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Did though? Fan tabulous? This amazing life is amazing. Today Today we want to explore words and we'll get deep into it. I think it will be a good conversation. And that word is tradition. So somebody like to elaborate on the definition of tradition the text the book Salteen definition of tradition is the transmission of cuss ms or beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being passed on in this way. UM. An example is every shade of color is fixed by tradition and governed by

religious laws. UM. The second salty and definition is, in theological terms, a doctrine believed to have divine authority through not in the scriptures. Now, the urban German definition of tradition is peer pressure from dead people. I am screaming chads are written and that peer pressure from dead people, which if you think about it, it makes sense, but don't yes pressure, like what would they do? Yeah yeah it shod makes perfect But it's just yeah, you're right, yes,

you're right. But my grandmos fast away and she want to try to put the traditions in us. Yeah right right, yeah, how they wrote that straight for the point, But why I got to be peer pressure basically people trying to make you feel like if you're not doing things the way, then you know when I'm wrong. Platform for our conversation. So tradition when it comes to how you live and how you govern your relationships and how you raise your kids, and how you carry yourself as a person or as

a woman or a man in relationships. Yeah, it's tradition, Like is it I think not following the tradition? I think so too front of be in like we take it all the way back. We can't first out over Okay, we talk So now we're talking about even before that slaveship to hear is what we're talking about, even before that, even before what even before like even before the slaveship.

You know, back in the day, you used to have to like you the the daddy used to buy the child or something like that, like you know your your daddy used to give you to the other person's kid.

You know how they do you know what I'm talking about, like when they put their relationships together, like don't hunt me, no no, no no. Yeah got me back in the day, right, if I had my family right and ja, my daughter Jade is my da banking because I got business with shann T, I would give my daughter to that family Like oh, like Blad given presenting his daughter for Meridith. Yeah that's back in the day. That's okay. So you

didn't even choose when you wanted to be with. So this is this is what my thing I was thinking, Like more more along the lines of like how you know, traditionally back in the day, like women's quote unquote place where to be homemakers, where to stay at home, take care of the kids, cook the food, wash the linen, you know, fucking scratched the man's dandruff, all that kind of ship. Like you know what I'm saying, Like I basically take care of all the home stuff and not

have a life of her own, not be independent. The word is domestic, being domesticated, Yeah, domesticated, that's the word of all that. Yeah, but it's really technically like being a fucking a slave. So that's what we're talking about. Because submissive, But that that doesn't make you a slave because you're being submissive. No no, no no, like yeah, I'm sad and all of that. That doesn't make you. Know,

it doesn't make you a slave. But when you're doing it against your will, against your that's yeah, like that. Then if you don't want that, what you want to do, like, guess what I gotta do because because he's making it supposed but that's what Yeah, that's that's what I gotta do because this nick is paying all the bills and take on the other side, I don't feel like paying all the bills and being that wants to do it is a slave. That's somebody that doesn't want to do it.

It's a servant man. Some kinds of life you can't have to do. Some ship you don't want to do. But it's just traditional seal keeping ship, right, that's what we're talking about. Yeah, I think that because what did the man say, fucking I don't be traditional and do all this ship I mean the man not here this like that going to get no money. I'm not on debate that you're right, but that don't make it right. That is fat. Yeah, you're all the way right, and

that's what's fun with the community. I'm just saying, So you think the community is sucked up because we don't

have the traditional standards and men and women anymore. Absolutely, I think there's been a role reversal, like today of what men used to do and what women used to do as opposed to what they do now, like because now today, in this day and age, a lot of the women are the breadwinners for the family as opposed to like back in the day, it was unheard of for a woman to even think about making more man than the money, I mean more money than the man.

You see what I'm saying, I get it. I'm just saying that when we started to get away from these traditions and we were having a little power before the camera start rolling. If you look at the seventies and the eighties and the nineties and you're moving forward, and how we became comfortable with certain in my opinion, bullshit, it sucked us up. What is wrong with the man? What is wrong with the same time too though, huh, I think it's fun up and helping at the same time.

We regret the current thing because because the last you stay with the traditional cars. Yeah, I'm just saying, like we just gotta say with talking about clothes, yet we're talking about family. We're talking about more family structure, talking about progressive act, traditional fashion. You don't have to stick what you did. Do you want to hear traditional rap? No, it's good value my family that I think that she was going family more. You got to stand on some

kind of morris and cold, That's what I'm saying. And when you think so we start with it, start with all right, we'll let that slide. It's cool. We can do that now, even know what you should not do that. We let that slid. So next day, you know, you let everything and everything. You know, you're in the house and three kids and y'all having three somethings in the back room. Wait, where are we just going on here? Guys? Agree with brother, I think cracks. What's the beginning of

sucking everything up? Ship? Take this off? Man? Take my mic off. Hold I hold my ship. Say he didn't take it off, take it Shoot, he just had a hard tem potential potential we need for bank. We're taking all donations, new big facts. Mike screamed, like somebody talking before live here in first class town. So you think the crack generation changed. I didn't say that. I do. I do because I'm gonna te wait, the crack generation changed? What keep it all one with you? Before us was

