Are you resilient? Resilience to me means t “the ability to spring back from life's difficulties, sometimes making mental, emotional, or behavioral adjustments”. According to Human development experts, there are seven interrelated components to being resilient: competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control. Today's guest Cindy Marie certainly is an example of all of these. She grew up in a life of concentrating on pure survival. She's been in the Philippines, Indonesia, Singapore, and now in Spain, and all along has had a desire to empower others. She indeed has a heart of service much more than just providing survival. She talks about unleashing your gifts. She has a podcast entitled “Empower your life “and we're privileged enough to have her today on the “Call IT in With Dar” podcast, so welcome Cindy Marie!
Before we dive into today's conversation about resilience, please tell the audience a little bit about yourself, and your exciting journey that brought you to where we are today.
● Awesome. First of all, thank you, thank you so much for this opportunity and having the opportunity to share my story in your podcast, I really, really appreciate it. And for those who don't know me, my name is Cindy Marie, and I'm originally from the Philippines, grew up in the Philippines, Indonesia, developed my personal and career pretty much in Singapore and now based in Spain to pursue, I think, ultimately, my highest mission and purpose in life. But before that, I came from a family whereby we truly believe that it's all about survival. So I came to, you know, finish my school and had a job. I didn't even take my tourism, education as part of looking for that job. But I just chose a call center because Call Center is part of high earners, you know, and that also helped me to improve my English. And after that, I told myself that I have more capabilities and abilities within me that I can explore. And I love to challenge myself. So I moved to Singapore and pretty much lived there for almost 13 years, where I explored really, really explored telecommunication as an admin as a sales support tele sales, moving to the last corporate job that I had was working in a media startup company like Netflix, and I was in content operations. Without background or experience. Again, I have this belief in myself that I have more to offer. And I'm very grateful that I, that they have accepted me to excel. And it was an amazing experience, really, until I realized how much I love editing videos, editing, and some images that I have implemented in my podcast, also called “Empower your Life. And with that job, I realized that something is not right. And I experienced the good life, you know, I climbed the ladder, I have a great position, great income, opportunity to travel to meet celebrities, and so on. But one of the things that really caught my attention was that I had like three to one week, I think, I fell sick. And I was really, really unable to do anything, just rely on my boyfriend, now my husband, to witness how weak I was. And I asked myself, what is happening? What am I doing? Is it really something I want to do, and I really, really love to serve people. So in fact, for the last jobs that I had worked with, or company that I have worked with, I always attended a lot of charity works, I continue attending projects for helping the environment get better, and all of these things that really resonate with my core values. And so I told myself, then I've got to do something. And I'm very, very grateful that my husband also supported my decision to quit, so I quit. That was a year before the pandemic started. And I'm so grateful that I have the space, I have the time to reflect. And I asked myself, so what do you really want to do? What is something that cinema can offer? And not only I focused on myself, I told myself that I'm really bold in terms of making a mission. And when I say mission, it's not really just for myself, because that's how I come up with the coaching because I want to serve people and empower people and that's why the name of my podcasts also empower your life. Because I just felt that I have something to offer to this world that is beyond myself, and I didn't know that coaching actually. A thing as a professional And even as a business that you can pursue until I have that time to reflect and really work on understanding what is it like being a coach separately? And how can you build that as a business and thankfully I was, I came to know the community that is really in the heart of service, and understand the meaning of coaching, and that's what I've been doing now. And I said to you, I'm a multi passionate person. So I continue doing the Empower your life as a YouTube channel, and also in podcasts or in audio setup. On top of that, I continue my speaking, because I truly believe that my gift to this world or to this planet is to share my voice, as a coach, as a podcast host. And as a speaker, plus, I want to do some tweak, twist there is, I'm a singer. So I've said earlier with you. Ideally, in a community that I want to build in Spain, I want to sing first with a motivational song, and really lifter, the audience energy, and then share the powerful message, to live them with amount of power or to believe in themselves that if I can do it, and so everyone else. So that's the short summary of who Cindy Marie is.
Thank you so much. And I love that phrase, heart of service. Yes. And you share your voice. And I'm glad you mentioned that you're big on your plans for motivational singing, not just motivational speaking, but combining that. And that actually being your sole purpose and getting that out to the world.
● Yeah, and I mean, I truly believe that we have a dedicated gift. And if we try to copy somebody else, by the end of the day, we will still feel that something is not right, you know, but we've got to really work on that. And it's a lot of practice to really align with what you're good at. But this is why, if you believe that you have a dedicated gift,you will, you will nourish that and people who truly resonate with you will come along. So don't be afraid that you are nobody because you are somebody, but you just have to believe that you have a gift within you that you have to unleash.
