Episode 171: Pregame - Can Guy Friends Turn Into Boyfriends?

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It's game week for us people, it is. We have so much to discuss on the full podcast, So buckle up everyone. But in the meantime, if you're if if ten minutes it's all you can handle of us, no problem. Think of it as an appetizer you're not ready for the main course or dessert. I get it. Uh, we have an anonymous submission. This is the first time. And Ryan, our wonderful producer, told us that we need to make the announcement that if you would like to submit anonymously,

that's okay. We end up batching your handle anyways, So anonymous submission totally. I kissed my best guy friend. Give it a shot or stay friends. Don't want to ruin our friendship, okay, shot. I've had a situation like this. I was not romantically involved with this person. He was like my best guy friend, my go to, my you know, plus one on everything didn't and was not even in like the realm of possibility to be more than that.

I mean I wish that I could have because I was like, oh, this is a perfect setup, but just it's not there. If you don't have it, you don't have it. But if you if she went in for the kiss, like and there was something there, a little tingled single, I say, go for it. Same, I mean, why not. The basis of a relationship is best friends. Now I caution this though, and I did. The girl that I used to get spray tands from, she probably

won't carry said this. She ended up dating her best guy friend like dating dating, and then they broke up, and then you lose the guy friends. So you have to be This is like like a rom com waiting to happen. What's the one with Kate Hudson, my best She's like getting married and then the it's based off of a book, and then the friend ends up kissing and hooking up at the fiance. Not how to lose

a guy in ten days? No, I know I know how to lose a guy quicker than that, but that's by my own submission for another time, maybe the long version have you ever had? I've lost two guy best friends because they've told me they have crushes on me, and I don't. I didn't they told you that. Wait, write this down for the longer thing. Okay, I haven't had that happen. You haven't. No, I'm such a hard Ladies and gentlemen. Where's Mariah Carey when you need her?

You know what? You know what? We do need Mariah carry on this Calm Down podcast because I have a lot of things to discuss with her. All right, So anonymous sbmission, go for it, Please keep us, keep us updated. Yeah, all right, Well, golf for Sarah, golfer, Sarah, thank you for having a very easy name. When you're out with coworkers,

do you say goodbye or leave without saying anything? Well, I mean, this isn't scandalous, but I'm staying at the same hotel with my coworkers, so we usually all go out. Then we go in the elevator and be like, see letter, have a good night. All right, that's it. So yeah, we say good night in the elevator. But my producer is really good at Irish goodbyes? Are they Irish? I could see that? Yeah, and Irish goodbye? You just sneak out. I'm kind of into those now I didn't used to be.

I felt like I needed to, like, like, oh, I'd feel bad if I don't go around saying goodbye to everyone. First of all, do you think that they even care that I'm saying goodbye? What I also then was doing as I was doing double goodbyes, saying goodbye once? Then I end up seeing someone else now here again now doing a round two. I mean, my god, I got you in five hours. Jesus, Enough's enough? Uh? Just oh my god. These are the ones that get me because

it's like, am I not reading it right? Uh? Just tall lee love, just a lee love, just a little love, no idea, Okay, I'm sorry girl or guy curus o. After what you've been through in love? Do you trust again? Really bad last two years and have no desire to ever put myself out there again? Well, let me just take Steve. I did. I was. This has been my problem. I totally believe in love, which is why I have jumped into things way too quickly without a vetting process.

After my last situation, I was like, I'm going to just take a hard time out, not a twenty second time out, a hard time out, and then you just never know when someone's going to come into your life. I was terrified to start dating again because I didn't want to have to like go back into that cesspool and all the nightmare stories that we hear from our girlfriends about dating. I got really lucky and got set

up in this situation, so he was already vetted. But I think that you can't be afraid because, like anything, if you want, if that's what you want, then like it sucks. Heartbreak is terrible, and divorce is terrible and all those things. But what's worse is being in something that doesn't make you happy or just being like it's okay, I'll just be alone forever. Like I don't want to be alone. I am like a teammate kind of gal.

I want to have a partner with And like there's literally I was thinking about this today as I was walking into CVS to like pick up travel stuff. You'll be so proud of me. I've already packed my little travel things. This is the new nal. But I was thinking about this and it was kind of obnoxious. So justinie love, here's a side tangent. When you get it right, there's literally nothing better in the world. And like I was so envious of Aaron and Jarrett and I was like,

I'm never going to find that. Or like my old boss Lisa, she always called like her husband Gary. She's like, you have to find a Gary. And there's nothing better in the world than finding your Jarrett, finding your Gary, because everything in life is better. Like every day I wake up and I try to act like this is like some perfect relationship, but like my whole life is better and I'm so infinitely happy, and I think about how much time I wasted staying and things that I shouldn't.