our parents, right, and they were smoking this ship. I said it. They're smoking the crack right because the crack error. I was born in the city, so before that, that was a crack error came in in the eighties and the nineties, right, my parents was our age. So that's the cool ship that was going on with the slan the powder, like how the cool ship appears in the lean, right, Okay, So they get on the crack. That ship sucked them up, and we see how that do them and we funked up,

bro going to school hosing our shoes and ship. But by selling the crack none, he's kind of disrespect to the old people in front of the old folks houses, distrepecting the old folks. They saydn't get off and in front of my still out here. That's disrespect. You're going against tradition, or you hide things like that from elderly people. You're respecting them at all costs. So we're going against

that by dispecting, selling open from the house. Whatever we're doing, being a fast forward, we take our kids to the max. We make sure they get the best of everything that we had nothing, make sure they get the best shoes, the best clothes. They're the freshes on Easter. But the whole time you're spoiling them, you know what I'm saying,

sucking them up some other. Yeah, and they've seen, they see us disrespecting the old people by just even being here, not even custom out of whatever or life trapping trap, she's playing music line whatever. Everything just starting to magnify as you see it as kids, you know what I'm saying. So now they're generation snatching kids snatch your old people

like cars and ship, you get what I'm saying. And they got an entitlement, some of them got an entitlement what you call personality, because we gave them so much, because we have a ship, so we kind of corrupted them. They were spoiling. And even though they were spoiling, and the whole time we sacrifice raising the kids by being in the streets. We thought of trying to get that and raise them with this ship, and I all recompensate

for the ship that we didn't a little facts. Let me ask you this in if that's the case, then what do you see for this next generation that two babies now? Like as far, I don't know the future ship. It might get it might get back tracking right down, it might get back on track. I don't know. But that ain't looking like got better. No, it ain't. Didn't, but got worse because it's you're like me, the days and time, the young generation, they're not hustles. We had

no choice, but we made them. Yeah, but like everything, your parents were your parents back in our day, and you had a grandparent that was a grandparent like a big mama. Yeah, and you also had the days the grandpa, the grandpaint kids like me and my grand baby bench friends almost She's telling me, no, stop whatever, don't do their granddad? She said, what else you want to say?

Like we did the same ship with our kids like that you free and the stead up this right, you get what I'm saying, and the ship that's funked up the tradiction. Then you see all the kids walking to straight line behind your grandma, get your anybody ain't running around? What do you think that that has funked up? Because nowadays grandparents are a lot younger and so much closer in age to the kids and the grandkids and ship

like that. You know back in the day, like grandparents different backing the day, baking the day kids kids can't even kid can't even be in the same room where. Yeah, I think you get your ear off hearing something saying that when we're from bro, you've been not eating. Hearing that, you can hear a bit everything, don't girl and the kid.

I think we also yet I think we also forget back then times were simpler, like we didn't have all this media, We didn't have all this access to so much stuff back then, Like I know for us growing up, it was like you go outside, like whatever you've played with outside is what you have to deal with you outside, you don't come in the house unless you have to pee. Nowadays, to the kids, yeah right, but now they exposed to

so much is so much going on? And then you got the mama's competing against the home girls, and then now their kids competing against each other. And then now it's like the cycle of like more so material things like I think a lot of the bab Instagram and ships. Who kid is the fly? It's like you got one year old with all this crazy ship because everybody in competition, Like you can't even go to school and learn, because because you can't even go learn. Now that's so true.

I was at lunch with my homegirl today and she was telling me that her daughter acts as she could wear her Balenciaga's to school, and her daughters like twelve years old. And it's like now days like little kids feel like they're supposed to go to school for us to death. Like I see little kids and you know, I'm an adult, can't make sure with every day you know your kids, man, listen to prominent new wedding. I saw them prom pictures of this. Don't what we was

going to school. You can't even wear them dresses at all? Let it to Yeah, that prom difference. Now these girls you're going to the problem with like they're geting ready to do a whole thing. No big fat real that's unbelievable. We've grown everything. No restrictions Bentley. The schools don't make it. Restrictions on school when I wasn't. When you try to make with kids, when you try to do that ship, they're gonna sneaking anyway. No, they're nothing like. No go home.

You can't you put your hand on side of your split now, you can't with it? Should we be so? Should we be pushing tradition? But I don't think it'll ever go back. But you know what, I don't want to blame my generation for why the kids like this speak kids like because you can't even whoop them, yell at him, cut them on that, and the police don't call. You're abusing them. You're not supposed to do that stuff in public. That ain't true. How No, yes, no, you

can't do that. Grow up now, you say something crazy in the grocery store, you get y'all as smacked now and which somebody would say something. But we gotta stop telling people what to do with their kids. You can't let you in front of the police. I have gotten threatening about that. I feel you, But we gotta stop telling my kid. I know how to deal with my kids. Yeah,

you got people policing. You know how to so bad boy you've been not say I did this in front of the police though, don't talk to your teacher and then you gotta go school that with your nick bro, I need motorcycle be doing to get a correct with it. Like trying to kill you, you telling you won't, trying to kill you, want killing you? What you say? I said, I gotta go my wife and here I gotta go. O it must be serious. Yeah, I gonna take kids and ye come on, yeah, me back before you know it.

