How do you define peaceful living? The following episode discusses seven practices to embrace peacefulness. Recently, my soul mate passed away rather unexpectedly. He had battled and overcame pancreatic cancer a few years ago, was cancer free, and appeared to have more energy and more enthusiasm than ever before. We just came back from a wonderful trip. We had been to Florida, Texas, Sedona, Arizona, and the Grand Canyon. But a few weeks ago, he surprisingly fell asleep from low blood sugar and went into a diabetic coma, never waking up. No pain, no suffering, just quietly and peacefully slipped away from us out here on the lake, one of his favorite places. I am sharing this because I am grateful that I have been able to apply many of the vibrational energy techniques that I teach others, to reach a place of peacefulness. A magnificent peace that surpasses all human understanding. A deep seeded need for tranquility, buried below the fear, the uncertainty, below the noise of daily life, below our human ego, and below society's many pressures and expectations. Deep, deep below the cloud of sorrow and grief, finding not just intellectual comfort, but emotional and spiritual peace as well. Admittedly, it comes in waves, and that is why I am practicing daily connecting to my higher power and asking my guides to help me receive that deep seeded peace.
The following seven practices can instill deep peacefulness. First, surrendering, surrendering to the reality of what has happened with no regrets. It's important to not be trapped by that “I could have if I would have”. It is the first and hardest step to recovering peace... accepting that a higher power has a plan for the greater good and then cherishing the beautiful memories. This step applies for any type of loss, loss of a job, loss of freedom, loss of a friendship, loss of mobility, loss of trust, surrendering to what is... yielding to the now. You've probably heard the popular saying “it is what it is” and that expresses the practice of surrendering. This is a sign that you were ready to let the situation run its course, surrendering is not to be misunderstood with giving up or giving in. It is actually a doorway to gaining inner peace.
In addition to surrender, forgiveness is one of the most powerful gifts that you can give yourself to release burden, regret and any guilt making room for the energy of peacefulness. Forgiveness is a choice to let go and to free oneself to the higher energy of compassion, love, and peace. One of my favorite techniques is to combine EFT tapping with Ho'oponopono. If you would like to learn more about this technique, there is a link on the show notes page to my forgiveness mini video lesson.
Third consideration is to accept support from like- minded, like- hearted friends. This is number three, friendship. Beautiful energy exchanges of both give and take. It is amazing to find solitude in the thoughts and the healing waves of energy sent to us by others who care. Let their kindness fall like a gentle rain upon you. Or you can put a bowl by your bedside and imagine that all of their blessings, condolences and positivity are collected in the bowl. Then when you need a boost, put your hands into the bowl, scoop up this high vibe energy and wash your face and body in the rays of friendship.
Concept four brings us to examine ourselves in a positive light... to become the unique expression of you. Honor your full, authentic self-knowing that you are a unique and special spark of the Divine. And there is no one else quite like you on this planet. Give yourself space, grace, time and compassion... peacefulness cannot be rushed. And this step takes the most time, you might use journaling your feelings as a technique.
Number five is trusting that even during dark times, there's a lesson to be learned, a “light at the end of the tunnel” so to speak, and that there is a Divine plan yet to be unveiled. Obstacles are there for our personal growth, teaching us strength, perseverance, willpower, and many other priceless lessons.
The sixth concept has two parts. The first is not letting your past enslave you. The second is not letting your thoughts enslave you. It is important to recognize that whatever you believe to be true over time is your personal reality. Who you once were or the mistakes that you once made are not who you are now, they do not define you. Draw a line leaving the past in the past where it belongs and move forward embracing any life lessons to be learned. Use meditation breathwork or guided visualization to calm the busy mind of negative thoughts. Peacefulness is the beautiful byproduct of all of those practices, and you can find out more in previous podcast episodes.
The final concept I'm covering today is to know with certainty that you have all that you need right here, right now that you are not lacking or missing anything. This is one of the most difficult coping strategies because the entire idea of a loss implies something has been taken from you or something is missing. It is important to remember that you are complete without it. Yes, it provided fullness and bonuses and beautiful memories in your life. But you are worthy. You are enough right here, right now, just as you are. Trust in this insight, accept it as your personal truth and relax in the peaceful serenity of self-love.
As I mentioned previously, know that this peacefulness can come in waves. So, accept divine timing, and let it unfold. So, call in peaceful living, with surrender, forgiveness, friendship. Acknowledge the unique you don't let your past or your thoughts enslave you. Trust the lesson. Know that you are enough. You are loved just the way you are and you have everything that you need to call in peacefulness. Call it into existence, “Call IT in with Dar!”
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