Coming Out Late

Ep. #193: Coming Out Late - The Catalyst Experience, Part 2, (replay)

In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and conside...

Ep. #192: Coming Out Late - The Catalyst Experience, Part 1 (replay)

In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relatio...

Ep. #191: How Do You Know That You're Gay? (Ft. "YES!") Replay

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality . They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other med...

Ep. #190: Coming Out Late Thru Fear & Confusion (replay)

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.” In th...

Ep. #189: Michelle's Coming Out Late Story

In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Rob...

Ep. #188: 5 Things to Consider When Coming Out Late (Replay)

In this week’s episode, “Things to Consider When Coming Out Late”, Robin shares with us a smattering of subject matters and insights that relate to coming out late. The five insights that Robin shares with us are: There’s power in the pause. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Your coming out late journey is yours; it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Participating in Pride Events. Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the highs ‘n lows. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast...

Ep. #187: Somatic Healing While Coming Out Late, w/Special Guest Lynn Fraser, Part 2

C an somatic healing help us on our coming out late journey? Check out part 2 of this week's episode where Robin discusses somatic healing and its benefits with somatic healing expert Lynn Fraser. If you missed part 1, you can catch it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000714770443 In this episode, you will learn . . . What effect has the HIV/AIDS crisis had on the closeted and ‘out’ LGBTQ+ community? Healing from shame and guilt: learn how to regulate o...

Ep. #186: Somatic Healing & Trauma While Coming Out Late - w/Special Guest Lynn Fraser, Part 1

How can somatic healing help us on our coming out late journey? In this two-part episode Robin discusses somatic healing and trauma, and its benefits with somatic healing expert Lynn Fraser. In this episode, you will learn . . . What is somatic healing? Trauma is stored in our bodies as sensations and energy with associated memories, thoughts. How can somatic healing help us on our coming out late journey? Why we’re uncomfortable to go back into our bodies and feel? We discuss the question: “How...

Ep. #185: The Evolution- and Acceptance-of Trauma In Our Society, (a prequel)

Our coming out journey can be fraught with challenges, loss, little victories, followed up with more stress, anxiety, shame and guilt. What does our society think about these kinds of feelings and reactions? Are they considered trauma-responses? Or are we supposed to just ‘get over it’ or cope with it, independently. In this episode, you will learn . . . About the differences between Big “T” and Little “t” trauma. How both Big “T” and Little “t” trauma were perceived decades ago, as compared to ...

Ep. #184: Coming Out Late & Learning to Let Go, (Replay)

In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late? Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can! Nothing changes if nothing changes. We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently. It’s how we respond to adversity, to cha...

Ep. #183: Developing A Money Mindset, Part 2 (Replay)

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives; especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina, another late bloomer themselves, share their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matt...

Ep. #182: Developing A Money Mindset While Coming Out Late, Part 1 (Replay)

Robin has a casual but critical conversation with late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset; especially as late bloomers on our coming out late journeys. Whether in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world. In this episode you will learn… What is a “money mindset”? How do you...

Ep. #181: Sex, Love & 8 Other Things I Learned On My Coming Out Late Journey

In this episode, Robin announces her upcoming celebration of not only another trip around the sun, but also her 10-year Gay-Aversary! Robin can’t believe it’s already been 10 years since coming out to herself over Memorial Day weekend in 2015. You’ll hear about 10 things that Robin learned over the course of these past 10 years and share some personal stories with you as well. In this episode, you will learn . . . We are not the same person we were when we first came out to ourselves. We are goi...

Ep. #180: Jennifer's Coming Out Late Story, Part 2

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation with a coming out late compadre, Jennifer. Jennifer talks about her early upbringing where she not only dealt with extraordinary life challenges but also became acutely aware of her attraction to girls. Social conditioning, compulsory heterosexuality, religion, and other factors greatly impacted Jennifer’s conscious or unconscious decision to ‘shove it, [her attraction to womyn], down. In this Part 2 episode, you will hear Robin and Jennif...

Ep. #179: Jennifer's Coming Out Late Story, Part 1

In this Part 1 episode, Robin spends time talking with a coming out late compadre, Jennifer. Jennifer talks about her early upbringing where she not only dealt with extraordinary life challenges but also became acutely aware of her attraction to girls. Social conditioning, compulsory heterosexuality, religion, and other factors greatly impacted Jennifer’s conscious or unconscious decision to ‘shove it, [her attraction to womyn], down. In this Part 1 episode, you will hear Robin and Jennifer disc...

Ep. #178: Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability on Your Coming Out Late Process

In this Episode, “ Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”, Robin invites Chris Blais on to talk about a new offering to Robin’s Coming Out Late Community. When you sign up for Chris’ 6-week yoga series, you will learn . . . the difference between yoga and yoga therapy the importance of self-regulating and how to find stability how to quiet the mind and develop emotional regulation tools how to regulate catastrophic thinking by connecting our mind & bodies ...

Ep. #177: Queer Clergy Talk About Love, Sex, and the Bible, Part 2, (Replay)

In this Part 2 Episode of “Queer Clergy Talk About Love, Sex, and the Bible”, you will hear the unique perspectives of queerness and religion from about half a dozen members of our Coming Out Late Facebook Community, who also happen to be Clergy. Patriarchy, language, pronouns and “mansplaining”.. “Doubt the defaults”, Rev. Eyde Mabanglo Is God gendered? The idea of “transactional preaching” versus “transformational preaching”. Should we be saving the church? Knowing your queer black history: Ba...

