Today’s special guest is Gabrielle Thil, a “Soul to Soul Relationship Coach” who is passionate about helping women to fully embrace their love journey, releasing their insecurities and opening up to attract their magical soul to soul relationship. During this interview she shares her own journey and leads us through a “breath of fire” exercise to raise our energy so that in her words “ magic can happen”! Welcome Gabrielle! I'm so excited to have you with us today. But before we jump into the topic of soul to soul relationships, will you please tell our listeners a little bit about yourself? And how did you get into this work?
● Yeah, so, first of all, thank you so much for inviting me, I am really happy to be here with you. Everything started with my own struggles, in relationships 20 years ago. So, at that time in my life, I was working in the entertainment industry. And I had some relationships, but really, those that were not fulfilling, were not very happy. And I decided to consult with a relationship coach who was really working on the spiritual part of their relationships. And so I started to work with this woman, parents and friends… because I'm French. And I worked for a long time with this woman, and it opened me so many doors and my perspective and relationships and spirituality completely shifted. And, it's when I really started a deep work and the deep awakening of my soul. And I really started to see that my heart was so closed, because I was sort of ready to be rejected to be hurt. And so, in many ways, I was keeping myself safe. And so it was really complicated to be in a relationship without really allowing myself to be seen and to be vulnerable. So well, I did some, some deep work with this woman to reopen my heart and really reconnect my soul. And a few months later, I actually met my husband, on the “Pilgrim Paths” in Spain, my husband is Spanish and so I moved to Spain, a few months later, and we've been together since and so really, seeing those beautiful changes within me, led me to deepen even more as this work and I started to work with other teachers later on, to really deepen my, knowledge and wisdom around relationships and so this is how I then started to share with women I knew first, some friends and later on some, some clients and says, “This is what I have been doing now for a few years and really happy to see the changes and women coming back to their soul reopening their hearts in a way that feels safe for them so they can really embrace the love path and and finally, love and be loved.”
How wonderful that you went through the process first and had been, you know, brave enough to reach out for help from someone else. And then went on to provide that for other people. That's a beautiful story. What qualities does a woman need then? After you know, they'll go through this work like you did? And then what qualities do they need to attract a soul level relationship? What changes need to take place?
● Well, it's really about the awakening of the soul and the opening of the heart. And it's really deep, and it's really about being in touch with oneself and being authentic and aligned on one's true desires. Because I know many women who come and tell me, you know, I'm quite happy with my life and I really don't need a man in mine. It would be nice if girls, but you know that they don't even want to acknowledge the deep desire of their soul and of their heart, because deep down there is fear that might not be possible for them. And it's very hurtful to even think that it might not be possible. So they prefer closing the door, rather than facing those fears. So it's really about acknowledging and listening to the deep desire of our heart of our soul, this deep desire to love and be loved and, and being true to those desires and really about, reopening our heart and really listening to our soul. And so it's really about being aligned and authentic with what we truly desire.
Well, I know that you've mentioned opening the heart several times. And in you and I, in our previous encounters, I know you've talked about raising Kundalini energy and raising your vibration in your light as one of the processes for opening the heart. Can you lead us through a quick exercise, maybe something that you do with clients that we could do right now?
● Yes, of course. So, with the women in work, I always do lots of energy work because I have a background as a “kundalini yoga teacher'' as well. So I do lots of work around the rising of the Kundalini energy, which is the subtle energy of our soul. And so I always invite them to do lots of breath work, for example, to release some emotions or to release some fears or frustrations or beliefs, you know, because our breath is so powerful. So I would invite you to do a small “Breath of Fire”, for example, which is very powerful breath that we use a lot in kundalini yoga, and which really helped us you know, in this process of raising our Kundalini energy, so Breath of Fire is a breath, you will, so
you will inhale and exhale through the nose. And in the exhale, you will just contract the navel point slightly, okay. So, don't focus on the inhale because you will inhale naturally. Just focus on the exhale, and inhale, exhale, contract slightly the navel point so I will start doing this breath slowly. So you will hear my breathing which is quite powerful. So it comes like that and actually, Breath of Fire is very quick. So when you do it, you do it at this rate and so you can close your eyes and just, you know, be present with your breath and just, you know, allow everything to be moved by your breath… (puff,puff,puff).
