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By the Bi

The Atomswww.bythebi.com.au

By the Bi is a podcast for curious minds and open hearts—whether you’re bi, non-monogamous, kinky, or just wondering what it’s like to step outside the hetero-norm. Hosted by a bisexual expat couple, Bradford and Angela, based in Sydney, we dive into real conversations about bisexuality, swinging, open relationships, BDSM, and the messy, beautiful realities of non-traditional love and sex.

Every episode blends personal stories with thoughtful discussions, listener questions, interviews with guests from around the globe, and the occasional cocktail-fuelled confession. We don’t have all the answers—but we’re not afraid to ask the questions your vanilla friends won’t touch. Whether you’re exploring your own sexuality, seeking practical advice, or just want to feel seen, By the Bi offers a welcoming, inclusive space for everyone across the spectrum. So pull up a seat, pour yourself something tasty, and let’s talk about the things no one else will. Oh, and by the bi… we’re damn glad you’re here.

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Episodes

107 - The Chastity Challenge

Okay... so not too long ago whilst recording for "Dawns with Lakey" on the Hit Network here in Sydney we had this "great" idea to see which of the three of us could wear a chastity belt the longest. As bad ideas go, this one was pretty terrible. We'll go over a bit of the history of chastity belts and then dive into the worst, 31 and 39 hours we have ever spent. We'll talk about everything from choosing our chastity devices to getting dressed, to peeing, to sleeping with our devices FIRMLY attac...

May 29, 20181 hr 10 min

106 - The Seven Contrary Virtues

Last week we discussed the Seven Deadly Sins. This week we go in the opposite direction and discuss the Seven Contrary Virtues. We delve into each of these virtues and discuss how we would use them to improve our own relationships and those of our lifestyle play partners. We take each of the virtues: Chastity, Temperance, Charity, Diligence, Patience, Kindness, and Humility and give real-world situations in which they can positively affect your swinging experience. So go grab a drink! Then, sit ...

May 22, 201859 min

105 - The Seven Deadly Sins

Welcome back! In this episode, we discuss The Seven Deadly Sins and how they can affect your lifestyle experience. The Seven Deadly Sins are so very prevalent in our society that we see examples of them every day and likely don't even notice. For instance, did you know that each of the characters from Gilligan's Island represents one of the sins? YES! - More on this in the podcast! We take each of the sins: Lust, Greed, Envy, Wrath, Sloth, Gluttony, and Pride and give real-world situations in wh...

May 15, 20181 hr

104 - Sexcapades IV

Once again we dive into some of our recent sexcapades. Sit back and listen as we talk about a play session where we both took on roles we don't normally take on. Bradford stepped into the role of Dom with a partner tieing her down to a bed whilst Angela took a much more passive role. We also talk about a live sex photo shoot we recently participated in. Finally, with may being Worldwide Masturbation Month, we have a question regarding masturbation and watching your partner. So go grab a drink! T...

May 08, 201858 min

103 - Miss Penelope Dreadful

Not too long ago we were lucky enough to sit down with Miss Penelope Dreadful a pro dom from Sydney who is known the around the world. Remember your safe word as we ask her to tell us her history and how she got into the pro dom world. Laugh (yes you're allowed) as we cut up with her and learn about some of the odd-odd requests. Cringe as she tells us what she really likes. it was such an honor and a privilege to speak with "Penny" and we hope that you enjoy it as much as we did! Yes, Mistress!!...

May 02, 20181 hr 9 min

102 - (Dubious) Sex Facts

In this episode, we discuss an article that Mr. Atom found on "Sex Facts". Admittedly many of these so-called facts are dubious at best and without sources to cite but that doesn't make them any less fun to discuss. For instance, ever wonder how many bacteria you exchange during kissing? Or how many calories you burn with that romp in the hay? Well, now we do... The article we reference can be found here . In the last bit of the podcast, we talk friendships. We discuss our swinger and nonswinger...

