¶ Exploring Psychedelics for Healing and Pleasure
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I'm a little worried about being a slut . You're listening to the Come With Us podcast Talking the good , the kinky and the ugly . Here are your hosts , beth and Erin .
Hello , hello , hello . All you sexy holes and polls , welcome to Come With Us podcast . You know , we know , sexy stuff matters just as much as the lovey-dovey stuff . We're here to help you get all of the pleasure you deserve . And , oh my goodness , today we're talking about pleasure on a whole different dimension . That's it . We're talking about psychedelics .
Psychedelics , mushrooms , I don't know , I don't even know what else I act like . I know this shit , I don't . But we're so excited and so happy to have an expert from Psychedelics Today . His name is Joe Moore and his company , psychedelics Today and Joe .
They believe that the psychedelics are going to totally disrupt the way that humanity approaches healing , wellness , and it's going to be a whole new paradigm shift in terms of pain , in terms of even , hopefully , sexual experience , because that's what we're going to talk about here Depending on , in relationships , how these things might be able to help us overcome some
of the things that we carry with us and don't realize it . So psychedelics today is the leading discussion and they have over 2.2 million annual learners . They have the largest global reach of any media platform in the psychedelics world . Thank you , joe Moore is a co-founder , so thank you , thank you , thank you for making time for us . We are so excited .
Aaron and I have been talking for um , yeah , three years about trying to do something about like drugs in a healthy way , or or to learn what they can do when not to do More , so do episodes on them to talk and try to nail down expert , quote , unquote , expert after expert who I don't know if it's just the culture or what would get about a couple days
out and go . It just flake out and disappear .
So yeah , yeah . So we're really appreciative , joe , and you're a serious guy . You came from the world of of um software development , right ? Tell us a little bit about your background and how you got into all this .
So I'll start with uh , uh , what do you call it ? When did prude first get installed in your software ? I'm from New Hampshire , new England , um , so you know kind of an interesting prude culture , which is which is relevant here and uh , I used to joke , I was born in Massachusetts .
Everybody that's born there is issued a Puritan hat when you're born People would believe me somehow too , but it's you know it's just like everybody believes that everyone here in Texas rides . You know , horses to work and stuff , so you don't know but we do know about being prude .
This is a very , very uptight , very repressed , very socially conservative .
So I came , um , came up in New Hampshire . I started interning in software at age like 15 or 16 . As soon as I could drive , I was interning . Um and I did uh , I thought I was going to do applied computer science in my undergrad . I was studying in the White Mountains there , primarily so I could snowboard six days a week plus Um , which is great , um .
It quickly cut from software to philosophy , which was far more interesting . I kept some minors and and kept working in the technology jobs that were available at school and also interning in my summers . Um , the psychedelics came in right here , so I'm going to kind of try to rapid fire this .
So , um , psychedelics were introduced to me as a topic that you could take seriously in a , in a book called Holographic Universe by a writer , Michael Talbot , um discussing a lot of edge cases and science that kind of lead you towards philosophy .
Um , my teacher was using it as a philosophy one on one book and there was some sections on LSD psychotherapy , particularly this one psychiatrist who um quite devoted to Stanislaw Graf out of a Prague at the time Soviet occupied Prague . He was doing LSD research substantially with people , um , with all sorts of traumas , addictions , and having great results .
Um and uh . Came to America , started doing it here , developed a prep work method that I've studied extensively as well and done a lot of Um yeah . So software was my career . It was kind of the easiest thing for me to jump into after school . You know , uh , if you don't want to go to grad school , philosophy , jobs are sparse .
Um so yeah , if you don't want to see in the academic world too . So yeah , yeah , right .
Like take out 80 grand , do this PhD and then you get to move to deep Iowa . It's like no fucking way Sorry . Iowa , but like I don't really want to move there Um you could do some things to attract me I promise like legalizing all drugs , but we'll get to that later .
Um , so Okay . So you take this philosophy class that turns you on to LSD , or the concept of yeah yeah .
Exactly so . Lsd , like I'm I'm now pretty substance agnostic it's really what people are interested in .
You kind of fine tune for your purpose , um yeah , so LSD psychedelics require philosophy in a lot of ways , because you can really get ungrounded and if you don't have things you can hold on to , like , contemporary culture doesn't give us too much , we can really grasp and say , okay , this is real , it's like you know . Yeah .
Okay , sorry , that's not making any sense . To me .