● And now you can inhale deep through the nose. Return the breath for a few seconds and then exhale and just observe the little subtle changes in your body and mind just by doing this breath for 30 seconds. You might perceive it already in your body, in your mind, in your magnetic field. And just be present with whatever it is. And just do deep long breaths through scenarios to be fully present with whatever it is. And when you're ready, you're going to open your eyes. And, yeah, it's a very powerful breath. So we've just done 30 seconds right now. But “Breath of Fire”, when you do it for quite a long time, you can, you know, do many minutes, it really shifts lots of lots of things at an energetic level. And it really helps you transform many things. At a physical and mental and emotional level. So it's extremely, it's an extremely strong tool I use a lot with the women I work with. So the changes and the transformation is really embodied. Because it's essential that we really shift not only mentally but emotionally and, and physically as well. It's really how we transform ourselves. And we can really change behaviors and change the state of beings.
Wow, that was powerful. Even for the 30 seconds I had to, I had to kind of ground, put my feet on the floor and ground to get back into talking. talking out loud. So I'm sure our listeners felt the change. I just felt that that breath was just releasing all like pent up energy. I'm sure some toxins and debris were coming right out with it. And so thank you so much for that. And people can go on and use it for longer lengths of time. Without breaking any client confidentiality, can you share a case study or some client transformations with us?
● Yes, of course, I was thinking about a client I worked with some time ago. She's a beautiful woman who is around 36 years old now. And she had had different relationships in her life, but some of them had been quite violent, I would say emotionally, mentally, and even physically, and fortunately. And so she was in a place in her life. She had already done some work on herself as a therapist, but she was still in a place in her life where she wasn't sure she was really deserving, fulfilling a soul to soul relationship. And so we did lots of work around this, to help her release those, you know, difficult relationships and, and help her really embrace her beauty and wisdom as a
woman because, you know, women we have very incredible intuition and inner wisdom, but sometimes we just don't trust ourselves. So it's really about learning to trust ourselves again and sometimes it's really about taking it slow. You know, when we start a new relationship and one at a time, one step at a time, especially if in the past. You have been in relationships, which have been abusive in some ways. So it's really essential to really be in touch with your wisdom. And it really took time to see the red flags, right at the beginning, if there are some, you know, because sometimes when we're, you know, entering a relationship we feel quite passionate and, and so happy of this new
relationship that we so much want it to be successful, that we go back to the same patterns and avoid seeing those red flags. So it's really about, you know, trusting ourselves again, really embodying this belief that we do deserve beautiful, fulfilling soul to soul relationship, and being strong on our values and, and really trusting our inner wisdom to see the red flags at the beginning and, and saying no to relationship if we see a red flag, you know, it's, it's, it's so important and, and going one piece, one step at a time, you know, really taking your time will allow you to do that. So it's always something I advise my clients to do. So that it feels safe for them, you know, to enter a new relationship. So this woman, within a few months, after working together, she finally met a great guy. And so she followed my advice and decided to take it really one step at a time. When before she had entered her past relationships very quickly, this time, she really took the time to start their relationship at a pace, which really felt good for her heart. And she really listened to herself and, and really checked that there were no red flags this time. She has been in this lovely relationship since and she's very happy now.
Thanks so much for sharing with us. That's a great story…wonderful example of your work. Will you talk a little bit about self sabotage and relationships?
