BIG FACTS FRIDAY- Wants v Needs

Everything good? Can't complain my mind? Everybody like good spirit, positive energy, got positive vibrations going on, Spread up, thank yous, owning out you Wilman you let's get straight to it. I think it's gonna be an interesting conversation today. You know what I'm saying. Hopefully we'll accomplish some things. Jay, what's up? What we're talking about today? What we are? Ok We're talking about once versus needs and the death.

The textbook definition of want is a desire to possess or do something or wish for um thoughts, should or need to do something, and the noun is a lack or deficiency of something. And then the textbook definition of need is something that is required because it is essential or very important um and expressed or implied necessity or obligation, or circumstances in which something is necessary or that is

required in some course of action. So when we were talking about before we got the roller, was the question will elaborate on this, would you rather be wanted or needed? Needed? Put in everybody vote? Then we wouldn't break it down. So you rather be needed? I say needed. It's possible cause I gotta ego. I'm a leo, so that's part of it. But needed because if somebody won't you, it's kind of like you know, I won't you, but what the hell? He So somebody wants you? That's like you know,

I want to be around you. I want to I want you involved with what I got going on, but I don't particularly you know, have to have you. You feel me like you. I may want a soda, but I need water. M h. That's a great analogy. But now I want to be needed because I want somebody that you know, should you need me here or this? Should want to be needed or you need to be needed? I need to be needed. Okay, that was a good catch. I guess who I say? I told O, I want

to be wanted. You know what I'm saying? Because if you won't me, you won't me. If you need me, you could just fun with me because you need me. But yeah, I feel like when it comes to um, when it comes to need, like when you need somebody or you know that you need somebody, you put on you put on a mask to to get your need from them. Yeah, and I want you if I totally want you, like I desire you. I want you as

a person, and that depends in a relationship. You want to be wanted, Yes, you don't feel like one is more like I wanted somebody, want that. That's what I want that I want that you want? What if? What if? What if they saying I need your emotional support, I need your conversation. I feel like if you want me, you're gonna get your needs from me. If you want me, because I'm gonna give you everything that you desire if

I feel that you want me. But I feel like when I feel like, when you need somebody, you're gonna work your move or figure out whatever whole you need to fill in to play whatever you have to play, get whatever you need that person. What about the what about the term when they say, uh, what does it say a woman wants to feel needed. Isn't it a term the same want? And a woman needs to feel wanted for me. For me, I'd rather be needed right like when it comes to work anything and that I

need to be an asset. You need to need me. That's a difference like that, like period the relationships. I want you to want me. I want to yearn for me. I want you to go crazy behind me, So you better want me in a relationship, but need me in any other. When the woman walk around the club and say I don't need a nigga ship, she still want to be wanted. You don't need it, Like for me,

you wanted to pay your bills. If you're that type of bitch, you want a nigger to do other certain things, but you don't need him if you're already fulfilling all of those things for yourself, but you need I feel like if you need somebody, No, I feel like you need somebody for love. Let me. You'll do anything you might be deceitful to prove that you to get them to me. Yeah, but if I need you, then I mean I can't go without you. But that's up to the other party to realize that you're what I want

something for me? When I want something, I think like when you're saying that if you need something, you're gonna change who you are to get blah blah blah. I look at it the opposite way. When I want something, I look at like, I want this I know to study that ship and be whatever I need to get to get what I want. I think it's the opposite when you want something, to study that ship and you do whatever you need to get to get to what you want. When you need something, it's just like I

need it, like, but we just got different opinion. Do you feel like you want you have her or do you feel like you want or need chant once and by me wanting her brought certain things that I need her first because I want you first, right, Okay, it starts that way. So you don't think the need is the graduation of I don't need up for ship what I need an You don't think you need her, like, no, you don't need what to be my wife. That's not a need. No, I want I want your companionship. You

need it. I don't need it because I can find that ship anywhere. You can find that anyway, but can Yes, because the way I want you it to me. Let me call the way that I want you. That means I'm dedicated to want you, to need you, if that makes sense what I'm saying. If I don't guess what you can need the motherfucking don't want them, you know what I mean, the people in relationship just because they need you. I need you to support me financially, but

I don't really want you. Don't even want to come home. You don't even like you. But damn I ship we go have on bills and ship like that I need right now. Yeah, I need that. But if I, if I, just if I want you, we're gonna have a good time. If I need you, it's whatever I think. So not

to jump the gun, though, but I think so. At first I was gonna say need for sure, But now I'm thinking in my head like you gotta be a healthy balance though, you gotta kind of need the person for something, but you I can't to me, I can't need you if I want you because I already seal fish. My grandma show me how to watch my clothes, cook clean up. I know I do everything that she can do besides have a puss. Now when I'm thinking about it.

