¶ Unconventional Sexual Fetishes Discussed
Are you saying you faked with me ?
Yeah , I just can't say it and it says I'm so cool , I'm not wrong .
Now , you're single . What do you know about sexual relations ? Is it true that if you don't use it , you use it ?
I'm a little worried about being a slut . You're listening to the Come With Us podcast , talking the good , the kinky and the ugly . Here are your hosts , beth and Erin .
Hello , hello , hello . All you sexy holes and polls , welcome to Come With Us podcast , where we know that sexy stuff matters as much as the lovey-dovey stuff . We're here to help you get all the pleasure you deserve . And today , actually , we're going to talk about some really outrageous ways of getting your jollies . And there are tons of them .
There are so many fetishes Erin's already laughing so many , so many fetishes , and again , we're going to talk about them . We're going to laugh with you . If you have them , great . If you don't go , oh my god . I can't believe somebody else gets turned on by that , because we all get turned on by different things . But the key is safety and consent .
Two things safety and consent . But anyway , I'm Beth Darling . You can find me and my newest book , the Five Kinds of Intimacy how to Keep your Love Alive , as well as my video oral classes , at BethDarlingcom . So please go there and check it out if you haven't .
And I'm here with Erin , and Erin and I are both going to try not to sniff and sneeze too much . We're recording from a distance , but both of us have the sniffles today .
So I was like we got to find out if there's a fetish for sick people , because not that I want to actually have sexy right now , but it'd be nice to think somebody wanted to have sexy with me , right .
I mean I guess I don't know . Yeah , like when you're sick , like I don't know , when you're sick you're really not in the mood , which luckily , like I'm on the real tail end of it .
Like now mine's just seasonal fall allergy part that's kicking in , but still like when I was actually like I didn't feel well on Friday and Saturday , like , oh , I didn't want to do anything .
Yeah , I'm kind of like there . I just I've got a headache . I'm much more tired than you , anyway , but I just looked up . So there is one . It's not really sick , but there is an arousal to sucking on a partner's nose . Yeah , it's called nasolingus .
I had that written down as one of the weird ones . I found that's just , and I kind of want to find somebody who has this as a quote unquote fetish .
I think we're being really lenient with the actual definition fetish , like , ok , that cannot be the only thing , or the main thing that really gets you off is the idea of sucking on your partner's nose , first off , second off , I really want to talk to somebody who enjoys it Because , like , is it the tip of the nose where there's no nostrils , or are you
trying to like , like a little baby booger sucker and like the whole thing , like what the fuck is that ? Like , if you have it , you know I'm not going to lie . I've got a little bit of judgment in my head for you , but it's not like I think you're a bad person . You're just kind of out there weird . I mean , I'm out there weird about plenty of shit .
So you know .
I'm not hating on you , I just like . Right , it's so bizarre , right , that's when it's not our turn on . It feels like , oh , like , why .
That's the thing is like the tip , like I've kissed the tip of my wife's nose all the time , but yeah , like the thought of like , because the way they like nasal lingus , what does the end of that word sound like ?
Lingus like tongue . Well , link linguses starts from linguistics and stuff , but so I think it's all right .
Yes , but come a lingus which is eating pussy . Mm-hmm , to eat pussy . You got to get in there . You got to get like you dive right in that . Yeah , like , how are you diving right into a protrusion like a nose and there's only noses ? Like , if you have , okay , so if you have this fetish , do you only seek out partners who have a giant nose ?
Do you like nostril size matter ? Like that's just so fucking weird . Yeah , like the whole booger part .
Like I remember Years ago when they came out with this , like if any of you have friends or relatives that have had a kid recently and you've gone out and shopped for the like supplies for , like a baby shower , stuff like that , yeah , I have plenty of people around me who have had kids .
There is now a contraption that instead of the old , like turkey baser looking booger sucker that a bunch of people my age and , you know , born in the 80s , grew up around , there's now a straw and it looks like a fucking crazy straw and it goes into the child's nose and then the end of the straw attaches like you just put it in your mouth and you suck ,
and it's not that now there's a filter where it stops everything , but it doesn't stop everything . Yeah , yeah , thank you .
