In this episode, we dive into the importance of applying healthy relationship skills in the journey of healing from infidelity and betrayal. We explore key strategies for improving communication, learning and practicing new skills, and how these tools can transform your relationship over time. Whether you’re in the early stages of recovery or looking to strengthen your relationship, the process of healing requires intentional action and consistent effort. We also introduce two powerful resources...
Dec 12, 2024•34 min•Season 2Ep. 28
In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore why consistency is essential for relational repair, whether you’re the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust. Learn how consistency transforms intention into real change and supports healing for both partners. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relation...
Dec 05, 2024•15 min•Season 2Ep. 28
In the final episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we focus on how to heal and find joy amidst the chaos, especially when betrayal or family conflict has left emotional scars. The holidays can feel especially heavy during times of hurt, but we discuss how creating new traditions—no matter how small—can offer moments of peace and joy. We explore how stepping out of old traditions that no longer serve you can be a powerful act of self-care, and how to build a holiday season that feels righ...
Nov 28, 2024•16 min•Season 2Ep. 27
The holiday season can be full of joy—but it can also be a time of deep emotional strain, especially if you’re navigating grief and betrayal. In this second episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we dive into how to protect your peace during this challenging time. We explore the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with yourself and others, and how to create emotional safety in your own heart. By tuning into your needs, learning to honor them, and embracing self-compas...
Nov 21, 2024•24 min•Season 2Ep. 26
In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we’re diving into a topic that can bring up deep emotions for many—navigating the holiday season after the pain of betrayal. This episode offers guidance for those who are facing this season with new and complex challenges, helping you find ways to care for yourself, set realistic expectations, and create safe spaces for connection. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certi...
Nov 14, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 25
In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of prioritizing your own healing in the wake of betrayal when your spouse is struggling. We discuss strategies to maintain your well-being while supporting your partner, emphasizing the importance of self-care, communication, and setting boundaries. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship....
Nov 07, 2024•16 min•Season 2Ep. 24
In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of healing after infidelity and betrayal, exploring why individual growth alone isn’t sufficient for restoring a relationship. Join us as we discuss the importance of moving beyond mere checkbox recovery, peeling back the layers of inner work, and fostering a sense of community while avoiding isolation. We’ll also touch on the significance of patience and understanding in the healing process as you focus on intentional consistency over time. Thank y...
Oct 31, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 23
In this exciting episode of Choosing to Stay , co-hosts Hallie and Stephanie dive into Stephanie’s latest project—her new podcast, Renewed Restored . Stephanie shares how this new venture focuses on whole-person healing: addressing mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical recovery, especially for those who have experienced betrayal trauma and those working on sexual integrity. Listeners will hear how Stephanie's pastoral background, coaching expertise, and personal experiences have shaped her ...
Oct 24, 2024•15 min•Season 2Ep. 22
In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we explore the painful dynamics that occur when a betrayed spouse feels dismissed, minimized, or unheard by their partner. After the trauma of infidelity, it's crucial for both partners to validate each other's feelings to heal and rebuild trust. But when the pain is downplayed, dismissed, or ignored, it deepens emotional wounds, creates feelings of unsafety, and prolongs the healing process. Thank you for tuning in to our podca...
Oct 17, 2024•14 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redefining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you i...
Oct 10, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redifining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you i...
Oct 03, 2024•21 min•Season 2Ep. 19
In this episode, we delve into the impact of avoidant behaviors on recovery after infidelity and betrayal. We explore how these behaviors can create barriers to healing, trust-building, and emotional intimacy. Join us as we help define what avoidant behaviors are and discuss practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming avoidance to foster a healthier path forward. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provi...
Sep 26, 2024•26 min•Season 2Ep. 18
In today’s episode, we delve into the critical steps of moving from immediate shock and pain to finding safety and stability initially. Addressing deeper relational issues is essential to relational repair, and sometimes those challenging dynamics appear because of unhealed wounding that one or both spouses may have been carrying for years. Using the powerful analogy of a car wreck, we explore how both partners are impacted by betrayal and the urgent need to manage immediate pain before tackling...
Sep 19, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 17
In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal , we delve into the challenging yet rewarding journey of reconstructing a relationship after infidelity. Whether you're at the beginning of this process or looking for ways to deepen your healing, this episode offers practical insights and emotional guidance on forging a new path forward. We talk about getting clear on our current reality, how to create safety for change to happen, stepping out of old unhealthy patterns, and more ...
Sep 12, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 16
In this enlightening and hopeful episode, we sit down with John and Karen Rellos to explore impacts of intimacy deprivation and attachment wounds on couples. They share valuable experiences and insights into how these issues affect relationships and offer practical strategies for healing and rebuilding trust. Karen is an APSATS Certified Partner Coach, Intimacy Avoidance Coach, and Certified Bravehearts Mentor. She’s been a group facilitator for Live Free Wives ministry for the past 9 years. She...