When I'm thinking about need, I'm just being a real But when I'm thinking about need, I'm like the non tangible things that you can't touch, like them like how how how she came to your emotions? You feel me? And that I'm saying I just said I That's what I'm saying. That's how I know I want her instead of needing her because I love everything about you. I am a victim of victim you when you beat him of domestic violence, do that, That's what I'm saying. So but but if I need did you do beat on

you like that? You know, Beacon just beat just being an asshod. But what I'm saying is me wanting earth allowed me to not give a funk about being beating beat You get like that me being single, it's kind of like different, Like I want chick with a big old fat ass, But I don't need you need stability, Yeah, I need stability. I want somebody who can kind of

help build on the ship that I'm already doing. I don't need all the extra body ship when you with you on the way, you can't press themselves Jesus Christ, moment. What I'm saying is I'm saying, I want what want me? So if I don't feel that you want me, I can't give you my all. You gotta feel you know what I'm saying. I could just feel you need me.

Everybody need a nigga like you. But when you okay, when you when you get past, when you get past your day and you go on your way in your head, are you thinking, man, I need to talk to Shante I want? Is it just the one I need to talk to? Y'all y'all gon, y'all ain't gonna y'all ain't gonna get me to say that, bro, because I can talk to the same conversation I got what I got I can't have with you. I want to. I want to teach, share my day with you because I love you? Right,

I don't need to though A need? What's the what's the definition for need? A need? I could be tripped. No, I think I think when we get to that, I think I think right here, I'll tell you what you're saying. It is something that is required because it is essential or very important. Do you feel like you know how RV said, I'm sorry said I need your love and all this other ship it's kind of almost like a

void if you don't have that from that particular person. True, you can talk to anybody or whatever the case is, but but if you don't talk to that person person, it's not it's not the same. And I think I want to talk. But if I don't talk to you, what's gonna happen? Will you be that? Will you be disappointed? Huh? If you couldn't talk to her for a week, would you be disappointed? For sure? So you need it? If you'd be disappointed, if you don't give a funk, you

don't need it. I'm just trying to better. Huh. Do you say to her make you better? Yeah? It didn't say nothing about better. It could be a same let me because I listen, I used to be on the ship she was. Don't trust me, right, But therapy and ship, right, it's just like kind of just tapping in with your emotions, just like I'll tell my wife, I need you without my ego. I'm not saying. But the question is, I'm not saying I don't need her, like we're gonna take

that out. What I'm saying, y'all said, would I'd rather be wanted or needed that I'd rather be wanted, because when you're being wanted to me, that show that it's real. If you're being needed, then you don't know it's questioned there. If you only need me, then I don't know how you really feel. But what does she never needs you? Whoever, that may be nothing, you won't feel like I feel like if everything all us feel trying to take with sleep up under the bridge with me, that's not because

she needs me. That's because she wanted me, not necessarily. What does it mean what she needs me of me help on the bridge? I mean sometimes she hit me. What she needs comfort? You do you know what I mean? Would come with you don't need the material needs she wants me? If I don't know, I guess I mean you're basically saying that in order to have a needed, thing has to be a one thank you. That's what

I'm trying to say. In order for you to feel like you need me emotionally and physically, you have to want want me first, because you can need me just for different things and not even want to even deal with me or talk to me. Yeah, it's what I'm trying to say. I guess I'm saying that then you need me enough to be able to put up with my boys. Thanks, So it's about you do leave both. That's all I'm saying. You could rather be the question you'll ask that you'd rather be needed A want it.

I'd rather be wanted, because once you want me and I want you, it's gonna turn until we need each other. But you don't think You don't think that if you're wanted but not needed, it makes you more disposable. But if you wanted what I needed, then we're gonna go separate anyway. I got you. So you're saying, but at the beginning, I don't start like that. You don't need each other at the beginning. At the beginning, some of

they broke a whole needed needs holding like that. Let me really the beginning, some people looking at what I can gain from being in the relationship with shelter. So that's that's gonna saying, like to me, that's the mix up. But I feel like on the other side, if a needy can't realize that he's being used in the situation, you're not really paying attention. How you how the red

flask of that trust me? When when they want to ever know you wouldn't know, y'all ship all right, all right, you really won't know because in your mind you're thinking of this bitched in my mind, I think I'm about to use her too, ass. That's what I'm saying. That's the need you won't you need? Won't you need it? Won't I can beat it'd be cool, but I won't.

I want some ask right now some presumably you've done that for a majority of you like to drink you know what, you to need you and not want you. I wanted to need me for certain things and not want you know. I'm not saying that I'm going into what you're saying. The balance of it. You definitely want the person to want you, for sure, But I don't think that you just wanted to want to big facts. I want you all to need me, big facts. My job. If somebody wants me for a job, I want them

to need for the job. What happens is that's a difference if the need. If the need is missing in any life situation, business or personal, there is a void. What I'm saying is, if you can't talk to chante, do you feel a void? Yes? Therefore you need we upset a cool which one is that's upset. I don't got that. Don't don't go that. D if if you can, if you if you okay, if you're my regular bakshift, that means if you need to talk to because I won't hurt. That's what I'm saying. But I'm saying that.

