Thank you for joining us as we reflect on our first year of walking along side you in your healing journey! Today we share our gratitude for you, our listeners. We also reshare one of our most popular episodes from this year. We hope you enjoy this final episode and look forward to diving into Season 2 next week! Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in the...
May 23, 2024•33 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In this episode, Natalie Bigler shares her journey of navigating betrayal with internal agency. She discusses the role of setting boundaries, overcoming challenges, and fostering authentic connections in the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for empowering insights and advice for betrayed partners seeking to reclaim power and autonomy. Guest Natalie Bigler BCC trainee, APSATS trainee, Therapeutic Art Life Coach Natalie Bigler serves as a Betrayal Trauma specialist at Choose Recovery Services and is...
May 16, 2024•39 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In today’s episode we delve into a crucial aspect of relational repair after betrayal: prioritizing the needs of the betrayed partner. Join us as we explore the importance of acknowledging and addressing the needs of the betrayed spouse as a foundational step towards healing and rebuilding trust in the relationship. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in ...
May 09, 2024•32 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Join Hali in today’s episode where she discusses how to know if and when it’s the right time to step into couple’s work with a coach or therapist. She will offer guidance on when to recognize if you are ready for couple’s work and how to find a coach or therapist who can provide the sensitive support you need in the complex journey of healing after betrayal. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support an...
May 02, 2024•23 min•Season 1Ep. 51
We are pleased to welcome Morgan Ellsworth back to share her groups for children who experience family betrayal. With school winding down and summer quickly approaching, it might be the right time to get your teen or adult child registered for a family betrayal support group. Morgan is offering a $5 per week discount for the first month to anyone who registers for either the Resilient Teens or Adult Children United in Healing group by May 5th. She is hoping this makes group more accessible to yo...
Apr 26, 2024•2 min
In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast we explore four strategies for fostering compassion when faced with a partner's lack of empathy, discover practical techniques to maintain emotional well-being and navigate challenging dynamics within the relationship, and learn how setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and effective communication can empower individuals to thrive despite emotional challenges. Free Resource: 20 Minute Pause for Self-Regulation Thank you for tuning in to our pod...
Apr 24, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 50
In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inner work by both partners can facilitate healing while at the same...
Apr 18, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 49
In this episode we discuss the unique benefits of group support for individuals navigating infidelity and betrayal, such as validation, empathy, and understanding from others who have experienced similar situations. Group support can provide a safe place for individuals to express their feelings, share their stories, and receive guidance without fear of judgement. We share the many different group options available at Choose Recovery Services, including the ones facilitated by Hali and Stephanie...
Apr 11, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In today's episode, we'll delve into the importance of being assertive with our needs following betrayal, both in terms of meeting our individual needs and ensuring our relational needs are addressed. We explore strategies for identifying and communicating our own needs effectively and we also discuss common obstacles individuals and couples encounter when trying to assert their needs in relational repair after betrayal. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity ...
Apr 04, 2024•31 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In this episode, we are talking about navigating the part of the healing journey when you start to feel safe enough to lean back in after betrayal. If both spouses are doing the work and there is a level of safety being created we might find it challenging to lean back in and allow connection to happen. We talk about attachment ambivalence and I share a few resources and groups available for those in this phase of healing. You can learn more about the groups I mention here: Leaning In Betrayal T...
Mar 28, 2024•28 min•Season 1Ep. 46
In this episode, we delve into the complex landscape of needs in the aftermath of betrayal, exploring both individual and relational dimensions. We examine the importance of acknowledging and validating these needs as essential steps towards healing and rebuilding. Additionally, we explore how betrayal impacts relational dynamics, highlighting the significance of communication, empathy, and boundary setting in addressing shared needs within the relationship. Join us as we navigate the intricacie...
Mar 21, 2024•41 min•Season 1Ep. 45
This episode highlights the journey of Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, professionals in the field of relationships and intimacy. Joanna, with her background as an LMFT, CPTT, and CCPS, and Matthew, as a PCC, CPC, both bring a wealth of expertise to their work. They co-authored the book "Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time," offering insights and strategies for cultivating deep, lasting connections in relationships. Listeners interested in delving deeper into ...
Mar 14, 2024•38 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Betrayal in relationships can leave deep scars, but it's possible to rebuild and heal. We'll discuss the signs and milestones that indicate progress on the path to healing, offering hope and guidance to those navigating this challenging terrain. Remember, healing takes time, but with commitment and mutual support, it's possible to emerge from the shadows of betrayal into a brighter, more hopeful future. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As c...
Mar 07, 2024•34 min•Season 1Ep. 43
In today’s conversation, we discuss the importance of creating a safe space for communication and healing. We emphasize the necessity of open, honest, and empathetic conversations. We highlight the importance of personal and relational boundaries. We discuss some strategies for the spouse who has caused the sexual betrayal to create safety and rebuild trust. We also discuss the importance for the betrayed partner to be able to create their own safety if the relational safety is not present. Than...
Feb 29, 2024•34 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Today we are thrilled to welcome Ashly Leavitt back to the podcast to discuss how people in a couple’s circle of support can gain some understanding on how to best show up for their loved ones facing betrayal. Our hope is that this is an episode you might be able to share with your loved ones who are in your inner circle and are wanting to be part of your healthy support team. We explore the many challenges that couples endure and pivotal role bystanders can play in empowering the couple to make...