And I think the audience can resonate or have had experiences where things don't go quite right, because they aren't in their gift. They aren't living their purpose, they're living a whole different set of values that may be passed on by parents, or society or whatever the reason. And pretty soon it becomes so uncomfortable, like it did for you with illness or with, you know, things not working out, might happen to somebody else, but things become uncomfortable. And change is needed.
● Yes, I mean, I think I don't know whether you will agree or not. But this is what I believe, as we grow older, because we have already built that position, that reputation, that personality or character or how people see us, we are afraid to excel more, or at least to take a different path of what you truly believe in or align with your core values. Because then what if people don't believe in me? What will happen? Oh, no, you know, other people's opinions become stronger than your alignment within your core values. But change is constant. If we believe that change is normal. And if we really, at least for me, want to make a difference while we're living. I guess it's a package, that you've got to do some changes in your approach in your life, and people who don't believe in that will
really disappear. And people who truly resonate with you will start to show up. Do you agree with that?
Oh, I definitely agree with that. And I agree with the power of leaving a legacy. And it becomes really apparent as one grows older.
So as we're talking about that, there's this underlying theme of resilience. So
Please explain to us what resilience means to you, and how a person could actually improve their resilience over time.
● Sure. So resilience for me in a short and precise definition would be, how do you respond effectively and efficiently that will serve you better in the life circumstances that are happening in your life with the highest mission or purpose that you're pursuing? That's pretty much the short and precise meaning in my opinion, and how can somebody improve it over time is, there’s a crucial or vital part of understanding who you are being. Because we can always play a cool outside, where people would see us as very optimistic, very awesome, looking so successful, but we can never fool ourselves. And this is very important to know, what is really happiness to us, what is it really that drives us to, to live every day, and, and it's, it's scary, it's a lot of work. And there are a lot of factors that you have to work on. what I do to improve my resilience would be, I have to set my boundaries so high in terms of sharing my energy. So as a coach, and you would understand it as well, you would feel that energy when someone is too negative. And you can ask yourself, Okay, I have a choice to make here. Is this person serving me well, with the purpose of life that I'm pursuing? And that's a very difficult question to answer. Because that also means, if your answer is no, you've got to really slowly set a boundary with that person, how you connect with them, or how you interact or how you meet, especially if they're really close to you. They could be your family members, they could be your friends, they could be your colleagues. But working on inner awareness, if you know how to work on that, it's understanding what works for you, what makes you feel optimistic, what helps you to stay uplifted with energy, you've got to do that. So one will be setting boundaries, also what is the information that you process or feed into your brain? So that's very important. You could be loving so much magazine, whatever magazine or you love to read news, you love to spend time with social media, the question is, what exactly is watching or listening that really helping your brain to be in a more positive positivity or not? So two of those could be a great way to improve resiliency, in my opinion, and there could be a lot of things that would be physical exercise, you know, you have to maintain not only physical fit, because exercise is something that I really value so much. It helps your brain to function well, it also helps your body to function well. And it's, it's a cycle. So also what you eat, right? So these are the three things that I think I could share to everyone who would love to improve their resiliency over time. So setting, by actually it's for its really work on your self-awareness, and also setting up setting boundaries. What is the information that you feed to your brain? And how do you keep yourself physically fit, like food, exercise, and so on. So that will be the things that I think could improve for other people, you know, the resiliency.
Thank you. Those are so practical. And of course, they're easy to list. But when we get to setting our boundaries and knowing what our values are, and when we get to what kind of thoughts we're absorbing and feeding our brain and feeding our bodies. What are we feeding our bodies and then What are we doing to get that body in motion, the physical body and the exercise, though it was easy for me to just say that list, for us to all put that into practice such a great outline of what we can do right now.
● Yeah, I think the bottom line of improving your resiliency is really what will help you to keep you moving forward. And why do you want to keep on living? You know, what is your purpose, because if your purpose is to go again, is bigger than yourself, you're going to make everything happen. And you're going to, you're going to, I won't say sacrifice, because that would sound pressuring and too much, but if it really aligns to, to what you want to become, and what you want to leave us legacy, the rest it will be just easy, because you always remind yourself that I'm doing this because and and I think that's that's very important. Do you agree with that?
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. When we spoke previously, you said that you believe that we need to trust our mindset in order to strengthen our emotions. Could you expand on that a little bit?
