BIG FACTS FRIDAY- Trauma

feeling good? Everybody's blessed? Right? Anything on anybody's mind or heart? I ask you all that every week, and y'all be really do do you have anything? I'm good? Are you good? I'm good? Your shockers on line? My shockers are anything's good because I worked them. I worked on them. You meditate, yes, make do too? Know why why we can't? Oh no, I'm gonna say that for them, So go ahead, all right, thinking of some ship. But this big thing come, we just I just can't be a dream and we go

to sleep? Is reality? That's a great question. Hit them? You feel that? Mean? I feel with my dream? Yeah? Because you have you know that, No, you haven't been working in your dream? You feel it have a wet dream, bro it ain't this ain't that type of shows PTSD, I keep telling even made it a minute then now the kids can't watch God damn. Thought about that though, Like what if right now is not really happening and

we're dreaming? You know, you have a dream and you what up and you had a miss called from the person your dream? But yeah, that has not happened to Have you ever thought about somebody and they start calling you happen till Yeah, that's kind of that could be coincidental. How does this happened too often? People? But people calling me that I ain't talked to a year? That's what I'm saying. That mean your third eyes open? Yeah, I'm

tapping say less. Yeah, I don't think that happens to people as much unexplained because I keep seeing ship that I say that same scenario, same conversation with the same people. How m you ever smell some ship and took you

back to the place you guess that's sensory. But like if you hear a song, it'll bring you back all the way years ago and make you think of a certain I mean that ain't really but that's that's really like nothing memory, yeah, make you Yeah, actually I'll do, but I'll be thinking, like I jumped to myself, like

what I don't know, it's some scary ship. You don't gotta be scary, like this ship be so much the thought be so crazy to be like no, Okay, I see what you're saying, because I've seen some ship like it's gonna will but you know, like we're cooking this ship like and and drank it cloged up. I've seen some ship online to say, would you send this ship for five million dollars? And now the picture of the straw within the water you're talking abo junk. Yeah, I

get what you're saying. Make you jump, so I enter my thing about the others start that's so fucking nasty. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. That like like something to make your make your skin skin cross the baby like ship. You get what I'm saying. Like it could be a thought too though, Yeah, I mean I do that if I like, well, that's not really a thought. If I see somebody throwing up, it makes me naturally do that.

So is that like do you think of ship and you have to reject it like bad thoughts you don't want to think about there's anything like stupid ship. It could be tripping fucking thinking about that dumbash like if I see like uh, if I'm driving, I see like a hearsing song that my mind did not have to snap out of it. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I don't even want to think about all that. Yeah, here on this plan. Yes, so all that multiverse ship

coming from from go ahead, go ahead. They're trying to slowly transition us into that world. We don't say everything that we have seen in movies, come come, come to pay right, Yeah, like all the endemic all ship it has been one where the aliens it really as us in disguise. Yeah, what if it's like really like, it's not gonna be like like the aliens you see in the movies with the fucking and the fucking, So that ud be on us. Could be that could be an Indian,

It could be a fact I think I am, m hmm. Thank, could be the eliot. I hope, I am. Let's go j what we're doing today. Okay, So the word of the day is trauma, and trauma is any serious injury to the body, often resulting from violence or an accident or an emotional wound leading to psychological injury. It could also possibly be an event that causes great distress. Mm hmm. That's so are we talking about well, obviously we're not talking about like physical trauma, so we're talking about life well,

but primarily you're both of them. But life trauma emotional trauma. Have you ever been like in the car accident and after the accident you kind of start playing like finishing up, like anytime you know you think she's going wrong. I've been in too many accidents. I've been in shootouts and ship and I'm like traumatized from that ship. Like any time I hear a loud noise or I'm looking around like that should be that should be like shoo close. And I've been in too many situations where I escaped

by hair. You'mpa Yes, yeah, absolutely, especially when you think about like life circumstances, like you know, if you're boring into like parents that's like drug addicts or that type of nature, you're definitely born into trauma because in that way, you're not gonna have like the standard loving care and family. You're gonna be dealing with bs Off the dribble so you're definitely boring into drama, I mean trauma, but exactly trauma make your make you numb to trauma. I guess

that maybe that's a conundrum. Desensitize, Yeah, yeah, you can see you can see so many some so many times that the first time I saw someone shot, I was like, oh ship. Then about the fourth time, like that, It's normal. I feel like as as black people, we kind of are decent, you get desensitized to it because either you live in you live in through it, or you gotta

see it on TV. You see it on television. But I tried not to watch any of these police killers that happen on TV, but I've seen it already so many times. It's like damn, It's like I should we should really shouldn't be exposed to this much trauma. Like people that are living in some of these urban neighborhoods are seeing more depth and and and and near war than people that are actually going off to these other countries and fight. But I don't even think I don't

think it's the trauma that we're exposed to. I think it's the the violence and the it's I can't think of the word I'm looking for right now. But the ship that we're being exposed to is causing the trauma.

But what we're actually being exposed to is I can't think of the word, but it's like it's the it's the violence and the and the like the negative ship, all the ship that goes along with yeah, the killings and the fucking shootings and you know what I'm saying, all that kind of ship, like that's what causes the trauma that we're experiencing. So how do you or can you alleviate trauma? Like can you get past their traumatic

expiration in therapy? Therapy? What's some other ways? Though? I think we all kind of know, like therapy, but what what what if you personally want to start to alleviate and heal your trauma, which ship that then y'all might have done? Or I feel like the only way that you can maybe start to alleviate the traumas if you disconnect from the world. That's the only way, m or find an outlet, find an outlet, disconnect. You gotta read

yourself up to me, you know what I'm saying. What you mean like, you gotta literally make yourself not give a funk about certain ship, but are leaving with you through your thoughts in triggers. But it's like a recorded like your mind records your life, right, so it's like recorded, it's recorded right here, So I see what you're saying.

You gotta program youah man, They're just like but if you if you see some ship and it's traumatic, then but I feel like if you program yourself not to give a funk about anything, then it's like the ship that you Paul give a funk about, you're not gonna get say, don't give a funk about that. I'm saying, don't give a funk about what's already gone happened. You can't put two page back in the goddamn too, you're saying,

I'm going to paste, don't crime spill. I think it's more so just being real with yourself, like when you go through certain things, like at least for me, like I feel like I've dealt with childhood trauma right and move into Georgia. I felt like it was kind of like with Jay was saying, you disconnect, like move yourself out the situation. But when I first initially did that, I felt like it didn't solve any of those problems. I had to start being real with myself or why

does this, why do you act like this? What makes you chick? Because and then you'd be real with yourself. You realize like, oh, this came from back in the day when Auntie and blah blah blah and all that accountability. So when you have those triggers happen, you realize like, damn, Bank just said that, But that ain't really why I'm chicking like this. It's because of back in the day. It's why I'm kicking like, yes, that's what I'm saying. So you've got programs said not even give a funk

about what happened because it already happened to me. People, you the trauma is excused to be some bullshit. I agree, I went through this. What do that means? Look all the ship do you folks go through the with the miracle stories that ship he's gonna make you a stronger week. Yeah, that's a powder taking accountability to because it's easy to

blame your failures on other people. But when you got looking at me and said, damn, I'm really not ship because I'm not ship, you know a lot of people can't face that monsters and people be trolling besides about different ship like the ship. I'll be hearing people like they can't go on because of this. I'll be like, duck ain't ship. Yeah, I wish dold with my problems because my mom wouldn't know what that means. You grown now. But some people deal with like some people deal with

different some people internally different, different people different ships. But somebody like for like all of us, like, if you have your parents there, you're not gonna be able to relate to somebody that ain't never had a parent there. No matter how we try to ship in shape it, the form it, you're not gonna be able to relate. So if somebody would be like, I ain't ship because my mom wasn't there, but we all had our mom, we can't really relate into somebody that didn't have their mom.

