Episode 14: Vision Boarding with Heather McMahan

she is. She's the person. When I watched her Instagram, I can't you can't have the volume off because what she's saying is so hilarious and relatable and it's always what I'm sending you my girlfriend Megan, my girlfriend Jackie. I'll make Jarrett watch it. Jarrett now knows her because she's so funny. Her voice is so recognizable that um, he's always like, Oh, is that your girl? Is that

your girl? And I actually reached out to her because she was having a rough go with a round of fertility that she was very open with and it didn't go well. She had to stop in the middle of it, and I was just like, listen, been there six times, got it, whatever you need and It's crazy because I feel like, you know, those are the things that people kind of bond over, and you know, I feel like she's my best friend, but she is. She's a time. We gotta go to Atlanta. I'm actually going to be

in Atlanta for a Thursday night game this year. If you want to come, Okay, and I wanted to work on Thursday, I want to know you may, but um, I want to go like there two days early and go to her favorite restaurant, meet her husband, meet her mom, go golfing, all the things. Yeah, we will talk to her and just a little bit. As I mentioned, follow her on Instagram. It's at Heather K McMahon. Her Her description of herself just says at all comedian with a

thick neck and thin ankles, doing the most. She's a time. So more with her in a little bit. But first, sister, how was your weekend? Our new sort of thing that we're introducing here on the podcast because we're making it up as we go. You're high and you're low. What do you got the high and the low? Um? I don't really know. It was a very chill weekend. My sister came over. We were laughing about the tattletale episode that we had, I did get it wrong. I would

like to clarify it here on Calm Down podcast. I didn't tell my mom and dad about her smoking. She told my mom about it, and my mom's like, oh please, if that's the worst thing. And then what I did tell she did a keg stand in junior high and I ran out the door and told she was that was still a tattletale, just for a different thing. Okay, got it and later in life, Later in life. So yeah, no, very chill weekend. Hung out with some friends and we had a great time. Yeah. A lot of hockey going

on in our house. The playoffs are happening. My husband used to play for the Edmonton Oilers, so he's very dialed in on that. I'm dialed in on the Tampa Bay Lightning series, which I'll go ahead and plug our I g I was losing my mind. I checked in on the Calm Down podcast. They were down during the game, so I was, you know, doing a I need to calm down, and Jared's like yelling at me because I live and die with every goal, every shot on goal,

every save. Asco Leski, let's go. You heard me. So Jared's like, calm down, and I was like, you know what, you freaking calm down because you don't know what it's like to be a fan. You're out there playing. This is how fans act in the stand. I was a thousand times worse when you played. So anyways, he leaves the room, thank god, because I can't watch it with him. Then I go and I pour a tequila because I was like, you know what, I'm gonna be in a

better mood. I'm gonna be looser, I'm gonna be calmer. It's gonna be great. I poured tequila. These guys scored four goals after I poured the tequila. It was like it was in the second quarter. It was amazing. Who needs a rally cap? You got a rallied night, you got Don Julio. So I get on the Calm Down podcast. I g I'm like praising Don Julio. I found my good luck charm. They lose, they lose by a goal. That's on them, though, do you squander a four goal lead?

Like that's on you, right, I know. But anyways, amazing Saturday game. We've got a game in a few hours on this Monday got to close up this series. I mean, I'm really invested, but I do. I been Saturday. I had to come down stairs and watch the game because I had to change it up. I couldn't watch up there were They lost, so we had to be down here. Me and how He Daddy was not invited. We had to be by ourselves. They pulled it out. How's your weekend?

I know, I'm not into any playoff series right now, gonna be honest, like, can you chext me? The other night about Lebron's nonsense? And I was like, I'm not even watching this, Like I don't know why. I'm just not into normally. I don't know. I think because it's like I'm not gambling on anything, so I'm not as invested. I don't know, because I'm like saving my money right now or something. And I got it, got it? I U yeah, But you know, I don't know. Maybe you

know the storylines, no shock to you. I do. I love all of that, so I I, yeah, I don't know why, so maybe I'll maybe I'll get behind it. What game we got tonight? What game is this? For the Lightning games? There's a lot of hockey games, but it's different in my house because we have former you know, teammates, and why was better with other games. Jared's involved in the Oilers, you know, alumni organization. I live and breathe the lightning. So a lot of big games on tonight,

but I don't know what's going on in basketball. I turned over the other yesterday to see the Knicks game because I kind of wanted to see the whole hoop about it. That's exciting, That is better when the Knicks are good. Yeah, um yeah, all right, I'm gonna get I'm gonna get back into it. By that, I mean I'm gonna get my wallet out and so I can be more invested. So you can't pay attention unless you're betting.

