Episode 261: Pregame - I Have a Crush on My BFF’s Brother

I'm doing. So you are a patient friend. I know. I was just catching up on everything in how many I saw in prety days. We'll be back thirteen days for the NFL season, which means my hair is on fire. Yours looks great. This is my new move now everything I think I'm an unpregnant Haley Beaver. I just you're my hairberry and it's so bad. But welcome to the pregame. Guys. You know what this means. We have a lot to talk about in the big show, But do you want

to get to the pregame questions first? Before we get this announcement with the little foot and then all I could look at which I know we're celebrating the arrival of the baby. Is I act like I know them. I don't. It's her nails. I was like, should I do that with my nails? The French tip. I think the gossip was that Justin picked out the Polish. I mean, oh my god. You know it really is a group effort, all right. My husband loves a Pinterest, but he doesn't

love a Polish. I thought save that for the big show. The emails and I get because I'm on Jarrett's Pinterest page because obviously I asked to be a part of it, are amazing. I know. I feel so invasive, like I know every step of what you guys are doing. Okay, we'll discuss that later. Welcome everyone, free game. We're back sort of and more frazzlin than ever. Go for it, sister, okay, melodied ten twelve. Will you not go into a store if you see someone you know walking in question mark?

It depends on who it is. You got to be on it, so that's it. I know it's going to be the same for both of us. That means about ninety percent of the time, if we know them, we won't walk in. There's a ten percent chance that we walk in because there's ten percent of the people that we know that we like smellulator. I for sure have done the whole like go the other way. You know, you got to be in the mood, you know, like are we doing the small talk, we're catching up. I

haven't seen you in forever. What are you doing here? No? And it also depends on how like much time you have where It's like I wanted to get in, I wanted to get out. I don't have time. I left my car double parked in a frickin area that I shouldn't. No, no, no, no,

so yes. I got to be honest. I was going through something last week, and you were doing fifty thousand things in like home good stores, not home goods, but home good stores, grabbing coffee, table books, grabbing i don't know, appliances, television, you even were setting them up. And here I was like crying about shit that was happening in my life, and you're like, oh, yeah, I'll just wrap them up. I know it's okay, Erin, it's gonna be fine. You're

amazing with that. Well, because the truth of that is, I'd rather be talking to you than doing what I was doing. So Melanie, will you go No, we're not going in to the store. If we know anybody anonymous quitting my job in a week? How honest should I be in the exit interview regarding my Miranda Priestley in quotes boss who is disregarding our team and others? It's a good question, how honest should you be? Grading Hi? It was an eronism. What did I say disregarding did

so much? Yeah? That was an Aaron Andrews. I think God that I'm out of it. I can't wait for the teleprompter in eleven days or be on television that'll be good, stay tuned, can't wait for the season degrading? Wow, read a book, CHRISA. I don't know what the question was now putting how honest should I be in an exit interview? I always believe that you should not burn

bridges that you need to walk back over. So if this is an industry that you plan on staying in, if there is enough people in your respective profession, even if you're exiting, that you respect or that you know you'll cross paths with again, I would not be too honest about stuff unless you want to just burn it

down system then have at it. But very rarely do I encourage that because I think in a world that ends up being six degrees sometimes three degrees of separation, careful what you end up doing, because it may burn you in the butt later, bite you and the ass later you. This is pretty timely for me. My bosses aren't Miranda Priestley, but I've had to have some real honest discussions with them lately, and I found a couple of things. Vent to the people in your life, get

a ton of advice. Yeah, Like I mean I to say two things, walking in and not being what is the word not demonstrative? That's not the right word. That's I don't know, degrading. So nowell unarming Is that a word? Did I just make that? Disarming? Good? I can't wait to be on television maybe also disarming. I liked that. That was some advice I got. Also, my boss had an idea last week. We took a walk around the block, which I liked that better than sitting in his office

yep and chatter wronging with him. So yeah, I don't think it's good to just burn it down because you never know who's going to be your boss again, or where you're going to run or who they're going to tell it that you may or may not unloaded on them. I just don't think it's a smart move, not a good move, not a good move. And this is not the question. But to add to what you're talking about, and we obviously talked about it at length, it's just I wait for this phrase at the end of the day.

