I was just thinking to myself, the best revenge is success and happiness.
Calm down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
I don't care see I love it. That's awesome.
All of it our theme in life and good for her. We will talk all things Taylor Swift, Kansas City Chiefs, back to back super Bowl champions, and so much more. Aaron is wearing the jacket. I hope you guys all saw. I'm so proud of my gal. We'll get into it on the big show as well. But Taylor Swift wearing her wear by Aaron Andrews Chiefs jacket yesterday incredible. I just I will go on and on about this, but we'll save it for the big show. I'm just very
proud of you. I hope you guys got a chance to watch the Super Bowl lots to discuss their But second only to our love of Taylor Swift is our love for the holiday that is Valentine's Day.
I love Valentine.
Where you're going with this? You do love live, You're very cute, and I love you're in love.
I just, well, there's a first. I just like Taylor Swift, you know, and I once you finally find to die. I love it. Now, you guys have submitted some questions because this week is Valentine's whatever was it Wednesday? Valentine's Day? Yeah, on top of it. So here we go. This first question is not Valentine's Day themed, but we will get to those in the second. First up, Melaniede ten twelve. How do you deal with people who have zero's social awareness?
I get so annoyed by the way Melani annoyed speaking my language because this is on a daily basis, and for those of you guys that listen to the podcast, you know we've discussed talking too loud on an airplane, facetiming on an airplane, talking too loud in a waiting room, having no understanding that there's other people in the world other than yourself. So how do I deal with this? Not very well? Clearly, I get annoyed. Aaron calls people out.
I call you, I call you and be like, I can't take this. What is wrong with these people? Are you insane?
Like that's what I do? Or here's another one. Are we okay?
Yeah? Exactly? Maybe we're the problem. It's me, Hi, I'm the problem. It's me so I don't know. I don't really have a good answer for you, Melanie, because I'm not very good at tempering my disdain for people that have zero awareness. I think what's actually a really good approach is when you just go instead of like meeting them at their like annoying level, just like what you
just said, like are you okay? You good? Like you know, it's like you go the opposite of what somebody does and yeah, they're like, I don't know.
Kevin, for cart and I have a couple, well we have, yeah, we have two.
I'm going to add another one.
I think a couple of good comebacks are for yourself and like just your mental state.
Huh, Like you could just make that noise, Oh that's good.
Or Kevin and I have started man oh man, man oh man man.
O man like that mayn't go to for so many things.
Yep. And then there's another one. It goes back to when we did the Super Bowl last year. We were talking about something, he and I in a meeting room with somebody who didn't have social awareness, and all of a sudden, they had the Nature channel on and there was this huge crab, like literally a crab like it
was like National Geographic. Why we weren't watching the NFL network or something to do with the Super Bowl, not sure, but it was on and this person in the meeting room made a very weird comment, and Kevin looked over at the television and goes, wow, that's some crab. So now your emotives are a crab. Yeah that's cute, really cute.
Yeah.
I think just any or all of the above.
Girl, I find starcasm and humor the best thing to do.
And by the way, these people who are not socially aware don't get it, so it's even better. It just went right over there, freaking head.
Good.
All right, Next up.
We're anonymous. We love you. Thanks so much for calling and writing advice for dealing with a mean.
Girl at work. Ooh, Carissa, I'll send it over to you. Bye oh bye man man oh man man oh.
Man exactly let me go. Wow that's some crab. Maybe she has crabs, I don't know. Wow.
Okay again with these anonymous submissions, we would love any sort of details and feedback about how it goes. I mean again, I hate to stay Taylor Swift, but why I gotta be so be so mean?
You read my mind because I was just thinking to myself, the best revenge is success and happiness. So for you, anonymous advice dealing with a mean girl at work. Again, we don't have the full context, but I would say this because Aaron and I have dealt with a few of these situations before in our life, and I think the best way to handle this is with grace and just know that be bigger than that person in a sense, like, don't when they the Michelle Obama quote, when they go
low go high. Just know that it's temporary and a lot of in my personal opinion, a lot of the stuff that I've dealt with when it comes to mean girls is their own insecurities projected and they want to try to make me feel bad and they're going to tear me down. And so if I allow them to do that, if I give them that power, then they can then they win. I try to always remember that if I am staying true to myself, I'm on a
real ted talk here. If I stay true to myself and I don't and I know who I am and don't feel like I'm being ashamed of my behavior or whatever it is, then it's fine. I don't know. I just think that take the high road it you'll always be happy that you did, because it's very easy to go the other way, and then you'll regret it and then you're just as bad as them. Yeah, that's my long winded answer to that.
Why you gotta be so mean?