What's the deal? I mean, is that a called an addiction or well, I don't know if my sponsors over there, I don't know. Um no, I don't know. I'm just I'm into it. But because you know why, I'm not talking about it daily, think about it like once. You know, we're not in on a show that talks about sports daily anymore. So I'm just sort of a little checked out of I throwing myself into a lot of house and home stuff, lately trying to get that company up and going. So anyways, but how is that going? By

the way, good? I'm mom. You know, anybody that needs their home virtually signed, or if you're in the local area Los Angeles or New York and be happy to design your house. You know what's actually happening. Everyone's getting out of their house right now because of vaccinations, so they're not really interested in the pillows right now. But I understand happened. Flow, it is what it is. I saw this so and I was reading an article and

I thought of you. How they were talking about how to make your bedroom cozier, how to And I'll say this about my girlfriend Chrissa. She can make your coffee table and it's maybe the same coffee table you've been looking at for a year, and you're like, all right, this isn't you know? You can make a coffee table

look fabulous. You can make a console look fabulous. And I will say this article was talking about how everybody kind of just has been sitting there looking at the same crap in their house and they want to refresh or redo because now people can come over. So if you feel like you need to refresh, you need to redo.

Look at my girls. She can do it virtually. You don't have to be here in l A. And I will tell you little things like you've taught me, like just changing out your bed sheets, like adding pillows, you know, changing out like different coffee table books and little knickknacks. That does go a long way. You think you're cute, you know, Jared, he walks around with the checklist and writes to figure things out. I love you, thank you, Yes,

I am you know. And we'll talk to Heather about it in a little bit later on, because she's got a lot of different things going on and continually trying to reinvent yourself, you know, I mean all the success that you've had with where and yes sports pays our bills, but there's a lot of other things that we like to do. I mean, even the podcast, for you know, example, is something that is new for us, but something enjoyable

in a new platform. She's got a wildly successful podcast. Um, we will talk to her about that and a whole lot more. What's something that you're excited to ask her about? I love She was talking about the other day of going back on the road again, and just like what that's like for a comedian. We know what it's like for as a sideline reporter or sports broadcast or what

you know, the grind is like. But she talked about after shows, you know, there's nothing open except at Wendy's to have a chicken sand and I'm like, yeah, I get it, been there. You know, asked V to drive me to wine after a game. You know, hey, V, can we go to a dry through? I love the tell everybody who V is. We are fortunate to have V with us. He is Fox Sports Security. He looks after us, and he kind of knows where the bodies are buried with the both of us because you just

start talking to him about everyday life. He walks that, you know, he walks us out on the field. He stands with us. Do you know that V's a huge Seahawks fan the Seahawks. That's how professionally is because he doesn't even bring that in saying but we'll sit there and we'll be like, oh, God, best story, so and I know we have to go. But when this year was really hard at halftime interviews because um, you know, I couldn't be down on the field, so the coaches

were down and I was one row up. You can't hear crap, especially in Seattle. It's loud. Pete Carroll's very fast talker. You know he's not gonna scream. I'm trying to ask a question. I'm laying on the floor of where the front row is because he's down low in his like standing up high to try to talk to me and I can't. So I'm laying on the floor to get my of the stadium. You know, yes, you know who's laying with me. V V wants to hear

for me. I'm like, I can't freaking here, and I need to know if Russell's okay, like he just hit his hand really hard or something like that, and what is this defense gonna do to get to Jared Goff and like things like that. And it's like V. I said, V, I can't hear, and he's like, so he lays down

on the floor. Knock it split the V dot the I curl the C T O R Y. He is victory personified that the um you know who else is Heather McMahon and she's coming up next year and you're the queen of our I g account handles again for our listeners. And viewers at Calm Down podcast and tonight for the Lightning Game. I will not be giving a period by period recap because it's bad luck. Man. All right, well, Arry's superstitious. We'll talk to Heather McMahon coming up after

the Just Come Down podcast. You very super just show Roden's on the wall. Well you know how this works because you're a pot expert, so we don't need any more precursory conversations. What up, girl, I'm gonna tell you this right now. I fell in love with you because Aaron and his friend Jen was like, I'm obsessed with Heather. This was years ago. She was on your tip from the jump. Then it's a good one to be on.