Apr 25, 20181 hr 3 min

101 - Conversations with Naughty and Rocket

In this episode, we talk with our good friends Naughty and Rocket of Naughty3some fame on Twitter. We were lucky enough to spend a few days traveling the west coast of Australia with them and convinced them we should record a podcast in between adventures. Along with their history and background, we'll discuss swinging in more remote, less populated areas. We also talk about last years Passion in Paradise trip where we all met face to face for the first time and this year's impending trip to Des...

Apr 17, 201857 min

100 - Sintenary

Holy shit we've made it. 100 episodes!!! From the first 13 episodes where our sound was, admittedly terrible, to all of the education and naughtiness in between; we have been through a lot the last 2 years. Join us as we remember the highlights of this podcast. The things we have done, the pictures we took, the friends we've made. Speaking of friends we have a few of them on here. We talk to many of your favorites in this episode about how THEIR lives have changed since we've been producing podc...

Apr 10, 20181 hr 25 min

99 - The Origin Story

Hello constant listener! As you know, we've told the "How We Started Swinging" story many a time but we've never let you into our "How We Met" story... UNTIL NOW! This week we talk about our own origin story and just like Bruce Banner and Tony Stark, it's kinda sordid. The Hulk and Ironman have nothing on our origin story! You'll hear about how we met, our first date, our first hookup, when we finally decided to become an item, and when we got engaged. This one is all about history and it's as s...

Apr 03, 20181 hr 1 min

98 - An Orgy of a Weekend

Hello, constant listener and new listeners alike! This week we review our weekend that had two nights spent at Our Secret Spot including a Sex Ed in the City class and OSS's 4th birthday party which had the place packed to the gills with sexiness. There was also a crew from SBS filming for a show called Insight on Friday night and we give that crew a very honest, albeit harsh, review. We also talk about Mr. Atom putting himself out there to ask a lady to play and, in our question of the week, we...

Mar 27, 201855 min

97 - Interview with Our Favorite Pornstar

This week we are ecstatic to present an interview we had with the amazing Lucie Bee - Sex Worker, Geek, Queer, Activist, Pornstar... The list of this young lady's accomplishments goes on and on. She's on You Can't Ask That, Triple J, Sexpo Australia, PAX, and featured on the cover of Penthouse magazine. Lucie sat down with us and we discussed everything from sex work and how we can help make folks safer, to filming porn and pornography, to anal sex... Yeah, we cover A LOT in this hour. Her passi...

Mar 20, 20181 hr 11 min

96 - Vacation on the Seas

Hello, all and welcome back. This week we come at you from The Ovation of the Seas. We start by talking about vacation sex and what makes it so damn amazing and what we can ALL do to make our home sex lives similar to our away sex lives. Next, we had an email in our inbox from a listener about our headspace episodes that we wanted to read a few experts from and comment on. As ALWAYS thank you to those who write in to us! Lastly, we talk porn. We recently had a twitter message asking us what kind...

Mar 13, 20181 hr

95 - Lady Headspace

NOTE: We are NOT trained therapists, doctors, or advice givers. We are a couple of sexy freaks who thought it important to chat about something we ALL deal with: depression and how it comingles within the lifestyle. If you feel trapped and like you have nowhere to go and you need to speak with someone please please reach out to one of the many hotlines that can help you! In Australia: Lifeline (13 11 14) is a 24-hour nationwide service that provides access to crisis support, suicide prevention, ...

Mar 06, 20181 hr 9 min

94 - Headspace

NOTE: We are NOT trained therapists, doctors, or advice givers. We are a couple of sexy freaks who thought it important to chat about something we ALL deal with: depression and how it comingles within the lifestyle. If you feel trapped and like you have nowhere to go and you need to speak with someone please please reach out to one of the many hotlines that can help you! In Australia: Lifeline (13 11 14) is a 24-hour nationwide service that provides access to crisis support, suicide prevention, ...

