Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It’s different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we’ll call Lisa — she was tortured her husband’s lying. Lisa found out about her husband’s affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her...
Feb 27, 2024•37 min
For President's Day we are featuring one of our favorite past episodes. My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks a...
Feb 20, 2024•57 min
You find out your spouse has been living a secret life with an affair partner for 4 years while you suffer in your barren, sexless marriage that you hold together for the kids. You immediately file for divorce. Now you’re free and you rediscover your sexuality and erotic fantasies with a new, sexy partner. Sounds dreamy right? Nope. For my guest whom we’ll call Laura, her new relationship became her biggest nightmare: so horrible, so unimaginably awful she’s convinced she can get never find love...
Feb 13, 2024•47 min
A cheating husband who is remorseful, openly apologetic and more committed to his wife than ever: that’s just one of my guests today. My other guest is his wife who forgives her husband and believes that their marriage is finally a “real marriage” ever since he’s confessed, become sober and committed to intense therapy. But before this couple got here, the husband (whom we’ll call Greg) did something so outrageous, so manipulative and so underhanded to try and hide his affair, that it’s worthy o...
Feb 06, 2024•37 min
Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess and turned it into her message. Join me to hear her journey of turning heart break and betrayal into...
Jan 30, 2024•46 min
This week we are bringing back a fan favorite. You think you're in a committed relationship. You and your boyfriend are nesting with his daughter and living as a family in what feels like a dream. Then one day your boyfriend is killed in a tragic accident. Overcome with grief, you host his memorial service only to find out that several of the women attending are also in a relationship with your boyfriend. This real life tragedy happened to country music sensation, Stephanie Quayle. Stephanie sha...
Jan 23, 2024•36 min
For years the buzzword was attracting, as in “you attract the partner you have in your life.” Then the term “manifesting” took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps ...
Jan 15, 2024•36 min
Think about the chaos that ensues from any love triangle. Is it two people vying for one person’s love, or (at times) is it a melodrama that distracts people from their legitimate life problems? How many times is an affair, whether we are a cheater or a betrayed partner, just a means of distracting ourselves from real hurt and pain in other parts of our lives? My guest Sandy may be emblematic of this. Sandy invests so much time and energy into her live-in cheating boyfriend even though something...
Jan 09, 2024•28 min
Tom "The Suit" Forst has been touring the world as what one critic calls a "blues ass-kicker" for decades. He's traveled the world without his wife as a blues musician and before that as "a suit" in the corporate world. Because of this, Tom has an up close and personal view of how tempting cheating and affairs on the road can be. In our talk, Tom gets vulnerable, raw, and very real as he shares anecdotes about life on the road, and reveals how infidelity has at times become a theme in his music....
Jan 02, 2024•46 min
Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon’s husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon’s baby shower. Josh’s wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both liv...
Dec 26, 2023•53 min
You've cheated. You've done the deed. Whether that's sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you've done it: you've created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you've got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at all costs? On this episode I welcome Marie Murphy who is a relationship coach with a PhD in the soci...
Dec 19, 2023•41 min
What if you’re often the side piece - time after time the other woman. First you have an affair with your husband’s work colleague. Then you cheat on your husband with someone you meet in an alcohol recovery group. Next you find yourself sleeping with the husband of a couple that hosting you in their home as a guest. And on and on. What’s going on here? My guest whom we’ll call Jen has actually lived through all of this. Jen shares her long history as an affair partner whether she was cheating o...
Dec 12, 2023•40 min
Can Oral Sex With Your Partner Make Affairs Less Tempting? What does this very intimate act say about the level of masterful communication you share or don’t with your partner? My guest, holistic life and relationship coach Alby James says giving and receiving oral sex is a clue into how much and your partner respect each other. Alby talks about oral sex, intimacy and how to achieve masterful communication based on his 16 year experience as a physical and emotional healer. Staying faithful- what...
Dec 05, 2023•36 min
We all took the week off to celebrate Thanksgiving with our families and friends, so we’ve brought back a favorite episode from the early days of CWLL. Imagine a lavish life with a wealthy husband where you feel secure that you and your children will be taken care of forever. Imagine the thrill of first-class vacations to your family's luxurious homes in the most exotic places. Imagine your husband spoiling you with expensive jewels and clothes. Imagine all this with a husband you're only mildly...
Nov 28, 2023•42 min
Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you’ve left behind? They say, “he’ll never leave his wife” or “she’ll never leave her husband” but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for high...
