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Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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Episodes

Letting Go Of Perfectionism

On this week's show, Kim talks all about how perfectionism is holding you back from putting yourself out there in the dating world. Are you reluctant to build a dating profile because you're waiting to take the perfect profile photo? Are you avoiding opportunities to meet new people because you're feeling self conscious or unconfident in your appearance? This episode will teach you that for whatever reason you are putting things off, underneath your need to be perfect is fear. Fear of the unknow...

Aug 22, 201831 min

Interview With Steven Maresca: How To Get Past Pain & Adversity

We all deal with adversity in our lives to varying degrees. But no matter what challenges you face, how you push past your pain makes all the difference. This week, Kim has a powerful conversation with Steven Maresca. Steven is an incredible resource and motivator for anyone looking to change their life through fitness. But, Steven isn't just your average fitness trainer. You'll hear him tell his personal story about a devastating accident he experienced six years ago. Since then, Steven has bee...

Aug 15, 201840 min

Coaching With Kim: Breaking Attached Relationship Patterns

On this episode, Coaching with Kim, you'll meet Danielle who's noticed a pattern in her relationships and is ready for a big shift. Kim and Danielle's coaching session focuses on "Attachment Theory", a psychological model that defines interpersonal relationships and how we respond when we feel unsafe, hurt, or fearful. There are 3 types of attachment styles Kim discusses on the show so you’ll hear how these styles play out in her relationships. As the youngest of 7 daughters, she learned how to ...

Aug 08, 201835 min

How To Experience Love Without Toxicity

You know that exhilarating feeling when you meet someone new who showers you with compliments, makes you feel sexy confident and you can't get enough? But then, out of nowhere, almost as fast as everything started, the relationship is over and you're a wreck. We've all had some level of experience with these “tornado” relationships. In this episode, Kim talks about how to spot the difference between a healthy love and a toxic relationship. Both men and women can create this dynamic but the signs...

Aug 01, 201826 min

Interview With Josh Trent: How Emotional & Physical Wellness Impacts Relationships

This week, Kim interviews wellness expert, Josh Trent. Josh hosts the Wellness Force Radio Podcast and has spent 15 years in the health and wellness industry. He's on a mission to help people live life well through developing physical and emotional intelligence. This conversation is packed with great information and gets intense, fast! Josh shares his personal journey of dealing with anxiety and drastic weight fluctuation. He introduces a powerful concept, "If I can breathe I can choose." These ...

Jul 25, 201833 min

Coaching With Kim: How To Avoid Being The Rebound

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim talks to Marion -- all the way from France! Marion is a school teacher, who got divorced 10 years ago, and has dated several men over the years since her split. Now, she's dating an amazing guy she really likes and can see a future with, but there are a few red flags and she needs some advice on. This guy just got out of his marriage and Marion is worried that she's his rebound. Kim discusses how men respond to break ups and Marion’s family and dating history ...

Jul 18, 201841 min

How To Deal With Being Ghosted

One day you and your guy are texting back and forth and then, suddenly - you never hear from him again. On this week's episode Kim talks all about ghosting, why men do it, how to recognize the signs, and how to deal with the aftermath. You'll learn there are only a few reasons why men disappear without notice and almost all of them disqualify these men from being good partners for you. Kim breaks down how to stop focusing on why he stopped communicating and instead focus on how not to take it pe...

Jul 11, 201826 min

Get Your Groove Back With a Vacation Mentality

Don't you wish you were on vacation right now? Work, friends, family, and life itself can be stressful. Why add dating to that list? This week, Kim discusses how a vacation mentality is essential in your dating life. When you’re on vacation, you let loose, you relax and you’re more likely to try something you wouldn’t normally, because hey, you’re on vacation right? When you apply that logic to your dating life, you open yourself up to love. After you listen and you realize you need a vacation, ...

Jul 04, 201823 min

Interview With Melanie Curtis: Conquering Your Fears

Fear manifests itself in so many ways in relationships. There's the fear of intimacy, the fear of abandonment, the fear of being alone and countless others. This week Kim talks to Melanie Curtis - author, speaker and fierce life coach, about how to take a leap of faith and crush your fears! Melanie has been skydiving more than 10,000 times - something that would terrify most of us - but that means she's a pro at facing scary things head on and pushing through no matter what. Kim and Melanie disc...

Jun 27, 201830 min

Coaching With Kim: Learning How To Trust In Relationships

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim talks to Dena, who's having trouble trusting the men she dates. This episode is all about how to trust others, without giving away your power. Dena is struggling with some ghosts of her past - two divorces and an experience with infidelity. She embodies the role of "giver" in all areas of her life and has attracted men who are "takers". In the past, she's fallen victim to dynamics where men take advantage of her giving nature and she lacks the tools to set bou...