By the way. At the Bruno Mars concert at the Super Bowl in Atlanta, she forget Bruno Mars, forget Cardi b This bitch b lines to you. She starts knocking people down, she gives you the biggest hug, and she's like obsessing. I was like, She's like, it's Heather. And then the love affair really began. And then Aaron fell in love with you, and here we are, we're all just in love. Well, I love you. Can I tell you something. I don't know if I'm allowed to say

this out whatever. I was just gonna say, you can ddit this out. Later at the Bruno Mars concert, I didn't know I had never done mushrooms before. I didn't know that I had micro doosed mushrooms as somebody gave me a little piece of chocolate, but I didn't know that's what it was. I was like, oh, sweet treat.

And so halfway through that concert, they end up putting me on the jumbo tron for the whole concert because I was having such at the time that the guy who was running the cameras was like, this chick is losing her mind, and like this is the funniest thing ever. So then they're just blasting me on mushrooms, unbeknownst to me, all over the big screen. So that's how your friend found me. Quick question about that and I'm asking for a friend. Did you laugh so hard you piede your pants?

I'm asking for a friend. I have never had such an emotional, hysterical journey. It was the greatest night of my life. And I didn't realize that three days later that that's what I was on. I just thought I had like a couple of white wines. I was feeling loose. It was great. Oh my god. So Heather, we have so much to talk about and we don't have that much time with you because you are such a busy lady. Good Grief, lots of things. We got a whole TV

show about your life, start from the beginning. Yeah. So I mean, listen, you know, I'm in that production deal. So you never know what's up and what's down with these things. Hollywood, It'll get you. Yeah. So we're just turning her script and we're waiting to get the green light for the show. And the show is called Good Grief,

and it's a comedy based on my life. My dad passed away from cancer about six years ago, and I picked up my life and moved home and I literally moved in with my mom, and it was just like, that's really when my comedy career took off. I was living in l A, you know, going through the motions and what I thought I needed to do for my career. And it wasn't until I moved back to the South and I had a new perspective and like kind of the new lease on life. I was like, all right,

I'm in a really shitty situation. I got to make the best of it. And then that's kind of when my career took off. So this show is based on like that time when I moved home after my dad passed, And is that what you keep teasing on? Absolutely not like is that what you keep teasing on your podcast? Okay, Because I was saying to Christi, she keeps saying, well, I'm you know, I'm bev been grinding here. I got something going on. I'm like, is that what you're doing?

Or you got something else happening here? Well, no, listen, I've got I feel like very spread thin in the sense that I feel like when you're in entertainment you have to have sixteen different irons in the fire. You get it, Yeah, you get it. Yeah, Like if you don't have a podcast, you know how to do TikTok dances. Um, you know, I've got a whole stand up tour. I gotta finish. Like It's it's kind of crazy, the amount of things. It's not just like, hey, you're an actor

and you're on a TV show anymore. Hey you're a commentator, you're doing sports, Like you have to have sixteen different things going on at once or you're not doing enough. So I'm exhausted, but I'm blessed, so I'm not gonna I'm not going to complain at all. Hashtag blessed throw that in there. You mentioned going back home, so for the for people that don't know you, which is only a handful of people, sort of walk us back. And you mentioned being in l A. Did you have aspirations

of being an actress? I mean, like where did where did that career start to present day? Um sort of broad strokes for you. Well, I moved to New York right after college. I've got in a theater arts degree in Mississippi, and I was like, okay, this is it. Like I knew I wanted to do like SNL or sketch comedy. And then I got more in the stand up. And then from New York, I mean to l A. And I was like, this is exactly where I need to be. And then I kind of had this oh

ship aha life moment happened. My dad died very quickly of cancer, and so I just kind of picked up my life, moved back to Atlanta. I thought it was just gonna be like a two week thing. A month thing. You know, I come in like a hero, helped my mom pick up the pieces, helped my sister and I figure out what our new life looks like without our dad.