Can say well, you you probably had this, this and this. You know what I'm saying, like, if you ain't had those same experiences nine times at the ten is kind of sucked up to tell somebody like that, ain't really just saying like, but you, but from your perspective, that's perspective, Like, Okay, some niggers could have a mama that they wish one there. That's true to me. Yeah, that's at the end of the day, like he could have got abused by it.

Like you just gotta I feel like when you get when you get in a certain position and and it's gonna sound crazy, when you get become an adult, you gotta them to try to forget certain ship or leo past what you're gonna do. You're gonna be stuck right now. Don't hold onto it forever. Don't hold on to it that causes you what what it caused you? More? Trump you thinking about that though? What I was saying, like,

you gotta reprogram your mind. You gotta think that, Okay, that ship was putting that that ship was on a test. You gotta look at everything ain't bad that you went through as a test because if you're still standing on your same two feet, that ship ain't break you. But if you look at if you're the type of person that looks for an easy out, and you say, well damn, I get to say I'm feeling because of this, of this something that somebody else did this excuse that's why it.

But I don't I don't necessarily agree with that because it's like people that people that express their trauma, I don't necessarily always feel like it's always a situation where they're looking for an easy out or they're trying to use it as an excuse. A lot of people are so deeply affected by certain things that I don't want to say it's almost impossible for them to get past it.

But it's it's harder than most and because of other factors and other like certain situations, like their mental is affected in different ways and they might not be as strong as such and such a soul and tol over there to be able to be able to move that. Did you see that this ship is affecting you to the point where you can't move on? That's when you

seek help. If you're just seeing him telling me I'm not gonna help you, or you're telling I need this because I went through this, that means that's to me, that becomes an excuse. So what about the people who don't know how to get help? And I'm speaking of like younger people. I feel on grown ups, But what if a younger person just don't speak. But if you're a child ship, then it's your parents or whoever around you to get you help because I'm wrong. People don't

know how to get help. Dog being real like safe. Some abuse women is getting abuse like all the time, and they don't know how to I don't know explain them because you know what I'm saying. But that well I said, it ain't that simple. Black. Some women that has gotten to try to call the police and then it doesn't go the way that they wanted to go, and then they have to go because you didn't call the police and you don't have nowhere to go. You

don't have nothing going on. You can't leave and believe whatever whatever. But what is all that doing when you're saying all this, you can't do this, you can't do this? What? What? What's that? That's all it is to me? No, that's definitely an excuse. Like anything, you make up something reason why you can't do what you need to do. That's an excuse, no matter what you're trying to say. Because you can't call them, you can run away and be and sleep up under the bridge. Forere you gonna get

your head? Whoops? You can you're gonna sett them and make an excuse because you gotta water shape. No, it's not it ain't even but it's deepers. It's necessarily about I can say all that ship leaves back to an excuse to me, and everybody might not agree, but to me, it's an excuse because how many women is? How many women that you have you seen? Kill that niggle? But what are they gonna do? Burn it bad or whatever. I'm not gonna make an excuse while gonna let you

just do me any kind of way. Yeah, I see what you're saying, because there's an out in every situation. May not be comfortable out exactly, That's what I'm saying. It may not be, it may be a conumpt Yeah it maybe somewhere you have to do, you have to struggle, but are you gonna choose this? But it's not even about when when you're speaking on domestic violence and like abuse and ship like that, it's not even about it

being comfortable. It's not I when I said not having an where to say, I didn't even mean to throw that in there. It's about it's more mental than anything. And the abuser has basically broken the abused down so low and so far so they feel like they don't have anything but else or anywhere else to go, or they can't call anybody, or it's nothing else to do it. So it's not about them just being able to like

leave or you know what I'm saying. Whatever, it's like, Okay, They in their mind believe that whatever this abus or nigger or the abuser or whatever is telling them is the gospel, is the God on his truth, and they don't have any other alternative. But sometimes that the person that's being abused didn't even have to be broke down by the abuses. Sometimes they came up in these negatives. Easy to say that, that's easy to say they came I'm saying, they came up in these negative situations where

they mistake that abuse as love. That's the whole point. Circumstances. Yeah, he just I don't know, but I see, I see what you're saying. We could never you know, we can. So I don't even know what I was. If a situation is uncomfortable, you have a choice to make it comfortable. You have a human As a human, you do have a choice when you start. That's called settlement. How do you feel like you must feel like you can't. I

can understand, motherfucking man. Fuck you, that's true, But what are your friends telling you before they give up on where your parents, whoever, whoever in your life. I'm pretty sure they don't say it, you can come over here or whatever. But a lot of times, just so you know, a lot of times people that's being abused, those people

around them don't even know all that ship. They don't even know all that ship they isolating And if they do know, you already then went to back with them a few times to where it's like you don't even want to go back and let them know, like, damn what you said was right. So you're in the situations like being stuck between the rock and heart. So what you did when you do that, what you mean if you don't want to go back and tell your friends that, damn you was right, what are you doing? But if

you're making an excuse for this. But most of the time that's how it starts. It's like trauma, that's not abuse. Relationships. It don't really just be like here, it'd be like more of a yea yeah, it don't be like necessarily that you don't want to go back, like it's like a pride thing where you don't want to go back and tell them that they were right, it's already like

you're already like in a deep state of depression. So it's like you just feel like it's just it's just too much all the way together to even try to like deal with them and then deal with this and they over here that's like abusing you or whatever. It's just like that ship, just like from because I have people that are close to me that have gone through this ship and it's it's like it's not it's not

as clean cut as it seems you did. Some people are so subconsciously kind of like addicted the trauma, like they just like some people are people like they just they think this is how it's supposed to be. Like I'm supposed to be traumatized my whole life. I've been traumatized this way that way. So if you don't love me that type of ship, I don't think women really

