It’s time we heard from YOU! Thanks to all those who called in + left messages & reviews! The giveaway winners are… Free Book on the Marriage Topic of Your Choice: Emmy L. M.W.J. Kayleen B. $50 Date Night Gift Card: Cissy M. Shelby T. 30-Min. Q+A with Kensi: Megan B. $100 Brave Marriage Gift Certificate: Carrie R. Special thanks to… Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing : Evan Duszynski...
Jun 24, 2019•10 min•Season 1Ep. 54
On a special episode of BMP, my husband Evan hosts & interviews me for a behind-the-scenes look here at Brave Marriage. Oh, and we’re celebrating 1 YEAR of BMP with a 7-WINNER GIVEAWAY! Everything from marriage books to date nights to Brave Marriage gift cards! Anyway, listen in - we hope you enjoy! Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing : Evan Duszynski...
Jun 17, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 53
Happy Birthday, Brave Marriage Podcast! WALL OF GRATITUDE: My Amazing Launch Team: Taylor, Ashlyn, Lahni, Maddi, Kelcie, Kindra, Lindsay, Emily, Maddi, Mom My Friend, Musician : John Tibbs My Husband, Encourager, Tech Support + Podcast Editor : Evan Duszynski Collaborations: Lindsay Davenport Photography Wonder Women Podcast with Rachel Collier Bridal Bliss Magazine...
Jun 10, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Our fourth & final episode in the Mental Health Awareness Series, emotional reasoning is a cognitive distortion affecting many marriages today. Tune in to find out how you might be engaging in emotional reasoning & what to do differently! If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe! Share on your favorite social media platform! Rate & review on iTunes! Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing : Evan Duszynski...
Jun 03, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 51
Did you know that labeling can be a form of cognitive distortion? Listen in to find out how labeling can affect your relationship - and what to do about it. (This is the third episode in our Mental Health Awareness series). Mentioned on this Episode: John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud & John Townsend If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe! Share on your favorite social media platform! Rate & review on iTunes! Music : John Tib...
May 27, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 50
All OR Nothing Thinking: Have you ever heard yourself say to your spouse, “you always…” or “you never…”? If so, then chances are good that you are engaging in all-or-nothing thinking. Tune in to learn what all-or-nothing thinking is, how it can affect your marriage, and 3 ways to combat all-or-nothing thinking in your own mind - for the betterment of your mental health & your relationship! If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe! Share on your favorite social media platform! Rate &...
May 13, 2019•18 min•Season 1Ep. 49
Happy Mother’s Day weekend! To those of you for whom this weekend will be hard, this episode is for you. If you have friends or family affected by pregnancy loss or infertility, feel free to share this episode - it will mean more to them than you know. Want to write in? Feel free to do so: kensi@bravemarriage.com
May 10, 2019•6 min•Season 1Ep. 48
Oh hey May! It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and over the next 4 weeks, we will take a look at 3 cognitive distortions that impact many of our marriages. Join us to learn how to observe your own self-talk, how to identify your thought patterns, and how to renew your thoughts for the betterment of your mental and emotional health, & subsequently, your marriage relationship. Mentioned on this Episode: Mental Health America Resources Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) If you enjoyed this epi...
May 06, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 47
I’m answering more of your questions about sex on this week’s episode! Mentioned on this episode: FREE Sex Resource List Upcoming Healthy Sexuality Course bravemarriage.com/sex Dual Control Model of Sexual Arousal If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe! Share on your favorite social media platform! Rate & review on iTunes! Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing : Evan Duszynski...
Apr 29, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 46
I’m answering your questions about sex on this week’s episode! And hey, if you’re interested in improving your sex life & getting good education from a Christian perspecitve, please visit bravemarriage.com/sex to get notified when our healthy sexuality class comes available online! If you enjoyed this episode, please: Subscribe! Share on your favorite social media platform! Rate & review on iTunes! Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic...