Thanks that we're not got big fact. So what we're talking about tradition, tradition, tradition. We're a little rat to y'all this big facts, tradition, big stunting double bankin about what. Okay, so tradition. Um, so we talked about tradition, right, tradition and we're saying that basically you know what I'm saying, like, uh, we don't get away from tradition. And we think that a big because of that, that's a big part of

the reason that ship is kind of like fucked up. Now, some people would say tradition is what's the definition to get in the urban the urban German definition is peer pressure from dead people. Yeah, what basically peer pressure from people? Okay, live your life a certain way. But what we were kind of getting that is is that damn like the more you get away from tradition, it just kind of gets away from how certain things are supposed to be,

maybe not everything. And then we started naming the examples of that, and that's where we left off. So we talked about tradition. I feel like tradition kind of father in line with morals and like you know, how she is established and whatever. But like when you start accepting certain things as the new tradition, then you kind of got to open the floodgates for a whole bunch of

other bullshit to come in, you feel me? So I feel like if you start like y'are talking about, like how kids uhould not even be allowed to listen to to grow folks conversation. Okay, now they're sitting in the cover, they're sitting in the room listening, and then they go from listening to participating, then from participating the argumentack with

with the adults and ship. Now these motherckers ain't then like they all the same, Like, yeah, we were at the same time, because I've heard so many times where the new generation of parents would be like, oh, well, you shouldn't talk down to your kids. Well, the kid, I'm not gonna argue with no kid because I know you don't know ship. You're not you don't you haven't been through enough ship to know anything of what we're talking about, So you can't tell me that we need

to be having a conversation. I'm about to tell you how you got me funked up, and this is how she is. Now. Do parents abused that power? Sometimes? For sure, that's what anybody in power will do. But nine times out of ten, I'm not gonna side with a kid over an the dolt, because the DoPT probably knows what they're talking about. I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying not all the time. All the time, I'm saying nine times yes,

because like, was telling a kid too much? So just the signs behind it, And I really want to know what everybody thinks. I think the science. Let's say you got a mother daughter, right, I think the sciences. You want to be so close with your kids so that they won't keep shipped from you. But on the other end, the more traditional thing was like the parent was up here and the kid was disciplined, but they'll be scared,

like I can't tell my mama that. So you want the type of relationship with your kids, would they'll keep it from you. Are you saying that it's impossible to have both? It is. It really is impossible to try

to create a balance. But because when you try to have both, you're lying to the kid, and when the kid get older, they figure out who you really are, if that makes sense, When to me, you can't, it's you can't do both because when you do, you're lying to the kid on who you really are, because you're like this figure or a friend. Yes in my home girl, my mama because because you know, I have a younger sister that's fifteen years younger than me, she had no

clue on work up. I ain't gonna say, Well, what I'm trying to say is my dad these things mom had been so that's here nor there. So they but now her my mom did and she was all upset and it was like why are you so upset? Like this is okay, But because she really didn't know her parents, You understand what I'm saying. It was just go to school, do this, do this, do that. She got a bachelor's and everything. As a teacher, she's not that she works, you know, just with college and we're taught for so

many years. And I was like, oh, I want to do this? Told me right, because she wasn't living her true on who she really is. She was just going by this is how this is done. Right. You understand what I'm saying. But she couldn't tell my parents, Oh, I want to go to college. This ain't what I want to do that. That is a big part of it too, because in our generation, like we were raised that ship you got damn go go to high school,

go to college, get a job, and die. He's not doing that ship no more like I've got two degrees and not be like if you don't really want to do that, you ain't gotta do that ship. That's tradition. And then again tradition in respect to like pushing career and fashion and everything forward. I agree, let's not just

hold on to this tradition because that stagnates us. But tradition and family, I'm just telling you more traditional families, maybe not all of them, tend to be more would be together, and I think to kind of go back to what um you were saying and with your your initial question. But like mother daughter, like y'all know, I got chance and like chance like my best friend. But I think because I grew up right, I grew up military, like my mom is like so military. I grew up

on military, police officer, all of that. So I grew up very military. So a lot of stuff that I did in my life, like my best moments in life, I kind of had to hide from my mom like she didn't know because she was so structured, like super superstructure. So I agree with you, like well, I agree with you with certain things like your kids gonna hide certain ship from you because you just so tradition. This is how I need to go. It's to fear, like when

you put fear in your child. When it comes to me and Chance, I in my head, I have it to wear. You know what I'm saying, Chance don't scared enough. She ain't scared of nobody. I don't want her to fear me. I don't want her to fear nobody, like I don't want nobody to heard to fear anybody. Because I figured, if if my child feared me. You can use that fear that she had for me against her. You could be like, if you don't do this, I'm gonna go tell your mama this, this and this, and

now my baby's scared. And now you didn't got her to do some other ship. Now she ain't scared of me, She ain't gonna give a funk. She could come and tell me whatever. I do think that. How do you think that playout? Though it is different, I think it's going to play out in adolescence well, and I again, because you know right now and my head, the the balance would be disciplined, right like even though she's not scared of me, I still let her know I'm not