And then I was here and I stayed, and it was really wild how my career shifted once I think I had gone through something I don't want to say, like, yeah, it was traumatic, but I had just a totally different new perspective and it made my comedy so much more rich because I I was speaking from such from just

a different um, a different level, I don't know. And then and then I think it made me more relatable and people were like, oh, okay, she's speaking from her real truth instead of putting on all these characters all the time. And so now, I mean, I still dabble and do characters, and I loved to put on a wig and a Fannie pack and have some fun. But really my sense of like comedy is just my style of comedy storytelling and like, you know, sharing my own

human experience. I can relate to that, and I like it is. You know, I think I'm hilarious, but you're so right, people can relate to you. I get stocked publicly. I go through this massive trial. I get cervical cancer. And then women are like, we like her, She's not just a hoe on the sidelines. Now we like her. Now she's cool to be. You like me, you really like me. But we know the grind you know of

being a sideline reporter. We know the grinds of being in small towns or big towns, living out of a suitcase, being at hotels. I loved on your podcast this week. You talked about your tour and like you eat like ship, you get cheese boards, and then what's open at midnight? A freaking Wendy's went by the way, those chicken sandwiches I would house. It's not a problem. And that's the same for us, Like we get done with the game. We've jacked ourselves up on coffee all day, and I'm

housing three red wines and a burger. But just talk about the grind of being a comedian so we can relate to it, you know, because we're not in that world. We're in sport. Well, listen, if you're doing like a local show, you know you're in a dingy bar or like a basement Imbov club. I mean I came up in like the upright citizens Brigade World where we would literally do shows underneath the grocery store in this like dingy little club in New York. And then being on

the road. I mean, listen, I love it as much as I love doing TV and film and all that. You can never take away that high, that rush you get from a live audience. But I mean, you know, I thought my first big tour was going to be like staying at the Ritz. We were staying at like a romantic end by the airport because we had to catch it. You know, when you don't get out stage so one am the night before. I mean, it is not glamorous. It is a hustle. It is a grind.

You're just you sweat for two weeks on the road. You're like, I don't know why I'm wet, but I'm just wet. That was me bit of alcohol because I'm drinking every day. Hair dryer connected to the wall in the bathroom, you know, that's when it's go. That thing's overheating because you can only use it for thirty seconds and that thing always fucking breaks and then you got to call down. You're never getting that thing within two

hours and forget it. Got to change rooms. Yeah, when did you you know you mentioned obviously the the I'm very sorry of course, of the passing of your father and how quick that happened and changing sort of your perspective on everything. Did it kind of make you go fuck it? Like you really giving yourself the license to say, like, I don't care if I make fun of myself or this or that anymore, because the loss of someone so

significant in your life puts it all into perspective. Oh absolutely, I didn't give a ship and so kind of now and listen, my comedy hasn't changed and still who I am. I'm always very self deprecating, like I always make fun

of myself first. But it was interesting. I kind of went through the grieving process publicly and but it was fartic for me, like I would share an Instagram stories and make videos and talk about it through characters, and it just became such a relatable thing where I was like, Oh, when you're going through grief, you really feel like you're the only one who's experiencing it. And then once you go through and you're like, oh, there's so many other

people who have experiences. There's so many other folks who are breathing different things. And I especially think over the last year, like all the ship we've been through, um that everybody's kind of now had this collective like oh ship moment, and it's just kind of I don't know. It just pushes me to live in a joyful lane. Like my my sense of comedy is just I like to be joyful and I like to giggle. And life's

too short. You gotta enjoy every day and not take yourself too seriously, like yes, fuck it, I don't care. You know, if you don't like me, then then keep moving because I gotta do what I gotta do and bring myself joy. Where is Jeff Daniels is the real question? Where so that dreambok For those of your who are listening and you don't know, my husband's name is Jeff Daniels, But not the Jeff Daniels for the movie Dumb and Dumber or um the news He's not the famous actor

and Aaron's ex boyfriend. You know, Heather that the opening scene in Newsroom, Jeff Daniels comes back from vacation with this horror in the Bahamas. Now, of course, she's never actually dated Jeff Daniels, but Barren Sorkin writes in her as the girl that he's dating in the show. How funny is that, Jeff Daniels. Look, it's all coming together. I did not know this. Also, how did you feel

about that? I didn't know about it until people. You know, I've never gonna be honest, didn't really watch the newsroom at all. And then people started like talking about, you know, my name being used, and I was like, okay, first of all, could I make an appearance? Of all, could I get paid? Would be great? And then third of all, g m A allowed me to work, you know, the red carpet for the Oscars, and I actually met him and I was like dying. I was like, hey, I'm

