I've gotten some "haters" in the past few weeks and felt compelled to ask myself, "Why do I keep doing this?" Call or write in with your thoughts on the next "Fun One" episode—E20: Grief and The Five Love Languages! How have gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, or quality time shown up in your grief story? Leave a voicemail or text 312.725.3043 or email [email protected], subject line, "Love Languages." Join me LIVE on Facebook this Thursday 9/14 at 1:00 Central...
Sep 13, 2017•11 min
Tracey Lewis-Stoeckel's life was upended when her husband surprised her with divorce. She and her kids were forced out of their home one week before Christmas and Tracey was shortly faced with leaving a job that she loved to take care of them. We're talking about the habits, mantras, and music that helps us rebuild. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about the illusion of closure. And I call out friends and family who are intellectualizing your grief. Tracey Lewis Stoeckel's work: ht...
Sep 06, 2017•54 min
Courtney Violet Bentley, host of Fit, Fierce, and Fabulous Podcast wrestled with anorexia, bulimia, and a toxic "lack of" mentality after losing her father and grandfather. When her grandmother died, she decided enough was enough and challenged herself to find the joy in life, rediscovering her body, her spirit, and her personal power. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about trouble sleeping after a dog dies. And I have a special message for the romantic/intimate partners of griever...
Aug 30, 2017•50 min
Vasavi Kumar was arrested for assaulting her boyfriend which woke her up to loss of control, loss of identity, and loss of self. We go deep on anger and comparison, taking responsibility for our situations, and attachment to our stories. Also on the show, I answer a listener question for all my nurses, EMTs, police, firefighters, veterinarians, caregivers, and rescue workers out there: How do I deal with grief when I see death every day? And I walk you through a guided visualization on meeting y...
Aug 23, 2017•1 hr 6 min
After being struck by a car at age four, Eve Chalom lost her sense of hearing. While she regained some of her ability within six months, the emotional and energetic consequences of the accident stuck around for a lifetime. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about disclosing your grief story to others (especially nosy coworkers!). And I talk about the popular phrase, "One day at a time." Eve Chalom's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eve.chalom Join me LIVE on Facebook this Thursday ...
Aug 17, 2017•47 min
Christina Lerchen of The Best Unexpected left her longtime career as beauty blogger after her best friend was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer in 2011. She gave birth to her stillborn daughter just one month later. We chat about "what not to say," the power of storytelling, and two of Christina's favorite authors, Cheryl Strayed and Brené Brown. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about not getting to say goodbye before a death. And we talk about the importance of holding space f...
Aug 09, 2017•1 hr 5 min
Holistic dietitian Cindy Klinger watched her father struggle with akathisia, a deadly side-effect of antidepressant and antipsychotic medications that eventually led him to suicide. I answer a listener question about supporting family at the funeral of a loved one. And I revisit last week's episode, The Truth, and what my personal heartbreak taught me about grief. Cindy Klinger's work: https://cindyklinger.com/ Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iT...
Aug 02, 2017•1 hr 5 min
Sometimes grief just looks like this. This is my truth in the immediate aftermath of heartbreaking news. I'll go back to my usual format next week. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grie...
Jul 26, 2017•5 min
Thank you for being a friend! Death, divorce, and diagnosis were running themes on The Golden Girls, and our girls Dorothy (Bea Arthur), Rose (Betty White), Blanche (Rue McClanahan), and Sophia (Estelle Getty) had their share of responses to grief in their lives. I'll answer listener questions, play clips from the show, and read a couple of excerpts from Jim Colucci's New York Times Bestselller: Golden Girls Forever: An Unauthorized Look Behind the Lanai. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://...
Jul 20, 2017•50 min
Holly Worton, host of Business Mindset Podcast, left her husband of ten years and left their shared business less than one year later. I answer a listener question about grief, age, and unfinished business referencing The Grief Recovery Method's concept of "emotional completion." And it's time to get real and raw about the harsh truth of coming back. Holly Worton's work: http://www.hollyworton.com/ Call or write in with your thoughts on next week's "Fun One" episode—E10: Grief on The Golden Girl...
Jul 12, 2017•1 hr
Author and personal development coach Stephenie Zamora grappled with anxiety, depression, and PTSD after the sudden death of her ex-boyfriend. A listener asks how they can love and grieve their abusive father simultaneously. And, "Be careful little mouth what you say!" I revisit one of my first YouTube videos about pet loss, attachment, and sheltering our children from the experience of grief: http://bit.ly/2m3TUAm . Stephenie Zamora's work: http://stepheniezamora.com/ & http://www.callofthevoid...
Jul 04, 2017•59 min
Spirituality + grief! Have you heard of inherited grief—grief that literally gets passed down through generations? What do the Black Lives Matter movement, the Trump election, and your childhood have to do with it? Also on the show, I get super-deep with a listener who asks about losing soulmate love. And I talk about a deceptively dangerous practice known as "spiritual bypassing." Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE ...
Jun 28, 2017•49 min
After losing her best friend and former fiancé to suicide within three years of each other, Sharon Ehlers overhauled her life and turned Reiki and The Grief Recovery Method®, her most valuable healing tools, into a full-time business that helps others through loss. Talk about fusing the spiritual and the practical! Rituals, dreams, chakras, and more. Also on the show, a LGBTQ listener wants to know how they should interact with their bigoted family at a loved one's funeral. And I talk about a gr...
Jun 21, 2017•58 min
"Just keep busy." "Time heals all." "You have to be strong for your family." These are just three of The Grief Recovery Method's Six Grief Myths—phrases that sound helpful, but really aren't. Also on the show, a listener is concerned about others who literally count the days since their loss happened, and I talk about one of the not-so-obvious losses we experience post-grief—our voice. Got a grieving friend? Check out my online course, How to Be Present With Others' Pain: http://shelbyforsythia....
Jun 14, 2017•42 min
Grief is WILD! A series of major moves and the breakup of a seven year relationship were trail markers on Iris Rankin's path to personal transformation. We dive deep into the "losses we consciously create"—like moving, breaking up, and choosing to leave our comfortable lives. Also on the show, I'll answer a listener question about turning racing, self-defeating thoughts into self-love and I'll talk about the importance of ritual through the lens of the one year anniversary of the Pulse Nightclub...
Jun 07, 2017•52 min
What can we say or do to comfort the grieving? Is "I'm sorry," really enough? A listener asks if it was normal to grieve their father before he actually died. And I give my honest thoughts on a recent New York Times piece about a Canadian man who planned and attended his own wake. Link to Candlelight Restorative Reiki Yoga with Tracey Ostrand (and me!) this Friday, June 2 here: http://bit.ly/2CMBsH2 Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https:/...
May 31, 2017•33 min
Documentary filmmaker and storyteller Arielle Nóbile was forcibly hospitalized after a post-9/11 mental breakdown. A listener asks how to respond (NICELY!) to the dreaded "How are you?" And I review Sheryl Sandberg's new book on grief: Option B. Arielle Nóbile's work: intotheworldthefilm.com & belongingintheusa.com Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTu...
May 24, 2017•51 min
We have all lost something. Whether your loss is a person, a relationship, a job, a pet, or a dream, loss shapes who you are and how you choose to live in the world. Join Shelby Forsythia, Intuitive Grief Guide as she explores the ideas, resources, and stories that help us "come back" to life after death, divorce, illness and more. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit...
May 15, 2017•8 min