There keep wait for the end of the day. I feel like it's the end of the day. Where's my wine? What time is it? Jesus Rois? Maybe I can read then. I think you should just treat people, even if they're your boss's superiors whatever, they're human, and the more honest you are without being burn it down, I think it proves to be beneficial. So being honest doesn't always mean being so cuckoo, you know what I mean? Does that make sense? Probably not, It makes a ton of sense.

I think another thing, and I believe that this was advice from you. If you just show in the end how much you love the gig and you love where you are, that's I think the most important message. Now. If you don't love where you are and you hate the gi yeah, that's important exactly. We could go on and on about this because or maybe we should in the larger conversation, because I want to keep at it in our hollies. Kimmy and nineteen oh, this is you Stster,

go for it. Yep, Kimmy and nineteen seventy nine. My son is leaving for college soon. Any advice for coping with transitions? This is hard. I was actually just talking to my friend about this, who dropped his daughter off at Michigan his son at Florida State. I remember when my dad dropped me off at school. It was a big family hug in the middle of my dorm room. We were bawling our brains out. My parents only had to drive two hours back to Tampa from the University

of Florida, but that felt so long now. When Kendra was sent to school and we dropped her off, my dad was so upset because that was his baby. And I don't really remember what happened, but something got locked in our house, like we couldn't get back in. We didn't have the key. I don't know what in the hell happened. Obviously we didn't have an automatic garage either, but or the garage door wasn't working. My dad had

to break away. That's how dramatic it was. Yeah, so there was a lot going on for the Andrews that day. I would just say this, there's a couple of people that I had known or just that time maybe, or people going back to school, and as we get older, all the kids of the people that we know get older. And a couple of conversations I've had where they've been like, oh, I had to drop my kid off at college arm

an empty nester. I'm always like, good for you, you did it, because I remember my parents had this thing where it's our job to raise you and when you turn eighteen, like you're on your own. So if you've gotten them to that point, I know obviously you're not, you know, not being a parent anymore. But hopefully the job that you did prepared them to go out into the world, So you should actually be excited for them to go off to college because now they get to put to

use all of the skills that you've taught them. So for coping with transition, I would just say, if you like your spouse, hopefully you do you get to reconnect with them, or if you now have only a couple other kids in the house, you get to spend more time with them. I think I'm always a big, big believer in different chapters in your life, so this is a new chapter where you even also can maybe put more focus on yourself. So be proud of the job

you've done it as a parent. They're off to school, off to college, and applaud them because you know what. Also to I don't mean my parents crying when I leave, which but my parents didn't. They were like, see yah, she's gone. Because it's like then I feel guilty if like my parents are so sad, Like I want my parents to be like, go get them kids, So save the tears. Oh see, we balled our brains out. Okay, I drove. I drove my parents took me down in a U hall. They dropped me off in California, and

then they said good luck to you kid. No, they were not crying. I love this. Next question, Yeah, read it anonymous? What do you do when read it? Would you do good luck? Is this a test? What do you do when your children's dad gets married and she wears my son's jersey's name a jersey name. So I have a story about this different. And then wait, she wrote you I love it, So this is different. My sister got was cheated on. Maybe she doesn't want me to say it. She doesn't care. My sister doesn't care.

We're long past it. She has been remarried and has the most amazing husband. What up, Chris, we love you. Her first marriage she got cheated on, and the person that cheated on my old brother in law cheated on with They ended up getting married, and my sister and them all still worked together, which is so freaking nuts, because there's no chance in hell I could have went to the same office with my ex husband and his new bride. But there's like that whole thing where you

share kids in the name and all that stuff. I would not be as classy as my sister was with that whole thing. I would definitely need to be restrained. I would not want to see that. Yeah, I mean, we have no idea if Anonymous was cheated on, this was an affair, but the dad got married, yeah, and the new woman is wearing the son's name on her jersey, So yeah, I don't know if i'd handle it well either.

But if you saw a mac's name, it got a bit you never will if you and Jerik Gott divorce, if somebody was wearing Max's name on their like you know, whatever soccer thing or something, you would fricking lose your shit. Oh for sure. I just love how she ended it with you. I have the utmost respect for people that can harmoniously conscious uncoupling and like make it all work, because I am tom petty with that kind of stuff.