Ah , go for it , you mean physically hold on to during . No , I have some conceptual things to grasp , so like what is water , what is love , what is earth , what does it mean to be alive ? So you're asking big and sometimes , because you get forced into an experience , you're asking very big questions about the nature of who am I , what is reality ?
Things that usually just get kind of jammed down your throat from a church where you actually have to like , think about it and come up with your own conclusions and what is something you can actually hold on to , you know , when you go into a really radical experience , because these things can get tested in those states .
So at the same time I'm studying philosophy , I'm exploring big experiences and doing work in software . So like kind of a disintegrated life to have to hide all that from my software world . They all know it's all over LinkedIn now , so they're all probably happy to know somebody that fled the coop and started doing drug media .
That's like I'm a recovering lawyer , so yeah you can be a recovering software coder .
That's right , I think I saw Esquire on your card . So my career in software started just basic customer support , then started doing systems engineering and got into kind of larger international projects with some very big software companies that you would know and some of the world's biggest charities . So it was really interesting to do that kind of stuff .
But you know my heart wasn't in it . I was spending as much time and money away from that as I could . You know , probably drinking to avoid having to deal with that stuff , because you can't do LSD every night , so you're like you know , but you can drink beers every night .
Okay , why can you not do LSD ? I'm sorry , I'm really ignorant . That's not a good idea . So my definition .
Beth of like psychedelics is non-specific , so generalized amplifiers of whatever's going on in here , mental or psychic process is how I put it . So it could be a Tom and Jerry rerun . It could be like , you know , a weird interaction you had at the grocery store , post office , it could be a car crash . You know , these things can all come up for you .
Or it could be stuff that's never happened to you , right ? So it could be having the experience of what the Big Bang was like , you know , not the dirty one , the natural one , and then I don't know if the dirtier one probably is .
They're both natural , it's just one is a lot more pleasant . Yeah , it requires a little more lube . Yeah .
So I don't know , things can get amplified , and amplified , and amplified to the point where you're kind of freaking yourself out or freaking friends and loved ones out .
Okay .
You know , all of a sudden all you want to talk about is , you know , a conspiracy and you can't get it out of your head , like I'm so fixated on it , like weird stuff can happen to your personality and the way you're expressing .
If you're consuming psychedelics or most drugs too often , right , like I kind of hit a breaking point from too much coffee a few years ago . I was like , oh , I'm going to need some attention , and then I got my coffee in check , right . So it's like if you're doing LSD like two times a year , it's probably going to be fine , but there are risks , yeah .
So yeah , everybody is a good prefix here . Drugs are often illegal in the United States and many other places around the world , largely for racist reasons , as the DEA admitted somewhat recently in their museum in DC , right outside DC , and didn't slow them down arresting people at all .
And they also because they're illegal , then they can be dangerous , because you can't actually trust where you get them from , necessarily . So that's always my concern . We can talk about the safety too . Yeah , yes , okay , it's a really big deal .
Thank you Okay .
Let's flag that for later . Perfect , I'm taking a note here , so folks , we'll get into safety for sure .
Yeah , there's so much to talk about , yeah .
And it's one of my favorite topics . So where were we ? We were kind of talking about why you shouldn't be taking psychedelics .
Oh , because you were saying so , you were started drinking more . You weren't happy in your job , and so somehow you decided to make drugs your passion and your profession , just like I did with sex .
Yeah , right , right , it was a couple years ago . We started calling alcohol caveman drugs .
Oh , that's funny .
Which is , you know , somewhat technically accurate . Not exactly , It'd be a little out of the caves for it to work , but you know I still drink . I'm not against any drugs specifically , Okay .
But you know there was this paper published by Dr David Nut , who is the former UK drugs are was published in the Lancet , which is a top , top tier medical journal , and it was a chart . A drug harm scale chart , funded by the UK government published an amazing journal and it showed maybe 15 or 20 drugs harm to self , harm to others , in a graph .
The Economist published this , I think in 2009 as well , and it was LSD and psilocybin were two of the three safest drugs and then alcohol was by far the most harm to self and others . But it's not like , you know , chilling drinking right .
It's like how , how we do it when we're not doing it right and we know we're going to have a bad time and it might actually deteriorate our lives , right .
Right and people drive with it . Yeah , yeah .
One of my , one of my bad jokes , that I'll give you guys , this is like I feel like you guys are into that kind of thing , so and it's not even a joke , it's just kind of like a gut punch , but it's like , oh , alcohol has almost hurt my family as much as the Catholic church has . Oh , this is a sex podcast .