So the very very long winded answer to your question is, don't be afraid, because on the other side could be the greatest thing that could ever happen. Yeah, and we're your friends too, because we had a really really fun adult dinner last week. Chris and See came over to see Mac and then we went asked and had a really great dinner and I had I had only had one cocktail and I was just like, guys, before I order my second, I just want to say I love

Steve so much. I'm so happy and like selfishly like I'm in the in the relationship as well, but it's like I feel like I have gained another best friend. I mean, I no offense. I call him just as much as I call you. Yeah. No, And but there's something I've never had that I've never had that in

a relationship. So and when you said that, it meant so much to me because friends are part of a relationship, because there's a lot of times that I wasn't able to go out with a lot of my friends because they couldn't stand the other person on the other side of the table. So it's better a point is just lee love and to Aaron's sweet sentiment, it's better for the whole group. So you put yourself out there, sister, I'm telling you, it's way better than the alternative. Kelsey Bench,

You're up, sister, Kelsey Bent seventeen. Aaron, which Disney princess would you be? Great? Question all of that. I know I love a little Cinderella action, but I identify more with tinker Bell. And I know she's a faery, but I love her so much. So there's that I didn't know this why I just love tinker Bell because it was Walt's like first kind of like you know, a female like he loved tinker Bell. It's kind of. It's she I'm fixing my life over Here's She's based off of

Marilyn Monroe. So there's so much little history. See, there's so much to Disney except for the crowded park and the rides that I want to teach you. And you're gonna go, and you're gonna have a cocktail with me and Mack and you're gonna have the best time. I love the going only with Mac. Yeah, obviously that's adorable. I didn't know that there was a connection there, Okay. I do like little history. So if you supply the history and the cocktails and your child, I'll go to Disneyland.

That is the only time I will agree to go. And Walt loved a cocktail. Loved a cocktail. And in his little house that I got to go to above Main Street, USA, the fire station. It was his little apartment that he kept there for his families, like and if he was entertaining guests and so forth, he had a grilled cheesemaker and I ton of alcohol. Walt was a time there was a hard part of me that wanted to name Mac wall I'm not gonna lie to you. I was not in our rotation of names, but I

don't know. I mean, the more I start to learn about Walt, the more in I am, Oh he's great, uh m three prize like or dislike surprises. I love surprises. Don't throw me a surprise birthday party ever, ever, ever, ever, I don't want to. As much as I like being the center of attention, it's such a weird thing, like I like, I'm this is probably some psychology thing where it's like, okay, Chris is, sit down. You don't need

to like take over the room. You don't need to always tell a story, you don't need to be loud, like sit the fuck down. But so I like doing that, like I like being like, but I don't like being the center of attention. Like That's why even in my weddings plural, I never had a wedding, big wedding. I never had like a big birthday party. I've never had any of that stuff because I don't want it to be about me. I don't want to feel obligated. I

don't want to disappoint anyone. I don't want to feel like to go around and talk to everybody, so that I'm not into. But I love a surprise, like if you like random, like you'll do this, like because you're so generous, like if it's flowers or if it's anything like that, like my massage, Like I love things like that. I'm into a surprise, but not a surprise party. And if you ever put my name on that goddamn JumboTron

and propose to me, it is a hard No. I would be mortify, mortified if I was one of those women. And if you're doing that, then you don't know me, will you? Or the kiss cam? God, no, do you like surprising? I'm big smooch on your cheek on a kiss cam. I'm not afraid you're I don't feel like you're a surprise gal. No, I'm so by the book annoying and boring. I know. Fuck no, I'm not interested. Not today. Oh my god, Ryan from left Field, welcome back.

Something Borrowed is the name of that movie. Thank you, Ryan. I just opened up my chat Ryan, something by missed him. It's an Emily Griffin book. Now I remember I read the book and like, these are like these like rom com books that they make into movies and I loved it. Yeah, if you guys haven't seen it. Kate Hudson adorable. I can't remember the other actress's name in it, but it has to do with the kissing the best friend that

will do all right. Well, we have more to talk about, including Aaron being a heartbreaker or our hair advice, and the season is starting. Ladies and gentlemen join us on the full length podcast now. Thank you for submitting your questions and remember you can do them anonymously. Calm Down with Aaron and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.