Apr 22, 2019•18 min•Season 1Ep. 45
Interested in improving your sex life? Visit bravemarriage.com/sex to leave your name/email & get notified when our online healthy sexuality class comes available! We all bring our own sexual set of beliefs into our marriages. Over the next 4 weeks, we’re going to be taking a look at & calling out 10 “sexpectations” so that you can identify & become aware of which ones are affecting your sexuality & sex life, that you & your spouse might grow together sexually - beyond the be...
Apr 15, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Interested in improving your sex life? Visit bravemarriage.com/sex to get notified when our online healthy sexuality class comes available! We all bring our own sexual set of beliefs into our marriages. Over the next 4 weeks, we’re going to be taking a look at & calling out 10 “sexpectations” so that you can identify & become aware of which ones are affecting your sexuality & sex life, that you & your spouse might grow together sexually - beyond the beliefs that are holding you b...
Apr 08, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 43
If you’re interested in improving your sex life, please visit bravemarriage.com/sex, leave your name & email, & get notified when our healthy sexuality class comes available online! We all bring our own sexual set of beliefs into our marriages. Over the next 3 weeks, we’re going to be taking a look at & calling out 10 “sexpectations” so that you can identify & become aware of which ones are affecting your sexuality & sex life, that you & your spouse might grow together se...
Apr 01, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 42
We all bring our own sexual set of beliefs into our marriages. Over the next 3 weeks, we’re going to be taking a look at & calling out 10 “sexpectations” so that you can identify & become aware of which ones are affecting your sexuality & sex life, that you & your spouse might grow together sexually - beyond the beliefs that are holding you back! If you’d like to work with Kensi through couples coaching online, please visit bravemarriage.com/consultation. If you enjoyed this epis...
Mar 25, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Great sex lives are made over the long-term, not in an instant. According to the happiest couples, great sex lives consist of much more basic principles than what culture would lead us to believe. On today’s episode, we discuss three basic contributors to a great sex life in marriage, based on Scripture & research: 1) commitment to one another 2) safety & trust 3) mutual beneficence. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider: Subscribe to the Brave Marriage Podcast. Share the podcast ...
Mar 18, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 40
Sex can be hard to talk about…even with your spouse. In this episode, I share 3 conversation starters to help you and your spouse develop more mature language and conversation around your sex life, as well as your individuality sexuality. Because let’s face it, learning to speak sex more fluently in your marriage is a prerequisite to attaining the level of intimacy you desire. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider: Subscribe to the Brave Marriage Podcast. Share the podcast on your favorit...
Mar 11, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 39
I believe that God created us for meaningful sex, and that our sex lives actually have the opportunity to reflect the goodness & glory of God. Have you ever thought about your sex life or sexuality in this way? What's difficult about this concept for you? In today’s episode, we discuss 4 gifts of married sex, followed by one action step and a prayer for your marriage. I hope you enjoy! Mentioned on this Episode: FREE Relationship Quiz Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing ...
Mar 04, 2019•13 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Do you know what the very best way to change your marriage is? Change yourself. I know, I know…maybe not the answer you were hoping for, but the most promising, nonetheless. Listen in to discover how to get to the root of what most bothers you about your spouse…and then learn how to change yourself in the process. Mentioned on this Episode: FREE Relationship Quiz Marriage Friendly Therapists Michele Weiner-Davis Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast Editing : Evan Duszynski If you enj...
Feb 25, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Have you ever tried to change something in your marriage to no avail? On today’s episode, we discuss the counterintuitive ways to enhance your relationship, the importance of going slow and taking baby steps toward change, and how to overcome a couple of mindsets that often keep couples stuck in the same old patterns.
Feb 11, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 36
The pattern is what matters, not the problem. We’re talking conflict patterns on today’s episode, acknowledging how each of you co-creates the marital dynamic that becomes your set norm, when your marriage isn’t functioning healthily. Identify your conflict pattern & stay tuned for next week, as we talk about what to do differently to create change in your marriage! Mentioned on this Episode: Sue Johnson: Hold Me Tight FREE Relationship Quiz Music : John Tibbs Music @johntibbsmusic Podcast E...