go into the whole. Some some people do. I'm not saying majority, but some people do have their mindset or even if if he not if he don't give me strict restrictions, then he don't love me. If you let me do whatever I want. But I think when women are like that, it all starts with like childhood trauma, Like they have some ship that they've been through as a child that's never been rectified, you feel, I'm saying, so now it just goes up with them. We're not

get big When do trumpall become an excuse? Though? Um, if I think, if it's consistently I'm becoming an excuse the situational. I think if you just consistently like never try to do anything about it, Like okay, was you was in the trauma, you got trauma in your twenties, Now in your forties going through the same trauma. You ain't trying to do nothing about it. It ain't gonna

be that long, but you've accepted it. So now you're using it as an excuse for my career never worked, because that's talking to about the people like we're gonna take the mess advices out because that's a touch touch a situation. But still I still feel like, if you want to leave your ass to leave, that's just how I feel. Yeah, that's just how I feel. If you wanna leave, you wanna leave. Ain't thathing else. At the end of the day, you're traumatizing yourself by letting yourself

make an uncomfortable situation, make you comfortable. They're just to me. You know what I'm saying, You gotta be, gotta really be gonna sucked you up for you think if you've been, because some people don't be, you could what you think it's trauma to them, may not be. They couldn't like you said, they could enjoy that ship. Yeah, but you've got some people that like they stay in situations it ain't even for them, it's for something. It's for like

their family and ship. You got niggas that are like bring the whole family. So it's like, look but you

know that. But you see people I didn't get shot and killed on Domestivius every day sometimes you gotto that's true still, but some people rather them die slowly than me going to go put my family in this ship and you go go do some ship to my family and protect the cuss of something A college well that whatnot want that would pay tax call them for I mean, I agree what you're saying like this is just sounds like excuse to me, but it is what it is.

Because I guess the way I think is nobody can force me to do nothing that I don't want to do. Nobody can force me to think the way that I don't want to think, so I would never understand that it don't don't matter. I know women that feel the same way. I mean, I mean, I don't like women that there's one shot Charlotte, but you you can't even scream at me what fuck you? Because I've been traumatized streamed that by my mom and dad and like, but

and they don't turn around. Yeah, you know what's saying. So it's all a choice. Yeah, Yeah, you can let trauma make you weak or stronger. I agree with that. Supposed to make you stronger, for sure. I think that's the purpose of it. Me personally, I think it's supposed to make you stronger because, like you said, you hear all these great stories of people who came from trauma. More times than none of these people came from trauma. The best artist, the best actors, producers, whatever, you know

what I'm saying, had come from trauma. Yeah. But you know, like like she said, everybody don't have strong enough man, so that's what you gotta seek help. Yeah. Do you think that people acting out in kind of the world wind and day and a lot of the stuff that's happening to so many different things that's happening is a result of trauma. Yeah, mass shootings, shootings, getting shot over, a packet of Mannames, getting shot over some cold French fries.

I don't really think that that's trauma though, But it can go both ways because there's a lot of sick people out here without help. There's a lot of sick people out here that's untreated. How did they get how did they get there? Was it trauma that led them there? That's what I'm getting that was it trauma that led them to be that sick a little because like like she's saying, is you can't be broken. You know what

I'm saying. Somebody can break you to the point that you don't know what you're doing, you don't know what you're thinking. That's true, that's that's absolutely true. But I don't me. You can't got them continuously go through something and and not just check out of it. That's just my opinion on that. I can go through some ship that affects me forever in my life, but not even that keep doing it. It's like, fool me once, I got a choice, right, Yeah, fool me once. Shame on me,

fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice. Same re rewire yourself. Like if you knowing this woman beat on you, bro or whatever she doing, you're gonna keep going back that when you do it because you're leaving the house. I just seeing that the folk got you chained to the bed. They're different. That's different when having the folks and dungeons and all that ship. That different. But but you're going around people, but I'm missing you.

Gotta find me. If that's truma, I gotta go there, going to right, that's just you and your strong minds. You know, what are you saying? What are you saying? You and let him keep doing what you what he's speaking of life and choices like everybody isn't able to say everybody can make their own choices, not saying that there are not people that's not strong will that don't

make the right choices. But he's saying that at the end of the day, you can't take your kids and go to Wyoming if you want to, how you gonna get there? Well, what money you're saying, you're saying you're

speaking of somebody that's just depending on the abuser. You're saying that if they aren't that nor menally in the place to be able to leave, one of the reasons, and one of the factors that they aren't able to leave is because this person is their supports depending on That is a different situation if they're financially dependent on this because nine times out of tend if you're not financially or whatever dependent on this person, you have a strong enough mind to be able to try to lift

yourself out of that situation. But if you don't, then you can't. Do you think that's some type of that put you in the wrong too, for giving somebody that much power. I would just kind of try to say that, like that is there a weird comfort in this situation? Like are you Are you comfortable in this situation in a weird way? Like kind of like, well, this bad is happening, but at least I know you see what

I'm saying. But I think I think that comfortability comes from a place of kind of being stuck and stagnant in this situation, Like it's not it's not there's no excuse for it, for allowing someone to have that much power over you. But whatever caused you to be in that situation, like you know, certain different things happened like

that caused people to get in situations like that. But at the end of the day, it's like if you're a victim in a situation, true enough, like there's no excuse for again you're allowing to have that much power over you. But at the end of the day, like we don't know what the factor's words that let up or that caused that situation, or that caused that person to be in a situation where that person had to

have that much power over them. It's unique situations. He's time, but that's still you still coming from an excuse place to me. If you're gonna allow if you're gonna put yourself in a situation that you're uncomfortable with for your game, you're wrong too. You're just as wrong as the abusing for receiving it and accepted it, just as wrong you're

using them. You funk with them because there aren't times where they're There are times that I'm experience from the people that I know that have been in domestic situations, and it's not about that they didn't funk with the person like the nigga or whatever. They really loved this nigg and they really care for this nig and they really like really gave their life up for this, for

this nigga or whatever. And he in turn chipped away, chipped away, chipped away, chipped away, broke it down, isolated them, got him away from everybody, whatever, whatever, and then made them feel like, okay, like you're nothing without me. And then once he started, you're feeling like nothing without me or whatever whatever. That's when, okay, like the depression set in. Like when they got isolated from everybody, they didn't feel like being around people because it was just so much

ship going on. Then when they started getting like beat on and ship, they didn't want to go around anybody, let them see like the bruises and you know what I'm saying, all that s it's just is the ship is just like it's just fucked up. It's fucked up, it's funked up. But you're still make an excuse for this person to beat on you. Regardless of what you're saying, You're still making any excuse. If you got hid the fact that somebody is abusing you, what are you doing?

