Jan. 2022)

In this episode, Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience! In this episode, you will learn about… Exciting updates about the upcoming year for the Coming Out Late Community in Facebook. Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle. Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year. How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of la...

Monday Morning Memo #1: The Words We Use Really Do Matter

HERE ARE SOME THINGS I LEARNED: I learned to take as much time as I need when making a decision, (like choosing my word for the year), that greatly impacts my self-esteem, my serenity and my self-compassion. I learned to pay attention throughout my day, to WHAT messages my body is whispering, (and sometimes screaming), to me; AND pay attention to how my disposition is showing up - and HONOR & ACKNOWLEDGE those messages & feelings. Don’t push those feelings aside - instead use them as clu...

Ep. #162: Happy Queer Year My Late Bloomin' Friends!

In this episode, Robin wishes you a Happy Queer Year and invites us to ponder what WE want our own new year to look like for 2025. In this episode, you will discover… “What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year,” by Vern McLellan. If we bring or allow dysfunction into a relationship or a situation, then that's exactly what we're going to get in return. Exercise your choices that align with the best version of yourself. Take the time and space, (qui...

Ep. #161: Coming Out Late to Rude Comments (Replay)

In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions *may* be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right? Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say i...

Ep. #160: Same Sex Dating & Relationships: Red Flags & Deal Breakers

In this episode, Robin invites Chris back to chat with her about Dating and relationships - specifically about red flags and deal breakers. In this episode, you will learn… What are red flags? Are red flags different in ‘dating’ scenarios versus relationships? What are deal breakers? Are deal breakers different from red flags? Why are red flags and deal breakers important? What are examples of red flags and deal breakers? What holds us back from honoring our red flags and deal breakers? “The red...

Ep. #159: Coming Out Late: "C" is for . . . Compassion!

In this episode, Robin invites Chris back to chat with her about the “C”-word - compassion! Discover why compassion practices are so important, how we can do them virtually anywhere, and why do we need them? In this episode, you will learn… What compassion is and how is it different from empathy? Why is compassion important and how is compassion related to our coming out late process? What does ‘doing the work’ mean? Some examples of ‘doing the work’ are: seeking support, self inquiry, getting q...

Ep. #158: Coming Out Late w/ Fear & Confusion, (Replay Ep. #77)

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.” In th...

Ep. #157: Robin Answers Coming Out Late Questions from Social Media, (Replay: Ep. #13)

Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late; and she shares her personal perspective about common issues. In this episode, you will learn… You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out. Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life. Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity. The B...

Ep. #156: Navigating the Holidays As Late Bloomers: Tips & Suggestions

The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences. Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication. Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit plan Be rea...

Ep. #155: A Former Evangelical Preacher Shares Her Coming Out Late Story

In this episode Robin shares with you a ‘coming out late’ story submitted by one of her podcast listeners. Now 60-years young, this former Evangelical preacher shares their coming out late journey in her own words. Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass RESOURCES: SUPPORT GROUPS: MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each...

Ep. #154: Talking Coming Out Late Sex & Relationships w/Samantha Fox, Part 2 (REPLAY)

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with Samantha Fox, talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality. The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it. Objecti...

Ep. #153: Talking Coming Out Late Sex & Relationships w/Samantha Fox, Part 1 (REPLAY)

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites back to the podcast Samantha Fox, to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then? Post the messy-middle, we are still faced w...

Ep. #152: "B" Is for Boobies? The ABC's of Coming Out Late, Part 2

In this Part 2 episode Robin continues the conversation with Chris of “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” and covers the letter “B”. She and her partner Chris discuss the importance of this life skill, how we should use this life skill and gives real-life examples of this “B”-word in action! Today, you’ll hear Robin cover things like: Setting boundaries is not easy because it can often feel very uncomfortable. How the technique of “the broken record” can be used to help us set boundaries. Being clear...

Ep. #151: "B" is for Boobies? The ABC's of Coming Out Late, Part 1

In this Part 1 episode Robin continues the theme of “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” and covers the letter “B”. She and her partner Chris discuss the importance of this life skill, how we should use this life skill and give real-life examples of this “B”-word in action! Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris cover things like: What is a boundary and what are they so important? What are the three different types of boundaries? Why healthy boundaries need to be flexible yet firm . Boundaries help prot...

Ep. #150: The ABC's of Coming Out Late - "A" is for..., (Part 2)

This week in the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin & Chris finish up their conversation about “Acceptance” and the relevance it has to our coming out late journey. Stay tuned for future episodes in “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” series where Robin will pick up with, “B” is for _______. Any guesses? Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris discuss: The power of cultural conditioning; AND, we do not have to accept any particular type of cultural conditioning if we don’t want to - we have choices! Acc...