I feel like it's okay to say but and I'm , you know , I come from kind of Irish Catholic Scottish lineage . So it's kind of true when you , when I look back in time at like the harm it has done to my , you know , ancestors .
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Are psychedelics . Are they physically addictive like alcohol ?
Ketamine would be the closest to an addiction you could get from a psychedelic , so it kind of what you're . There's a subtext there . It's really about the detox .
There's two compounds If you're detoxing from you could be in serious health risk and that's alcohol and benzodiazepines , like Sanix and some people would say that about heroin , but it's really opiates kind of only because your heart gets really weak in time and like the stress could be a problem , but that's more like lack of appropriate sleep and diet .
Heroin itself is actually really safe , but the way people use it not so much .
Yeah , I was going to say I know that was the one I've seen people struggle with the most to get off .
It's just painful , horrible Sigaret predictions worse oh no , that's true , that that yeah .
Yeah , so , okay . So then you decide to leave software . How , what did you do ? What was the first thing you did in terms of the psychedelics world professionally ?
So I started this company about seven and a half years ago May 2016 , I think it was and , because I was looking it up earlier , may 11 , I think , was our first episode , and I think that's like right when I opened the doors to my sexy shop in Houston .
by the way , it was .
Maybe it was .
May 9th or something 2016 .
So , yeah , I've only had one Houston experience and I loved it Ah .
¶ Developing a Psychedelics Education Program
Anyway yeah we started doing that . I was doing this secretly from my job . It took me like probably at least a year to tell my family what I was doing and , of course , like , oh , you're going to lose your job if you do this , you shouldn't do that . And then what do we do with that ?
So it was right before the pandemic hit and I actually got laid off and I was like , oh , this is amazing timing . I've always wanted to get laid off and get a big check and I used it all to start the company and keep developing things . So we started as a podcast .
We wanted to hype that particular psychiatrist , stan Grof , his field of psychology he developed called Transpersonal Psychology , which is sort of spiritualized psychology , and then the breathwork method , holotropic breathwork . So those were our three pillars and , like preserve the memory and legacy of our teacher who's still with us , and we did all that in the podcast .
No intent of money , we started saying maybe we should cover our costs for this thing . So we started developing classes online , primarily for college kids who may or may not be having a hard time with use or exploring it , and a lot of college kids aren't as reckless as me and they wanted to have a safe approach and I'm like , okay , yeah , great .
Like let's give you some resources , let's tell you how to plan , let's how to plan the downsides too , like if something scary is going to happen , you have a good plan for that and then in the weeks and months after also have a plan . So , like you know , we don't really have plans for how we're going to do drugs in contemporary world , right ?
It's like oh , I'm just going to shove these powders in my nose and we'll figure it out later . It's like well what if you knew where you were going , you planned and you knew the drugs were safe . You knew who you were going to be with was safe and who you wanted to be with and yeah , like .
I think there needs to be a lot more planning in this stuff . So that's kind of what we developed . All of a sudden , doctors and therapists started showing up . I was embarrassed by the class at that point so we had to like hire clinicians and therapists to really beef it up and make it for them as well .
So we started doing navigating psychedelics for clinicians and therapists and this is all before I was full time , Wow . And then we shortly after that I think it was like a year and a half , two years ago we started a program called Vital .
It's our 12 month kind of professionally interested program where people who want to be either sitters or therapists or psychiatrists or yoga teachers that know how to do this stuff , Pilates instructors , etc . We actually have had a lot of sex educators come through our programs .
I learned far more about sex than I ever have just by like small interactions with those folks Like , oh my gosh , I'm super ignorant , Great and yeah . Vital came out after I was laid off and we wanted to compete head on with the biggest programs out there MAPS and CIS and Naropa , and these are kind of the top tier training programs that people perceive .
But we wanted an inclusive version . We wanted people who weren't clinicians involved , because clinicians are amazing but there's limitations to what clinicians can comfortably talk about or even fairly talk about Honestly , like you probably know , this as an attorney , former attorney , you might still be an attorney , but you know I am , but all I did was family law .
So yeah , oh yeah , right .
So there's like limits to what you can say even in those scenarios , whereas like can't we just be human with each other ? And like this whole collective history humanity has with substance ? For the majority of human history it wasn't gated by your profession or license , right , right ?
Even in like the early 1900s , late 1800s , before the drug war really ramped up , we could buy whatever we wanted over the counter from a safe supply . We could buy a codeine , we could buy cocaine , we could buy heroin , we could buy fascinating drugs , opium , alcohol mixtures like Lodinum .