Aaron Andrews. Could I possibly be in season two? What are we doing here? Obviously that went over really well because I didn't get paid or be in it. But you know, so the only Daniels you're saying absolutely not. The only JAF Daniels I'm sleeping with is my Italian salient, And um, yeah, I mean he's upstairs reading a golf magazine. I mean, I don't know, he's obsessed. He's like semi retired right now, which means he's just trying to He plays golf seven days a week. I don't know what

he does for work. He could be in the mafia. I don't know, um, but I asked him the other day. I was like, for you practicing for the Senior Tour because I don't I don't know what's going on. Jeff, Yeah, you need to get a job. So I'm just enjoying himself and laying golf all the time. I love it. You guys have a great relationship. It's just one of the many things people love about you is that you

share everything. When did when did this? I mean, by the way, you know, we're not going to let you get through this without mentioning the Jay law siding in the background. Casual Jennifer Lawrence, She's just sitting on the couch. What's training here? Okay? This is the wild thing. You forget that, like you know, you have a podcast, and you forget that, like people actually tune into this stuff, or like I forget that people actually follow me on

like social media. So I didn't evenil one day and it's just say from Jennifer Lawrence, She's like, Hey, huge fan, love the podcast, would love the chest shut. I thought it was like Jennifer refreshes refreshing. Yeah, well, I thought it was somebody from accounting. I had no idea. I was like, oh, somebody. I I just figured like I owed someone money. I did not think twice about it. And then she's like call me, So I'm like, okay, I'll call Jennifer Lawrence an accounting like what what's this

bill I owe? And then literally it was just her and she's like, hey, I think your hysterical. You've got me through quarantine and this last year and we just became like best friends and she's a dolt. She's so so great. Oh my god, it seems like everything. So I worked the entertainment show Extra and there were some real assholes. Let's just you know, we won't name Jennifer Lopez right now, but let's get it quiet, let's get um.

But Jennifer Lawrence I was always like, loved interviewing her because she is just what you said, like would be that person that sends the email like, hey love you, let's be friends. I wanted to be friends with her, but she by proxy, I feel like we're all in this together. But yeah, she's amazing. From afar so great. And I gotta say, heard some slid in my d MS a while ago and I was like, oh my god,

no I did. I freaked out. And then I just adore you because you've been like sending you the kindest messages through fertility and all this ship I've been going through. And it's just interesting though, because this is how you meet people now in the modern day. It's not weird Moore. Just to get an email from somebody's like, yo, watch yourself, think you're great, let's be friends. I love it. I just think it's very late. That's how I slept with

some people. Heather. You know, you just gotta you gotta do it. You know, I was a single gal out there in the streets. I said, you take this to the d m s and you know what, that blue check goes far because they're not responding with that check. So you get a verification in here, you know which. By the way, Heather, somebody, we've all had our fair share of meth needles amongst us three and I you know, big hug to you, and we've all I've done this

and are doing this. Yeah you started today again. Well, here's the here's the irony of all this. I was trying to freeze my eggs because I'm, you know, thirty four in my career. Things you're happening, I was like, I gotta like have options, and then I got to do started to freeze the eggs, and they were like, your body is not responding to this. So it was a real mind funk to be like, wait a minute, hold up. I thought it was being proactive and then

it's not working. So therefore I had no idea fertility was an issue, and now I'm going to second round and if not, then I think I'm just gonna you know, we'll see. But you know, nobody tells you there's no manuale when you get to college, like, hey, you should learn about fertility. I really think there should be some sort of course, like a core curriculum class in school where you gotta learn your freshman year, this is how your ovaries worked, you know, like this is this is

what no one tells you until it's too late. M M. I know, I went. I went. I mean this one told me. She she encouraged me to go and then ended up going to the same place and helped me through all of it. I mean that's leaning on your girlfriends for supporting that, and I end up only getting six eggs. I don't even know if they're viable or whatever. So it's like, you know, I thought that i'd have a lot more. Anyways, we don't. You know, we never know. But it's good that you can lean on each other

and support each other. Six times over here, I freaking had six times. Look, it is a time, but I mean there is some real and I'll tell you I when I started, you got me through quarantine too. I know I'm not j Lon and I get it, but there are times that I am laughing my ass off and I'm watching you on i G and my husband's like, God, she's hilarious, and like I was playing your IVF stories for him because I'm dying to know how Jeff was you.