But if I'm set with my pet ship, I don't need to talk. I'm talking about some different ships. You lost your phone. You lost your phone, and you lost your phone, you can't talk to Seante. But that's not a need, that's a requirement. Well that's a difference. If I lost my phone, I better go find a pay phone. I told you to do that. I'm just being real, So I have to do certain things that I just have to do anyway, I don't matter if I need. That's what I try to get to. Did you ever

miss Shante? Because I missed my wife? But sometimes I don't. If we wake up on the morning on some bullshit, I don't need to talk to me. I'm just being a real turning. But sooner or later, I'm going on normal circumstances. Normal circumstances, No'm a circumstance. I'm gonna need to talk to you because I want you. I want that same feeling that we had last night if this morning I think basically, so do we need to eat

food or do we want to you need? So what I'm saying is, just like we have nutrition ship for our body, we also have certain ship for our emotions. That's why I have my wife because she gives me certain stuff to that need that I don't want to get no where. But but what if she decided to say she don't want me no more, I don't need her. No, I agree with you a thousand for sent because now

it's just based on convenience. Thank you. It's what I'm saying, I don't want you, what I don't need you ship, But I'm not gonna be nowhere with an empty vote for somebody that don't want me. But the reason why, the reason why I need her because I feel she wants me. But can you have a need without a want? Though? No? Is That's what I'm trying to break down basically, like I can't want you, I can't need you if you

don't want me. Bro No, You're right, that's won't turn it turns into a need that but need is a part of it. Not sense not not not necessarily not necessarily bro, because at the end of the day, once you don't want me, that need be what's the last word, that's what That's what happens in divorce. Left for last week, redundant? Okay, now you need me repudiate it because he don't need needs you no more. If you don't want me, I don't want to be around about it. That don't want me, bro,

get a relationship? How can I need you and you

don't even like me? Exactly right? Let makes sense? So if you want me he ya, Now now the once has turned into emotional needs from each other, so you said, but that she could be turned off right then, as soon you say you don't want me to more, I bet you don't need you the morning you turned off, especially like what like I'm sorry but with so many years of like companionship, relationship and all the things like if schantag just I'm sorry to use you as the one,

but if Shanty just woke up today and there like you know a bank, I don't need you, know, I don't want you no more. I don't think that it's humanly possible to just be like you know what what fucking I don't need you and everything. It depends on this. If you're saying yes, it will, it depends on you said you don't need me no more, and then you're standing out of ship and all this you're missing. Fuck you. So I don't mean I need you. When you need

a person, your life don't go on without them. That's what I'm saying. We could think we need certain ship, but then just think about all the ship that we thought the worst of the worst ship gonna happen. Then when it happened to be like like I used to think, like I used to pray, like God, take me before you take my grandma. I need her. She passed away. I was hurt, but my life went on. When the

worst happens, your life's gonna go on. Regards You're gonna go through the stage of being hurt all that, But just madden the worst of ship that you thought it wouldn't happened. You didn't want that bad. So hey, I'm not even gonna baby to click off your emotion, but you're gonna bait it. I'm anna the person I know

how to accept everything. I don't have a choice. But that said, but what do I'm gonna keep doing now you drag me right, You're just saying you don't want me, now you That's that's how I need to be getting caught up in doing all the bullshit. This woman telling you she wants you, then you catch you with a motherfucker Johnson in the mouth. You want to beat up want you just told she just told you. I don't ask you bro with you, but you need this person

she need. I was just saying, what, what's the next step? That's not telling you I don't want you? And I mean it's one needs. It's one of the need and loving and mica or you can say loving us, because what does somebody love you but us loving us? And I'm just trying to love his need. Yeah, you're saying it's so you think you can't beat you can't not love a person to need them, failing you think you cannot love a person but you need them. Yeah, Yeah,

that's what I'm saying. Like what I'm saying, you don't love them at all? But how do how does it? How does it go with this person if you love them but don't like them, and vice versa. It's a lot. I mean, I think if you love them and they love you, but you don't like each other or one what one person doesn't like the person? Can you still love the person because like you don't mean I don't want you. But you can love somebody and do like and love then we'll get to that. Can you not

like somebody but love them for sure? You've got a lot of people in your family you love it. I think that's a little bit synonymous to the one knee ship. I think you gotta have both to be completely happy. If you just love somebody because you love them and you knowing them forever and you with them, but you don't like them no more, that's gonna cause issues. But because I want you, I can learn how to like

you and love you again because I want you. But if I don't want you no more, I mean, but if I don't want you but I need you, I can play a role to keep you around, to get the things that I want to get, the strength to do the funk to say fuck you. It's what I'm saying. They don't make sense, makes sense. But if I want you, I want you. I light up when you come around. You know what I'm saying. I my wants is making

me need you. Basically, It's what I'm saying, Like the way that I want you, it makes me need your present, It makes me need your loving, it makes me need all that. But if I don't want you and I just only need you and I just got my dog, let make sure, yeah we're not get big. I'm still think of you. Yeah, in a relationship, you do have to help both. But I feel like if if if the won ain't in now you did, the one is the foundation. Like you can need your job but hate

that motherfucker to death every time. You ready to want to burn that ship down. But I need their job. But you're gonna act different if you want. But if you want your job, you can nigg out. You see how we're coming in, bitch, having a good time. The folks want to see us here. Man, we missed y'all. Yeah, you get what I'm saying. They want to see us in. The energy is being reciprocated throughout this facility when we