Ep. #149: The ABC's of Coming Out Late - "A" is for . . . (Part 1)

In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin boldly opens with the first of a series she’s calling, “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late”. As we all know, coming out late is not for the faint of heart, so this week Robin begins the ABC’s of Coming Out Late with the letter “A”, standing for, well, you’ll have to listen to the episode to find out. Robin and Chris talk about what “A” is, why it’s important in life and how it relates to coming out late! In this Part 1 episode, you’ll learn:...

Ep. #148: Coming Out Late Retreat Stories from Portland, OR (Part 2)

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris continue their conversation with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on everyone who attended. Today, you’ll hear more stories and awakenings from the retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following: Overcoming our fears - even our fear of attending a retreat! How vulnerability + connect...

Ep. #147: Coming Out Late Retreat Stories from Portland, OR (Part 1)

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris facilitate a virtual discussion with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on its attendees. Today, you’ll hear retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following: How ‘connection’ and ‘community’ play such a vital role in experiencing and walking through this coming out late journey! How we find co...

(Replay: Ep. 2) Ep: #146: How Do I Know If I'm Really Gay? And What If I'm Wrong?

Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we were...

Ep. #145: The Coming Out Late Philly Retreat Wrap-Up

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin re-gather with the over dozen late bloomers who joined her in Philadelphia, PA for the second Coming Out Late retreat of 2024. Today, you’ll hear retreat attendees discussing their retreat experiences firsthand, like: What is the #1 feeling that every retreat attendee says they walk away with? How, (if at all), did they feel differently between the pre-retreat zoom gathering, and the post-retreat zoom gathering? How the expression...

BONUS Episode: Planning 'Outcomes' & Our Emotional Attachments to Them

In this BONUS episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin talk about the differences between ‘making plans’ and ‘planning the outcomes’ of those plans. And why having emotional attachments to those outcomes negatively affects our lives and relationships. Today, you’ll hear Robin discuss: What is the difference between ‘making plans’ and ‘planning the outcomes’? Why is ‘planning the outcome’ so detrimental to us? What is an emotional attachment to an outcome? Only a few spots remain...

Ep. #144: The Purpose & Power of Setting Intentions - While Coming Out Late

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris discussing the purpose and power of setting intentions, particularly how setting our intentions most definitely relates-to, and impacts our coming out late journeys. Today, you’ll hear Chris and Robin discuss: What is an intention and what is the purpose of setting one? Examples of intentions that were set by recent retreat goers. What is the power behind setting intentions? Why the Coming Out Late Retreats are the per...

Ep. #143: Robin & Chris Talk "Healing" As Guests on Queer Story Time, the Podcast, Part 2

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris being interviewed by Stevie Inghram, on her podcast called, “Queer Storytime the Podcast”. Today, you’ll hear Stevie ask Chris and Robin questions about: How do we, as late-arrivals and new members of the LGBTQ+ community, overcome the burden of cultural conditioning and this complex stress and trauma that we've had to navigate throughout our lives, and since coming out? What are some of the practical tools Chri...

Ep. #142: Robin & Chris Are Guests On 'Queer Story Time, the Podcast', Part 1

In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris being interviewed by Stevie Inghram, on her podcast called, “Queer Storytime the Podcast”. Robin and Chris’ initial conversation with Stevie can be found in Ep. #130 & #131 of this “Coming Out Late” podcast. Today, you’ll hear Stevie ask Chris and Robin questions about: Chris & Robin tell their own personal coming out stories. What does Robin mean by the phrase, “...there’s something in the air…”? There’...

Ep. #141: What IS A Coming Out Late Retreat Anyway?

In this episode Robin is joined by guest host Chris, and together they dive deeply into the value and gems of attending a Coming Out Late Retreat. You’ll hear Chris ask Robin questions such as: What was the inspiration behind you wanting to start hosting Coming Out Late Retreats? What is the overarching mission and vision of your Coming Out Late Retreats? What kind of experience can be expect to have on a Coming Out Late Retreat? ONE hotel room remains available for the PORTLAND, OR Coming Out L...

Ep. #140: Reclaiming Our Individuality, Reclaiming Ourselves w/Our Hair, Part 2

In this Part 2 episode Robin picks up where last week's cliffhanger left off, finding out what Daine decided to do with their hair. You’ll also hear how the other folx relate to their own head of hair, recalling past experiences as well as current day reflections. You’ll hear the group members discuss topics such as: “...Cutting my hair shorter and shorter was a reclaiming of myself; a claiming of myself.” Hair is an essential aspect of our personal identity, self expression, and confidence, and...