● The power of mindset is very important. Right? If our approach in life is very negative, we attract negative circumstances, and we attract a victim mindset, we attract everything that doesn't serve us. So to have a very strong mindset in life or something that you want to move forward, whatever that you're working on. It could be you're trying to work on your weight, you're trying to work on your career, we’ve got to align our mindset to our being. Why do you want to be, let's say, lose five pounds or lose five kg? Why do you want to do that? Is it because you could look better? Or is it because you believe by keeping yourself fit by having, you know, losing this amount of weight will help you also to operate your body and from the body, it will help your mind to function in the right way that will serve you better. Because if your mindset is all about being a victim, being not able to achieve something, complaining or putting the blame on other people, you're not owning your capability, you're, you're allowing other people to take over. So mindset is, what is it exactly that you want to think and practice that will serve you better? So you can either choose yourself to be negative, or you can either choose yourself in a positive way positive meaning what will be the practices that will serve you better so we go back to what I said earlier….If these people don't serve you anymore with something that you're working on, allow that to let go. You know, it's difficult to let go. Because we hold on for many years, but if our mindset and our thinking that we're telling ourselves that it's okay to let go because other people will resonate with my journey. We’ll come along. So that's the mindset, right. The second thing that I mentioned is the information that we feed. So having that mindset, I'm going to make sure that I read a book that will help me to lose weight, for example, I will go to reach out to people that's expert with losing weight. And I will, I will listen to the music that will help me put that energy to go to the gym, or to do some exercise. And that's your mindset. Mindset is always serving you.
Right. And the third one would be, again, I think it's also important the mindset on how you communicate. So if we communicate negatively, we also attract negative conversation, negative circumstances. But if we are very mindful of our conversation with our communication, we always think that how can I serve myself and to others in my communication that will always be positive and service? So for example, instead I'm going to say that you don't look good. For example, you can just say that, you know, because that's something that could create intense, depending on the context, but you can just say, it's fantastic, you know? Or if, let's say, that person asked you back, do you think it's nice, then you can be honest with them. But if you think that it doesn't serve them, it's not going to serve you, and there's nothing to create that intensity, then leave it that way. And with all of this mindset, the way we think, in life, as we are accountable on our journey, then we also strengthen our emotions, because It goes hand in hand, right? If our brain is too much of a victim, our emotions will also be weak. So it's the same thing that if we are allowing our emotions too much with how we feel, and then also the way we think it's going to be weakened, I think it has to be hand in hand. And it's a lot of work. Once again, I mean, I came to that point, I was a victim. That's how I think as well for myself, then when I realized how powerful it is to work on your mindset, your thinking, there's a lot of things that you can work on that. But it's, it's, again, it goes back to self-awareness. If we want to set an example to people, it has to be us first that we have to work on. So that's the kind of meaning of working on the mindset so it can strengthen the emotion. I hope that makes sense. Absolutely. And with my background as an energy healer, the mind body connection is so apparent to me. So right, if you're into victimhood, many times, your whole body is also into victimhood, and you're a victim of different diseases and illnesses and aches and pains. And then if you're a positive overcomer, quite often your body does pretty darn good at overcoming. And yeah, having that resilience that we've been talking about. So I definitely believe that it comes down to those things. You've been talking about the boundaries, protecting your thoughts, exercising your body and exercising your mind and watching what you are putting into your environment? What are you putting into your mind? All of those things.
Now, I know you have kind of a time constraint today. So I want to be sure before we close that you tell our listeners a little bit about what you're up to, how they might get in contact with you and what your future plans look like.
● Sure, thank you. Thank you so much, once again, for this opportunity, I really appreciate it. For those people who want to create more positivity and elevate their life. And you feel resonated with our conversation here in this episode. You can reach out to me at linkin So that's Cindy Maria Zohr. Same thing with my Facebook, my Instagram, I'm pretty much active….But how would I say, you can follow me there drop me a message. And what I have mentioned earlier in this episode you will, that's pretty much what you can see in my content in my social media. And, again, my future plans are there, I have more upcoming videos of singing and speaking online. I have more episodes that I will interview a lot of incredible people just like you, of course, Darla, you're a part of it. And we are going to create more and more content that will create and empower people's lives, including yourself, and just really reminding one another, that we have dedicated
gifts in this life. And if we truly believe, with our abilities, with our gift, and we are committed, intentional, working on that everything's possible. So I truly believe in that. And, yeah, so feel free to reach out to me if you would like to experience my coaching. You can drop a message or schedule a discovery call and see if we can or I can serve you best because of you know, my coaching, everyone's coaching is not for everyone, but if it resonated with you, awesome, so we'll take it from there. Right.
Well, thank you for joining us to talk about resilience and empowering your life. Awesome. Thank you.
● Thank you so much. Darla, this is an amazing opportunity. Thank you, and I hope that it creates or gives an empowering light, shine, and everything positive. I'm a very optimistic person. So I would love to share that to your audience and to people that resonate in this episode. So thank you. Thank you very much.
Thank you
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