Yeah , yeah , I don't want to be stuck in my kids boogers every .
Every time I want to gross out my wife . I bring it up because the first time I saw it at a CVS , I took a picture and I sent it to her and I said , oh my god , could you imagine being a parent and having to do that ? She was like this is why I'm not a parent .
Yeah , no no , that that's yeah , that's bizarre , so you know , but but they talk about . So fetish is something . A fetish is to feel aroused , to feel sexual arousal by something that isn't typically a sexual object or a sexual action , and a lot of times there's thought that this comes about somehow from childhood . So Maybe you know this nose Sucking , what ?
Maybe because people do tend to kiss babies on their nose , right ? Maybe maybe this was a toddler and somebody was kissing their nose and they had a an arousal Reaction , right , which is not . It's not . They don't have the context of sex . It's just that your body gets stimulated and somehow you wind up with erection .
But you know , hell , maybe the wind was blowing at the same time get an erection .
Sorry , but toddler can't get an erection toddlers get erections all the time Don't .
Sweetheart . Seriously , yes , they do .
Okay .
Oh , yes , yes , they do . They wake up with them all the time . They have them all the time , it's just not . They have them in utero . Sometimes fetuses can have an erection in utero . Yeah , because it's just biology . It's just blood flow got there and and . But then , as we get older , we try to figure out , oh , what's making this happen ?
And that's when we start .
Somebody's nose . Yeah , yeah , have fun .
Yeah , so who knows ?
But , um , yeah , it's kind of interesting and , yeah , okay , so that's so interesting , though , right , that we don't even know that that baby boys have erections on their own , and that's , yeah , everybody , it happens and and sometimes it it's a big surprise and it's hard to not like shame them , because sometimes parents are like , oh my god , right , what's going
on , and it's can be uncomfortable , but something we have to deal with . So , anyway , so okay , so all right , what are some of the ones ? Or what's one of the weird ones , the most unusual , or one that struck you the most ?
So there's a couple I'm gonna go with not the most extreme yet , okay . Okay , so my , my pronunciation of this is going to be horrendous . Yeah , I don't even know if it's a real word , I haven't even looked because I feel like they just made up a bunch of stuff in this article .
Yeah , I don't know . I did try to find some of these words and dictionaries than the dictionaries didn't that I was using didn't have them .
Yeah , I'm not a Galmatophilia , a Galmatophilia , a Galmatophilia . Yeah , anyways that is being aroused by statues , which I mean , if you're a , if you're a female or a gay man , the statue of the David , like that dude was cut , good job . Like you're attracted to a really fit dude , cool , like , yeah , I mean , but like what ?
And there are other sexual statues out there , like naked women , naked men that you know , greek , roman , like renaissance Sculptors made , but I don't know how far it goes into . Is it human statues or is it just like because somebody will Put a giant triangle in an art gallery and go , oh , that's my art . It's like you , mother , fuck , you made a triangle .
You're not Pythagoras like , and you were in Pythagoras , I know , didn't make the triangle , stop it , nerd . But that doesn't make it art sometimes because you put a giant triangle together . But does that giant triangle turn somebody on or is it just ? Are they a human , humanistic statues ?
no , okay . So here I can't believe this because I actually went . I was on a local TV show a few weeks ago To talk about a man and I forgot West Texas who was marrying his house and that's called Objects de Felia , where you give objects not specifically statues , but objects they become , you know , sexual forms of arousal force .
So I just texted you , aaron , because when I was preparing for that one then I found I'm other famous big stories or whatever , like a woman who pretended to marry the Statue of Liberty and Then another woman who was , quote , dating the Statue of Liberty but married her chandelier .
No , no , no , no . These are people who really need help . They ,
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they probably do .
We talked about like the loneliness factor right when you really , when you're so scared of investing in a human that you have to , it's not .
Sorry again , we're not going into the world of make-believe here . You cannot marry your house . That is not . It is not legally possible . Right whatever judge signed off on this .
