Coming Back turns 1! I'm celebrating my first year as a podcaster and inviting you to my exclusive, hour-long Facebook LIVE party on Wednesday, 5/16 in The Grief Growers' Garden. Join me live on Facebook Wednesday, 5/16 at 7:30pm Central in The Grief Growers' Garden: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thegriefgrowersgarden/ Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly...
May 16, 2018•13 min
Julia Samuel was fed up with people mentally and emotionally attacking themselves in midst of their grief. So she wrote Grief Works, a book that not only normalizes grief, but reminds us that we all grieve differently. This week, we're talking about the uniqueness of English grief, the reality of feeling grief as an energy in our bodies, and Julia's Pillars of Strength that hold up grievers in the midst of the storm. Also on the show, I'm covering a listener request: anticipatory grief—grieving ...
May 09, 2018•51 min
An everyday activity turned into a nightmare for Megan Devine who watched her partner, Matt, drown during one of their usual "quick dips" in the river. Her community, Refuge In Grief, and new book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand, are powerful beacons for grieving hearts. We're talking about the librarians that live in our brains, the importance of having a will, and the switch from "doing for" a loved one versus "doing in honor" of a loved o...
May 02, 2018•1 hr 14 min
Funeral Director Caleb Wilde has seen beauty in death. This week, he shares how he would like to die. Caleb Wilde's work: https://www.calebwilde.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set ...
Apr 25, 2018•8 min
Kerry Egan believes our love for deceased loved ones doesn't end—it changes. Do you agree? Kerry Egan's work: http://kerryegan.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Ba...
Apr 18, 2018•7 min
Joshua Black talks about the healing power of bringing grief dreams to the masses. Joshua Black's work: http://www.griefdreams.ca/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Bac...
Apr 11, 2018•8 min
Candyce Ossefort-Russell shares her favorite book for starting conversations about death and dying. Candyce Ossefort-Russell's work and free grief e-book: http://www.deepcenterforgrowth.com/candyce-counseling/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two pa...
Apr 04, 2018•8 min
Darwyn Dave finds comfort in the physical objects his father left behind. Darwyn Dave's work: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back ...
Mar 28, 2018•7 min
It's the end of Season 2 of Coming Back! I'm leaving you with my take on this season's "theme" and lots of exciting upcoming events, including a giveaway of two copies of The Grief Recovery Method® Handbook. Enter the giveaway by supporting Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method® Handbook , a set of three Coming Back...
Mar 21, 2018•18 min
Candyce Ossefort-Russell went from having a healthy husband to a dead husband in a matter of two months. A bizarre heart-consuming virus was at the root of it all, taking Candyce's husband out of her life forever on Valentine's Day, 1992. Her loss drove her to become a therapist where she sits with others in their darkness and does a boatload of research on the biological science of grief and grieving. This week we're doling out facts for grievers and the people who love them, and talking about ...
Mar 15, 2018•59 min
Darwyn Dave has been dealing with his grief since the age of 10, when his father was shot and killed in the convenience store that he owned and ran. Grief has given Darwyn lots of lenses on life enabling him to see many, many sides to topics like technology, family history, and gun violence. Today we're talking about how grief gives us perspective... and keeps giving us perspective for the rest of our lives. Also on the show, I'm talking about how acknowledgment is not enough—we must take action...
Mar 07, 2018•57 min
It's so important to feel our shit. But Katie Scoggins had no idea HOW important until multiple car accidents gave her two concussions and a permanently altered brain. We're talking about how hard it is to let go of our "always in control" mentality and why we need to break down our resistance to difficult, raw, and unexpected emotions. Also this week, I'm doing my most swear-word-filled top of the show yet, called "I'm an Asshole; You're an Asshole: Forming Proper Apologies in Grief." Katie Sco...
Mar 01, 2018•59 min
Hospice chaplain and author Kerry Egan lost her father... and her mind. Her dad's loss led her journeying, and she hiked the Camino de Santiago. Her postpartum psychotic break led her inward, where she learned powerful lessons about what's real and what isn't—and why we should validate others' experiences no matter what we believe. Both losses cultivated her ability to be present with others' pain in her work as a hospice chaplain and called her to write two books: Fumbling and On Living. Also o...
Feb 21, 2018•1 hr 15 min
Caleb Wilde is not your average undertaker. In fact, he's a sixth-generation funeral director who uses his innate introversion, empathy, and fascination with theology to "be the heart when hearts are broken." He relays his observations in his new book, Confessions of a Funeral Director. We're talking about how capitalism makes us "death amateurs," how grief is a form of worship, and how Caleb feels about bringing his son to work. Also on today's show, I'm talking about crafting an escape plan fo...
Feb 14, 2018•55 min
Karin Holmes miscarried her baby after just six and a half weeks of pregnancy. Her miscarriage and the trauma of a necessary D&C plunged her into the crashing, lonely isolation of an invisible loss where she blamed herself for failing her baby and couldn't figure out how she was supposed to grieve. She's speaking on the uniqueness of miscarriage, what NOT to say to a mother who's miscarried, and her book, How to Survive a Miscarriage. Also this week, I'm talking about how once we grieve, we can'...
Feb 07, 2018•56 min
Kimberly Wilson's first major loss occurred in 2012 when her beloved Gramma died. But she was brought to her knees three years later, with the loss of her dog, Louis the Pug. We're talking a lot about importance—the importance of taking time and space to process loss, the importance of memorializing and remembering the ones we love, and the importance of taking REALLY good care of yourself in the midst of grief. Also on the show, I'm highlighting how pet loss is different from—and sometimes more...