Feb 27, 20181 hr 1 min

93 - Rambling Escapades

Hello, constant listeners (and new listeners alike)! In this episode, we give you a rambling glimpse into our weekends. We talk about all of our escapades (that we CAN talk about) from this past weekend and you learn why we need more sleep!!! Listen as we discuss what is getting us excited for the future, our experience at Empire Strips Back, a Star Wars themed burlesque show, a fetish buy/swap/sell, an amazing date, and the official opening to the 40th anniversary of Sydney Mardi Gras, Fair Day...

Feb 20, 20181 hr 3 min

92 - Mistakes We Make in the Bedroom

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!! In this episode, we talk about the mistakes we ALL can make in the bedroom! How many of these are we guilty of? More than we might like to admit! We go through our list and highlight the mistakes and the things that we've done to overcome them. It isn't always easy to change but it's definitely always worth the effort to build a stronger and happier relationship! So go grab a drink! Then, sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening! Find us on social media!!! ...

Feb 13, 20181 hr 13 min

91 - Since You've Been Gone

Mr. Atom is BACK baby, and boy does he have some stories to tell. In this episode, The Atoms talk about what each of them did while Mr. Atom was traveling in and around Amsterdam. Mr. Atom tells tales of a convenient Grindr hookup, meeting one of our listeners who lives in The Netherlands, and perusing the Red Light District on their wedding anniversary. Mrs. Atom talks about her 3 successive nights at Our Secret Spot, culminating in her taking The Gentleman to their Glow Party. Finally, we disc...

Feb 06, 20181 hr 5 min

90 - The Gentleman Walks Into a Sauna

This is another episode where Mr. Atom was traveling and Mrs. A had to call in some backup... So, Mrs. Atom called in the ever handsome Gentleman. In this episode, The Gentleman discusses his first trip, with Mr. Atom, to a couple gay saunas in Sydney and he leaves no stone unturned in the tale! So go grab a drink! Then, sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening! Find us on social media!!! On Twitter @BytheBiPodcast On Facebook BytheBiPodcast On Instagram @BytheBiPodcast Or email u...

Jan 30, 20181 hr 7 min

89 - Dirty Talk

Have you ever wanted to set fire to your partner's loins just with your words? Do you watch porn and say, "I could never say that to my partner! I'd sound silly!" Well in this episode we discuss the elusive dirty talk. We hit on the whys and the hows of dropping some dirty love bomb zingers. From the phases of dirty talk to the vernacular to use, we cover it all! Plus we have a podcast question that was just silly enough NOT to ignore... WE loved it!!! So go grab a drink! Then, sit back, enjoy, ...

Jan 23, 201857 min

88 - Dating Challenges with Chastity

With Mr. Atom travelling this week, Mrs. Atom and a new voice, Chastity, sit down to discuss some of the perils of dating. As a single woman trying to get back into dating after a bit of a hiatus, Chastity highlights some of the biggest challenges faced by singles and couples. Settle in for a listen and a bit of commiseration! Find us on social media!!! On Twitter @BytheBiPodcast On Facebook BytheBiPodcast On Instagram @BytheBiPodcast Or email us here Want to help us out? Sure you do!!! Leave so...

Jan 16, 201855 min

87 - Never Have I Ever

We have a very special installment lined up for this week. We got 6 of our closet friends together to play a game of "Never Have I Ever" and we recorded the whole thing! We coerced L0L0 Lady and The Ginger Tramp, Lawrence and Jess from Our Secret Spot, and podcasting virgins, Wazowski and BJ to sit down with us, microphones on and drinks filled, to play a game that many of us hadn't played since our university days. The instructions were simple. They were all to come to our place with five quest...

Jan 10, 20181 hr 43 min

86 - A Debaucherous Week

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! We sincerely hope that you have a safe and wonderful new year! In this episode, we review the week between Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve. This ended up being an amazing week of 4 trips to Our Secret Spot, 4 days spent with "The Gentleman", 2 different gay saunas, and 1 40th birthday celebration that will go down in the record books. So much great sex was to be had!!! Listen as we describe my Splish, Splash, Splosh Birthday party/food fight and The New Years Eve celebration a...