Sep 06, 2024•47 min•Season 2Ep. 15
In this episode, we dive into an important and often overlooked aspect of healing after betrayal: understanding and asserting your personal rights. Just as the Bill of Rights protects individuals in various ways, having a personal Bill of Rights can help guide you through emotional and practical challenges of deciding whether to stay in a relationship after betrayal. We’ll discuss how to identify and communicate your needs, set healthy boundaries, and foster a path to recovery and growth. Check ...
Aug 29, 2024•28 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Join us this week we continue to dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person’s emotional and mental well-being. Thank you for tuning in...
Aug 22, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 13
On the heels of our episode with Amie Woolsey, this week we dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person’s emotional and mental well-bei...
Aug 15, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this powerful episode, we sit down with relationship expert Amie Woolsey to delve into the intricacies of toxic and abusive behaviors within relationships. Amie shares her deep insights and practical advice on recognizing these harmful patterns, understanding their roots, and taking steps to move out of these behaviors and protect yourself from abuse. If you would like to learn more about Amie or work with her, you can find her on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok. You can learn more about her...
Aug 08, 2024•52 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Tune in to today’s Bonus Episode where Hali is joined by Alana Gordon who is the co-owner and Lead Therapist at Choose Recovery Services. Hear details about our upcoming Betrayal Trauma Intensive to be held in Spanish Fork, Utah on August 21-24, 2024. At this intensive you will be introduced to and given the opportunity to experience different somatic modalities to help you heal your body after experiencing betrayal trauma. We would love to have you join us and you can do that HERE . If you have...
Aug 02, 2024•16 min
In this episode we dive into the markers of rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal in your relationship. We explore the 5 A’s: Acknowledgement, Amends, Acquiring Knowledge, Accountability, and Acceptance. Whether you’ve been betrayed or are seeking to rebuild trust, this episode offers valuable guidance and hope for the path to healing and renewed trust. ` Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide suppor...
Aug 01, 2024•24 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In this episode, we delve into the concept of foreboding joy and how it affects couples on the journey of relational healing after betrayal. We explore why it’s often difficult to fully embrace happiness and joy after experiencing profound hurt, and we provide practical tips on how couples can work together to overcome these challenges and rebuild a foundation of trust and joy in their relationship. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certi...
Jul 25, 2024•34 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In today’s episode we discuss the challenges that come from having a strong desire for healthy connection when you are different paths of individual healing. We discuss strategies for surrendering what you cannot control and focusing on what is within your power. We highlight the empowerment that both spouses can experience as you embrace the responsibility of navigating your own healing. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coache...
Jul 18, 2024•31 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Join Stephanie to learn on what it means to lead. Leading relational repair refers to the proactive and intentional efforts taken by the person who caused harm in a relationship to restore trust, improve communication, and rebuild the emotional bond. It involves taking full accountability for the actions that led to the breach of trust, demonstrating genuine remorse, and actively engaging in behaviors that facilitate healing and reconciliation. Leading Relational Repair after Infidelity and Betr...
Jul 11, 2024•26 min•Season 2Ep. 7
In this episode, we focus on the stages of healing from partner betrayal and infidelity, sharing insights from Paula Hall's work, breaking down the healing process into easily understandable acrostics. We highlight the first phase of safety and stabilization, followed by grief and mourning, and finally post-traumatic growth and reconnecting with oneself. We also explore the importance of understanding the impact of one's actions on their partner as a foundation for developing empathy in the rela...
Jul 04, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode we discuss how infidelity and betrayal can erode a person’s sens of autonomy and can bring feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Reclaiming autonomy is an important part of the healing process. We discuss some helpful ideas on how couples and individuals can navigate this process while maintaining the goal of relational repair if that is the desire. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to pr...
Jun 27, 2024•28 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In today’s episode, we are joined by Dani Peterson, who is a Holistic Practitioner and Coach, as she steps into vulnerability and shares her deeply personal and professional journey with healing from betrayal when it becomes public knowledge and is amplified in the media. Join us as we explore the challenges, triumphs, and invaluable insights gained from navigating through the aftermath of betrayal in the spotlight. Dani M. Peterson ACC, CPC, C-IAMYT EMAIL: dani@danimpeterson.com WEBSITE: https:...
Jun 20, 2024•49 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In today’s episode we discuss the non-linear process of healing after betrayal in relationships. We highlight the importance of understanding healing timelines and managing expectations during this vulnerable period. There are many diverse factors that can influence the pace and trajectory of healing and we highlight the significance of self-compassion and patience in this journey. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we a...
Jun 13, 2024•34 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode, we're joined by Joshua Hamby. Together, we explore how identifying and reframing limiting belief narratives can catalyze profound healing, personal and relational growth in recovery. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for en...
Jun 06, 2024•35 min•Season 2Ep. 2
We are so grateful to welcome our guest, Bonny Burns to the show today to talk about the important topic of sexual reintegration. We talk about sexual wouding and its impact on individuals. We delve into the shame that often comes up for both spouses and its affects on self-esteem and intimacy. We highligh the importance of acknowledging and addressing shame as a crucial step towards healing and reintegration. We give some examples of how to handle triggers and create safety for couples who are ...
May 30, 2024•44 min•Season 2Ep. 1