come in the builds. You get what I'm saying. So it's like, yeah, we want y'all here, But I think that it's that that we need y'all were feeling me y'all. I think I think they for that for us. He'll have somebody to say, like they got a job that they have to do. I feel like this is some ship. We get to do this ship fun. Like niggas got that they have to do or they're not gonna survive. But we get to do this ship. Everybody can't do this ship. What this is some ship that we go

with me. I don't have some I don't work some jobs I had to do, I don't. So maybe that's why I like when I was teaching, I had to do that showing sense because I ain't never work for them and I ain't Yeah, big facts, I don't have to do. I get to do this this ship fun and choking out. Look, kid, I did one time I had a job at but I quit because they were trying to get me to steal. How they were trying to get me the sneak the sneakers out the back door,

and I was, you know, I'm an upstanding citizen. When I see this popum on my keleor I get up. I get up. I want to do this, not a damn man. I gotta go to be a fat w instant man. Man. They don't come in. Yeah, is that it's the same ship, But it's same ship. Was just saying, but I want to do it. Anything that I do, I want to do it, So it's gonna come out right. I want to go home to my wife, so it's gonna be we're gonna have a good time when I get home. If I don't want to go home, I

don't want to go home. So the signs of those words, like so you're saying that when you're dealing with people in your relationship that once and knees can be balanced or whatever the case is. But outside of that in life, when it comes to whatever material items, experiences and all the other ship, then it flips around. Then the knees surpassed the ones facts facts like you said, like food you need, food you need. But do the question, what

do you want to be wanted or needed? And I want to be needed in this culture, I want I want them to need me. I want them to need my words. But in my relationship, I want to be wanted. You get what I'm saying because I'm gonna feel when you don't want me. I'm gonna feel when you feel some type of way about stuff. Then it's gonna cause friction and ain't gonna need a won't you right? But what about when it comes to them kids? What about the kids? Like you know, like with kids, it's a

lot of stuff that we do for our kids. We definitely we definitely don't want to do, we don't necessarily need to do, but we still do it. So where does that fall up? That's a difference. You gotta do it if they need it, but what if it You know, a lot of times kids don't be needing ship, they'd be wanting ship. You don't want to do it, nor do you need to do it, but you still do it. It It depends on how your kids situation. My kids grown, so I don't need or want to do ship for them.

My grand baby, I wouldn't give a damn what she won't unneed she can get. Yeah, but you don't even look at it as what you want don't even matter, You don't even matter. So do you think that, like love can get to a certain point to where at that point it don't even matter what that you know what I mean? Like you said, for your grand baby, what she wanted to desire, it don't even matter how it affects you, right, because you're just gonna do it

because she needed a want. So do you think that love can reach a certain type of moment like hight to where it don't matter, Like don't it don't matter? It don't matter at this point with me? Like I just told you bro early in this relationship, I mean, in this, in this conversation, that I have to do certain ships no matter if I want to do it or need to do it or not. What I'm saying is I do it because I know she wants me. Yes, I wouldn't do it if I just felt like she

just only needed me. I don't given how you feel. Just take what I get you or take whatever what I whatever. But if you you showing that, hey, Bay, why don't call me? Oh, you're showing that you know what I'm saying. Yeah, you're showing them gonna get a beat up when I get home type of ship. So you showing me you want me up, That's what I'm saying.

So do you think with love it comes with a certain form of sacrifice for sure, compromising no matter what you no matter what you when you get this, when you tell a person that okay, it's us forever. No matter what you want, you gotta do what they want. But how does that work? I'm just saying, like, just say if they if she make a if she makes a requests and you know it's a sensible requests, you better do it right for sure. That's what I'm saying, Like, like,

you know what I'm saying. But because if you don't want to do it, even if you don't want to do it, like I remember used to be going to did no Ice now that ship like that bro, I hated this ship, but I'm sending their motherfucker looking like, oh look at this, look at this. Ain't got no choice, but she knew in a heart like ye'all know you want to go, bab thank you for going. She know

I don't want to go that ship. Do you feel like men make the biggest sacrifice and relationships, well when it comes to love, So of course we're gonna say that. I don't think so. You think it's an eco sacrifice because you know what's happy wife, happy life, You got happy house, happy spouse. You gotta make your wife happy.

I can't make you happy. You don't want me. Yeah, but we're talking about making sound talking about as far as like as far as men are concerned with their sacrifices as opposed to the sacrifices that men have to make. I feel like women have to endure more because men can't fucking men don't have to deal. Like if a man had a wife or a girlfriend or whatever, and she funked around and had another baby on him, he's gone.