Jan 02, 20181 hr 9 min

85 - A Year in Review

Welcome back, constant listener. In this episode, we talk about our year and the personal highlights that we enjoyed. 2017 has been an amazing year for By the Bi and that is because of YOU constant listener. Listen as we go through the year and touch on our favorite memories, experiences, and things we are most grateful for. We also talk about what the future holds and what we are looking forward to in 2018. Finally, we answer a question that was asked of us by one of our listeners regarding our...

Dec 26, 20171 hr 3 min

84 - Pegging 101 (Part 2)

So if you listened last week you know that by popular demand, we've decided to do a complete 101 on Pegging. Well here is the second part of that series. Sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening! Find us on social media!!! On Twitter @BytheBiPodcast On Facebook BytheBiPodcast On Instagram @BytheBiPodcast Or email us here Want to help us out? Sure you do!!! Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on. On iTunes you can do it anonymously: – Start iTu...

Dec 19, 201753 min

83 - Pegging 101 (Part 1)

By popular demand, we've decided to do a complete 101 on Pegging. We talk about the origination of the word, the history of the practice, and lots of preparation talk. This is a practice and play that we are very passionate about. We hope it comes through. So sit back, enjoy, and as always, thank you for listening! Find us on social media!!! On Twitter @BytheBiPodcast On Facebook BytheBiPodcast On Instagram @BytheBiPodcast Or email us here Want to help us out? Sure you do!!! Leave some feedback ...

Dec 12, 201754 min

82 - Flirting 101

So if you're like many of us when we get into the swinging world its likely been quite a while since you've had to give (and receive) flirts. In this episode, we give a quick primer on your body language so that you present yourself in the best possible light. Look you only get one chance to make a first impression so you have to make certain that when you carpe diem you're giving yourself as much of a sexy advantage as you can. We'll discuss body language, triggers, and lines... oh the lines......

Dec 05, 201759 min

81 - The Wet and Pendulum Tales

It's that time again! To start this episode, we talk about Sexpo pros and cons and one of the major issues we see in Sexpo. (Last episode was all about the vendors.) Later, Mr. Atom talks about his experience at a sauna in Melbourne called "Wet on Wellington". He goes into deep detail to describe the layout and experience of the sauna leaving no glory holes untapped. Finally, we talk about our most recent Pendulum Party, which was (spoiler alert) a HUGE success. So sit back, enjoy, and as always...

Nov 28, 20171 hr 1 min

80 - Sexpo Melbourne 2017 Review

Join us on a journey exploring Sexpo Melbourne 2017! We were there as part of the Sex Ed in the City team presenting with MisJif in the S.H.A.R.E. room sponsored by Red Hot Pie. We live cast portions of this episode from the show floor and talk to some of our favorite products of this Sexpo, including After Dark Intimate Wipes, Bare Bros Co, Ju Ju Jezebel, Dominant Furniture, Mia Maxx, and Salome's Circle. There were some other interesting booths we talk about as well, such as Our Kink and Catan...

Nov 21, 20171 hr 1 min

79 - First Time Club Advice

Hello folks! You asked and we listened. Last week we ran a Twitter poll to determine what you wanted to hear most and advice for the first time to a swingers club won. So in this episode, we give our best advice to make sure that your experience is a positive one. We talk about everything from choosing a night to go, to how to dress, to how to talk to people once your there. We hope to pack your toolbox with the tools you need to have a successful and exciting experience. We also include an appr...

Nov 14, 20171 hr 10 min

78 - Party Time... and The Tale of The Haunted Sauna

Party season is in and during this episode, we talk about some of the parties that we have been to over the last couple of weeks. We discuss the Red Heaven and Our Secret Spot Halloween parties! Then we talk about a VERY Halloween appropriate experience Mr. Atom had at a Brisbane Sauna. Was it haunted? Or was Mr. Atom delirious from the sauna experience? Then Mrs Atom talks about her solo experience to Our Secret Spot. Where she met some of our listeners. We end with an odd and awkward question ...

Nov 07, 201758 min
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