Feb 22, 2024•44 min•Season 1Ep. 41
In this episode we delve into what it means to be attuned to your individual emotions and needs as well as those of your partner. Individual growth is a catalyst for relational repair. We encourage self-reflection as a means to better understand one's needs, desires, and contributions to the relationship's well-being. We give practical tools that you can use to develop individual and mutual attunement as a part of relational repair after betrayal. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for coupl...
Feb 16, 2024•31 min•Season 1Ep. 40
In this episode we delve into some common challenges that couples who are in later recovery might face. We discuss setting a new foundation for your relationship so you are prepared not to fall into old patterns. Attunement and other intentional practices are imperative when facing these challenges. We discuss tools such as HALT to aide in intentional relational and self care when making important decisions. Lastly, we highlight the importance of intentionality in our relationships. Thank you fo...
Feb 08, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 39
On today’s episode, we are joined by Morgan Ellsworth, a coach with Choose Recovery Services who works with children of betrayed families. She shares tips for navigating difficult conversations with our children and ways to support them through their own healing journey from betrayal. Check out Morgan’s bio and schedule a complimentary session here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#MorganEllsworth You can get in touch with her via email for any questions: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com...
Feb 01, 2024•38 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Today embark on the candid exploration of the uncharted territories that follow the discovery of betrayal in a relationship. We reflect on the immediate aftermath and emotional impact of discovering betrayal and acknowledge the confusion that often accompanies the early stages of healing. We address some common misconceptions and unrealistic expectations that can hinder healing as well as offer perspectives on steps that can be taken to facilitate the healing process. Thank you for tuning in to ...
Jan 25, 2024•30 min•Season 1Ep. 37
We often get asked by our clients in the early stages of healing after discovering betrayal if it’s even possible to recover. Today we welcome Seth and Megan to the show and offer a heartfelt thank you to them for sharing their deeply personal and inspiring story with us. You will hear some of what it has taken both of them to heal and strengthen their relationship. They have taken their experiences and use them to support and encourage other couples in this healing journey. Seth has even taken ...
Jan 18, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In today’s episode we dive into the profound journey of putting down the heavy burden that often accompanies the pain of betrayal. We will explore the transformative power of finding joy in the small moments amidst the wreckage of trust. We offer simple exercises and mindfulness practices that listeners can incorporate into their lives to foster a greater sense of joy and release. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we ai...
Jan 11, 2024•15 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Join us on today’s episode where we focus on finding qualified professionals and support teams for individuals and couples navigating infidelity and betrayal. We highlight the different roles of therapy, coaching, support groups, and more. We also provide information on how to find the right professional for where you are in your healing journey. Click HERE to search the APSATS directory for professionals trained in partner sensitivity. You can search for a licensed CSAT in your area HERE . Than...
Jan 04, 2024•37 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Join us in this episode as we embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. We’ll explore the essential process of defining and refining our core values after experiencing the profound impact of infidelity and betrayal in relationships. Get some practical steps on how to understand your core values so that they can be a guiding compass for your personal and relational growth. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we ai...
Dec 28, 2023•32 min•Season 1Ep. 33
In this episode, we discuss the consequences surrounding infidelity and betrayal in relationships. We explore the connection between these heartbreaking experiences and the violation of core values. We desire to help you understand the significance of core values in establishing a strong foundation for individual and relational healing. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those w...
Dec 22, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Join us as we explore the transformative power of transparent conversations and self-honesty in the journey of post-infidelity resilience. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of open communication, emphasizing the critical role that honesty with oneself plays in rebuilding trust. Building True Intimacy (book) https://intimacypyramid.com/ Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance...
Dec 14, 2023•24 min•Season 1Ep. 31
In today’s episode, we delve into the complex terrain of building healthy interdependence after betrayal. We explore the concept of individual growth within the context of a shared life and provide tips on maintaining independence while building a strong and supportive partnership. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuab...
Dec 07, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Join us as we explore the intricate web of codependent behaviors, unravel the threads of trauma, and discover the empowering art of letting go. Together, we'll navigate the terrain of outdated coping strategies, empowering you to shed what no longer serves you and embrace a path of resilience and authenticity." Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their...
Nov 30, 2023•31 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Join us in this episode as we explore the profound and transformative journey of using journaling as a therapeutic tool for healing after betrayal. Dive deep into the incredible benefits of putting pen to paper and discover how the simple act of journaling can become a powerful catalyst for emotional restoration. Learn practical tips, personal stories, and evidence backed strategies that illuminate the path to self-discovery and empowerment. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples hea...
Nov 23, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 28
In today’s episode we talk about the fears and barriers that come up when your spouse is unwilling to seek professional support or do any healing work after betrayal. We discuss ways to continue to move forward in your own healing and to make decisions about what is best for you going forward. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We ...
Nov 16, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 27
In today's episode, we'll explore common phrases and expressions used by couples navigating the path of reconciliation and choosing to stay together after partner betrayal and infidelity. More importantly, we'll delve into how to respond with empathy. Remember, your journey is unique, and empathy can be a powerful tool in rebuilding trust and connection. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, em...
Nov 09, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 26