But at the end of the day, women, depending on how much time has been invested in certain other factors and things or whatever whatever, they may choose to stay and just try to accept whatever comes with this nigga that that cause at the end of the day, Shall you don't have their baby if you be their baby and be here with us the baby. I just gotta baby moments on way with the baby. I got chicken

with the baby, get her hand. Now you know I'm saying, I got nigga baby every day, dude, sact is it true? My baby on my own to hang my baby for the weekend. Ain't got to bring them to you. I don't know. You don't never got to see the baby. But I gotta call home. We got the baby cry and ships the baby looked like I ain't even looked at it like that, But damn, that's right. I look

a lot like a lot of ship. But in the healthy relationship, I think you gotta have a conversation because this happened with me and my wife one time, and it's like, you gotta learn to respect. They're sacrifices and they're compromised because you might not know everything. Not compare them, not compare the exactly because a woman going through a lot of ship. But I ain't gonna know to you tell me that you're going through all that ship. Then I kind of told him to ship I gotta go

through to make you happy doing all that. Hell, I think you're having to do some ship. You know what I'm saying. That ship ain't just snapping the finger. So you just gotta respect each other, communication understanding, Like I just need to know, like still want me right? You know ahead, make sure let make sure we keep that in there, because motherfucker did screened you alone, bro, and you've been string alone for what you could be. Don't got somebody that won't you. That's how niggas flip out

and start killing everybody that's like you can't do that. No, I'm just saying but that's how it happens, blame or not. Yeah, So I feel when you said that you want to be needing in the relationships, are you really joined what you basically one? Definitely? Because you definitelytionally I want her to need me because you said you need ask what that's what you said. You know that. I said, you don't be making it up. He didn't say that, but you sound like you needed it. No, I said, I

won't ask. But what I say, but now we are, you're talking about the whole time I'm talking about versus what I want to ask? What I need is he very rarely gets any show. He'd be leaving us to go get bitches. Now, No, I don't got a bit. You don't let that in there to keep rocking. I don't got no holes now he got one man one right now, he's trying to be cool, y'all go ahead, holes, But does he get the holes? Ass? Were talking about what your needs connection? You've seen to me action like that.

But I need it. I need to be want wanted. I want to be wanted and that I don't. I need to be wanted man wanted. But I feel like once you want me and show you you want me, and I start want you. I'm gonna do things that You're gonna make you automatically needing. That's deep. Yeah, I know I'm gonna do things that that's that's that's that's gonna make you where you you don't want to be. You don't want to be out of my present like you need my presence. RsTen is a big part of that, Huh.

I tell some of my partner's like, if you don't miss the person you with something with the ones, the needs, whatever, if you don't miss that person, so many right supposed to miss the person. Yeah, I guess, I guess it's I guess when I when y'all ask the question I'm thinking about, like an issue like if I come in a relationship with a person I need them. I don't think I'm gonna being real with them. I don't nobody should jumping right in the relationship needing somebody that ship.

That's what I'm saying. Do you want to be wanting and needed where you gotta start it? Start from the begin the beginning. But can that captain save the ship? Turn into some other ships, some good ships? Yeah, we don't see some niggas save some women. Yeah, but see what happens with get different. What happens with the captain saving ship is like they go into it saving the bench or whatever, and then the bitch gets comfortable with the routine and just decides to settle. Yes, for sure,

for sure. She's saying like, that's okay if you like savings the code that you know what I'm saying, You need a girl, you take care of, pay of beers and all that, you know what I'm saying. And then she got them. She's just like she got comfortable with that. She don't quit a job. Okay, now that taking even even though I don't want him. Yeah, but that code can't pay them being she gonna show him I don't need you, want you niggas out of here on the

big Willie. Yeah, well yeah, that ship do happen for fact, third strange Jane ship. And people only need you until they find who they want. That's deep damn the truth. That's a big fact right there. Some people only need I need you for comfort right now. That goes back to stringing the person along and making them flip out once they find out the truth. I didn't did that a few times the toxic. I ain't gonna hold you. I didn't did that a few times, been bored on

some ship, didn't have nobody else? Then talk to somebody, did some ship and wait to somebody that came in. What was the what was the middle? They are doing for you though? No, it was just like some ship to do. Like somebody talked to somebody, take me out to eat? I was I ain't allow I was on some bush. I just strung it along just because I knew I so many women do that. Yeah, we do it, so many women. For the first dude, Now, I just stopped talking to him because the other dude came and

I like them more. You ghosted him. Yeah, it's easy. You know how anyone that trigger what you're doing. You get the messages that used to be every hour now they like answer but stop calling me. But some of you women a disgrad brush. Stop calling me. But you don't even I don't even like you. Man, click, don't need to give you that. Just put your ass on the block list and you want to start the man, that ship just disappears. You'll see you Have you seen that have my Yeah? I did have I did have

a girl. I'm really just waiting on this other nigga. Click, No, I'm not doing that. We're not playing the games. I'm too poping for that. So you so you're the warm them up. Take him go, let them get drunk. Okay, come see you like right, I don't like. I mean like I'm like going out side for that ship that happened. Did you coming over here? It's you up a bit heart up friend, drink? Come put up up? In weekends? How to eat? We got like, how many times it's always,

don't do that yet me once? Just once? What years? That was twenty seventeen, that was one time in twenty seveneen? Heaven, I said, how many times I go out of that ship that happened? I don't be out you do be out by myself buying drinks and don't drink. The house of hook ain't no drink. It's them. That's part of not saying, you gotta have had Yeah, I ain't had once? Thank you. The night before the late nights, she called the nigger they got them they eat eating mother, and

who is that? I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go wan thing. I really want to fool and drum because he ain't gonna be ain't and he ain't buying ship, so I need somebody else to do get out there. That's a tragic story. Sorry for that, but I wish your motherfucker would they've been doing it yet? Who all of them? So okay, so let's let's let's start over. Since we had a great dialog. Do you rather be wanted or

what versus needing? Is Codak's kind of drumming need it couldn't my word coming off the big facts need it and I as a big consistent the whole time, need it. So you want that needs you? So girl, girl, now want you. We just said you can't have a need without a want. You can have a need without he's shch sain't choose one. We have to choose. It's red bluepill today red the bluepill, needed on one needed needing that if you're needed, you're not wanting all right now.