So what you're saying is and when this ship happened, it should just be out there. And that's like, just put it out there women, because a lot of women don't put it out there. Worse happening. Yeah, Okay, he just he just smacked me this time. But if I go out there and let somebody see it and then I have to explain to somebody what's going on, and then I have to tell him that this nigga smacked me, then this nigga might stop me out the next time, where this nigga might kill me next time, or like

anything next time. If you want what was always a threat of him killing you? It don't matter what what was it? But again, like I said, it's easier to say when you're not in that situation. What was it? What was it? What Tina? Do you think if for Tina it was like for Tina Turning? I'm just speaking because we saw the documentary in the movie, like, do you think that that was her not being strong? Will?

Do you think that was her comfortability with this is my record producer of the person that kind of moves my career and I need his career. I feel like her trying to say face for both of them. Yeah, But at the same time, I mean, I give you that. Most of the time, when women are in a situations like you don't want to admit that, like, yo, the person that I said I'm in love with is now

beating my back. It's embarrassing. And on top of that, you don't want to go and say, like, let's say you did hit me right and you're telling me you ain't gonna never do that again. You don't want to go and tell screaming and now scream gotta beat for this man because I didn't told a scream that he didn't woop my ask this one time, and it may have.

I'm believing that it was just that one time. A lot of times women don't know that they're gonna get their as beat again, but then again and again and again. Look at speaking even goes back to that's still an excuse. You know what you got, you know you in your face, so you gotta nip that in the bud right there. If you don't like that, I mean, I agree, and I'm saying that no, no, it's gonna happen. Great, let

me get the funk I'm around you. But no woman knows that it's gonna happen when that when that first time from somebody that you feel like I'm gonna know how to deal with. But when it happened the first time, should that should that not be a deal? Breakup? That should that shouldn't be That's what I'm saying. So that after that, after that, any time after that, what are you doing? But some people manuse but he don't matter,

It don't matter what the underlying excuses. It's dealing excuse. Okay, let me let me say this for him, just taking the icon Tina situation for instance, Like I got Tina when she was what sixteen? He took her, He changed her life. In the beginning, he wasn't ending her. He's all she knew. He wasn't beating on her. None of that ship they did, all of this ship, they made a career, they had kids. Then slowly but surely, it

started turning for the worst. It wasn't like, Okay, he just beat the funk out of her the first time, you know what I'm saying. It started with a smack, you know what I'm saying. Then he like grabbed her hair or whatever, and but every time he apologized. So it's like she was into this situation so deep. So every time this nig apologized. Okay, there was a piece of hope there. Okay, maybe he was like serious and he's not gonna do this anymore. Whatever, but come out

of tea you're dealing with and drink Bill, drink. Look he's snapping on everybody, be beating on their being, on all the bad members and everything. How the fun's gonna believe this ain't him tonight because I'm bleeding, ain't know something making her making skills Like if I'm with a chicken. She stabbed me once, I'm not gonna get stay around

and get stabbed again. I don't care how much I think I'm parting the hit home Girl through goddamn it all of leader who along the whole crazy She stopped him when you said that, I mean leaving alone with crazy and that's don't shot at me on a wheelchair for the rest of the life. That bitch ain't know where to be found. M He was making excuses. She was just mad. Bro throw don'gree something. No, this bitch crazy, bro right a wrong. You can love the motherfucker so much,

do you traumatize your damn self as all I'm saying. Yeah, I agree, I agree, but you're making excuses. At the same time, if you ain't coming up like the other women you see a lot of women, it would be deal break up. But this nigga raised his voice in me. I'm not doing that. I'm not I'm not playing like that and won't call you no more. Yeah, I'm serious that that's a person that's not making excuses for you.

I'm gonna how mad you get, don't do that, hopefully I say I. Hopefully I say it another one because you don't been the hell let me no more. I'm not. That's that's still that. That's like, that's that's a and level minded person, any any level minded person that like that's a deal breaker for me, Like I'm not gonna do my fuck you, I'm not gonna do that, but somebody.

But there are people out there that aren't able to process that like that, and it and it may be an excuse, it may not be whatever whatever, based upon whatever they've been through in their life. I can't say. But at the end of the day, it's like it's it's once you're in that situation, and once you're in it so deep, it's not that easy to just say fuck it. Yeah, And then you never know. She already dealt with previous trauma, so whatever he bringing is almost normalized.

I get exactly what y'are saying, trust me, and I don't disagree. But what I'm saying is I don't understand it because everybody has a choice at the end of the day. You're saying, if a nigga take care of you, okay, then go broke it for even sleep up butting the motherfucking bridge with them and then beat on't you? So what are you doing? There are some people that sleep in the bridges that get abused, and I'm just saying the normal They ain't doing that, bro. If this is

my brain is working. So if a hustler in the streets hustling, can they code? They can cold turkey leave the game. But it's gonna come. It's gonna be difficult, it's gonna be a process. You can you can wait up, bro, if you want to quit that ship, you can quit it, right, But will it come with something? What you don't say you're gonna do something, you can do it and just

the bottom line, you can't make it. You Well, I gotta do this because I gotta pay my bill here and I gotta figure out how gonna pay my bill. I ain't suck streets no more. It's just what it is, bro. No matter what you're doing, you have a choice. We

make We make choices out of being comfortable. Bro, you got to understanding sometimes that comfort Now I said earlier, comfort put you get comfortable and kind of fucked up situation sometimes like they're comfortable, and the situations like that could be the case in the streets, that could be the case in the abusers relate. That's all I'm saying.

So at the end of the day, if you really want to get the funk away around me, no matter how entirely threing you, no matter because he's already abusing you. What's worst and getting the funk on what? Wait? What I'm going? What? What? What? Um? What? Partners fear playing it though, people because some people that might be abuse watching this. So if they're if they're in fear, what we tell them. And it's not that we're counselors, are professional,

You're just talking to me. I feel like anytime I'm scared, if I'm scared, what I'm gonna do? Yes, I see your motherfucking bad In the words I'm an run even though they're talking about ste back and heyy baron, No, I'm that's just what you know, what I'm saying, that's just yeah, like if you see motherfucker's shoot, what's your first nime you're gonna do? Get low and rung. But I'm just saying, whatever it is, nigga, stop dropping road either yeah it's on fire, they tell you stop dropping road,

didn't get up in wrong whatever. Usually defense mechanism, like yeah, you know you're like you said, defense mess kicking m So what you're doing, you're finding something about that ship you like and making a nigger skills. I don't think it's that. What is nothing Nobody wants to Nobody likes being abused. Let's just put that out. I said, you'll find something about the situation. Nobody like the sation. Some people are like for real, like everybody don't have the

mindset that you have. Everybody had a mindset Jade and I have, Like everybody don't have that, so like and everybody don't deal with they're like trauma the same type of ways neither. So what I'm saying is some people are really, really really at their lowest point, especially like, if you're not, you know what I'm saying. Hold on, let me let me say this shot. You're not you know what I'm saying. Trust me, I know everybody is

not having strong wheel. Strong minded people are in certain situations because they feel like their forced to be, not because they are for they feel that way. They feel like. So when you're feeling a certain type of way because you're when you're feeling weak, what are you're doing? You're making an excuse for yourself to stay in that situation. I ain't saying this right or wrong. I ain't saying it. I ain't been a situation that I don't want to be in. I ain't saying I don't do things that