Anonymous? Tips for getting out there while struggling with confidence all. First of all, this hurts my heart anybody that struggles with insecurities or not feeling like they have the confidence, or if you're bullied. I just want to one hundred and I want to march into the workplace, the school, the home, wherever you're feeling this, and I want to stand up and stand by your side and stand with you and just fight that battle with you, because it
hurts my heart that anyone is feeling this way. As far as tips for getting out there when you struggle with the confidence, instead of focusing on areas that you feel deficient in, make a list of all the things that you do like about yourself and all the things that you are proud of. And I think that if you put it down on paper, you'll it's not arrogant, it's not conceded. It's just focusing more on the positive
instead of on the negative. I think that you'll see very quickly that you have a lot of things to be happy about. And it's just hard sometimes because we want to focus on negative more than positive. But I would say, make a list of all the things that you like about yourself or all the things that people have said that they like about you, and you'll find that you'll have more confidence that way. In my opinion, Wow, what do you think? You're really on one right now?
Loving it?
Just very internalizing. I'm internalizing a lot of my feelings, you know. Now that's the off season. I'm really getting into myself. Actually, I'm reading Ryan Holliday do you know who?
Right?
Oh my god, he's so great. The book I'm reading right now is called Ego is the Enemy. He also wrote Stillness is the Key. It's just they're really really great books on just recognizing like deficiencies in yourself and also some like along those all those same lines, like how to continue to be successful without being arrogant. I don't know, anyways, they're really good. Did you finish the book Stillness is a Key? Because I feel like that's
a key. You're not really you're one hundred percent right. I got halfway through it and then I started ego as the enemy, and I I have to finish the book exactly because I wasn't still enough and I.
Were an animal animal.
Yeah, all right, next step, Okay, here's our Valentine's say.
Hey, hey, go deta our roses? Overrated? I don't think, so I listen. I like all kinds of flowers. I love getting flowers. They make me so happy, so I don't think they're overrated. But if you're getting a p and eies or a hydrangs. Carissa taught me this back in the day. Absolutely no carnations and no baby's breath. No, nope, can't I say that with every floral arrangement I order because of Carissa.
And by the way, I've got a whole rant on this that we can save for the fiction. Because of when you're sending flowers. Someone said flowers to someone. I mean, I sent flowers to someone I know, but they spelled grateful wrong on the card, so it looked like I spelled grateful wrong, and I was like, no, I didn't do that. The floor is spelled grateful wrong. And so when the person sent me a picture of the flower arrangement.
They're like, oh, thank you so much. And I saw the card and I zoomed in grateful was spelled wrong. I was mortified. I was like, no, no, no, that wasn't neat that I didn't do that. Goodness florist is an idiot. No, yeah, not good any who. I don't think any flowers are overrated, but no carnations and no
baby's with Yes. I just think that's really nice. And it reminds me of that scene in the breakup with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughnd where he's like, you told me you didn't want flowers and she's like, Gary, everybody likes flowers. You told me on our first date that you didn't want me to buy you flowers. By the flowers, gentlemen always buy the Her body was banging in that, by the way, thank god. Yeah it was. She had that on that one PROD address too. I remember the
white one. I remember looking it up and seeing the price tag and I was like, where's the knockoff version of this bad boy? All at thirty three? What to do if you're recently single, don't have friends yet in a city, and move to might you just go somewhere with my dog, but need ideas here? Oh okay, Well, first of all, good for you from moving to a new place. Aaron and I have talked about this before, since we've traveled so much for our jobs that we are alone a lot until the other people in our
career or whatever get into town. I love saddling right up to a bar by myself and ordering a drink and just chatting up the people around me. So yeah, I say, get out there, like wherever you're at, just you never know you're going to meet. And I also love not even just looking for like a significant other. I love just chatting people up and figuring out their story and like why they live there and what they do for a living. I don't know, so just putting
yourself out there. As for the dog, I say, I think dog parks are a good way to meet other people because if you have a dog, then you want to be with someone who likes So what do you think?
I like that.
The only thing I've learned about myself that this isn't about myself, So stop making it about myself.
Why do you always do that?
While internalizing stop, I've decided, Yeah, but one thing I would say is if you really really love football and you don't want people to give their opinions about it, don't go to a bar and sit there by yourself with a football game on, because people think they know and they don't know, and that is very frustrating.
So you know what I'm saying that I know exactly what you're saying because I almost got into a fight one time at the airport bar. Yeah, as the game's on and you're traveling back and like you say something and they're like, what do you know about football? And You're like, oh, here we go. Now I'm going to have to say something, and now I'm going to be the asshole. Actually, at this point in my life, I just buy my tongue, which is weird, but I hate
when I buy my tongue. Any Who, we could keep going. There's so many more questions, but apparently we're all our time.
I miss that. Okay, ten minutes are up.
Hey, I have a quick gifty idea shameless plugug ladies or men, if you're listening, buy somewhere for your gal, your aunt, your mom.
Your sister, your cousin.
Our super Bowl stuff did really well too, which is great and we still have that if you want it.
But yeah, not shameless plug at all. I am so proud of you. Where my Aaron Andrews. Make sure tell people where they can get it.
Whereby EA dot com and fanatics and yeah you can check out our instagram too to see.
How to style it and all that stuff.
Thirty four different ways to style it or no things.
Super Bowl fifty eight, the aforementioned jacket spawning on our girl t Swift and everything that is. We will wrap up the NFL season with a great combo on the Big Show. See you guys then in Happy Balances Day.
Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Eight