When I say need, I'm talking about emotionally. I'm not talking about she need me for. But that's saying but you can need. She can she can deal with you for emotionally, Like just let you be a counselor and still come, won't me? And you may be the one that's easier to talk to, but think that I really

want He ain't trying to hear none of that. He don't. Yeah, I don't even want him to hear that I got real life problems going on because I want him to think I got that's really really, I'm not talking to somebody about the issues that I'm not dealing with like that girl. So girl, Yes, yeah you are girl? How didn't how do you know this show you that your girl? How do you know? How you know? You know? He give you know, the to drinking money? Yeah? What you're doing?

Oh yeah, I got this houst thing. I'm about to pull up like you wanted them. I'm gonna pull up on you. I need ticket to the Big Fact Live, Nigga? I got you? How I accused you of that? What I'm trying to say is you want you want to be a different like nobody say you don't five bitch? He knew at the five bitch. But is he the warmer though? You warmer five bit won't be warmers toaster

ving him? Yeah, that's what we were house buddies. What we're talking about, Jake, I'm just saying that's all they're saying. Are you the warmer were not saying, yeah, honestly, absolutely, are you wanting the nigga that girl be like they don't count because you know girls always got the niggas that don't count. Don't want them still beat. I don't give a funk. I don't I don't give your ship, give it you, but don't right, I don't smoke, I don't eat. Come already warmed up. We got ain't got

no dishes? What you mean, ain't got but I been ba you try to give up, but protuber ain't got that ain't doing. We're gonna let code that woe three woman. He ain't w ship like I'm right here, I'll you wont want to want now in the relationships. I definitely want to be wanted in business and everything else. I definitely need to be needed first, work with friends, with friends.

An't here less gonna lie with friends you don't you can need if a friend need you, that ship weird know it ain't because I felt like with certain something, I got certain friends. I like. If I'm going through something, it's a certain friend I need to talk to. I need to need different friends with different things. Yeah, okay, we're not I have certain friends I want to go hang out with. I want to go out with this friend,

but a certain friends. But if that friend wasn't available to get that whatever you want to talking for us you want to get off with. Do you need them for that ship? Or can you have that same conversation with another? No, you still need them, you just kind

of wait, like at least for me. With me, like my certain friends that I feel like give me the best advice, Like if they're not available for me to talk to, I may go to my friend two or three, but I still gonna bring it back to the main one that I feel like give the best advice and I feel like know me better, so I need that person. But then you want, you know, I think with friends this want and need. I think you don't know your oldest friendship how long we've been friends, like ship high school?

So like fifteen sixteen years y'all still talk every day. We don't talk every day now because we talk cool now. We talk we lock in like everything important. We talk about like all of that ship. But we ain't talking every day. But if I got something that's like going on in life and I'm like depressed or something, I'm a car check in or if some ship going on with her, she needs some ship going on, she's gonna call check in one of them. Hamma, who I jumped

out of with. That's my first friend that I ever had in life, and I want to be his friend. Like we cannot speak for months, years he's been in prison and all this ship we're still have friends. I don't need him for a friend, like I don't need him for him. He don't need him for me. But that's my brother, So I want him to be my brother, you know what I'm saying. But he do come forth if I need him, Like if I need you, he gonna pull up. So but I want to be as

fun first. Let make sense in the world, you know what I'm saying. That's the same way I'm trying to say with a relationship, Like if I just need you, how do I really can say I respect you or love you if I only need you, I only need If somebody only needed their friend because their friends do certain ship for him, got a car, got this or got that or whatever, then it's missing. Its exactly the same with my wife and not put my hands on her just period, like in public whatever, I just gotta

be touching her because I want her. I don't need to be touching her. You get wanna say, I want to touch you and make you feel and smile and blushing. Ship, I want that. I want to see that smile. You get what I'm saying. But if I just needed you on it, ship, sho, get out of the car. Yo. I don't get where your parkhead. I don't count, but know I'm gonna walk down there and make sure because I want to make you feel good. If that makes

sense what I'm saying. But if I just answer my feeling, I just only needed you, and I'm telling how I would treat you. To think about how your sume s. Think about how your friends, like the people that needed you in life, right when they didn't need you no more, think about how they treated you. That's why I'm coming from. I don't went through that. Everything of that needed me when they needed me to stop. They faced to beat this, beat this, beat this. They were the best of my friends.