your friend. So it's still like that balance of like discipline, like I don't have like you know, cash been at the house where I hadn't had and with me a chance going out and we're having fun or whatever. But I got a certain tone and when I hit and chance, no, like okay, this she made business. Then she snapped to like this is where this is where we need to be. Every this is where we need like like with me like just friends like um, like with me and my

parents or whatever. Um, My mom was always the one that was the talker, like she believed, and you know, talking things out so that she could hear your side of the story and you know, we could figure out a resolution so that it wouldn't be that fear of coming to talk to me. My dad he was like a spanker to a certain extent, but he was also

like like the cool dad. Like even though he was I knew, like, Okay, don't play with this nigger when it comes to certain ship, I still knew that like, Okay, I could still like tell him anything, I could still talk to him whatever whatever. So like when I got older, especially like with me being an only child, they made sure that you know what I'm saying, there was that balance there. So I wasn't like the spoiled brad only child. I wasn't like the the little bit only child, you

know what I'm saying. And I also wasn't the fucking loose cannon that was having sex and doing drugs and you know what I'm saying, all that kind of ship because I was rebelling against whatever it was that they

were trying to get me to do type ship. So I feel like just taking little parts of like all the ship that y'all were saying or whatever that it's very important to have a universal understanding with your kids as a parent so that they know, like Santa was saying, that they can come and talk to you about anything. But at the same time, bitch, there are boundaries that you know not across right. You know said, every situation is gonna be different, and I just feel like someone's kid,

they should know they that's their kids. Not gonna work across the board. There's not no one way across the board. But tradition. I have a question when you know, okay, do you think that based off for tradition, Being that we're talking about tradition, do you think that a kid with both parents will have the easier in life or have a better chance that life than the kid being raised in a single parent home or dad. I think there's a lot of value to uh boy having a

father and a girl having a mother. Question. I feel like I got a question, can Boom, do you feel like it's more beneficial now with having both parents and this household is unstable versus having a single parents when they're co parent and there's no issues. That's that's that's a question. I feel like this any any unstable's the worst. The first part of your question. I feel like having both parents can be a gift and a curse because

it can, you know, make you whole something. You can have both parents like a man and a female perspective when you need advice on things, But it can also kind of cripple you from the real world because you like, if you have a really good two parent home, they're gonna why their best to kind of shield you from certain things, and that shield may in turn prevents you from knowing how to deal with certain aspects of life.

And when it comes to the unstability of the unstable ship, I feel like any unstable home is a detriment to any child, whether it's a two parent unstable home, a one parent unstable home, a cat rad or dog, or you know what I'm saying. Whatever, Like, any any type of turmoil is going to have a traumatic effect on the child period. Yes, I agree, I got another one

for y'all, another one another another, so okay. So do you think that when parents are going through like really tough times in the house is chaotic and it's just a whole bunch of dramas and bullshit. Do you think the responsible thing is for them to a one of the parents move out or be um, give the child to somebody else in the family until they figure out Yeah, hell no, you don't never get your child up. And I don't think my question Hold on, I'm not meaning

like give like signs that city over buy. Okay, go to grandma house for a little bit into mommy Daddy figured this out there too, but not for no, because yeah, because I feel like some some kids may internalize that you don't want them, they did something wrong to make them have to be removed from the house and that like that's you don't want to suck your kids up like that. And I feel like, um, say what you

just said again, Say what you just said again. That's what she should No, it was another or or one person to leave me. I don't think anyone should move back because they get used to living on their own. It's hard to come back. Yeah, it's hard to come back. Go off to the grandparents house saying no. I should want to say either wanted the parents leave or just

sending the kids. Yeah, unless it's like some sort of major abuse or never type of something that is really gonna like it's just some ship where where y'all trying to figure out the bills or you know what I'm saying, some ship like that. Man, the kid needs to see that because when they get older, that's going to teach them how the problem solve and deal with life. And if you move out, just only run problem. Yeah, you're

only running away if you move out. If you're like, well, I'm gonna get a place because you got the sign for it. Yeah, three months, six months, that's and if y'all can't pay either, be a lot of in the paper. If you can, you still giving that person like they're not married like the marriages like you live here, I live that fast. And then the kid internalized that too, like why why they left instead of just like like you said, like sending your kid off to a family

member like damn that might not want me. Or if I'm a kid and I see them, my mama left, my daddy left. Well, ship, why they leave? Because that's you know, as adults we can think about different kids. I don't have to have a man or a woman or you know what I'm saying, that it could be all. There was actually a video that was posted a few days ago about the eight year old that said, well, you know, I don't want I don't want to have us when I grow up so I can get child support.