Ep. #176: Finding Your Community At Coming Out Late Retreats, (Nashville, TN), Part 2

In this Part 2 Episode of “Finding Your Community at Coming Out Late Retreats”, you will hear the conversation continue between Robin and about half of the group that attended the Nashville Retreat earlier this month. Listen-in as you will hear and learn all about Coming Out Late Retreats, told firsthand by the folx who just returned from the Nashville Coming Out Late Retreat: So, what happens at these Coming Out Late Retreats? “Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.” -Brene Brown...

Ep. #175: Finding Your Community: At Coming Out Late Retreats, (Nashville, TN) Part 1

In this episode, Robin enjoys a casual conversation with a gaggle of gays from the recent Coming Out Late Retreat to Nashville, TN. Listen-in as you will hear and learn all about Coming Out Late Retreats, told firsthand by the folx who just returned from the Nashville Retreat: So, what happens at these Coming Out Late Retreats? “Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.” -Brene Brown What touched the Retreat-goers the most? What is ‘Queer Joy’? Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” po...

Ep. #174: Queer Clergy Talk About 'Love', 'Sex' and the 'Bible' (Replay)

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin shares with us a second conversation she had with a group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97. The Rev. Wilda C. Gafney, Ph.D., also known as Wil Gafney, (born 1966) is an American biblical scholar and Episcopal priest . She is a...

Ep. #173: The Roller Coaster Ride of Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin and Chris discuss the essay Robin read in last week’s episode, written by her nomadic traveling friend, Gila. Robin and Chris break down the essay, line-by-line, and compare how Gila’s insights and words seamlessly dovetail with our experiences with coming out late in life. Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear Robin & Chris explore… "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila Melamed How ca...

Ep. #172: Coming Out Late: Don't Let Fear Dim Your Light

In this episode, Robin shares the other blog post from her late blooming nomadic traveling friend, Gila Melamed. With this blog post, Robin and Gila force us to take a look at both that which brings us joy, and that which challenges us and makes us realize that without both there can be no growth. And without growth - we die - inside and out. Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed… "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path fo...

Ep. #171: Friendships, Forgiveness & Loneliness: Life Is A Journey

In this episode, Robin talks about a special friend she met over two years ago - a single, female, nomadic traveler who journals her travel experiences in a blog. An intermittent reader of her blog, Robin happened across two entries in particular that she wants to share with you; one this week, and one next week. Enjoy! Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed… "In life, there is time for everything." The struggles with loneliness are real. In admitting our fears aloud, to trusted friends...

Ep. #170: I Left My Marriage and Had My First WLW Relationship

In this episode, Robin shares with us a story she came across in social media - about a woman who left her husband after a 10-year marriage, then finding herself in a nearly two-year WLW relationship, and was eventually broken-up with. Robin uses this example to illustrate the following… Where does our sense of stability really come from? Do we stay in old relationships (marriages), because they're safe & stable? What happens when we chase comfort and security outside ourselves? What can we ...

Ep. #169: This Current Climate Calls for Courageous Love! (As If Coming Out Late Wasn't Hard Enough Already!)

In this episode, Robin interviews Gender Expansive Yoga Therapist, Chris Blais. They discuss why we must learn to practice 'courageous love' - if we are to thrive, not just 'survive' these tumultuous times! You will learn about… Practicing courageous love. R.A.I.N. - Recognize, Allow, Investigate & Nurture. Healing & honoring all our feelings. What a strong back and a soft front mean. “May we be safe. May we be happy. May we be healthy. May we live with ease. May all beings have these th...

Ep. #168: Should I Go Back In the Closet?

In this episode, Robin acknowledges the crazy political climate we're currently in and how that impacts our new gay lives. She asks the question, “Should we go back in the closet after just coming out late?” You will learn about… The urgency with which we each need to get into action - as much as we can while remaining safe.. How our ‘governmental structure’, ‘democracy’, ‘freedoms’ and sense of being a ‘united nation’ are all lies and illusions. How to care for yourself during these stressful, ...

Ep. #167: Late Bloomers In the Wild - Sharing Feelings & Goofing Around

In this episode, Robin invites you into a private conversation between a bunch of late bloomers who all met in Robin’s Coming Out Late Community. After meeting one another, week after week in Robin’s three weekly support groups, a bunch of them realized they lived pretty close to one another so many of them have met one another in real life and are forming friendships and creating their local communities. You will learn about… How being a part of a community really is good for your soul. That a ...

Voice Memo #5: Long Distance Relationships (LDR's)

Ep. #166: Coming Out Late - "It Is OK!" (Replay: Ep. #43)

In this episode, Robin selects a social media thread from one of her favorite Facebook Groups. The Admin. starts what turns out to be, one of the most meaningful and “therapeutic” threads that overwhelmingly aligns with Robin’s core Coming Out Late values that she simply HAD to share it. Robin strongly believes that the initial post, and the thread of comments and solicited advice that follows, could be used as a Coming Out Late handguide. The overall theme, “It Is Ok”, addresses feeling the fee...

Voice Memo #4: Be True to Yourself, Work Less Hard, Express Your Feelings, Reach Out to Friends & Allow Yourself to Be Happier (2/4/25)