I remember you talked about one of your girlfriends came over and you mixed she had They're mixed it for you whatever. I mean, I've actually been wasted because we were celebrating that we had just gotten one of the embryos that we had worked so hard for. So we got hammered in our house and then my girlfriend called me and said, can you come do this, and I'm like looking at the pist, like, oh shit, do I have this right? What how is Jeff when you're injecting?

What is he like? Because mind's watching Seinfeld laughing, not helping me. Yeah, Jeff isn't either, and his his thing is that he is a fear of needles because he has baby veins that he always special treatment when he gives blood. Listen, I'm telling you I've learned so much ages about how the female body works. But I'm like, we can do anything. I mean, listen, he's a support, but he's not gonna inject me, and honestly, I wouldn't

want him to. I'm like, no, you've got he He has like flicked fingers and he's always kind of like jumpy. I'm like, I don't need you to be injecting, no, m but don't. But have an open mind this time around, because listen, this whole thing that I found out is it's a freaking science project. Your first time, it's like, unless we're cute and we're twenties six and we have seventeen million eggs to freeze, I'm adorable. I obviously didn't get that the second time around. They're like playing with

the potions. Right, It's like Harry Potter, they're playing with the mixtures. Then you're putting it in and then that may not work. I mean, like I said, I did it six times. What a treat. I I got in the worst fight with my husband about peanut butter in a smoothie. Like we broke up as I was hormonal. I mean, I know you've been talking about how hormonal you are, but it's fine. You're so normal, Okay, Okay, I needed to hear that you are. You are exactly.

You're not alone on that. And speaking of marriage, as though Heather you were going to have a big wedding in Italy, you're still gonna have one, right, I can have a big yeah. But yeah, you guys ended up getting married to I got married during quarantine. I also met my husband like five minutes before I got married, because I was like, look, someone's into me, so let's just let's lock it up before he before he changes his mind. I mean five So I rushed my situation.

But you guys got married in quarantine, but still are going to have the big wedding. Yeah, I mean I I specifically chose to have a wedding in Italy so that I could cut the fat and I wouldn't have like six hundred stories sisters show up from the University of Missiffic. But then, um, now we had to rush and go to the courthouse by the end of the year because they're Everything that we've had to do has been so non glamorous. Our accountant was like, hey, you'll

save a lot of money if you file jointly. So it was like December one and we were like rushing to the courthouse to save a couple of dollars um. But yeah, I mean listen, at this point, we pushed it off another year. I'm like, do I want to have have the party? Yes? Well I were why did this point? Probably not, you know, but I'm always an animal break gal anyways, So but I'm hoping to have that party one day. Yeah, I love it, as as noticed to

the Oh sorry, you go ahead. No, I was just gonna say, what's your favorite I was thinking about this last night because we were talking about Italy and how we can't wait to go back favorite dish in Italy, favorite just restaurant? What do you got for me? Because I don't know where you like to go in Italy. I go everywhere, but I am okay, my heart isn't Tuscany, I said, I haven't been there yet. Girl, Well we've just set a Malfi coast love Amalfi. It's yeah, yeah, yeah,

very very ririch. Um. I love Tuscany though, because I love just like you can get into these tiny little town here's one of my favorite restaurants. I don't even know the name of it. That. It's this tinytown name called monthro Gione, and you just go in and you just order whatever they're cooking and they just make it. It's not one specific dish, it's just It's also that you can drink like three bubbles of wine at lunch and it's never frowned upon. You know, is there ever

an early time? I mean I may or may not have already opened up a Corona light that's sitting over there. I don't know. I mean it's a Monday. We're here, you're right, right, I mean? Why not? Um? You know your podcast you mentioned to Jay law sending you the email because she loved it. She's not alone. Um, why did you want to start a podcast? And what has been?