No , no , no , no , no judge did , and they know that , Right , he just called it a marriage and he was having a ceremony even though he knew it wasn't gonna be a legal thing .
Okay , well , if anybody showed up to it , yeah , other than like news crews going , what in the fuck is going on here ? If you were somebody who was a friend of this guy and you are not a good enough friend or relative to get him the medic or the Medical and mental help that he needs , you're a bad friend .
You're a bad relative because that's not like just like this woman with a chandelier . No , sorry , ma'am , you really like we need to get you at least talking to a doctor . There's some type of chemical imbalance or you know , maybe it is a trust issue , whatever , but I know .
I know people go through and live this Mary fantasy life that Isn't real , because you don't know how far they're gonna go with it , the more you encourage . Just like when a kid runs around with a cape on . It Goes , mommy , I'm a superhero , and you go oh yeah , you're my superhero , sweetie .
Well , when the kid jumps off the fucking garage and breaks his arm five minutes later , you have nobody to blame but yourself , because you're the idiot who went . Yeah , you are a superhero and you can fly just like Superman .
No , oh , yeah , yeah , yeah .
Stop letting people live in a world of make-believe and encouraging them , because things get out of hand when you do that .
Yeah , right , but do it with kindness , right . But yeah , people may need emotional human connection .
Margo , we need to really have a talk . We think this chandelier obsession that you're having is gotten out of hand . Yeah , it would mean a lot to us if you went and sat down and talked to a professional . Look , yeah , here's some names we've picked out . We vetted them . We think they're . They're not gonna judge you , but they're gonna help .
Right . You deserve more love than a chandelier can give you , I think . I think , yeah , okay , what about this one ? I thought was auto Gynephilia ? I've never heard of this auto gynephilia and that was men Feeling aroused by the thought of themselves as a female form .
Right doesn't mean they're actually doing it , it's just that somehow or another like the thought of themselves , whether it's in reality . So maybe they are dressing up or something or just imagining it . That that's what turns them on . Okay that was kind of interesting .
I don't know . I mean , you have to be a really like . I Know what I look like . I would be . I'm not the most attractive dude , I would be an ugly ass woman .
If you just Swap the parts down below , well , maybe maybe it's like people just imagining , like if I was , you know five , but eight , I don't know . But well , but then there's people that are like the opposite of claustrophobic they're claustrophilia , where they get aroused , enclosed in confined spaces .
No , yeah , not claustrophobic . So much as I can't , it doesn't bother me . It makes me have to pee .
I .
Fucking hide and seek when I was a kid yeah , because like if I was hiding like in the bushes or something like that , waiting like all of a sudden . I have to pee . I'd be like god damn it . Why ? Yeah , well , this sucks right .
It's your body's way of getting you out of there .
I agree , I don't , I get . But I'm not like like my brain isn't uncomfortable , it's just my bladder decides like hey , man , by the way , you had too much beer , good job . Yeah , if I'm hiding , like getting ready to like , jump out and scare my wife , my body will be like hey , it's time to like . Hey , why don't we go take a leak instead of doing this ?
Because it makes me a good husband , because I don't jump out and scare my wife .
I would like to . I think that's subconscious , that's right , it's good , okay . Well then , here this one was one of the ones . I know that you were like , oh my god , and that was Climacophilia . Climb like you said it Not me , I'm not . I'm just guessing how the pronunciation Climacophilia .
Yeah , look at that , I did it .
Oh , there you go .
I was the first try too I had . I didn't do that all year or anything , so ha , ha Yay .
I'll get it .
It's nerds who make up these fake words .
They can't fool you . So yeah , so arousal to falling downstairs . We're like don't do this at home , I just said home .
Well , see , here comes the the dad level Aaron thing coming out of it hurt . You found out that when you fell down the stairs it got you turned on . Now how you fell down the stairs is more interesting to me , because was it , did your wife get pissed at you Would push you down the stairs ? Did you trip where you like ? Here's alright , here's dad .