Jun 20, 201833 min

Interview With Benjamin Ritter: How To Reprogram Your Mindset & Achieve Happiness

This week Kim interviews Benjamin Ritter, host of the Live for Yourself podcast. Ben is a leader in public health and an executive and personal consultant with a focus in dating and relationships. Benjamin and Kim talk about their personal experiences with BIG, life-altering changes. Kim deep dives into the topic of how states of change can alter your perspective and that practice should be encouraged. Ben and Kim discuss that when you're not truly living for yourself, it feels like the world is...

Jun 13, 201827 min

How To Stop Attracting Narcissists

Have you ever dated a narcissist? Well if you have, you're not alone! This week, Kim discusses how to spot narcissists from a mile away and how to avoid them! If you're on a date with a suspected narcissist, Kim shares some great tips on how to weed them out. Here's the thing, if you're a natural caregiver, you're more inclined to be accommodating and give in to their selfish needs. Kim talks about how to check your own behavior to make sure you're not allowing someone to take your power away. Y...

Jun 06, 201830 min

Coaching With Kim: Breaking Up With Your Work & Negative Patterns

This week on Coaching with Kim, Kim chats with Easter, who's struggling to feel recognized and appreciated at work. Although Easter currently has a loving relationship with a supportive partner, Kim dovetails into how patterns at work relate to relationships and social confidence in your life overall. Kim and Easter talk through Easter's upbringing in a socially isolated, strict religious household and how that experience directly impacts her experience at work. Easter has gone through some big ...

May 30, 201835 min

Interview with Carol Allen: How To Predict A Lasting Relationship

Kim talks with Vedic Astrologer and Relationship Coach, Carol Allen about what goes into attracting a relationship that will last. Vedic astrology is an old Indian system that is said to be much more predictive of your love life than your run of the mill magazine horoscope. Kim and Carol have a lively and personal conversation about getting confident and clear on what you want in a relationship, alignment and missed connections with soulmates. Carol and Kim mind-meld on astrology and psychology,...

May 23, 201837 min

How To Date After 40

It's never too late to find love! This week Kim dispells the myth that you can't find love after 40. You can! You know the old tropes, "There are no good men out there!" and "All women are crazy!" Neither of these are true and your belief in them is holding you back from dating successfully. If you're having trouble believing that you are capable of dating after 40, this episode is the first step to shifting your perspective. Kim gives some great tips for pushing yourself to get back out there. ...

May 16, 201830 min

Interview with Jordan Harbinger: Getting Past The Pain Of Change

Back by popular demand, Kim has an candid conversation with friend of the show, Jordan Harbinger. Jordan opens up to Kim about his experience leaving Art of Charm and creating his new show, The Jordan Harbinger Show. Kim talks through how big changes in our lives can feel just like a major breakup. When something that consumes a huge part of your life is suddenly gone, whether it's a job, or a relationship, it can feel like part of your identity has been taken away. Hindsight is 20/20, and now t...

May 09, 201831 min

Coaching With Kim: How To Navigate Anxiety In A New Relationship

On this week's coaching episode, Kim does a deep dive with Melissa about how ghosts from the past can haunt new relationships. Melissa is in a new relationship with a great guy and things are going well. But...she can't shake off the anxiety that bubbles up when she doesn't hear from him. In fact, 24 hours without a text is causing her to feel like the relationship is ending! Kim talks through some emotional patterns that originated in Melissa's family with her father and helps her discover for ...

May 02, 201841 min

Interview with Adam LoDolce: Rebuilding Your Sexy Confidence After Breakup

This week, Kim discusses the emotional and physical responses to breakups that make us feel unsexy, unconfident and totally alone. And who better to discuss how to regain your spark, than dating expert and creator of Sexy Confidence, Adam LoDolce! Adam and Kim have a lively discussion in how committing to action is essential for pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. When you're stuck in a post-breakup rut, the practice of creating new habits is essential. Adam gives some great tips on how t...

Apr 25, 201839 min

What Is Preventing You From Finding Love?

On this week’s show, Kim talks through all the ways you could be holding yourself back from finding your next relationship. Whether you need a push to get out of the house to meet new people and expose yourself to the energy of the opposite sex, or you need to practice feeling flirty and sexy with a new outfit - Kim has you covered. This episode takes a deep dive into reclaiming your power and shows you that you can make positive choices that will lead you to the love you want! Kim shares useful...

Apr 18, 201835 min

Interview with Bill Wooditch: How To Supercharge Your Motivation To Change

This week Kim interviews the unstoppable Bill Wooditch - a sales expert, speaker and best-selling author. Kim talks to Bill about how he motivated himself to change through his journey, how he was able to direct his focus and push through when failure seemed like the only option. They talk about how to identify and use both internal and external motivators to propel out of your comfort zone and towards what you want. This empowering conversation will help you realize that your past is simply a c...