Like I've never even had to like share a dog in a breakup or I'm just like bear mine, Like there's the idea of having to share children and obviously, you know there's the mature side of that where you're doing it for the kids because they see it all and that kind of stuff. Like, good for you if you can be amicable with that, because that is easier said than done. Thank God I didn't have children in my uh divorce situations. Yeah, we may not be the

person for this question. Jewels, Jewels, I EQ sorry, micro needling or lasers. I haven't done micro needling before, but I'd love to try it. Here's my issue right now. From the girl we just got her next shot up with doctor Daniel Poor. He did a number on me. Wow, I got my face Brozen yesterday ready to go for this season. We're back, baby, I don't want to see anything. You would get off an international flight and go straight to a boat. Holy shit, your shit had done in

your like twelve hours hard. But anyways, he shot my neck up with because you know how we are about our next with this botox, but it also kind of has a filler, but it's not filler, but it's also hydrating, so on camera it'll look plumper. I mean, can you imagine, like what was the what was the movie with Gwyneth Paltrow, Like, well, that would be what my neck looks like on TV. I don't know, but this is what I was saying

to some Oh. I was saying this to Kylie, Daniella and Julian on a text chain as I was driving home from doctor Daniel Poor's office. I said to them, they go, what is this thing you put in your neck? All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't keep it on the shelf. And I'm like, I'm in yeah, sorry, Julie, We'll get to your question in a second. We're making this about us. I went to doctor Daniel Board's office.

This was like a month ago. And I asked them for botox or whatever filler in my neck because you said to do that, and they said I was not allowed to get that, so they did the I don't know, I wasn't a candidate forard or something, so they gave me what So, what you're saying is you have a better neck than I. They also agreed to give me surgery on that said neck if I would have had enough time. But they the hydro filler thing or whatever is that they also gave me. Did it? Look I

need more. It's not hydroing enough. I gotta tell you. I didn't know myself. And he's like, all over me. I will like the chick for beetlejuice right now with the like the slash neck and like the smoke coming out of it. It hurts so bad. And he was like, wow, you're so good. You're not even flinching. And then it turned into a game with myself, like I had a tear coming down and I'm like, oh, I'm going to get through this. I'm going to get through this. And

I was like hit and argy. My favorite thing is with those when they're like, oh, we'll need to numb you and I'm like, oh no, I'm I'm pain tolerance. I'm good, and halfway through it, I'm like, yeah, exactly, but I don't. Of course, you and I are the same. We're competitive and we don't want to say that we actually needed the numbing cream. So Julie, to answer your question in a very circuitous way, micro needling or lasers. I don't know what micro needling either. Clearly I need

to figure that out because I'll try everything once. Lasers are the best thing ever. I've lasered a lot of things, and I swear by it. In fact, sometimes I forget that I've lasered everything, and then I'll like, look underneath my arms. I'm like, wow, forgot about that, because it'll come in. Hair will come in every now and then, So laser it up. Girl. Are we at a time? No, Bridget bert One, how do you deal with the egos of players and coaches? Bridget I'm just gonna say this

right now, a Bridge Burt look at me making up names? Now, Hey, brit Bridge, Burt Bridge. They never are dear the Bridge Burt one. I will speak for myself because Aaron's obviously have different experiences, but I think she's going to say something similar. There have been over the almost twenty years we've been doing this, very very very very very very few I'm talking like five percent that have ego or arrogance. That is just they all have ego, but they don't

us good to us. I don't know. I feel like I've just been so lucky that these guys, players, coaches, colleagues have all been unbelievable. I actually experienced this way more in my Hollywood days. I don't know if you did with the Dancing with the Stars tenure of yours, but I felt like Hollywood, Hollywood definitely had the arrogance way more than athletes, because athletes are used to being part of a team. So that's where I found the difference.

And how did I deal with it. I didn't deal with it very well, which is why that entertainment gig was short lived because I had a hard time with that where people acted like they were better than me, and I was like, we're cool here, relax, Okay, your movie, Yeah, your movie sucks, and you're lucky we're even promoting it. But you we are so lucky with our relationships that we have with these players and coaches. I think you know.