Aaron , don't fall down the stairs to get turned on . I don't care how much it actually turns you on . Don't try it in real life because , guess what , you fall down the stairs , you snap your neck . You just fall down the stairs . If you're already turned on , you snap your dick .
You fall down the stairs , break an arm , break a leg , all kinds of shit not cheap to do , especially with , you know , healthcare costs . Don't do that .
Well , it's just like auto erotic asphyxiation right breath play . Yeah , don't , don't ever do that by yourself that don't always find a partner .
If you're gonna , if you want to be choked , find a partner who can call 911 with a phone ? Yes , yes , don't , ever , ever . And trust me , right ? Yeah , it doesn't turn me off if my wife puts her hands on my throat . I don't like really being choked .
I mean , at least she's never applied that much pressure to choke me because she's got small hands and I'm got a giant fat neck , but it don't ever like I would not ever think of . I'm also the worst-case scenario guy . What's the worst that happens ? Your friends walk in on a mangled dead body with Spittle and blue face , with your dick in your hand .
Oh god , yeah . And maybe not even your friends . Maybe it's your mom , maybe it's your sister , maybe it's your cousin , maybe it's your roommate who knows ? Yeah , maybe you have a friend of me , relationship with your roommate and guess what ? They're gonna laugh at you when they walk in your body .
Well , it'd be scarred for life too . Well , that too , but yeah , don't all right , so let's . Yeah , so don't do just cuz you have a , you can find other ways . And the good thing is about fetishes we're not just stuck with one , only one fetish . You can find other ways of getting aroused .
So you know , find other ways , find other ways did Read one time when we were doing research on a different episode . At times I don't remember why we I started looking up auto erotic Exficiate x fix . Auto erotic x fixie . Auto erotic Exficiation . Okay , that's sure , that's it and One I don't .
I don't think it was a doctor , but somebody in like the kink community was like well , if you really want to try it , use your hand and not an inanimate object , because when you pass out , your body's natural reaction is the muscles in your hand are going to let go . So if you really get turned on by doing it , use your hand and Just know .
If you pass out , you don't know when . You're gonna wait like you will wake up eventually because your body will let air back in your , your throat . You're like into your lungs , but at the same time you'd yeah , no , I really don't do it standing above you going hey man .
You okay ? Yeah , just don't do it . Yeah , have fantasies , have imaginations , talk it through . All of those things totally cool .
Yeah , if you're gonna do dangerous shit , have a partner there . There at least somebody on standby to call 911 .
Yeah , so moving on . So then there's one I never thought of it as really a fetish , but apparently some people take it to that extreme which is Cato Catop Tronophilia I totally butchered that . But having sex in front of mirrors , right , which most of us think is just fun , but some people never done it , but I mean , the idea sounds fun .
You've never had sex in front of a mirror . Nope , oh my gosh , even like a bathroom counter with the mirror behind you .
Nope , yes , bathroom counter no oh . Well , yeah , I mean anniversary coming up , we'll find a way to .
Oh , yeah , I .
Mean coming up like six months from now , but oh well , do it before then .
But yeah , it's pretty cool . I Kind of like the ones on the side , because that way everybody can kind of be glancing or something , but anyway , that's just me .
I mean , do it in a house of mirrors , yeah .
Oh my god , that would be a much , but anyway .
Um , so yeah , really made me go . What the fuck ? Nebula felia .
Nebula feel ya , what's Nebula ?
You're turned on by Fogg . Oh my gosh , I'm guessing you live in Seattle or the Northeast .
Wow , how I don't . That would be weird Huh .
Huh , interesting , I don't get it . Okay , I
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don't know what . Fogg is a turn on Like it's a cool thing , like Fogg is a cool atmospheric weather-related thing because , like , driving past and like there's a bunch of empty fields , well , for right now near where I live , eventually they're going to get bulldozed and built into homes .
But driving early in the morning to work or driving late at night home and like , especially when we're getting into October , the Fogg starts to set in right Like as the sun rises or sets . It looks really cool . It's kind of creepy , that's cool it is cool , it doesn't make my dick hard .