I don't want to do. I'm not saying that. I'm not saying that I don't make excuse of What I'm saying is when you're standing up abutiful situation or or the streets because I need to pay my bills, that's an excuse. With other options options, and you're doing something that's that you don't want to do, you're making an excuse. But even taking, even taking like a person that's in a deep depression, when you're down in that hole. You don't see those other options. Those other options aren't visible

to you. And it takes a lot to pull yourself out of that hole. It's not, it's not it takes more than a lot. It takes more than a little bit to pull yourself out of that hole. And when you're when you're in that hole of depression or abuse, or you know what I'm saying, whatever it is, it's like you're down there and you're looking up, but there's no light there because whatever reason. You know what I'm saying that, like you said, it may be an excuse

or whatever, but it's not always that's simple. Did I just said it. I ain't saying that it's simple or easy. I'm saying at the end of the day, the bottom line to it, the what you call it, the diagnosis of it is an excuse. You always can change your mind, come on, trip it can you? Even if you're depressed, can't you change your mind to be not? Have you seen people come come out of depressure? Yeah? Why did

they come out of depressure? Help? Even if I'm saying niggas that don't that don't don't get help, how they come out of depression? It's not just a clicker to change your mind? Banks what else is it? Then? Shot? Sometimes they diagnosis teen years. I don't know, but you're still at ain't your mind? You have to make a choice that I'm not going You gotta making the choice to get help is a big part of that, because some people just will be stuck in this ship. Yeah.

I understand that it's an illness, right, Yes, definitely a drug drug addition is an illness to us. But can't you make up your mind? And ain't smoking crack normal? You got to change your life, people, That's all I'm saying. People, and they who say, God, damn, bro, the don't got me. I just can't shake it, Okay, But that's not an excuse because you can't, cause we have seen people do it, That's all I'm saying. We've seen people come out of

all these situations that everybody helped been in. Are you also seen a whole bunch of people not be able to come out those true? Because they're still making excuses. No, some people tried to leave and still got killed and all that other stuff. So now like w even domestic violence, you know what I mean? And how many people tried to leave and end up getting killed because they left, they tried to leave. I'm just saying like, that's with

a lot of people fear. Like when you when you're in no situations, you're not fearing that, oh, if I leave, I'm not gonna be able to make it without this person. You're more fear. You're in fear of what this person may do by me attempting to leave. But that's most people when they're in these domestic violence. But is like, if if it comes to that, let's say your life comes to it end or whatever, something extreme, would you rather that be kind of like honorably makings or kind

of going outside like then we wish, right? But also I feel like in a lot of those situations, like I said, if that was that's how it ended, I feel like it was all it was always you was with a killer. If you're gonna kill you, if you if you try to leave regardlessly you could have made this Bologney sound was wrong. He was he was gonna do that. That That's how it was gonna end you living dead? Right, Yeah, I don't know, And that's fun. It's think about the ship. That's how it was. Either

you're gonna live. You're gonna die living with this thig or you gonn that running. I don't know. I think anybody that's dealing with them as violence and trauma disc please see that. That's the first weapons that is sending the house saying okay, because I'm in it comes this way. They ain't got nowhere else to go. I ain't did some I'm scared and they're gonna kill me. Go get you some help, and they hopefully go get some help. They show you how that you are, They show you

that it can be okay. Yes, you know what I'm saying. You can make a different choice. You don't have to make any excuse for this, nigga. You don't have to be scheduled nigga, and you don't have to be comfortment in okay just because you gotta leave this house. So what, I'm not being abused no more? Yeah? How many women' all the scenes up and leave everything? I don't care about, No, don't give a damn about then. I want the voice. You can have everything. I many women you don't see

you do that? Could they choosing them? Yeah? Yeah, but there was a process. That's that's that's all I'm saying there was a long process to get to that point, to choose themselves facts them facts. That's what I'm saying. But at the end of the day, when you you gotta start it, and starting it is a decision, right, I agree you start the process is a decision once you ultimately make a decision. I give what y'all saying. When you get down and not in depression, will you

really can't even think clearly? True? But before but while you're down, you're still thinking. I promise you it's coming up in your head how I can get away. And I guarantee you don't thought of a good way to get away. You just didn't do it. M hm, right wrong, right now? Yeah, yeah, you may have a big fact right there, Like the nigga locked themselves twenty four hour day, all you're doing thinking about how you can squeeze out

the balls. You might can't get out that mothercker, but you're still thinking about how you're gonna get out of there, bitch, Yeah, right right. I ain't like, I ain't trying to sound like the nigga who's saying like, okay, up in leave. I understand it because I don't see all this you're talking about too. I don't think that. But at the end of the day, it all board out to choices. Though regardless how small, how weak you here, what made you that week trauma, but you're gonna continue to go

through and make yourself work. That's the choice. That's the choice. Some people make the right choices, like just at the right time. You know, certain people that was gonna crash out or be fucked up if they didn't make that choice like that. It's like a light bulb. We've all done it, but y'all take it to another level with

the mists of violar ship. I was basically to my people making excuses why they can't come up, or they ain't got no job, or ain't this or every time like niggas don't want to work, don't want to keep their job, is because of this. I don't think that's trauma. I think that that's what people that use that as an excuse, they always got an excuse trauma. Nobody taught me how to be man, Nobody taught me how to treat women. Nobody taught me. Bro You use an excuse,

you know, that's definitely nobody. Something something is used to a line nobody taught me how to love, Like niggers really be telling women like nobody taught me how to love, and that's why I can't love. But that's that's a real thing. It's excused. But this households without love. Yeah, definitely, they don't know nothing about that. It didn't come up like that. All they saw was domestic. But how long are you going to use that as your excuse them

use your trauma? I think because whenever, like when if you're saying, like, nobody taught me how love, but you know how you would want to be loved, so you would know the feeling of love. So when you get it like, it's still you might not know how. Yeah, how you want to be loved, The way you might want to be loved might be the trauma that's causing you to fucking not know. There you go, Okay, yeah,