These kids, these kids are really learning from the generation that grew up thinking that ship and I was passed down from from another from another generation because you literally couldn't have a father in the home or you get your your support taking from your government support taking. So to hear that ship still being like eight year old

saying that twenty two is like damn. But now that's wild because the government support and child support two different things now, So she just automatically assuming that her baby daddy could be not ship if you think about it, because government he would have to be a ship in order for him to be able to afford child support. No, you could be broke. We still still trying to child support you with no income. No, But what I'm saying is they'll put a standard child support. Girl was saying

that like she was just gonna she's just repeating. She just repeating what she just repeating. When she heard somebody to say, cousin of the lady in return asked her, so what about your husband, Like you don't think it's better to have a husband. She was like, why would I marry him? I don't know if he owned drugs. So it's like, okay, little girl, you don't even know that you're talking. So solutions. So we back to this. So should we be pushing tradition or should we just

crash out and say fun? Like what's what's her? Should be? Sure? Yeah, because I have a question when it comes to tradition, what tradition? Traditions? But but I'm saying it's tradition to who and what? Because some people and a woman having a woman's world that tradition. But what is a man wrong? What is the woman? So a man should provide? I think every woman in here agrees a man should provide, So think that a woman should do That's what I'm saying.

What And then that word, the submissive word is so touchy. But it's not as bad as it's because okay, let's let's take let's take an example of submission, right, and that's press open. You can do what you gotta do. Man, you big homio that um you have a drink of warm sprintter, I've been wilder. There's there's there's moments right now. There's moments if two people are in the house right where one person will retreat because the other person is

just better at That's that's all this submission is. I'm gonna step back and let you do this because you do that better. I'm gonna get the funk out of the kitchen. I'm gonna get That doesn't mean I can't cook or I can't do this, but I'm gonna get the funk out the way because you're better at it. It's not the submission, it's not slavery. So basically, because the man pays the bills better, a woman should be

submissive and step back and let him do that. No, we didn't say that, just say that's not what I said. That I said there are moments when two people aren't together that you will submit and get out of the way because the other person is that. I feel like, I feel like when it comes to the bills, paying ship or whatever, I feel like, if you okay, let us don't let us talk so I see, I think I see what she's going on the talk. Feel like, if you guys have come to the conclusion or made

the agreement with both of yourselves or whatever. That Okay, the guy is going to take care of the bills, he's gonna pay for you know what I'm saying, a majority of the stuff or whatever I feel like as a woman, And y'all can write me if I'm wrong or if I'm tripping or whatever I feel like as a woman, there are certain things that you should automatically do.

And if that woman gonna watch you put it all on the line and support your family and can't submit to you to some respect, you probably need to get the hell long. You're right, That's all I'm saying. Are like, why would you? Why would why would it be? Like, uh, even even the other way around, Like in a woman's role,

you have to whatever the role is. We're not saying that the role is the same in every household, but it's like support what they got going on, because it's my nig is risking his life or risking whatever to take care of it. Not not in risking life, don't necessarily always be in the street instead of risk your life. And like it could be stressful as a man just covering working two or three whatever it is, that's part of it. But if he's doing that and I have

agreed to let him do that. Then there are gonna be things that usually he might have had to worry about that he's no longer going to have to worry about. Like he's not gonna have to worry about having dinner. Fool about I want a sandwich, or I want some eggs, or I want some fruit or something. I'm gonna get up and cut the fruit. I'm going to get up, and the eggs. I'm gonna get up and do whatever. Like he's not gonna have to worry about coming ou.

You how he's not gonna have to worry about coming home. But what if you're not a cleaner, and what if you're not a cooker, and what if you're not in this? What he been? Yes, I've just been to say, and what if I'm not a cleaner. I'm gonna get made, That's what I'm said. I'm gonna get providing he's providing the money, but saying I want this, they just make sure were you're shaking your head, it's like you agree with Jay, like I'm gonna climb at my bad at

two o'clock and that's making some thiss. No blood, man, and get the sandwich. Three and the more blood. What if she I ain't wear no sandwich, You don't wear no flowers. Hold on, hold on, you want to breaking, but I can't get a sandwich, you know what I'm saying, hold on, can't cheese? What she that's fun? If she's not a cooker, she can get your grim cheese. But be from the maid. Hey, you fucked up. It's three in the morning. You are the person that runs this household.

I don't cook. I haven't said you should have told me to the class so I could have got you some uber easet. What I'm saying, I'm saying the same ship. But what I was saying is you can't like That's just wild to me. And that's the part of tradition that don't make no sense, because I think that the queen should be showered and give her flowers and spas and taking care of for all the things that she does for her household. So why the man can't get

the I have a question, though, what are you have questions? You? Right your question? I got a question, right? Ask your question? Question all right? Ask your question, grim cheese, Ask your question, grill cheese. Listen, let me just say this out there. I'm not waking up my sleep to make nobody no girl cheese. But if so, if you're providing for the house, making straight, you gotta worry about nothing. Ship. You can't get why shouldn't have to do it for you? So

he's gonna have limitations with you. Hold on, I'm not doing this. I don't get up to do some ship. I don't want to do this my wife. I'm gonna get up and do it to make I have a question. Okay, that's not a new fun. It's fun to the scenario. First. Respond to the scenario. First. For you, you don't worry about nothing nothing. I don't have to I don't have to come to make I don't have to do nothing. I don't have to work. You do anything, but if

you want to, you can't. But you still have your freedom, your one. I'm super straight, but even that's super straight. Ship this so like I'm super straight, I don't have to worry about not complaining. You're not complaining at all. The sensitive you can find something to complain about, fill find something to come up complaining about. The necessities are taken care of. Necessities are good. But all I got it. You're happy to question. But so it's you know you're