As you know, we're newbies in the space. What would be a piece of advice that you could give us the pros and the best advice that you got and the one thing we shouldn't do. Great question. Well, you know, it's interesting doing comedy. I think that the podcast is just another extension of like stand up and it's interesting. I got so um bogged down and trying to have like these perfect guests and these big names, and I felt like, oh, I've got to have people, and I've

gotta have somebody else carry it. But then it's like I was carrying my own ship. So nowadays I just teased. For the last like four weeks on my podcast, I've been like we had a huge exciting guest coming in that I've had no one on It's just me, and those end up being like the episodes that uh like people enjoy the most, where it's just me jogging to a wall for an hour and a half. You know. But I think it's just don't put the pressure on

yourself to try and make it perfect. It's just whatever you're feeling in that moment is what you got to roll with, you know. I just I think we all try to make everything so perfect and and tie up with a button and a bow. But like, screw it, just say you're freaking feeling you know. I gotta tell you.

My girlfriend she texted me, whatever day it was the day after your last one came out, and you were talking about being out and we are back and the Neo song being on and you were, you know, getting after it, and she just texted me and she goes, you, guys, this podcast, I like feel it in my soul. Well, cut to Saturday. We were feeling a lot of things in our soul. We were all together and um, we were just having a time. And as I kept saying, we were passing the remote around of who wanted to

play what music. Wise, someone put on like a prayer. I started re enacting the video. I was screaming, give me a PEPSI. A lot of my friends are in their early thirties, so they didn't get it. Um, but I was like, give me a PEPSI. My girlfriend who had texted me about you, I was like, her name is Heather as Well. I'm like, hey, this is like the podcast, and she's like, I feel it in my soul. Like it was just we were dropping down, you know, like like you and the hair was getting wrapped around

like it was a time I missed. I'm not even a nightclub girl, but I missed being in like a tight bandage dress from like BB What was it? What was that? That one we could never afford so we could never knocked off? Yeah, we couldn't be knock off. Yeah, I thought it was bab and then somebody said it was baby, And I'm like, if I stands you close to a fire or a loose cigarette in this dress, like the whole place is going to burn down. And

I'm not talking about my extensions, but the dress. Yeah, the dress, I mean those I just I went on this girls trip with some of my girlfriends and we were just like in a beach far and they're blasting like pitfull, which is like my favorite artist, and I just felt so alive. I had a cold drink in my ind and I just hyped. The hair was matted to the back of my neck. I was so sweaty from dancing, and I was like, I feel slutty and I feel fabulous right Well, when Mr worldwidees on, nothing

can go wrong, but it is, can you? I can't. I mean, there's already a little bit of chaos in the streets because everyone just like, Okay, this summer is gonna a lot of people are getting STDs pregnant. Things are happening over here because while on I mean, I'm not even mad at it, we don't even know how

to control ourselves. And that's the thing. Like when things started to kind of open up, but I was just going back out for work meetings and working again, I'm like, oh, I like social butterfly, and I don't know how to like have a pool call Brsachia with somebody. I didn't even know like what to do with my body, Like my body language has been weird. So then when I really got to like let my hair down, I was like, oh, yeah,

I'm just gonna be clubbing this summer. I don't know why, but just gonna find me in a dirty nightlill probably by myself, not even when, not even with my girlfriends. Just I'm gonna go out for a solo drip. I died when you were on your I G and you had just you I think you were visiting New York and you were like you had a cab salve in your hand and you were like, this is just how I feel. You ordered a goddamn a rugula pizza or something.

I was like dying because I get it. Yeah, like we just want to be back to that, back to it. How is Atlanta these days? It's hot, It's hot. It's great. I mean, I never It's so funny. Every time I leave Atlanta, it pulls me back, you know, I like left to go do the thing, and then it just drags me back. And so we were living in New York during the pandemic and came down here to keep

an eye on my mom. And my husband looked at me, and he's a born and raised New Yorker and he was the one who was like, you want to get out of New York. I was like, you said it. I didn't. But if you're the New Yorker and you want about I'm reading about Yeah, it's great. I mean I love being here. I love being back in the South. So we're having to go down. How's your mom? We love your mom? I mean, who doesn't what I hoped? She just tells it like it is. Yes, an looks great,