They was kicking it like they wanted me. They got a position where they didn't need bank no more than now it's fun or not even that. In fact, they didn't need you no more you cut off access to you to what they can't even thinking like that, I can't use you exactly. I see, okay, I can't go sit on that sof bank. You don't. I'm so filled up. And then j that the dove tripping about that get the money. They can start seeing like ship the chain and you can start showing their red hand. They't one.

They probably pay the humble. But I got in seven six thousand events free. Yeah, because I needed you to get an events once I started showing that you can't get an events. Look, I don't want to go to your ship no more. You know what I'm saying. Like one music fest, we just did shots out of one music fest we just did. You know what I'm saying, we didn't have access to no tickets to that ship with tripping. If you're really fun fair, how you say you're doing your feminine by ticket and let me see

you feel me from the cross. That means you want to see me win, not need to see me when you need to see me win. That means you need to see me win to help you. You're winning is only as relevant as it helps me. It's no, that's the truth, though, say want because you won't be you. You're gonna want to see me happy. You gonna want to see if you're gonna want I don't want to see me win. Yeah, I see what you're saying. So needed, it's kind of if I need bank needing, the self

serving on my part. Yeah, like Screen just said, Screen, no, he can get ta, we can get whatever at the ship show. He won't. He just said, I'm about a whole brow in the phone call and get the teams away whatever. That's because he wants to see me win. Yeah, you know I'm saying if he needed me for some tickets, it used to be like, no, I want to see you win. That's the difference, bro. Yeah, I get that.

I get that. So when when these women are calling here you and they're drinking up, you're looking all this, you just won't they won't to be womped up and I won't ship. Yeah, real ship, in relationship, you should want to be wanted. I can't tell everybody whatever. But and then I feel like once you, once you've been properly wanted, they're gonna automatic need you. Yeah you know

what I'm saying. Yeah, I think you're right, because but I know that like a lot of men that they'll start their relationships by saying they want a woman that need them so but that's that's that's a that's an ego thing to not necessarily like myself. But some men have to want to be needed for certain ship. That's

how that that's the dynamics of their relationship. But the thing about it is if you put if you, if you're the type of man, then I feel like I am, you're gonna give a woman something she came not she came not need. You get what I'm saying. But you wanted me, gonna make me, make you want to need me, If that makes sense what I'm saying, like, I just need you to want me, to give me a chance to show you you need Okay, you feel I'm saying like you wanted just because she wanted you from the

beginning when y'all got together. Okay, now we need each other. Then we need to start a family, We need to get married. We'll get married. Started how they went. But you get what I'm saying, But it came from you wanting her. Know, the foundation is definitely the ones I learned that that that makes all the sense in the world. But the foundation is there. But another thing like Black was just saying, like, then you put that, she gonna know she needs you. You put the right one at

the right time, she gonna know what she needs. That's all I'm saying. Like you some niggas don't understand or some nicks who need to be needed. Dang got everything it take to be wont Yeah, That's what I'm just getting ready to say. Like how he was saying, like, when you properly, when you've been properly wanted, you never need to be needed again. Facts. Fact, Jake's running back one time for the bitches in the back, Jake, when you have been properly wanted, you never need to be

needed ever again. Facts. Yeah, that's a fact. Taught me something. That's when it comes to like relationship ship. I think for me, I think most I could just be for myself. For me, I felt like I'm so like independent, Like I feel like I don't need nobody, Like because you met the nigga that you can't sleep, eat whatever without. That's what I was saying. That's what it is. That's what I feel like. It's a want, like if I could deal like I want you for certain things, But

I felt like it's a different bro's it. Then when you need to meet certain people, not even a nigga, you meet the female whoever, you meet the person that I want you so much that I got a met your match. Yeah, exactly, like a lot of the ship you be on. I'm telling you this ship, he said, should I be on? You think I'd be on? Bullshit? You mean you respect him a certain way? All that ship. You know he ain't going for this ship. You ain't even gonna be on this ship. It's gonna be He's

gonna meet your match. The strang on and not fix. We were talking about three in the morning all this show. We're talk about in the past, Like no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no. I got to let me. We're talking about in the past like things have in the past when I was giving those examples, but waking up at three and I'm not changing my mind on that. Like Jay got that hit. You can't say that. You can't say that right nigga. Three sound. I swear to God,

the right nigga, do the right ship. But you go, God damn, you'll find that motherfucker cutting the meat off the couch. Yeah, damn curated. You'll do everything you need to do to get the nigga the sound what you won't because you won't because you want him to be happy. Thank you in the morning. We ain't gonna do this because they the comments ate my ass up about me

talking about three in the morning. Make you want to show you don't make that sound whistling for the right niggas whistling Lane Dixie, that's your sleep listen, because I you know, I'm man a fact, don't have it. I'm gonna come and tell you, man, I just I woke up at three in the morning and made a sound.