not waking up and make the fire. I was gonna ask what what Cash just said? So if he take care of you, he do all this? You straight, you don't have to do nothing. You're saying yes, I submit. Basically you don't say you're straight, but you're not. I'm saying, are you gonna? Are you gonna submit? I think we just need to break down. Submit avoided saying all I think about it, I got you cheese. I'm not like what I'm saying. It is like if I'm sleepy, I

call on my questions. Is if I'm sleepy in the bed and you said a baby maybe a sound and I say, I'm sleepy. How you tired? You ain't doing ship ship? But what's that? You're sleepy? You're not sleep You're sleep not sleep rosy man, because I'm making the reason you get a good, nice sleeping because of this sign and you can't get a sandwich? Do you want to have a check some nice air condition homes? O ship shot? Tell is this a pistoles? It's a pickle

on my sand We gotta we gotta support each answer. Question. No, I was my question was this in the midst of all of this, in the midst of you know, yo, my husband is providing jay, waking up, making sounds and ship are we still busy? No? My question, I like my name I ain't had, but I was like, I'm not guess what is take care of you? I'm not

gonna take care of nick. What I'm asking is this and my still the busy bush that I am like, I'm you're a house girl and you ain't doing it but at the house while this is gonna making money. Of course you make a sound. But if I'm still on my mouth to three four o'clock in the morning, we're both walking in the door at the same time because we both tied. I guess what, let me say something real quick because it's my choice. Then I you don't gotta make the sounds or we can't. I'm still

making this And why we can look at that? You're looking you're looking at that. The situations all wrong. Listen, that's gonna do if you work three jobs. I'm still going to make my nigga's sandwich and my nigga asking me to make you you you turned, you turned from doing bullshit. He trying to take care of you're gonna make the sandwich because it ain't about the sandwich. But if you need a song from bank, he's gonna do it for you. It's not about the sandwich. Are you

locking in or you kind of sandwiches and right? But I'm getting the sandwich, some drain, some chills. The question is this because y'all sail sandwich represents the strong. I'm still I'm still looking at the wake about the sleep. So what I'm saying is that we both tied because I was working and you was working. Granted, you probably pay all the bills, but I probably take care of

my insurance. Makes correct. Listen to what I'm saying. You might you might want something from your other that he don't feel like doing, but he's gonna He's going to do it because he's locked it with you or feels that you're going to do the same for him. Right, That's like a give and take. I'm tired and I got some ship going on. I could be emotionally mentally fucked up, and I just need a sandwich of some water. I just want to feel like somebody loved me, So

you're gonna wake her. I might not even want a sandwich, right, you do it? You do it, because if it was I'm saying talking about sounds, yeah, you're talking about conversation. I ain't gonna touch to the nigga. You just had this rough, fast day. You need to break up straight, super straight. He's like, Damn, I can't get a sandwich right, I'm just trying to figure out what you said. You made me a sandwich the kitchen, come to the narrow this. No,

that's not what happens. That's heavy. That's not y'all ball No, no, no, y'all are both laying down. Right, it's two or three in the morning. Y'all might just be up kind of falling in and out of it, talking on whatever the case. Right, you're correct, he said, He said, I want the sound was just like you could have said, I got you. I need scramble, chump potato waffle house, motherfucker. Right now, I'm not gonna ask that, but I'm all want to go get this chumped up. Let me go get it.

That's different. But I think I'm left the house scramble mother. Whatever it is, we agree. I think when y'all had me funked up, was you didn't walk in this house. You didn't finish working each tied. Nobody ever said that you created that. I'm not gonna walk by the kitchen to come to you and be like, just go get my sandwich, so that you created that. I definitely wake up. I was going off saying I wake up. She said I wake up and make my so I was like, white,

we're waking up. I looked at you like Jack made him j d K. Boy, that ain't gonna be ship red velvet. Motherfucker's listen, I need to learn whatever the that's what I'm saying. That's tradition. That's because I'm not gonna let another bitch do it because get that exactly. And guess what if the relationship don't work out? Jay, No, I did everything I could, so if you fu up,

that's on him. Yeah, I did everything I could. You ain't got no excuse because for me, and they're gonna do everything they can to make sure the next one not doing more. Yeah, exactly, because if you if you're feeling all them check marks and then ship, she still leave that ship. That's just name. But if I say a question, should you go into relationships? We want to do that. Let's do it think, Yeah, that's that's all

that I think. I do that. I I think I'm gonna envy everything like that though, you telling them ship straight up? Yeah, name, I'm trying to remember, like what part of my life I told you? What part I kind of skipped past? Like, so I just figured I might as well tell you. At some point you get tired of telling about your favorite color. No, I don't even do that. I don't what then you'd be asking his favorite colors and asking me this is why here

we go? Cheah. Now you're sorry because you know last you know what the girl rolled off you, and you know what day you did Instagram that you was done with these hoes or something like that. My relationships change, My relationships that has changed by the hour. Yeah, yeah, yeah, what happened? What's going on now? And see that another rolled over? No, that's too much. What happen. I'm a station now, man, we got them cam Central going live. Yeah, he ain't getting up with or No, man, I might

need to get one than any else. When I got big. What we talk tradition, Cash says, so what are you going to a relationship in? No? What you meet halfway? When you're in a relationship. By that time, y'all know each other, y'all should be all in. Right, the relationship can start like they won. It might not be like a serious relationship even when it goes too like doing the first that you meet someone, a relationship starts. No,

