Welcome to another episode of "Choosing to Stay," the podcast that explores the complexities of relationships, especially in the aftermath of partner betrayal. Today, we're delving into the terminology that often surfaces during the challenging journey of early recovery for couples. Thank you for joining us on this summary exploration of the terminology surrounding partner betrayal and early couples recovery. Remember, understanding this language is a crucial step toward healing and rebuilding. ...
Nov 02, 2023•37 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Betrayal and infidelity bring inevitable loss to relationships, triggering a challenging journey of grief. In this episode, we explore the nuanced dimensions of grief resulting from betrayal, its impact on relationships, and strategies for couples not only to endure but thrive. Grief can either drive couples apart or deepen their connection. By choosing to stay and support each other through these trials, couples can emerge stronger and more resilient. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for ...
Oct 26, 2023•38 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Loss is an inevitable part of infidelity and betrayal, and when it strikes, couples often find themselves on a challenging journey of grief processing. In today's episode, we'll discuss the various dimensions of grief, how it affects relationships, and explore strategies for couples to not only survive but thrive through these difficult times. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for ...
Oct 19, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 23
We live in a fast-paced world where juggling work, family, and personal commitments can feel like an endless tightrope act. The concept of self-care, while essential for our mental and physical health, and especially essential for healing from trauma or addiction, often gets pushed to the bottom of our to-do lists. But what if we told you that even the busiest of schedules can be infused with self-care? In this episode, we dive deep into the art of getting creative with your time and finding tho...
Oct 12, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Today we talk about one of the final steps in the disclosure process - the Impact Letter and the Letter of Restitution. These two aspects of formal disclosure can be very healing for both partners and allows them to experience a deep level of vulnerability, intimacy, and empathy. We also highlight the benefits of getting professional support during this process. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide suppor...
Oct 05, 2023•20 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Join us as we welcome Wes Burns MPA, LPI, CFLEPE, a polygraph expert, to explore the practical uses of polygraphs in the aftermath of betrayal. Learn how a polygraph may be beneficial in helping individuals find the path to renewal after betrayal and for those Choosing to stay after infidelity and betrayal. To contact Wes or learn more about his distinguished service and experience in the professional forensic field, check out his website here. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples ...
Sep 28, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Join us for this short BONUS episode with Luke Gordon where we define the different types of disclosures. We want to give you more information to make an informed decision about whether a disclosure is the right thing for you and what type might be best for you. We also explain the process we use at Choose Recovery Services. Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life and Recovery Coach who has experience supporting clients through the Disclosure process. Read more abo...
Sep 22, 2023•10 min
Today we welcome Luke Gordon back to the show to discuss the process of formal disclosures from a professional’s standpoint. Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life and Recovery Coach who has experience supporting clients through the Disclosure process. Read more about Luke or schedule an appointment with him HERE . If you would like to learn more about the disclosure process we use at Choose Recovery Services, you can do so HERE . Thank you for tuning in to our po...
Sep 21, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Today, we have a special treat for our listeners as we welcome Joshua and Stephanie Hamby, a couple who will share their personal experience with formal disclosure and how it has impacted their relationship. In this episode, we'll explore the benefits, process, and the profound impact of formal disclosure on creating authentic intimacy, vulnerability, and connection. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide s...
Sep 14, 2023•43 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Welcome to the bonus episode if we have an exciting topic to discuss – "Healing Hearts" – a comprehensive program designed to support early recovery and healing couples dealing with partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. To le...
Sep 08, 2023•11 min
In today’s episode Carol Juergensen Sheets discusses the power of empathy in rebuilding trust and healing relationships after betrayal. She shares examples of how to show empathy and discusses her approach to couples healing through the Early Recovery Couple’s Empathy Model (ERCEM) of which is the creator. Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, PCC is the author of several books including Help Her Heal, Help Them Heal, and Unleashing Your Power. She is the host of the podcast, Sex Help Wi...
Sep 07, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In this episode of the Choosing To Stay podcast, our guest Ashly Leavitt, an Associate Clinical Mental Health Counselor (ACMHC) and Certified Clinical Partner Speci...
Aug 31, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Should I Stay? Making Empowered Choices with Kim Brown In today’s episode, Hali talks with fellow coach, Kim Brown about facing the difficult choice of whether to stay or leave after betrayal. We talk about some of the common fears that many face as they navigate the challenges of healing both individually and relationally. We also talk about the challenges that come in choosing to leave when there is manipulation and abuse. To learn more about Kim Brown, check out her bio and learn how to sched...