Apr 11, 201830 min

Coaching With Kim: How To Get Beyond The First Date

This week a powerful and emotional live coaching episode with Kim's client, Anne. She's mastered the art of getting guys to the first date, but when it comes to securing the second one, she's stumped! Kim uncovers the REAL reasons why Anne can’t get past the first encounter and why she can’t find chemistry with any guy she meets. And it’s not what you might think! Here Kim helps Anne face some surprising and revealing truths. Anne learns that when you gain clarity about what you want, and you ex...

Apr 04, 201836 min

The Do’s and Don’ts Of Virtual Dating

Does the thought of trying to curate the perfect online dating profile sound worse than a root canal? If so, don’t worry…you are not alone! This week, Kim's got you covered as she takes you through the Dos and Don’ts of Virtual Dating. You'll learn simple tips on how to create an attention grabbing profile that will impress your next match. Kim talks about how to make a positive and lasting first impression. And, she'll walk you through how to engage in an online conversation so you don't come o...

Mar 28, 201831 min

Interview With Julie Spira: Secrets To Online Dating Success

This week, every question you've ever had about how to maximize return on your online dating profile answered. Kim interviews Julie Spira, America's top online dating expert and digital matchmaker. Julie has spent her career mastering online dating from the early days of chatrooms, to the explosion of dating apps on the market today. No matter what platform you're using, if you're building your profile online, you won't want to miss her tips! Julie and Kim discuss what kind of pictures will catc...

Mar 21, 201834 min

Coaching With Kim: How To Pace Yourself When Dating

Are you interested in just having fun, growing into a relationship, or something else? It's up to you! This week on Coaching with Kim you will learn how to tell if you're sending the right signals and how to determine your pacing in a new relationship. In this episode, you'll meet Sue -- she got married when she was 20 and divorced 31 years later. Now she's single, revamping her wardrobe, putting herself out there on dating apps and seeing a few new guys. Along with finding her voice in her newl...

Mar 13, 201837 min

How To Stop Being A Shapeshifter and People Pleaser

Stop being a shapeshifter and find the real you! This week, Kim talks about shapeshifting, or the ability to morph into what others want to see in order to be liked or praised. You may have recognized this phenomenon in others, or yourself. While shapeshifting can be a positive (it comes with incredible sales skills!), but it's impossible to maintain balanced relationships when one person is hiding who they really are. Kim goes through how to detect if you or your date is shapeshifting, how to e...

Mar 06, 201821 min

Interview with Myke Macapinlac: How to Increase Your Social Confidence

Kim and former shy guy Myke Macapinlac, founder of Social Confidence Mastery, discuss how the right outfit and little confidence can change everything for you. Myke is a lifestyle entrepreneur and social dynamic specialist who helps shy guys become socially confident. This week, Kim and Myke talk about how the clothing you wear impacts your world. And ladies you’ll LOVE hearing a man’s perspective on this. You'll hear some great tips on building self-assurance and how clothes can be a vehicle to...

Feb 28, 201827 min

Coaching With Kim: How To Date Smart & Without Guilt

This week on Coaching with Kim: a man's perspective! Kim talks with Stephen, a guy who's navigating his way through the casual dating space. Right now, he's trying to figure out how to balance diving in too deep too soon and taking it slow with the women he's seen recently. Stephen grew up in a family that wasn't super emotionally open. Kim talks through how this has likely manifested itself in his adult relationships. And, he highlights a major point about flirting that all the ladies listening...

Feb 20, 201843 min

How to Feel Sexy Today and Every Day

It's that time of year again - stores are overflowing with heart shaped boxes of chocolate, teddy bears and bouquets of roses. Don't panic! The Valentine's Day frenzy doesn't have to make you feel insecure, lonely, or unsexy. Remember, feeling sexy is all about how you view yourself... and it's all up to you. In this week's episode, Kim gives some important tips about how you can feel and look sexy every single day. Embrace your feminine side, buy a new dress, throw on a pair of heels, or make a...

Feb 14, 201831 min

Interview with Dr. Ish Major: Decoding Mistakes Men & Women Do In Relationships

Dr. Ish Major has been decoding the way men think and act in dating and relationships for his entire career. A board-certified psychiatrist and resident relationship expert on WEtv's Marriage Bootcamp , Dr. Ish has obviously seen his share of broken relationships! In today's episode, Kim and Ish discuss how men and women both assume they know exactly what the opposite sex wants - and nothing could be further from the truth! Ish shares some incredible tips on how to avoid making assumptions on yo...

Feb 06, 201837 min

Getting Over Your "Nice Syndrome”

Do people accuse you of being “too nice?” This week is all about getting over that "nice syndrome" so many of us suffer from. And no, this doesn't mean you being aloof or hurtful to people! It means, learning to express your needs and wants confidently without having to tiptoe around people you worry may disagree with you. Kim discusses how getting over your "nice syndrome" can help foster better friendships, improve professional interactions, and of course, attract dates. Plus, she talks about ...

Jan 30, 201822 min
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