I didn't think of it like that. There. I feel like that's like a like a like a dude that grew up without a father telling his kid with it. I ain't hand no father. You know, I don't know what I'm doing. I mean, you gotta learn how to

do that ship. Yeah, my niggas that I know they grew up without fathers to have sons and have daughters and children overcompensate for the fact that they didn't have fathers, to try to make sure that their kids are in a better situation and a better predict will not predicament, but are way off better than Yeah, they kind of give them what they didn't have. I think making an excuse and being embarrassed about your trauma or or being

traumatized ultimately leads to suicide and depression. That's why I feel like suicide. I feel like suicide comes from being embarrassed about your trauma, like trying to like that you're saying, trying to keep a secret, trying to do this, and trying to make everything perfect in fear, in fear. Other people may think it's basically opinion. Yeah, exactly, it's basically

be an opinionate. Okay, if you didn't give a funk, then what you do I mean, if you didn't give a funk about what people thought, what would you do? You always be happy, traumatized, You didn't give a funk about everybody knowing, and you weren't trying to keep this nigger face looking good or whatever, keep the relationship making seem like it or not making excuse you? What would you do if you didn't want to be traumatized? Yeah? Mhm so who really? So who really harming you? Is

what I'm axing yourself? You're mental? Who really harming you? You? Yeah? I think that's going because people only do to you what you're allowed them to do. You're the control of your destiny for sure. When those choices are deep. There are circumstances, just like we always say, they are a circle. There's there's exceptions to every rule, right, But you're ultimately responsible for your destiny and your choices. That's all I'm saying. If you won't leave your lead, If you don't, won't

you feel stuck? You're making any exhues because you never stuck. You just gotta let your pride down, go work in it, well, go live in it. Well yeah, but again, like I said, like a lot of the times, it's not necessarily it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with pride. It's like a mental thing here. Like they've been I don't know, as they've been broken. She's saying, they've been broken a processes.

I know, want to see a pussy, I don't know what you're telling, man, Niggas ain't copssing because they they want to do. I'm gonna say, this ship without a pimp, I just need you for protection. Let's be realm, every hole that's a whole wanted to be a hope. No, unless they got raped of someone. There was kids and a lot of their minds. Okay, but I'm saying the one that jumped off the porch signed up. I want to be a hope. How what a nigga said, Ain't

nobody told them to do that? Yeah? Too, sure, Yeah, I can think some of them because you think some of the prostitutes want to leave their pimp. That's the part that I'm talking about. They might want to leave them the internet, Oh yeah, oh yeah, down said something. But the fact that they're jumping from pimp to pimp isn't that. Oh this is my job, manager of the manager. I want. I want to I wonder statistically, and we can't.

We can't can't prove I wonder statistically. We can't prove this fact if a woman, women who leave abusive relationships end up in other ones. We can't prove this fact. We don't have stats in front of us. But I just wondered, curious women more do than not? More do than not? Yeah, oh no, because they I believe they do until they find something different. Because a lot of times she's been to go from a one nigga who

did it like this to the same nigga. So no, what I'm saying, we're gonna tell you what it is. I don't mean to cut you off. What it is is, okay, if she does get enough strength to leave this nigga, this is I'm and I'm just speaking from personal experience from the people that I know that have gotten into

other bad situations. When they find enough strength to leave the first initial nigga, they still have things that they need to work on and things that they need to fix within themselves, and they still have those broken traits and another I don't want to say abuse are nigga, but another nigga that's sim alert to her last nigg is gonna pick up on those traits and you know, bet her in for lack of a better way to put it, in the beginning with the you know, the

caring and that, you know what I'm saying, all that ship and then slowly but surely again the whole cycling, the whole process is gonna start over. But if she's able to but here here's the conundrum. Here's the conundrum and the dilemma. If she's able to find somebody that's not an abuser and that really wants to try to love her for real and try to help fix her, that's also gonna be an uphill battle because she's not gonna believe that this nick is really trying to love her.

So it's just gonna be it's it's fucked up all the way around, because it's like it's just sucked up all the way around. This is sucked up all the way around. But shout out to the people that you know, try to love people that have been or try to love people that have been traumatized and really like love them and try to, I don't want to say, nurse them back to health, but try to, you know, try to help them become bad people, because that's a full

time jobs. We're not get big. So in real life, you think, do you think do y'all think when you have been traumatized it's smart to get into another relationship without seeking help? No, No, not at all. No, But people do it all day. I understand people do it all day. So because a lot of times calling causing this trauma to you yourself, but a lot of times they think that that them. Okay, if you if you've been get into another abuse relationship, right, they don't know,

they don't know from the beginning. But okay, you're saying, y'all don't know it's abusive. We okay, cool, But when I meet it's the quicks like a duct. It's a duck when I meet that. It don't matter when I see it the first time I see it. What you said, Oh I'm in love now, I'm too far in saying yeah. That's how they go. That's only how that goes when the trump Okay, so how people get the voice being long too? Right? Yeah, when the nigga do some simple ship.

You can find a number some women. You can find a number in the nigga phone. She is out of there some women women, Okay, some women. And that comes from what she had been cheated on. She's seen the signal. Okay. So so if I'm in a relationships, said she could just that could just be hurt. She knows what she's not going. It might not have been anything she's been through prior to Okay, so but just when I'm trying, I'm trying. I'm just trying to understand a person has

already been traumatized. That was the worst experience for them, right in relationship, they go to another relationship and starts seeing the same signs, not even seeing the same size. When this dude raised his voice or do any type of thing. I'm gonna give a beginning middle in. You're gonna see those tracks. You're gonna see even if it's not with me. I can see that. Bro, you gotta fund up temple mm hmm. While I'm dating you, I can. I'm gonna gelling to see some of this ship. Right.

That's not gonna trigger it is, that's that's exactly what But what it what it could possibly trigger is the familiarity of what you're used to. And even though again it might not be right, that might be like something like if he raises his voice and then apologizes, Okay, but that's what you did. Yeah. But what I'm saying to you is that even though that's what the last nigger did, and you know that you got out of that situation because you didn't like that. Some people fall

back into the same pattern. It's just like a crackhead and start. I'm not trying to talk about but what you're doing that? What are you doing them? You can back saying from the beginning, you're still gonna make excuse for this nigga, but this is a new nigga. He't hit me yet. He just called me a bit or even beyond that, like say, you're dealing with some emotional right, like you know somebody they give me you ghost in tendencies,

but I'm tired of this ghost to me and ship. Well, if you're going this PTSD, y'all, can we go talking about you got the man just stopped drinking. Whatever the fun? That's ghost the passport. You know we're gonna have. I got goes to the passport. So if I see a woman that I'm talking to in the future that's giving me the same signs, why the funk I'm gonna stick around. I know how that ship made me feel, so I'm gonna leave you before you're trying to leave me. But

let me ask you this. In situations like that on this side, because I always played devil, do y'all think that PTSD from previous situations can sometimes cause people to jump the gun and miss out, and you can make choice that way too. What you no, No, that's just like me. I don't like crowds unless it's my crowd, unless unless it's my event. So ain't you You better to see me at my friendship because I don't like crowd because I got pts D. What can happen in

the crowd out of my control. I'm not gonna go to no ship just because Nicholas want me to go, because I'm gonna be uncouple of my own anxiety's gonna be way up. Why the fun are going to put myself in a situation where my anxiety gonna be high. That's the same thing with a relationship, right If I see this bitch do things that I don't like the signs yeah if yeah, it don't matter. I'm not gonna try to look over to see what people be thinking anything, and they can love you out of being you, love