There's like a really robust history of what we used to be able to buy over the counter and people largely didn't have much issue with it . And you can check this out in Carl Hart's book Drug Use for Grown-Ups . He's a former head of psychology at Columbia Amazing writer .
Very cool .
And yeah . So that's kind of it . And now we're in our second round of vital . We hit like five and a half million downloads , maybe on the show , and just hit 100K on Instagram recently , which I was more excited about than the five million something downloads . I was like finally .
Wow , that's amazing Model . Tough Congrats , thank you . It's very exciting .
¶ Exploring Psychedelics and Pleasure
And so what ? So where are you going ? Why ? What do you ? What would your ideal be ? And then we could talk about more about the specifics . But you know , I want a world where everybody's fucking all the time .
They're partners , everybody's happy , we don't have time for war and people are full of love , right Seems to me , psychedelics can play into that right .
So , I think Timothy Leary had these great lines about this concept of hedonic engineering . Like we now have all the science and research tools we need to develop , like the optimally pleasurable life and an LSD like . I keep bringing it up because I think it's it's superior in a lot of ways to a lot of the other substances . It's also wildly cheap .
So right now people are buying it for somewhere between $3 to $10 and it can last somewhere between 8 to 12 hours .
So like the dollar per minute is outrageous and at scale I believe it's going to come down to 50 cents 10 cents ago , with a safe , confirmed dose right , which is even better than what we have today , because you don't really know your dosing today . There's a couple of companies working on addressing that , but yeah , it's a big deal .
So I'm going towards pleasure , I'm going towards peace , I'm going towards some sort of far more chilled out state than we're in as a species right now , because this is not okay and it's not going to keep working if we keep getting divided further and further .
And , yeah , like it breaks down the walls for good conversations , especially around sex and relating and families , and like , do you actually want to do the same thing your parents and grandparents did , or should you experiment with other modes of being that might be better for you and the other people involved in that system ? Right , for whatever reason .
I think I saw this on a sci-fi show years and years ago about , like it was kind of a group wedding thing . It was kind of like a cult , but it was like the obvious future cult and there was 12 to 20 people in these group marriages that would co-live and like , given kind of our economic trajectory , that could be an interesting evolution .
Now we would call it a polycule , a polycule , a polypollup , that's polycule , yeah .
So like a polypod ? Yeah , so like . I think there's that . I think psychedelics also can help us radically solve problems . So things around our assorted environmental issues could get resolved through creative problem solving here and not to mention just , you know , at larger scale . So we go outside of us feeling better as individuals and as our social pods .
Like what if we could come up with and evolve social structures and governments that are happier and healthier ? And you know better generally . You know not putting people in jail for what they do in their bedroom . You know .
Yeah .
Or their lab Right . Yeah , all right .
Well , can we , like I want to know first , like , how do you think physically , how do psychedelics affect sexual performance , libido , like kind of start there , because alcohol is a depressant . It actually decreases people's ability to enjoy and to engage . Actually , no-transcript .
Can we be a little vulgar ?
Yeah , of course , please , yeah , great .
So like yeah , there's no there's no whiskey dick in MDMA or LSD Like you can have some weird things , that can happen for sure . But MDMA , for instance , ecstasy people people should understand this is probably the safest one . If you're in a committed relationship already , do it be exploring .
Always check your local laws and make sure your ticker is okay for it , but it's . It's an amphetamine , but it does not feel like you're taking a whole mess of Adderall or coffee or something . It's a lot more subdued generally and your fear response goes away .
So imagine if you could be with your 10 year partner and you could be unafraid of having conversations for the first time in your life .
Okay , I did not know that one .
Yeah , that's interesting .
Your fear was okay , but so don't do it around strangers . You could you could .
You could have an amazing time at 7-Eleven or wherever you're at .
Well , but you could put yourself perhaps in danger if you don't have a fear response .
I mean fear . Response is what keeps animals alive ? It's not to that level right .
It's not like oh cool , I'm not afraid of the interstate , so I'm just going to run into it , right , it's not like that . You still you're still somewhat intelligent and cogent and having great , great insights and thoughts .
You're just like , yeah , maybe I don't want to go talk to that cop and show them everything in my pockets right Like you're not going to have , you know ? Oh , let's just take all my clothes off and you could have that Usually that's not . Mdma alone , okay , and you know , running around a festival or whatever .
What about ? I heard that with MDMA that it might be harder for people to orgasm , that they enjoy that being touched significantly but makes it harder to orgasm .