Aug 24, 2023•41 min•Season 1Ep. 15
It has been observed that acting behaviors can be a significant obstacle in establishing sincere connections with others. We understand that healing from such behaviors can be challenging, so we invite you to participate in our discussion. Through this platform, we offer valuable insights and support to help you on your path toward healing. Whether you prefer group sessions, courses, or 1:1 coaching, we offer you the guidance and assistance you need to heal partners who have experienced betrayal...
Aug 17, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In today's episode, we dive into the behaviors that contribute to the cycle of sexual integrity issues. We also give some examples of behaviors in each phase as wel...
Aug 10, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Join Hali and Stephanie with our special guest, Certified Addiction Recovery Coach, Luke Gordon. He provides a wealth of detailed information on the various phases, notable accomplishments, and potential obstacles that one may encounter during this journey of recovery from sexual integrity issues. We hope that the knowledge shared today will prove helpful and illuminating to each of you. Learn more about Luke Gordon. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity...
Aug 03, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Welcome to the third part of our series, "Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery and Healing." Today, we will be discussing the crucial steps involved in repairing a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. We will explore the significance of acknowledging and empathizing with your partner's pain, the effort required to build a new relationship, and ways to support growth. Join us today to gain valuable insights on achieving relational growth and healing. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for cou...
Jul 27, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Welcome to the second part of our series, yours, mine, and our recovery and healing. Today, we will discuss the significance of individual work for those struggling with sexual integrity issues. We will delve into embracing vulnerability and accountability, understanding and expressing one's emotions, and identifying the underlying causes of acting out behaviors. Join us today to gain insights on achieving personal growth and healing. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches speciali...
Jul 20, 2023•32 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Today is Part 1 of a 3-part series where we are going to look at the importance of individual and relational work. For the sake of ease in the conversation we are g...
Jul 13, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. The early stages right after discovery or disclosure of betrayal can be confusing and emotional. Your brain and body might go into a state of shock and you don’t kn...
Jul 06, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Tune in to episode #7 of the Choosing to Stay podcast, where Stephanie engages in a thought-provoking dialogue with a distinguished guest, Danielle Lew. Danielle ex...
Jun 29, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Healing from betrayal can be accelerated if the partner who has had sexual integrity issues can learn to receive their spouse's emotions without sinking into shame or defensive mode. In today’s episode, we talk about how to seek to understand your spouse's strong emotions and receive those in a healthy way. We will give you some great insights and share some tools you can practice implementing so that you can receive your spouse's emotions. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples heal...
Jun 22, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Episode 5 What do I do with my strong emotions? In today’s episode we will talk about why it’s so important to be able to identify and process our emotions. We give some practical tools that can be used right away to help you learn this skill. There is power in honoring our emotions and taking responsibility for how we handle those emotions. We discuss choosing to respond to different situations rather than having automatic reactions and how to create the space in your interactions to do have th...
Jun 15, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Episode 4 - Understanding Betrayal Trauma It can be hard to understand why your betrayed spouse is behaving or reacting in certain ways after there have been sexual integrity issues. Today we talk about what happens in the brain and body after betrayal and give you some insight into understanding your partner. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their ...
Jun 08, 2023•27 min•Season 1Ep. 4
A warm welcome to the third episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast; today, we will delve into the significance of emotional and physical safety. We admire and acknowledge the courage and strength necessary to embark on the path toward recovery, restoration, and building healthy relationships. When there has been betrayal, it's essential to establish foundational relational safety. Recovery, with a focus on sobriety, should be deliberate. The ultimate goal is to foster meaningful connections. It...
Jun 01, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Welcome to episode two of the Choosing to Stay podcast. Today, we discuss the stages of the Early Recovery Couple's Empathy healing model and how couples can move f...
Jun 01, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. In this episode, Hali and Stephanie discuss the following: It may not always be the best decision to remain in a relationship after experiencing sexual integrity is...
Jun 01, 2023•10 min•Season 1Ep. 1
We warmly welcome you to our podcast; we are enthusiastic about supporting couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we offer support and guidance, especially if you have chosen to stay in your relationship. We understand the pain and challenges of this journey, and we want to provide you with valuable insights, empathy, and hope that can help you move forward. Please join us weekly for encouraging words, expert advice, and new skills that can make a real difference in ...
May 30, 2023•10 min
