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Cheating: When Love Lies

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Each week host Jillian Hamilton interviews affair partners and betrayed partners who share their raw, real deeply personal stories of infidelity. Hear true stories of cheating and affairs told by the people who actually lived them. Jillian delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: what constitutes an affair, who's having them, and why? These questions elicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Occasionally Cheating: When Love Lies welcomes experts in the field of relationships, but mostly we hear directly from people who are currently navigating an affair or have experienced one. 


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Episodes

Are Your Partner and Their “Best Friend” A Little Too Close For Comfort ?

Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by a relationship that his husband Michael claimed was purely platonic. Be a guest on the show: Jillia...

Sep 24, 202435 min

I Was Blindsided By The Affair, Then My Intuition Kicked In

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why...

Sep 17, 202435 min

Will My Unfaithful Partner Leave Me For Their Lover?

You are single and you’re having an affair with someone who is married or is a committed partner. You desperately want to know if your lover is going to leave their spouse to be with you. Alternatively, you’ve been betrayed. Your spouse has broken your vows, or your committed partner has been unfaithful. You too desperately want answers to the question “will my spouse choose me or their secret lover ? My guest today, Martess A Dowling is the author of Is He Ever Going To Leave His Wife ? The Ans...

Sep 10, 202421 min

My Husband's Lover Got Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?

For the Labor Day holiday we are bringing back one of our most compelling episodes. It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguid...

Sep 03, 202434 min

Lovers Explain Why We Chose Each Other Not Our Spouses

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for high...

Aug 27, 202437 min

Stuck Overseas With My Cheating Ex Husband + I Can't Go Home

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about...

Aug 20, 202438 min

Devastated: My husband neglects me but spoils his lover

Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’s untruths, and a multi-year affair partner whom he lavished. What would you do if you discovered yo...

Aug 13, 202436 min

My Passionate Affair With A Pastor

My guest today whom we’ll call Pam, was a pastor’s affair partner. She is married, and so is the pastor. Pam believes that she wasn’t the only secret lover in this pastor’s life. She thinks she is one among many women whom this pastor groomed to become his affair partner. Are Pam’s suspicions correct? How is it that a faith leader whom we trust and look to for moral guidance can carry on an affair? Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenlove...

Aug 06, 202435 min

Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 30, 202441 min

My Best Friend Had An Affair With My Boyfriend

Your partner cheats on you with your best friend. Sadly we have heard this tale many times before. But what if instead of being contrite and remorseful, your cheating best friend claims “I did you a favor” by having an affair with your partner. This is exactly what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Clare. Clare’s best friend and her boyfriend had an affair. How could the best friend do this - pretend to be her confidante all while deceiving her. Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: Ji...

Jul 23, 202432 min

HOW MY LOVER'S WIFE BECAME MY ALLY

The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children, and your family. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Nicole. The affair starts to spi...

Jul 16, 202458 min

Should You Tell Your Kids If Daddy Cheats?

While we are on vacation please enjoy a relaunch of this fan favorite episode. About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you're devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the marriage. Fast forward, and you find out the reason he wanted to go to therapy was to break up with ...

Jul 09, 202434 min

When Your Husband's Affair Partner Is Obsessed With You

What if your husband's affair partner is not only obsessed with your husband, but she's also obsessed with you! She does everything in her power to lure your husband - like "mini dates," disguised as dog walks, calls and incessant texts. But she also wants to know you so badly, she infiltrates your home and your online world to get as close to you as she possibly can. It's intrusive. It's bizarre. It's creepy. And it all happened to my guest whom we'll call Lee. Joining Lee and me is Beth Miller...

Jul 02, 202442 min

I Caught My Boyfriend Cheating In Our Bed & This Is How I Reacted

Summer replay. New episode next week. So many times we hear how people, both women and men hesitate to leave a relationship even when bad things happen. But not my guest - award winning host of the podcasts "Dying For Sex" and "Near Death", actress and singer Nikki Boyer. Nikki made a split second decision to leave her cheating boyfriend and never looked back. But she's still talking about him, even today 20 years later. Ummm? Was she too hasty in her decision to leave or right to immediately cu...

Jun 25, 202441 min

I Stayed After The Cheating, But I Can’t Stop Thinking of Their Affair

Your husband has an affair. You take the conventional path and seek out couples’ therapy and probably individual therapy. It feels like the persistent negative thoughts, ruminations about his affair, visions of his intimacy with the affair partner, the anger and resentment won’t go away. My guest today is our beloved regular contributor Beth Miller, marriage coach and owner of Soulifywellness. Beth shares her thoughts on some of the most frequently asked questions about infidelity like: What’s t...

Jun 18, 202425 min

Are You Micro Cheating?

What is micro cheating and are you doing it? Micro cheating describes behaviors that may be considered infidelity, but the boundary between micro cheating and a full blown affair isn’t clear. My guest today—we’ll call her Connie, blames her micro cheating for bringing her marriage to the brink of divorce. But is how Connie’s husband behaves with the ladies behind her back even worse? Is there even such a thing as micro cheating? Or is it cheating just — cheating? Join me to find out if Connie’s ...