That's the story I'm pretty sure I've worked as them done .
MDMA . But I don't know , I can't say it's impossible , but I can say that that's a standard story .
Okay , because I've heard it from a bunch of swingers with a lot of experience , so I think it's like they often .
Often people like this is a whole field , right , Like , I think , chem sex is what they would call it . Often it's like what kind of chem ? If you don't know that one , you can Google that later . It's a whole developed thing . It's largely from , I think , the gay world .
It was pretty well developed , but I think there's other communities that are learning from what they've helped to pioneer . And yeah , mdma for sure . You might not get the orgasm you want , but you get a lot of pleasure . And then Timothy Leary used to talk about LSD . He was so good with words , he's being a little ridiculous too .
He's like if a woman takes LSD and has sex with her partner , she can have 10,000 orgasms in one night , it's like . But also maybe their dosing was way higher than I'm used to , so I don't know . And it can get sloppy and weird , because your LSD is a pretty freaking weird drug and psychedelics are generally pretty weird .
But if you stick with it and it's a love scenario , not just like a you know a rando hookup from you know a swinger site and then like let's do LSD together , we just met , like that kind of that's probably a bad idea .
But if it's somebody you've known for three plus months or something you guys really trust each other , that then there could be some interesting stuff that could happen . Yeah , and it's Leary's kind of hedonic engineering idea is all about learning to get to know your nervous system . And how does my body work ? How does my nervous system actually work ?
And have you seen these homuncular representations of the human nervous system ? It's like these really weird kind of cartoon images of the human body with . Things are different sizes based on the density of nerves and feeling . So you'd have gigantic hands , gigantic tongue and lips , gigantic genitals , big ears , gigantic head .
Torso is tiny , like legs are tiny , generally speaking , and it's worth checking out homuncular representation or something so like getting to know how to treat your nervous system really well , especially in relation and insects like those things . Once you know how to do that , then you can repeat it and have different interesting novel experiences .
The one I'm hearing about the most the substance I'm hearing about the most right now in sex is one called two CB to Charlie Bravo and it's a derivative of mescaline and the way I like to describe it it's one of my favorites right now is bumper bowling . We put up the little inflatable lanes .
So , it's like tripping with the bumper lanes up is a way I like to put it . It comes on really , really really slow . Often I can't tell if I'm high or not , but then all of a sudden something happens . I'm like , yeah , of course I'm high , but yeah , people seem to really like that one and you can do some really interesting things with the nervous system .
A lot of your work is very nervous system focused , right .
Mm-hmm , yes , yes , and usually it's often accompanied by nerves , like the negative association of nerves being that they're tense and don't relax easily . So , okay , well , we're gonna have to wrap this episode up , but I definitely there's so much more , so you'll stick around with us , please .
And I think the only other question before we go is just , if people wanna experiment with stuff , do they need to have like a sober guide with them , or is that too complicated , in which case we'll tackle that next week .
I think the safest way would be exploring without sex first with a couple friends , and definitely having a sober person in the room , like having a sober observer of your sex , could be a little weird for some folks but , it could also be what people are into . So it's , how do we know ?
So , yeah , I think , having a sober supervisor until you're comfortable enough to like jump into the bedroom and maybe just have somebody sober outside the bedroom , you know , perfect yeah .
Okay , good , I just don't wanna leave people this week going .
okay , hey , honey , let's just jump right in and try some shit and Don't , don't don't get educated as much as you can first Cause this is like this is double black diamond terrain for sure .
Gotcha Okay . So absolutely , listeners , stay with us again for next week , cause definitely you're gonna wanna learn more and we'll get more specifics . And , frankly , I'll tell you about my trip , where I've only done psilocybin a few times and it's been very , very interesting , but- .
Can't wait .
Sounds fun . I can't wait to do it again sometime , I gotta tell you . So , all right , well , thank you , thank you . Thank you , joe Moore from Psychedelics Today , and is the website psychedelicstodaycom .
No , absolutely .
It is psychedelicstodaycom . Go check him out and his classes and everything there . And , yeah , thank you for making time for us today . I am Beth Darling at you can find me at BethDarlingcom . You can also find my book , the Five Kines of Intimacy how to Keep your Love Alive .
If you haven't gotten it yet , read it and then , in fact , maybe we'll talk next time about how psychedelics can help us get much more intimate with our partner in all the different ways . So thanks , erin , for being here , and we will look forward to seeing all of y'all next week and come with us podcast . Big hugs and love . Bye .
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