Yeah , yeah , but so many people are attracted to feet and I don't understand that . But that is . But , peter , you can touch , you can't touch Fogg Powed . I know , but I don't know . I mean again , yeah , it's just , feet are something that are like Potophilia , potophilia , p-o-d-o-philia yeah , is it potophilia ?
Yeah , potophilia .
That's on . Yeah , I saw that . Oh , then there's one the act like being aroused by people stuttering . That's the listmophilia . No , I think it's actually good , because if somebody stutters , then let them know that there's somebody out there that's going to be aroused by that .
That's cool . Most people stutter , are very , very self-conscious of it , so they're going to think that you're like .
Right , so you have to share it with them .
But not only that , like , just like people can play that . Oh well , you're fetishizing , you know you're fetishizing women with big asses . Well , okay , then am I not supposed to like what I like ? So just be careful with that , because people are way more sensitive about their stutters than people are about their big asses .
Well , yeah , yeah , okay . What about people who are aroused by being cold or watching others who are cold ? What's that Psychrophilia ?
I don't understand .
I don't understand . Yeah , oh , and the tickling fetish . Tickling , that definitely . I've met people who are really into tickling . I don't get that either .
Why ? I don't know Like . Is it the loss of control ?
Is it the yeah , I know that's , that's nismole . I don't know , I can't even begin .
Okay , we're going to have to Next year we have to find like one of these conventions where I have to go find somebody and just ask them like all kinds of fucking quit , because Okay , we can't Are they turned on by the ? Are they turned on by the act of being tickled ? Are they turned on by the lack of control ?
Are they Like what happens when you're tickled and you're laughed so hard that , like , your entire core hurts John fucking hurts to your bones , that every muscle in your core hurts , like ? Is that what you really like ? Is that a point where you realize you've gone too far , like I ?
Yeah , I don't know , I don't know , I don't know . Oh , and then there's Q-U-I-R , oh , querophilia , which is about hands or fingers .
Querophilia .
Yeah , like with Even with a good manicure and stuff , and I do know I've had people that really like certain colored nails or something , or really , if you don't have your hands manicured , well all the time they're not turned on , so that's there's that I mean .
See , it doesn't have to , like your hands don't have to be manicured , but like when my wife goes and gets her nails done . Yeah , it's hot , yeah , like some of the hottest . Any guy will tell you if your wife or girlfriend comes home with like what's the white one , the half , the ?
French , yeah , french tip .
Like there are some really good pictures to be had , while , like from your point of view , with a hand with a French tip nail wrapped around your dick yeah , I heard it with that porn stars have those nails . It's now been ingrained in the men for God decades now , because the internet's been around for that long .
Well , and some people like with bright red , right yeah , bright red nails and bright red lipstick around their cocks and stuff . Yeah , yeah , so okay .
But I understand being attracted to like . I don't know , I don't think I'd like , I don't know , call it a fetish . Yeah , I wouldn't like Okay , it's like I'm not turned on by other women's hands . Yeah , like I don't see another woman's hands who got a manicure and be like , oh my God , no , like , okay , cool , you're just .
But some people are just like the side of big boobs or a big ass , or a small ass , or small boobs or whatever , I don't know , tummies , whatever . So , yeah , what about ? Oh , ghost spectrophilia .
Yeah , I'm not going to go down the realm of whether ghosts are real and if they actually manifest in the same way that you think they did in Ghostbusters .
Nope , but oh . And then there's like people who are attracted to monsters , or remember , or the guy on the radio that I was with that like aliens yeah , lost after aliens . I thought that was pretty interesting .
But again , like see if you're going to , you got to show me proof , you can't . His idea of an alien is what cartoon character would be . It's like we talked about a couple of weeks ago with Jessica Rabbit . Like that's like what you're imagining an alien looks like is what you've been preconditioned to think .
It looks like You're attracted to a cartoon character . You're not attracted to the actual thing because you don't know what the real thing is .
Obviously yes , yeah , and the same thing with ghosts , right , I mean , I think . But anyway , yeah , yeah , all right , it's bizarre , all right . What else have you got ? Uh that's just time for one more , two more .