you out of your trauma. Yeah, love you out of being who you are. That's who you is. I need to get the fun wait around you because I ain't doing them and put myself in a situation and I can't handle mhm, right from the point trauma can't be avoided. It's all I'm saying. Some people sometimes people like somebody so much that they like damn and you know what I'm saying, and they think they could change a little bit. Everybody ain't gonna be perfect. Maybe this is this is

the but then becomes some ship. But I get but eight twenty is goddamn this nigga, goddamn come home late, not traumatize me. Yeah, she is supposed to be deal breakup. Okay, they didn't even take care of me, but he beat the funk out of me. Don't even matter that, don't even match, don't matter, don't you don't weigh up? Yeah, that's all I'm saying. Like sir, ship don't even go together. Yeah, I concur I get what y'all say. And like some

people be broken down to their core. That's true. That's true. We haven't see any movies, we don't see any real life. That's true. But ultimately, if you're not locked in, how don't folk be locking them folks in them houses and and what you call the coas and all that ship You can get away, you can get a knife in and so let me let me throw one last curve ball. So, but what what if and there are circumstances, what if that trauma or those actions come so much deeper into

the situation, like what if? What if? What if that abuse don't come to ten fifteen years later? What if that trait from that woman or the man or whatever don't come to years later. You got a lot of kids, You got a lot of synergy going on, and then you start to see the because sometimes the bullshit don't be one or year one and be ten fifteen years down the instagram the ninety ninety what ninety six year old man found that founds a little letter from his

wife from sixty years ago? Bitch by it's been my lad ten days by myself. Wait what happened? The husband was ninety six, the wife was like ninety three or something, that was moving in apartment. He thought some love that was from sixty years ago when she cheated on him and he kicked her out. And she didn't necessarily cheat. I don't think I think she just relationship from a relationship. It was love of love from a prior relationship which she was shamed sixty years ago and he kicked her out.

He got he made a real divorce at ninety six. Again where it depends with your morals and the same ship, and I did the same ship. At the end of the day, I ain't gonna be able to I don't give it to the damn from in the little third of momentutes, I ain't been using a note. Fuck you said, no, that's not bullshit, because because if you're die, you're married. She to get your ship, but that ain't you're married.

I'm saying marriage paperwork, Yes, marriage paperwork. So if this nigga died and why he hate her, she's you did so. She don't even want you to have my name rights you at the funeral. I don't even want you. Never move up. Eve, you no more test because you know what you're standing on is what you're standing on. Some people might have thought about that. That might be the wrong choice. He comes game, but he could have gave a game six years ago. You were good, but you

were good, You were good. Yeah you got but I ain't fin it. I can see where he's coming from though, because he probably questioned her about this nigga. She's got over. But it's the fact of how you look in my eyes for sixty years lying, But you want to asking her she was cheating? Yeah, shut up, it's like what else about? Yes, yeah, he's maybe not all that ship come into play. Well that's the answer to my ten

fifteen years. Did you see the one on Instagram where the guy was getting married and at his wedding he showed the sex tape with the wife and his brother, Like at their wedding walking down the out the tape start playing with five minutes of the wife having sex with his brother. I'm not saying that just because a woman has been broken down and she is she appeared to be weak. I'm saying you can always find strength. That's all I'm saying to any woman out up, being

mistreated anything, If you want to leave, you can. It's your choice. He's your choice right to anybody women, anybody in a in a situation unless you locked up now you you can't really change that. All you can do is change your mind set. Start reading like a lot of things say when I go to jail, it's the best thing happened to me. I came free. But what I'm saying is if you're not confined and it's in

your control, you can fix it. You always can fix it. Yeah, to me, well, make sure final words you say you're gonna let the mother fucker break you to the point to well you accepting it. That's basical what you are saying, right, you can never live your best life because you're broken. You're accepting it because you make an excuse it for this nigga or this woman who that's all him? Are you? M h? I think the key word is speared, and

you know, fear guides a lot of people. The thing about it is you would fear every day if you're being traumatized. You don't know when this nick don't for them, so you're already in fair every day. Like captivity. Yeah, yeah, that's worse. It's like somebody kidnapping you like ship. They're gonna eventually kill you. It might be what they want to do, and they're gonna kill if you try to run away. What you're gonna do, What decsion you're gonna make,

You're gonna stay in captivity. You're gonna try to do slavery. It's kind of what is it? Slavery? The neigas who got damn slavery was a choice. I can't say it was. I can't say it with a choice, but I get what he was saying. Do you want to live or die? Yeah? Basically, is this situation working enough that you got them? Are you gonna be trying to get away? Yeah, that's all I'm saying. I feel like, if you're to me, if you're being traumatized, it's worth risking everything to try to

get away from it. Yeah. That's that's only what I'm saying. And when people do saying the choice, not all the choices, That's what I'm saying. No matter what depression, where you you if this ship because trauma. I looked that ship up. That ship got every negative word you can think, go with go with trauma. So what's worse than that? Right? Is the bottom? You are you already at the bottom. What's what you're fearing to get away from it? To get away from it? What are you fearing? There should

be no fear though, mm hmm. If you if, if you want to get it, if you want to leave that situation, and you don't leave that situation, what are you doing? You're making an excuse. M you gotta be it don't matter because when you say cause, that's an excuse right. I can't leave cause because you can't leave right, you're just not prepared to stand on what come with leaving? Thank you Big Facts Friday, the words from Bank. Everybody a nigger jet laying in his mama house at forty

years old. Bro, you're making every excuse in the world why you broke Damn My mama got me the bike. When I was in middle school, I would have It's just like a nigga having a rich homeboy, but he broke. His excuse is thish nigga ain't putting me on. That should happened a lot. That's an excuse because you feel like a nigga owe you something? How nigga ow you something? I got it, you can get it. What's stopping you?

You would to me? Even the niggas out up with the signs so you have ani their shirt all cut up into every plane we're working food dude, Poe, give me something. Bro there, that's an excuse you doing. I've been thinking that you can go. You can gonna do anything. Now. The people with you can tell they got a mental illness or like the older or some ship. Yeah, I I look out for them. But when they were nigga, my agg begging at the games' getting the funk out

of my face? You make an excuses, Yeah, like I ain't know. But now if you got an illness, that's different. Now we're talking about able body women, that's something I ain't somebody female with a with an illness like a meltal illness, that's different. I'm somebody female that's doing all the same ship that everybody else is doing. She still go to the club, she still do this, she still do that, she still get ahelp? Does she still do all this? How the fund is you that down or

not that you can't get the funk away from this? Nigga? Everything us working right here. I'm gonna just keep saying final words. J what's your final words? We don't have to agree that. I don't have no final words. I just my final word, just like that ship is. Don't you say? You say circumstances Sometimes it don't be that simple. But you do agree that. Hey man, you're gonna but you do agree that choices every individuals based their own choices. Yeah so, but yeah, but I guess y'all think I