See I like I go through that too, Like I just like saving like coming out home, like so neat she know what to say to make me say that side if she don't want to do it, but fine, like getting up, man, like why do you wait that? God sleep? And then I'll be like this side. But I know you would have did it that. I got mad. Yeah, like you gonna do it anyway, you get what's that? I know you'll do it, yeah, but I know you really,

I really just tried. Just five o'clock in the ball you tired, you gotta get up whatever but just me knowing that you respect me enough that you'll get up and do it. Mad. I don't want my salitation, no man, So make my ship with love. That's what I'm saying, because you're dropping on the floor. If I woke up to make that sounds, that should give a frisbee all across the dust, Like I'm frisbee in it and you're

gonna get it. What bron did some of the bullshit like get that girl to get up and fixed me ship? And she's coming up with the should not have your sleep? Oh that she was a guy smacked the crashing as up and eat this ship? Oh my god, yes if I did it? Yeah, see I'm not but certain ship. Like a couple of episode petty, you have to be petty because I'm doing those things to see that you still want me. But can she be that same petty with you? Like she go wake up at the phone

in the morning, say make her a sandwich? A sandwich? I'm not the sandwich maker? Why not? What makes you not the sandwich maker? I bring you the sand but what makes you not the sandwich maker? I never made sounds? How why not? Because that's not but but but you ain't wake me up, made no sound. He's not what I said for him. I don't make challenge just a chance. Stop. That's my child. First of all, he just said he's

not waking about his sleep and making up sound. Here nobody didn't know wake my sheep to walk up to the car if she didn't gt to go someone right, I wake up at my sleep and do things that she needs me to do as a husband. She said. If he if he say't go to walk, and she said, go to walk and get this I really needed. I would wake up a out my sleep and do that. But I don't even wake up about my sleep to be the goddamn to wash the dishes me neither somebody. Yeah,

maybe that's what I give. I get that to you. I wake up out my sleep to take care of my child for you. Do I like about any relationship if I didn't want to have sex and wake me up? Sounds like she just asked that questions about sacrifice. I did just asked that you confused sometimes that I'll be, but not to make a sound. And man, the sex we did we to do this is gonna come after her reason. I mean, I could be what what if that's gonna be different. I'm not it's gonna be different

because we really know you, We know your heart. You just on this ship, but that ship you're gonna yours. When I listen relationship the same way I met my match, meet that match, tell you are you going? I ain't saying, but I ain't waking up at my sleep to make the sandwiches? Is it sex traffic? You tell your why she can't need you from what is a sex trafficking?

If you tell your wife you can't you can't leave me, I'm saying, like just saving, like savings, I get into it, like she'd be like, I just can't deal with this more. You can't leave That's not t that's traffic. It's earth. Now you're making her to go have sex with everybody else? No, no, no, no, what I'm saying we have sex? Right, Yeah. So if she's saying she want to leave me, and I'm saying, you can't leave it, we can't gotta have trafficking exists

when it's going through people. That's actually coversion? Is that? Is that a did you tell your wife she can't leave you? It's kidnapping? It really depends on the country did you tire up? And it depends on I'll just say you been I leave. No, that ain't no crime. Black people do it all the time. Okay, there's a lot of ship we do that. So crime warming warming warming sister, believe that you want him back and back he caught in the warm HVAC system. That boy, I

don't know what they be sleeping over. I don't know where they'd be going. So ship, you know more leep over? You put them to sleep? Yet you said you gotta sleep and who eat getting a warm bits for as ship said you going? You you're finding fat? Are you going gonna? Maybe they'd be sleeping my ship? So I don't know a nap, no wake up at eight o'clock in the morning give him. Yeah, but yeah, but I ain't ready. He still trapping. Yeah, they came up from the spot. I got what I take up. He also,

so you want them up and them get risk? Yeah the shot they shot to get you, let me get risk and she could have come with us fully shot. He get her gas money, let her take a shower before she leave. Man the perfect big fact family. Believe that you want to like that? Yeah, Fat and husban DM Yeah, y'all see that he probably got somebody right now, y'all see that laid back he got going on? Man, take to believe what you want to he said, They thick. Yeah,

I'm thinking business. That's a couple of can't know, but I don't know. Is he warming or Joman gonna blast? And if you if your m posted, bitch, what about fitch? You all that you ain't that cool? You ain't that cool? Posted? Woman? Somebody is upset. Woman, sister, I'm sick too. Sick a girl. Don't you see how you do? Break? Break this hard? Get it? She come out of the blue jar acting like she wants you. That's me. Aby's gonna reply to him. There, you'll be like you to follow us? Who sent you?

She followed any one of yours? Oh good, that was a great topic. She followed three years old? Want kick knees? Asterday lost? We lost? But no, it's you gotta be needed in the situation some balance, For sure. You gotta be needing a situation. But I prefer to be one it first, and then when you want me the person I'm gonna become. Knowing that you want me, it's going to create a need for me every woman. I think I think every woman want and need certain things from

like a significant other. Like they're gonna always yearn for like a man to treat them a certain type of way. So they're always gonna need a man for a certain thing, regardless of what we say, Like especially being an independent woman, I can say all day, I do all listen all that myself, right, but deep down it's certain things that I yearned and need for a man to do. That's what we're saying. And you're gonna meet your match. You're gonna meet your matchup make a cute we want to No, no, no,

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