I'm not talking about that. Friendship starts. The relationship starts. She might not be I thought when I thought, she meant like once you went, once you decided to be together. That's what my fad. Once you decided to be together, I'm all in. We might as well at that point. I'm I'm one of those like I want to go

all in people because I just want to. I'm just I'm lover and I'm a nurturer and you know what I'm saying all that, but I had to learn like this, and I don't joke or lab but this is another thing that my grandma told me, and she always taught me. When you do too much for people in the beginning, they fall in love with your hand and not your heart.

You it's hard to tell whether or not the love it's real because you don't you started off doing the most, so it's like you can't you know, it's it's hard. It's hard to understand, like whether or not they really love you, what they're working with you because of what you're doing for them or because of you as a person type ship. But does but does all end actually mean that it has to be material things? Can all end just be I'm I'm not talking about material ship.

I'm talking about fucking doing little ship like yeah, waking, you're sleeping, making a sandwich or or making a sacrifice for them and she wouldn't have normally done like out of the ordinary or for any other like regular or just being open to them. Yes, there's no better feeling in a relationship or friendship or anything than security. So some of these are like tests of security. Like I'm secure as in I have someone I can depend on. So it's not about the act or whatever, it's just

about this is who I can depend on. This is who I might not be able to depend on because they might be more of a selfish person. There's nothing wrong with that. That's just a personality trait. But there's nothing like having security. It's like job secure, it's like anything like it just gives you peace of mind, you know what I'm saying. So I think that that's what the actions ultimately is about. That may come from tradition. Do you think, speaking of tradition, do you think with

tradition people love. Do you think people get married for security or love? When it comes to tradition, it both. There's nothing wrong with seeking security. Security and stability is good. It could be good. It could be for some people boring, Like I think a difference security and like monotony, but like, what's just smash it over and over every day, no differentiation in your routine. But that works for something some people. That's safe, that works some people. Some people like to

say some people do. But if you have one person that wants to be that way and another person that doesn't, and sometimes that could be a world. You got that wife that's looking for exciting else that just likes their schedule and they want it to be the same. And then sometimes they go above and beyond it to where it's like, well, I don't even want the ship to change on Friday or Saturday or Sunday. I want this

ship to be how it is every day. And the person that seeks more flavor in life might get bored. And that's when people start stepping out, want to experience new ship. I got one more question now, yes, the final question. Do you think tradition can change, especially since we're talking about tradition and all the old time and you know there's a long time ago, but now involves.

I think I think it's better than change evolves. Like I said, I'm glad that traditionally we don't do some of the same things we do like just in the world. But I just think that the tradition of the family structure, this and that and the some parts of that ship is just not the formula for ain't it ain't working? This said about the policy ships sucked up working that you think that's a good tradition. Polly lifestyles. Yeah, well I don't think it's looking at no, you know, I don't.

I don't, But I'm not Polly. The Polly having more than one wife and all that ship more than one husband, Kenny, or is that so different that's some women having more Polly relationships is just basically like probably emer relationships just more than one person. The man has three girlfriends or not, Well, you could be a man could have three girlfriends or could just be like open, yeah, like kind of I

feel like this. I feel like, man, I'm I'm they just secure relationships and all that ship, But whatever else you got going on outside of me, I don't want to know that ship. You didn't want to that. I got a really good question. You wouldn't want to know. You wouldn't want to know. I'm just we just running on and you wouldn't want to know at all that somebody was cheating, Yeah, because that would make you. Now

you gotta react to that ship. It's kind of like if I say, if you had like a bush in front of your yard and it was a bunch of termites in that bush, but they're not doing it, They just there. We want to know that termites in front of your house? Would you want to know? So like you start handling about yeah, like we they were look at that. It's the term insurance is bliss. That's yeah, Like what you want, like what you want to know?

I think for me, I think you want to know the truth set you free that I want to know tell me if I'm but you better telling me if somebody else telling you. That's what I But if it never gets out and then ship, it's go out. But just know it better get out from you. I don't see what I see what I'm saying, But if it never get out of this, it's gonna get out. You can never cheat. You're not gonna cheat one time and get away with it. You're gonna continue to cheat until

you get caught. And even if you don't get caught, and when you die, you're gonna get caught at your fear and all these holes at your funeral. Now you gotta come on now. But I just feel like when it comes to and you can, like, people can say what they're gonna do and what they're not gonna do all day long, but I just feel like when they come like primarily being our relationship, when you really love somebody, um,

it's kind of hard. If you really love this person and y'all really love each other and y'all got like a lot of ship going on, it's it's hard to leave,

for lack of a better way to put it. So it's like, I guess what I'm I guess my question would be is would you want to be in a relationship with somebody that you really love, that you know that you're not going to leave with the knowledge of all the extra ship that they do, or would you want to stay in the relationship knowing that you're not gonna leave in the blind to all the ship as long as you're being respected enough for it not to

be brought to your door. That's the same question. Yeah, you said, I mean you think that you don't understand if it never makes it to you, you think of person you know is disrespect Yeah, yeah, I know. What I'm saying is I think it's get a form of respect if you never find out about anything that that person has going on, Like like if that ship never gets to you, then they definitely respect you to be able to know what I'm saying. What what? What's so? What?