Nov 21, 2023•37 min
This week we are bringing back one of our favorite episodes. When I was growing up a "hall pass" was the thing you needed in middle school in order to leave class and go to the bathroom. That's not what a "hall pass" is anymore. Today's definition is a lot sexier. According to my guest, a "hall pass" let's you cheat without begin called a cheater. Lets you explore without having to explain. Lets you have sex with someone else without exiting your relationship. It's time to get schooled on the "h...
Nov 14, 2023•41 min
Finding your soulmate. Isn’t that the holy grail of love and relationships? It’s when you find the person who just gets you and wildly turns you on. Once we’re convinced that they’re the ONE, we marry them, or build a committed partnership with them, then swear nothing will ever tear us apart. Well — not so fast says my guest, author John P. Weiss. John is a celebrated writer and has a sizable following for his blog posts and essays about life and love. Combine that with John’s experience as a f...
Nov 07, 2023•25 min
I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you’re sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their decades long marriage and broke her trust in him. I have the upmost respect for so many in the medical p...
Oct 31, 2023•35 min
A woman comes into your husband’s life and captures his heart. Your husband and his new lover share emotional and physical intimacy and he can’t seem to leave this other woman’s side. His affair threatens your marriage, family, peace and serenity. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Karen, whose hated for the other woman became enormous. How would you handle that hatred? Would you seek revenge, become depressed, or find a way to forgive? Join me to find out why Karen couldn’t live ...
Oct 24, 2023•38 min
This week due to technical difficulties we are bringing back one of our favorite episodes. We’ve got lots of new guests and topics coming up! IG @cheatingwhenlovelies E-mail: jillianhamiltonpodcast.com Imagine you're a bride, and your fiancé invites a woman you barely know to your wedding under the guise that they're "just friends." He and his "friend" disappear from the reception for almost 2 hours and no one knows where they are. It's not surprising that shortly after the wedding this bride's ...
Oct 17, 2023•42 min
On this episode, we meet Viveca (not her real name) who explains how she had a four year affair with a married man whose wife paid Viveca to do work in their home, and also asked her to babysit the couples’ daughter. It sounds astounding, but it was a Viveca’s ability to hide in plain sight that helped her keep her passionate affair going. How did she do this? How could she do this? Join me to find out. If you’d like to be a guest. [email protected] Follow us @cheatingwhenlovelies...
Oct 10, 2023•40 min
About two years ago, a guy friend said to me “I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn’t do it.” Because of this podcast I’m sworn to secrecy, so I couldn’t tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can’t imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why...
Oct 03, 2023•34 min
You catch your husband red-handed with the person you least suspect. How do you react? Do you break down in tears, or get angry and verbally attack your husband or his lover? My guest whom we’ll call Avery, faced this very situation when she caught her husband with another woman. Her husband was cheating with the one person Avery never thought would interfere in her marriage. How Avery reacted to what she saw was surprising and unexpected. Join relationship expect Beth Miller and me to find out ...
Sep 26, 2023•32 min
You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He’s from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about...
Sep 19, 2023•36 min
The man you’ve fallen in love with is another woman’s husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children, and your family. This is what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Nicole. The affair starts to spi...
Sep 12, 2023•56 min
I discovered this week’s guest, best selling international author Christopher K. Lopez on Medium, where he publishes his top-rated articles about relationships. According to Christopher, what does love have to do with cheating?He says successful men like him can have women as either the main event, options, or back ups. But he also says that there is a way for women to earn what he calls the privilege of exclusivity. Join Christopher and me as we explore the question, “Do Men Cheat On Women They...
Sep 05, 2023•22 min
Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it’s what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband’s been unfaithful and now you’re divorcing him, so what’s the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest whom we’ll call Gail uncovered disturbing facts about her husband after his affair destroyed their marriage. Now Gail is facing a dilemma: should she warn her h...
Aug 29, 2023•38 min
As we wrap up vacation we bring you another favorite episode from the past. Look forward to new episodes coming soon. Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know when and if it was happening to you? ??For those who don't know what gaslighting is, it's when someone tries to convince you that something they said or did never occurred. The gaslighter denies the reality of what you know happened, then makes you question yourself and what you know to be true.?? My guest today whom we'll c...
Aug 22, 2023•1 hr 5 min
We are still on vacation so please enjoy one of our favorite past episodes. On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, tha...
Aug 15, 2023•49 min
We are on vacation this week, so we are revisiting one of my favorite episodes from last summer. A mature married man who's been with his wife for 20 odd years decides to go off and have an affair with a hot young 20 or 30- year-old. Nothing newsworthy there. In fact, some more cynical types might say it's commonplace. But what about a mature married woman in her 40s or 50s having an affair with a married 20 or 30 something? It feels like she'd be tarred and feathered on Twitter. There's a doubl...
Aug 08, 2023•32 min