Feb 04, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Changes in marriage can be complex, especially when couples sense something is off, but can’t put language to what exactly needs to change. On today’s episode, we discuss our primary tendencies toward disconnection, which we tend to utilize when our relational needs aren’t being met. The goal of this episode is to help you as a couple know what to pay attention to when it comes to your own relational dynamic. Mentioned on this Episode: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs John Gottman’s Bids for Connecti...
Jan 28, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Is your attitude keeping you from making the changes you want to make? If you’re working toward a certain goal or outcome in your life, your attitude is either facilitating your growth or keeping you stuck in the same place. On today’s podcast, discover what attitudes might be holding you back, and what to do to change them. Mentioned on this Episode: Liturgy of the Ordinary , Tish Harrison Warren http://www.tishharrisonwarren.com/books/ Music : John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntib...
Jan 21, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Did you know 80% of New Year’s Resolutions fail by the month of February? How do we not only start a habit, but plan for its success long-term? On this episode, we take a long-term, contextual approach to helping you form new habits. Plan for success this year by learning to change your habits in a way that suits you, takes your environment into consideration, & helps you identify some of the psychology behind how you’re wired to make change. Mentioned on this Episode : Gretchen' Rubin’s “Th...
Jan 14, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Have you ever tried to implement a change that didn’t work for you long-term? As a marriage & family therapist, that doesn’t surprise me at all. Why? Because humans & relationships are too complex for there to be a one-size-fits-all solution to the changes we’re wanting to make. Today, I’m sharing with you what I know about change from a systems perspective, in hopes that at the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of your relationship to yourself, to your spouse, AND ...
Jan 07, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 31
You asked, I answered. Four follow-up questions to our family of origin series, plus a brief review of the past 30 episodes in 2018! Also, Happy New Year's Eve, friends! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! -To learn more or work with Kensi, pleas...
Dec 31, 2018•15 min•Season 1Ep. 30
What messages did you need to hear as a kid, but didn’t? Find out on today’s episode what’s true about you, why it matters that you believe it for yourself, & how it positively impacts the life of your marriage & family. There will be no episode next week, but I’ll be back on New Year’s Eve! In the meantime, have a Merry Christmas & I hope you enjoy Redeeming Childhood Messages . -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or list...
Dec 17, 2018•15 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Fill in the blank: I am loved + accepted when I _________. Your answer is most likely the result of a childhood message you received growing up. Today, we’re talking about how childhood messages are formed, internalized, & how they affect us as we grow up. Listen in for 5 common messages that most individuals resonate with. Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski. *If yo...
Dec 10, 2018•22 min•Season 1Ep. 28
How does your upbringing impact your marriage? Find out on today’s episode! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podcast by John Tibbs. Connect with him on Instagram @johntibbsmusic or listen on iTunes or Spotify. -Podcast Editing by Evan Duszynski. -If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating + review on iTunes, & be sure to share with your friends! To learn more or work with Kensi, please visit bravemarriage.com for: Couples Coaching Courageous Conversations Workshop WedWell: Pre...
Dec 03, 2018•17 min•Season 1Ep. 27
What role did you play in your family of origin? How has that impacted you as an adult? On today’s episode, we explore 5 different roles that each of us play into as children in our families of origin: The Entertainer; Peacekeeper; Role Model; Baby; & Fixer. In upcoming weeks, we’ll explore how these roles impact our sense of self & our marriages so that we can be intentional about creating the lives, marriages, and families we desire to have as adults! -Music on the Brave Marriage Podca...
Nov 26, 2018•19 min•Season 1Ep. 26
It’s Thanksgiving week, friends! And I’m so grateful for you. Today on the podcast, I’m simply taking time to reflect and give thanks. Next week, we’ll dive back into the roles we play in our families of origin. Music on today’s episode by: John Tibbs. You can find John’s music on iTunes or Spotify, or connect with him @johntibbsmusic To work with Kensi at Brave Marriage, click the link below: Marriage Therapy Couples Coaching Premarital Coaching Grief Counseling Courageous Conversations Worksho...
Nov 19, 2018•11 min•Season 1Ep. 25