need comes from a negative place. This ship. Somebody to get up about in the house and be like, man, they go quick, making excuse for the hopefully the end of the day. That's the way you gotta look at it. If you look at it, like, if everybody look at it the way I'm saying, you're making an excuse, what would they would they be in a bettle to situation or worse. But if they're looking at it the way you're saying, like, Okay, she's broken down, that means you're

not gonna try to physically you're good, right, good? I say they're they're not good, like they feel like they're not good enough. They've been beaten into submission by and they're morality so so. But I understand what you understand what you're saying, and understand what she's saying circumstances, But the core of it, outside of just the mystic abuse and everything, the core of your life and your direction comes from your choices. Yes, we all have choices, Yeah

for sure, shout out forty. Yeah. I just know the niggas be making excuses why they ain't got no money or why I don't know that that funk with me don't know about it? What the funk are you doing? Yeah? And women make excuses because of their niggas, like my nigga not giving me money and blah blah blash. So I ain't where I need to be the same ship, Damn. I can see you saying I got a glitch from the ship I've been through. That's a difference. But you

still gotta pay your bills. I wake up every day, still didn't pass trouble, but I still gotta come in and do my job. M So I'm laying around every day into and just be life. Ship. Man, I ain't My grandma rayed me, my dad and went to prison. My mom wasn't there. How long that she's gonna land? Oh god, I agree, how long that she ain't gonna land. But a lot of people just gotta looking themselves in

the mirror and made that decision like that. You know what, I'm gonna make a decision for me to make myself better, make my life better. Women, period, trust me, because I don't know how they love whatever, but I can speak to them and tell them, baby girl, you're making excuse for this nigga. If that you ain't right, get out of that whatever it takes. But do you think sometimes people need a friend that's gonna help tell them that, hey, man, you get off your hands. Come stop making excuses like

are you a real friend? Are you a real friend if you let your friend make excuses for themselves. No, No, that's why. That's why I lose a lot of friends because I tell the nigga, Bro, my son, you just called me the other day on some music about the music show. Like, Bro, that's excuse not calling my phone. You're saying you gotta go to the mall, todel your video shoot. That's excuse you been all the video shoot for two weeks. Right, You're just being lazy. Just say

you're being lazy. Don't say God damn, I'm gonna be late because it is you. That's your excuse for being late, and you were bullshit. That's the that's the answer, Big, I've been a bullshit. I gotta go to the mall. That's just what it is. I can accept that. I can't step reading what man. I had to go to the mom Bro, you know you've been know about this ship two or three weeks. But that's a level of accountability and other people, like a lot of people have

a reached it. I'll be telling myself like, damn, instead of waiting too the morning to do some ship. If I got time now, I need to take care of this ship because if I if I went into the morning, I'm probably gonna be able to do it. It's gonna set me set my whole day back. If y'all send me a time and say we gotta be here eleven o'clock, right, I'm gonna be here ten third. I'm gonna leave the house the full time. I'm not gonna set the time at eleven o'clock because I know it's gonna make me late.

I like to bullsh it around. I like to come look at my leptop Calma while you do whatever I need to do properly prep myself to do this ship fact, instead of trying to get him on time. That's gonna make me late. See, I'm like that too. But I'm I'll be I'll be the top of neigger. I'll be scrolling twittering, scrolling Instagram. And if I tell if we got to be somewhere in eleven o'clock, I'm in my mind, I'm saying, damn, I gotta be there at eleven o'clock. Mind,

I'm trying to be that leven clock. I'm gonna get that eleven thirty, So I need to be there. I need to tell myself, I need to be that tense every time you're trying to get some well and you pressed it for a time, but you're gonna get caught it every read you're gonna forget something. I forgot my boo bad in my head, turned everybody around and get my bull back. Like it's just that's just how it goes, bro. Proper preparation is everything right performance? No, that's that's what

I'm saying, Like real p pep, the real Picky. I don't know, man, I just I hope it ain't come off. And this ship, like god damn, it's something you need to hear that dude, But that ship. Excuse to me, I don't give a funk what you're saying, Snap out that ship. How much ship people go through? Man, you need to go go to one and come back with real ptn D and gotta goddamn a jest back to this world. Imagined he would go to prison seeing all

that bullshit come in. Still has the jested the world and they ain't got make no excuses when you get right out, when you get out. You got a whole family. You gotta goddamn feet. Thank me for when of them excuses. I've been to jail for sixteen year, What do that mean? You get out? You know you're trying to get back to the responsibilities. I'm trying to make no mother fucking excuses. You've been in the wall. You shouldn't have win. He right,

just saying that's just what it is. Man. The streets fun me or you shouldn't win in the streets, then the streets facts. She got Snap out that ship. I know it's hard about this ship or not whatever, But when you don't, don't blame nobody else. And know when the nigga tell you, But that's excuse. Don't get in your feeling because that's where it is. Everybody in the

situation because they putting themselves in a situation. I can see because at the end of the day, if you was trying to make it better, it would be it wouldn't be as bad as it is. M hm. Neither go steal something, do something, oh love man, do anything, bro. They're too much way to get money, too many way to do whatever. But do something now. S making excuse to be up be be to beat some bullshit, then

why do this and make myself some bullshit? That's that's how niggas go to the streets too, like being punked up, being broke, see the easy way and still with a choice. Right, this is an easy way, So I'm gonna go. I didn't get it because I need it right now. But you gotta think you're a kid. You still didn't gonna shoot the butch that shoe. You just gotta you can't give a funk about what they come out with these shoes because this niggas that stayed down, same niggas that

we looked at, like where you laying here, Nerd in school. Whatever, the niggas stayed down, their path went right for them. So that little trauma we're putting them through. But I got damn clouding on their shoes. And now they ain't nenna laughing. Y'all gonna be in the jail, Like y'all got different kind of trauma. I don't look at my shoe, now look at you. It was a choice that they made. I ain't going out there. I got plenty friend, Like bro, that ship, look out the rip the ship we were doing,

thought that that was lane. That's lane, but we're looking at you. You a square. No, he just knew, he knew what he wanted. I know it's gonna take to I got more patient than y'all nickels, y'all going to rush to do that, So we cause our own trauma. Big Facts, if who weren't born into it? Yeah, something I ain't got ptft from gunshots. Something I ain't never heard gunshots in person. Yeah right, Yeah, we put ourselves right there and then didn't want to blame ship after that. Yeah,

I'm not nigga. You choked. That was your choice, bro, deal with it. I concur facts on the Friday, Banks on the Friday. I just always said I ain't gonna sign up for then. I can't deal with the consequences up as I signed up for it, whatever come way that came with it, I should be everybody, whatever comeny came with it, and then I could take that ship with a smile, just what it is, bro, They do it Triple W dot Big Facts pod dot com, follow us at Big Facts Pod, and follow us at Big

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