● Yes, well, it's so easy to sabotage our relationships. And usually, we do it in ways that we have learned from our childhood, you know, usually we will act or react a certain way in our relationships. And sometimes, if those ways were working for us when we were a child, and were in allowing us to, you know, get the attention, we wanted maybe or, you know, feel safe, in some ways, they were that those ways, don't work anymore as an adult, and so, when we keep on using those ways of acting, reacting, behaving in our relationships, we might end up you know, sabotaging them and it can be, you know, just by when we feel hurt, you know, creating some distance, it can be as, as simple as that, you know, and it's something many of us to, until we are conscious of it, and it was, it was one of the ways I was sabotaging my own relationships back, when I was in my, in my 30s, you know, and I see many women have the same the same kind of sabotaging behaviors, you know, when, when they feel hirt, instead of just acknowledging the feeling and sharing how they feel, they shut down and go away in some ways, you know, and, and of course, there is a distance which is created in their relationship, and sometimes, you know, it just adds every day and there is a moment when there is no way to, to come back in the relationship, you know. So, we all have our own ways to sabotage, but definitely in some ways until we are really searching to observe ourselves and see what works, what doesn't work, and maybe how we can, instead of reacting, start to respond more consciously. And sometimes, it's, it feels very vulnerable to change your behavior, and it's not comfortable. But, you know, if we want to have more fulfilling relationships and really feel a deeper connection with our lovers, it's really important to acknowledge those, somebody's defeating behaviors and start to act differently.
Yes, yes. You mentioned your husband earlier in your introduction, but will you tell the beautiful story of how you two met?
● Yeah, so when I started to do this deep work and the awakening of my soul. So I was living in Paris, France at that time. And you know, when you start working on yourself at a soul level, there have been these synchronicities, which stories to procure in your life. And I started to hear about a pilgrimage, which crosses different countries in Europe, which is called “El Camino de Santiago”, in Spanish. So it's a beautiful pilgrimage, which arrives in Santiago de Compostela line in Spain, in Galicia, at the very end of the country. And so I felt this deep inner calling to do this pilgrim path. And it was really a calling from my soul, because mentally, it didn't make any sense to go on this pilgrim path, you know, it was because it was once 1000 miles, you know, that I had to walk. It took me two months to walk this, this big green path, but there was such beautiful two months, you know, when I looked back at at this moment in my life you know, my, my pilgrimage was really life changing for me, and it really, so you know, so incredible because I really felt a deep connection to my soul to my, to this deep desire, just this incredible calling from my soul. And I really enjoyed this, this path, it was not always easy, because sometimes, you know, your body's just tired of walking and working because it was miles and miles every day for two months. Then about 10 days before reaching Santiago de Compostela. I actually met my future husband, it was in a small village close to Estonia. And, and so yeah, we saw each other and we started to chat in English, because I hardly remembered my Spanish at that time. And he didn't speak French, so we started to speak English. And, and, yeah, we started to, to work together and, and we ended up together and we've been together since and two years later, we had our child. And we called him Santiago, of course, because of this beautiful pilgrim path. And, and yes, very happy of, of really listening to this deep inner calling and embracing this green path and this is how I met my husband.
Beautiful story, and I love that you named your son, Santiago. It is so touching that it is just beautiful. So I have kind of a fun question to ask you. What would you consider your personal superpower?
● Oh, I would say “ I really believe in magic.” And in synchronicities and in, in those deep connections from soul to soul, which happen in a way that, you know, we, even our mind wouldn't imagine that it is possible, you know, but, you know, having met my husband this way, which was totally unexpected, just reminds me every day that life is magic. It's magical. And when we really start to listen … so magic happens. So this is my superpower. Always remembering my clients that magic happens every day.
And indeed, you've given us some examples of how magic can happen. So how can our listeners take the next step with you?
● So, I really would love to invite them to maybe watch, first, a video that they can access on my website, which is called “three secrets to attract a soul to soul relationship”. So they already would have a feel of my work. And if they are interested, maybe book a call with me, you know, I offer a real breakthrough session for the women who are, you know, thinking about working with me? So it's a 90 minute session. So if yes, if they feel
this inner calling to work with me first it would be to watch this video that they can access on my website. And then eventually book a breakthrough session with me so we can, you know, see each other and feel if it would be a good fit for both of us to work together.
Great. I just want to say that I personally watched the “three secrets'' video. And it was very enlightening and got me to know a little bit about you. So I would certainly encourage our listeners to watch that. And to go to your website, and we'll have this information posted on the show notes page. So thanks so much for spending this precious time with us. It was so appreciated. Thank you.
● Thank you so much. Really enjoy my time too. Thank you
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