Jun 11, 202438 min

If My Partner Withholds Intimacy, Does That Give Me License To Cheat?

Your husband refuses to have sex with you. He won’t kiss you, touch you or show you any affection at all. You feel neglected, abandoned and unwanted. No matter how much you beg and plead for his attention, you realize you can’t compete with that remote in his hand or his favorite recliner. This is what happened to my guest Maria. Does Maria have the right to find intimacy and pleasure wherever she can get it, or should she stay faithful to her marriage vows of monogamy and fidelity? What would y...

Jun 04, 202436 min

Why Is It So Difficult To Leave My Cheating Husband?

For Memorial Day weekend we are featuring one our favorite episodes from the past. On this episode we have a panel discussion with two ladies whose marriages were scorched by infidelity along with their relationship coach Beth Miller. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, my two guests, Anne and Marie ( not their real names) explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are oft...

May 28, 202453 min

MY BRIDE-TO-BE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR & OUR WEDDING IS IN TWO WEEKS

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or let it go? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options?This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find...

May 21, 202436 min

My Wife Cheated On Me With A Homeless Man

You're a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present father. Despite that, your wife is not satisfied and has an affair with a man who has substance abuse issues, an unstable job history and troubles with the law. Guided by your faith, you manage to hold your marriage together and your wife ends the affair. But several years later you start to notice some uncomfortable changes in your wife’s behavior. Should you simply trust that she is remaining faithful, or investigate these red ...

May 14, 202449 min

A Renowned Matchmaker On Infidelity & What His Clients Won’t Tolerate

Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy, Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the world who are seeking a traditional wife. So….how many of you are scratching your heads right now i...

May 07, 202427 min

My Husband’s Affair Partner Stalked, Taunted & Harassed Me

Sometimes an angry affair partner attacks her married lover, his wife and even his children. The affair partner will stalk, cyber stalk, physically attack or threaten her married lover’s wife, children, and extended family in order to taunt, threaten or intimidate them. These affair partners are sometimes called bunny boilers, based on the mentally unstable mistress character in the 80s hit movie Fatal Attraction. My guest Helen spent years facing down her own real life bunny boiler. Join marria...

Apr 30, 202433 min

My Boyfriend Fooled Me, 2 Couples Therapists and His Unsuspecting Lovers

There are times when your partner’s lies, deception, and gaslighting are so carefully crafted and meticulously masked, he not only fools you, he hoodwinks multiple women and your professionally trained relationship counselors. What happens when the full extent of his deception is revealed? Is it just another bad breakup, or are the implications much greater than that? My guest whose real name is Samantha experienced this level of deception. Samantha says the deception changed her outlook on life...

Apr 23, 202437 min

Blindsided by Betrayal That Nearly Broke Me

Being blindsided by an affair or a divorce can bring you to your knees. Even the seemingly most powerful people who are typically in command of their careers and their lives can become petrified by fear and anxiety. This is exactly what happened to my guest Rob Malkani. Now Rob counsels people just like himself who were blindsided by divorce and sometimes the affairs that lead to them. Rob has taken all that he’s experienced and learned during the course of his own traumatic 7 year divorce to he...

Apr 16, 202427 min

Should You Confront Your Spouses Lover?

How many wives would choose to meet their husband's lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let's call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his lover and her husband. But when Tiffany told me how her husband's young lover described their affair,...

Apr 09, 202426 min

I Caught My Boyfriend Messaging Trans Men

You meet a guy and he love bombs you. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, it's when a guy first meets you and showers you with compliments, gifts and attention, and tells you "I love you" though he barely knows you at all. You fall for this and you suddenly you're wrapped up in a faux romance that's often the precursor to emotional and sometimes physical abuse. This is what happened to my guest today whom we'll call Genevieve. But this was just the tip of the iceberg after years of cover u...

Apr 02, 202437 min

Your Partner’s Secret Obsession With Instagram Models

On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist. Be a guest on the show: Jillian...

Mar 25, 202450 min

Don’t Let Your Husband’s Affair Partner Intimidate You

Imagine your husband’s former affair partner belongs to your church, is a mom at your kids’ school, a member of your club, or is even your neighbor. What if proximity means you could end up seeing her all the time? Would you avoid going to those places where she could be? Would you make yourself scarce when you know she might be around in order to save yourself from embarrassment or confrontation? Join me and Beth Miller, marriage counselor and founder of Soulifywellness to hear how after dreadi...

Mar 19, 202433 min

Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 12, 202441 min

Why “Mr. Nice Guy” Is The Cheater You’ll Never Suspect

Nice guys versus bad boys. Bad boys are the ones you fantasize about, you’re dying to date, and want to have sex with. Nice guys are safe because they’re trustworthy, faithful, and honest. “Not true,” says my guest Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and author of “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Nice guys he says, are constantly holding up a facade of good and acceptable behavior to make people like them, while they hide parts of themselves they don’t want people to see. All this pretending ma...

Mar 05, 202425 min
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