Jan 31, 2018•51 min
Fellow grief millennial Morgan Brown was frustrated with people's responses to her grief over her mom's sudden death. She channeled her frustration into regular blog posts that became the foundation for Death Dialogue—her ongoing art installations, workshops, and conversations about death with people who are still living... and her encouragement of conversations on life with those who have died. We're talking about her popular touring phone booth project called "Conversations I Wish I Had" and h...
Jan 24, 2018•55 min
Joshua Black's life changed forever after a dream of his departed father. He is now a leading researcher on grief dreams, something many grievers have but don't talk about. We're upacking his turbulent relationship with his father, how he views death after having grief dreams, and touching on what all of us can do to become better dreamers. Also on the show, I'm talking about the totally normal phenomenon of becoming aware of your own mortality after a loved one dies. Ask Me Anything LIVE on Goo...
Jan 17, 2018•53 min
Harriet Cabelly's dream of the perfect child was shattered when her daughter was diagnosed with neurological deficits at just nine months old. "Why me?" became her mantra. Another medical crisis in her daughter's life challenged Harriet to practice exercising her muscle of resilience and that defining moment in her life laid the foundation for her new book, Living Well Despite Adversity. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about how age determines how we grieve and how much about deat...
Jan 10, 2018•58 min
After being flooded with overwhelming joy at her mother's funeral of all places, Dr. Gladys Ato recognized that within all of our goodbyes, there is good. Combining her loss-saturated childhood with her experience as a clinical psychologist and unexpected leader of a closing university, she created her new book, The Good Goodbye, which helps usher all of us into a headspace of reframing loss for good. Also on the show, I unveil my latest project that YOU can support! Coming Back is now on Patreo...
Jan 03, 2018•51 min
Coming Back is taking inspiration from grief and will be released in seasons going forward. Plus, Coming Back is now on Spotify! And my annual list of five grief must-reads for 2018. Grieving? Read These Five Books in 2018: http://bit.ly/2CQA1q8 Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http:/...
Dec 27, 2017•12 min
My heart has been asking me to take a break for a while. I'm finally answering its call. Please stay tuned for future episodes of Coming Back in 2018. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The G...
Nov 15, 2017•11 min
Why do we need to "do something" after a loss? Thoughts on the Texas shooting and needing to take action (in response to violence, gun reform, the NRA, etc.) in the midst of devastation featuring inspiration from Glennon Doyle Melton and Brené Brown. Glennon Doyle Melton - The Next Right Thing for Gun Reform: http://bit.ly/2CAKnr2 Brene Brown - Speaking Truth to Bullshit, Practicing Civility, and Affecting Change: http://bit.ly/2iHdnEO Resistbot: https://resistbot.io/ Join me LIVE on Facebook Mo...
Nov 08, 2017•14 min
Eileen Doyon lost her mom and brother when she was 23, but grief didn't really hit her until she watched her father die from lung cancer in her early fifties. The depth of losing him launched her into a dark place where she landed on writing as her way through. She's since published a series of books called Unforgettable Faces and Stories that gives others space to tell their own stories of heartbreak and loss. Also on the show, a listener can't cry after the death of her brother. And I talk abo...
Nov 01, 2017•53 min
Alexia Leachman of The Fear Free Childbirth Podcast lost her mom at 30. This loss sent her on a massive personal journey, where she ended up learning the tools and techniques that helped address her fears around becoming a mom herself. She's since been on a mission to help other women unlock their fears of pregnancy and childbirth. We'll touch on the reality of "being a mom without a mom." Also on the show, a listener wants to know the most common challenge in overcoming grief, and I talk about ...
Oct 25, 2017•52 min
The last thing holistic psychiatrist Maureen Magauran expected to feel after her younger sister died was joy. But there it was, in the dark void of her grief. Also on the show, I answer a personal question about recharging from my grief work. And I talk about the power of sharing our stories of rape, sexual assault, and sexual harassment through the lens of #metoo. RAINN: https://www.rainn.org/ Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Maureen Magauran, M.D.'s work: http://maureenmagaura...
Oct 18, 2017•50 min
"The Hotel Artist" Catherine Rains faced a triple-whammy of devastation—breast cancer, a divorce, and being pulled away from her beloved art. We're talking about the mindsets she used to come back from her losses and the inspiration she draws from life's happenings to create beautiful Instagram-famous collage art! Also on the show, I talk about the popular question of dealing with aging parents. And I address the invisible pressure of learning something from your grief. What Aging Parents Really...
Oct 12, 2017•54 min
Lila B never expected her boyfriend's Type 1 Diabetes to kill him. But when he didn't come home from the supermarket one day, she was devastated when a search and rescue mission found him in the lake behind their house. She'll guide us through her "pink light" visualization for grievers and we're talking about her meditation podcast, Daring to Be Happy. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about letting go of personal belongings after a loss. And I talk about a coaching session where I...
Oct 04, 2017•56 min
What is love? NYT Bestseller The Five Love Languages was written to help us understand how to express and experience love through five set "languages": receiving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. The book was aimed at romantic couples, but for this episode of Coming Back, we're exploring how The Five Love Languages relates to grief—if you're grieving... or if you LOVE a griever! Take the quiz to find out your love language here: http://www.5lovelangu...
Sep 27, 2017•39 min
Heather Kelly of Money Making Sense was suddenly terminated from her stable, full-time job, leaving her with tons of questions and emotional whiplash in the form of PTSD. Also on the show, I air a listener's response to E18: Why I Keep Doing This. And I talk about the all-too-common pitfall of grief comparison. Heather Kelly's work: https://www.facebook.com/MoneyMakingSense/ Call or write in with your thoughts on the next "Fun One" episode—E20: Grief and The Five Love Languages! How have gifts, ...
Sep 20, 2017•52 min