A great example of that was we were in San Francisco together for preseason game, You, myself, Julian, Tom Brady, Kevin Burkhart. We had a I had a blast walking up on the sidelines with you. You know, George Kittle in the middle of the game, he's not playing, comes over, gives us a hug. We were in the center of the field talking to guys, you know, you know Penner

about his new baby. Congratulations exactly to Mario Davis, Like just so, we're so fortunate, and I think a lot of the time, the guys in the league that we are so fortunate to cover understand we are there to do a job, but we're also there not to make them look bad. We respect the hell out of what they do, and we're huge fans of theirs. And it's just cool, Like it was so fun, like just standing there both that comes by, we give him a huge hug. John Lynch his wife. It's it actually turns out to

be a big family. So we're grateful for that, very very grateful. Last, but not least, Anonymous, my bff's brother and I like each other. Do I chance ruining the friendship and go for it? Yeah, this is so because the risk award is huge. Imagine it works out and you get to be like family with your best friend.

Aaron doesn't have a brother, and my brother was married is happily married with children, so that was never a case for Aaron and I. But like, oh my god, if you and here's the thing, you, if she's your best friend, you can obviously gauge what her reaction will be if she like has like a super close protective relationship with her brother and she I don't know. I feel like you'll you'll definitely know if she would be

for it or against it. But if you're her best friend, why wouldn't she want you to be with her brother too, because she would want the best for you. And if she has a great really unless unless the brother's bad news bears and she's like he's gonna hurt you and you're gonna end up being upset, and like, don't even go down that road. But I think that you definitely know if your girlfriend, your best friend, would be into

it or not. So yeah, in the words of Steve Candarry, hell yeah, helly, hell yah, hell yeah, see Candary, it's me right now. Steve Candary is out in the one hundred and fifteen degrees hate with my father, my father, Mom's your father building an equestrian center. I'm not even a horse scalp. Okay, I finally owed my first horse at the age of forty two and act as if I need the goddamn you know FIP setup for the equestrian center because he can hell, I mean, my god,

I wish. But yeah, they're doing their due diligence out there, and I shouldn't say due diligence. I can't even talk. They're doing me a solid by building this thing. So Steve hates me, and the last thing he's going to say next time I ask him to do something as hell Yeah, hell yeah. But as for this, Anonymous, go for it and keep us posted. We love an anonymous follow up. So we have your studio host your transitions. Yeah, well I need to transition from the off season to

the season with the way that I'm speaking today. Here we go anonymous follow up. Okay, you guys. The original question last year from August was Aaron go caught close friend cheating on her husband? Confront or stay quiet? We told her to confront it. So here's the update. Aaron. She did not confront her friend about it. I'm still friendly with the person, however, we're nowhere near as close

as we used to be. The guy is still in the picture, and she only mentions him when her husband isn't around, to include a recent weekend when we were on a day trip with a couple other law I'm confused already, what's going on? Okay, so the guy is still in the picture. So the guy because she caught a close friend cheating on her husband. Okay, so the other guy is still in the picture. She only talks

about that guy when her husband isn't around. She's given an example a recent weekend when we were on a day trip with another couple of girlfriends. I reached out to a therapist and worked through the unresolved stuff I had going on that came back up going through this doing much better now, and I recognize that it's her problem to figure out and not and fix or not. So basically, she's like, I'm not going to met in this person's business, like that's her deal. She's cheating on

her husband. I'm not going to confront it and get in the middle of this nasty stuff, which I got to tell you. You know exactly what I'm about to say. I can't say it, but god, I wish I could. I know something right now about someone, and I want so bad to call this person who I've never met in my entry. I know that, oh you know them. I want to call them and be like, hey, by the way, your so and so has this and this

and this and this. He's not telling you. But I'm not going to do it because it is not my problem and it is none of my business. And you know what, I'm not trying to do bring any drama into my little peaceful life. So this person, oh, Aaron Andrews, Not only do you know this person? We have talked so much about this, although I haven't talked to you so long, you might have forgot while you were swimming

in Lake Homo without me. Congratulations to the Purcells. It's wild, but knowing information that could totally help someone else, like I want to tell her, but it is I don't know this person, and I can't call her. I can't be involved in the drama. Oh my god. All right, we will continue this conversation and more on the Big Show Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production

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