Yes she does. Listen. Okay, since y'all are in like you know the world and I know I know, especially Aaron, who knows um big like football owners. My mom My mom is looking for like uhst Arthur Blank Arthur. Well he's got a girl. Well, yes, they all do until you know, gay meet your mom. Yeah, that's a good idea. That is great for me, hot on the trail. For

your mom, that'd be perfect. And my mom who always say she's like, I didn't understand why these girls go for the play It go for the guy who owns the team. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, man, who's signing those checks? Mom? That's right, I love it. We gotta find well. I mean, your rolodex is way more extensive than ours. I feel like you could connect some dots, but mine. Yeah no, I know, I know, like yeah, I know Oscar winners, but they don't they have any

connections to you know. I need a sports owner. I need some guy. By the way, Oscar winners are football rich. You know, there's a different different rich. Hey can I because I lived in Atlanta for a while, I still have a four or four number. I may give it to you just because I want you to have it. Um oh I well, um, but you always talk about the Henhouse and I want to go there so bad. It's the Henhouse right which called hen Mother cook House

and it's sorry hen Mother. Yeah, hen Mother Cookous. It's amazing. But if you didn't ever go to the Flying Biscuit, because I would go there every second day. I loved the Flying Biscuit. Let's love the Flying Biscuit. But once you have hand Mother Cookous, it'll change your life. And I found Chefs Rayah. I literally was like bitching on um Instagram one day. I was like, where is your like and I'm gonna move back. Where do I get great breakfast? And she messaged me She's like, girl on

down the street from your house. So it is in the birds, but it's incredible, and I think Atlanta is one of these cool cities where I think it is the best of everything we have incoment restaurants scene. We've got Southern hospitality, we've got great shopping, we have great nightlife. Like you know, if we're not in the pandemic, we're thriving. So the city is coming back and I'm so excited to be back. It's awesome. I love it. Heather, You're

very busy, but um quickly. Of course you've got the podcast. Absolutely not, You've got good grief. You've got Love Hard a new Netflix movie? What can you tell us about that? Um, it's hysterical, it's coming out this Christmas. Put Netflix on my vision board and they hired me, so it works. Um, you have to do what I'm gonna do. Yeah, time you do a vision board, because I've never done one, and I feel like I should. No, listen, it's so cheesy.

I did it one time. I was very like stoned on New Year's Day, hungover, and I was like, I'm just gonna do it because I like arts and crafts. And then two years later everything came true and it really freaked me out. So now I do it and it's wild. I just think Aaron was doing it. Yeah, do it? What do you do with it? Do you look at it every day? Do you say a prayer? What do you do? Um? I kind of you know what. I keep it in my office like I have it like right over my desk, and I just kind of

look at it. And then as things come to fruition, I feel like it's just constantly keeping what you want to do in your goals, like in your forefront of your subconscious you know what I mean? I love Okay, I've gone about too, and I used to think it was cheesy and I was like, are we doing this? Are we cutting out the magazine? Do we even have magazines to cut out what's going on here? But I'm gonna do it because if you look, I'm gonna follow

in your footsteps, sister, because it's true. It's wild how much how many things I've been able to, like check off the vision board. I'm like, guys, I did this kind of ironically and it's insane. So yeah, don we can have a Vision Moore party. We'll take mushrooms and door to crack. That sounds like, say for me, Heather, you're busy, We appreciate your time, thanks for having me. We need to calm down a word, yep, before we

let you go. Who needs to calm down? I'll tell you, And I'm calling one out on the women out there with ladies did a calm down when they say just have a baby? You know what I mean? Why aren't you just having the baby? You don't know what I'm going through. You don't know whether I'm dealing with fertility. You don't know whether it's not the right timing. These women who come up to you and you're like, why aren't you Why aren't you pregnant? Why don't you have

a baby? Want your mom? You have no idea? Home? The funk down. Let's deal with your ovaries and I'll deal with mine. In the meantime, we can support one another. But I'm not dealing with you asked me why I'm not pregnant yet? Okay, thank you? Check. Please we hear you, Heather, We are we are you on all of that, the community that is Instagram that brings people together and podcasts. You know, it all works out. So thank you so much for your time, thank you for having me, and

we'll continue to support all of your endeavors. It's awesome to see you succeed the way you are give amazing. Oh I will yeah, Well, y'all are amazing. Uh Aaron's mere number. Well you know we'll do our vision boards. I got you, We'll do our boards. Um you. Her bio says she's the best friend everybody wants. I tell everyone Charity is. So there you go. You know what I mean? There? You got him. I'll see it at him. Mother. We'll get we'll get some drinks and do some mushrooms

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