Trick of Philia , yeah , which is aroused by human hair , which can be your arm hair , chest hair , the hair on your head , pubic hair , anything which , okay , I mean , not Again . Not one of those things that , like , immediately turns me out like I like my wife's hair to be done . Okay , like what she puts effort into it , cool .
Right .
I don't get turned on at the thought of her hat , like Just her hair , right it's not to the level of her hair . I don't want any of the old hair , right when she washes her hair Like it doesn't like turn me on to see the little bits that come out . Oh yeah , the hair , yeah , ends up in the drain . Yeah , yeah , yeah , that's okay .
All right , then my last one is a , a Dylophilia arousal to wood . To wood like fences and stuff , and like trees .
Yeah , I know I , yeah , I saw that one too . I mean I Don't like . What are you doing with the wood ?
I Guess , maybe just even looking at it or being near it or something gets you around .
Having a wooden table . Okay , yeah , that could be , but I don't know if that would count , like if you're getting off the fact that you're on the wooden table and not the fact that you're having sex with somebody . That's weird .
Well , no , but it's the fact that you're fit . The wooden table is what turns you on . It makes you want to have sex with them , right .
But you don't want to have sex with the person , you just want to have sex on the table . You would fuck , you would hand if you were sitting there , if the table is the part that turns you on .
I guess I mean , but so yeah , everybody's gonna have different levels and fetishes . It's just some people , it's just gonna add to it some people , it's gonna be the whole thing .
Well , don't go jacking off on any of the trees in my neighborhood , please .
That would be exhibitionists , right , I mean .
It's like middle of the night where there's nobody around and they're scared of getting caught . That's that could be true . That wouldn't be , exhibitionism , that's just . I want to jack off on a tree . Please don't do that in my neighborhood I don't give it . Go off into the woods , go camping go jack off on a tree . That's fine , I don't care .
Yeah , really would get you .
Okay , who knows ? The point is right that people are . We're all different , we all get turned on by all sorts of interesting things and again , if it's not your kink , you're fetish . You probably think it's weird and I think that's . That's okay . We're all allowed to be weird , thank gosh .
But the fact is , the fact that we could find lists like this and we could find these means it's not just one person had this , you know . No , there are other people that are crazy in a way that you're crazy , you know . At least they overlap some degree and stuff , and there is some comfort to that . I think so . But again , consent and your safety .
Consent and safety keep those in mind , no matter what your turn on this .
So and a house cannot consent to being married , neither can the Statue of Liberty , nor can a fucking chandelier . There you go . No , we're gonna go . I feel it if you're seeing and you're getting sexually aroused or banging a ghost . Other people aren't there to listen for consent .
Yeah , but hey , if it's all in your imagination , the ghost can consent in your imagination , imagination my imagination , I'm the king of my wife and she .
There's like six thousand of her and only one of me .
Yeah , I don't think in your imagination she's the queen of king of you , actually . But that's just me . Yeah , but whatever way it works for you , that's it , just know . Figure it out , be true to yourself if you have a fetish about falling down the stairs or anything that's yeah or tickling horrible .
Uh , just please talk to somebody . Please be safe and don't let it go out of hand , like there's also one , for you know the idea of being amputated . Don't go cutting off body parts , appendages . Don't go playing with firecrackers in the hopes that you lose a finger and become an amputee .
Don't do no , but there are . There are websites even where you can go like , because people who are into amputees they often are fixated on a certain like some people want somebody with missing a left arm , or a right arm or a left foot and whatever , and there , yeah , they're matches for that .
So , again , the good news is , whatever you've got , somebody probably wants it , so you just kind of find them All right . Well , thank you , thank you . Thank you for letting us go down this path of weird and crazy sexy stuff , and it's always interesting . There's always something we've never heard of , and that's kind of cool and fun .
So , and All right , well , I think that's a wrap for this episode of come with us podcast , where you get the bear naked truth about love , sex and Relationships in all forms . So , of course , you can get even more sexy , fun , tips , tricks . Follow us on social media Instagram , facebook . Can't wait to see you online .
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