This is a whole what's the fine line between deceit and respect? Let's not get deep into it because that might be a whole different thing. But deceit versus respect, this is deceit. Like even if let's take the relationship out of it, what if it's your home girl homeboy and you just never find it out, Because it's different for a relationship versus the friendship. So let's say they steal some money from you you never find out. Is that respectable that they didn't tell you or is that deceit.

You can't compare that to fucking with a bit and may never find out. You working with this bitch as opposed to stealing money from me totally different than ain't that's not directly hurting you. It's cheating. But you're taking money from me, and you're literally taking money from me. You don't think that's directly hurting. Yeahs about resation, and

when you change, you can even the repsation. But like she said, but if it never gets out, if nobody ever finds out, if nobody ever finds out, nobody finds out if a tree falls and see it. But if it's a situation where because tall and this ship all

the way wanted. Most people that have been in relationships for a really long time, they have been together forever or whatever, when they have situations going on, they deal with them privately and go on about their lives like it's not like every situation that every relationship is perfect. People go through ship, they deal with it and move

on and get over it. That you'd rather go through a relationship with somebody that you know that you're not gonna leave with the knowledge of all the extra ships that they're doing so you can worry yourself to death, or would you rather go through it with them doing whatever they do and at the end of the day they have enough respect or enough just take respect out

of it. They have enough sensibility to do whatever they need to do, to take the steps to conceal whatever they're doing so that it doesn't come to your doorstep and you don't have enough knowledge of it because they care about you that much. So now you're not strengthening especially that's jay Z Beyonce essentially allegedly. I mean like that, I guess I would rather because if you know you're

not going nowhere and you know I see it. Rather, I'd rather be able to eat my dinner and fucking still be able to fun with this and they get enough fucking knights that we eat, lose weight and be sick because but you're not gonna right, I don't know, I'm not gonna control and I know I'm not gonna leave it. But you still to me, you said, we want to know because you're gonna find out, not even if you found out, because like she said, they have

did everything to make sure you don't find out. But it's just to me It's just one of those things like other people know, I don't. I don't never want another more what's going on? And they know and I don't know because it's ridicule, right, that's yeah, like I don't being the butt of the joke. Yes, yeah, I want you walk in and everybody, everybody, But they bet that saying that. It's like that's gonna be a whol if they do. But it's that verse, see putting it

like that, listen, isn't that verse ignorance, It's bliss. Ignorance is bliss. I don't agree with it. I don't like it. I would want to know. I feel you, But ignorance is bliss. If there's a snake behind y'all, right now, y'all know it, y'all let peace now, something like this is y'all. Look, but you make peace with it if you make pieces with your situation. Doesn't saying what if it's a situation where the same way the nigga covered

it up well enough for you not to know. Don't nobody else know either, So it's not like you're the butt of the joke because ship nobody hell, somebody, somebody driver, I'm wime, girls, that's the excitement. I'm with her man that so girls, the whole girls gonna tell everybody they you gotta get into it her best free and she's gonna tell you. Yeah, that's that crazy ridicule. We want to know, Jake, as you said that that happens want you it is bliss or is it the truth? Shell

set you free? The truth set you free, but it may not set you free. They're giving you a choice if you want to say not, if you want to be free, right and if because they're forcing you to me, because you're to say, if you don't know that, who around on? What else is this nag of doing? And when is he doing it with? And I ain't got time for that ship. If I'm gonna sunk with this nigga, I'm gonna funk with this nig I'm gonna understand. This nigg is like a rental my time, not real my

time like you So is he a rental? You're not anythol Yeah, little said you know. No, let's see, like, let me ask. All this is with certain situations is that I can't worry about what somebody else is doing when they're not on my time. And that's that's really made like a light stress about it. I'm trying to because I'm not gonna be able to change it. But Okay, if I was to get married, then that would kind of change things a bit. But at the end of the day, if I'm marrying the nigga, like, I don't

make those type of commitments lightly. So if I'm gonna marry this nigga, this is somebody that I love for whatever qualities he's shown mere for whatever reason, this is somebody that I plan on spending my life with that whatever comes up or whatever happens, we're gonna figure it out. We're gonna work it out. So it's like ship it is what it is, like, we'll deal with what comes

when it comes. Now, if it's too much ship coming, my nigga, we're gonna have to, like we you need to you, We're gonna we're gonna have to break this ship up. You're right, but it's gonna take the sounds if y'all going through Truph. I just want to know. Yeah, I don't know the sandwich ship like I'm gonna I'm gonna do. But let me tell you someone you made that statement, what not get married I'm gonna make sure

I take that. It's no rule. But the marriage, you don't know you're ready for marriage until you get married. You're not gonna know what. I don't care if you fortified. You're not gonna know you're ready for marriage until you get married and some ship come up. But that's when you're gonna know if you're ready for marriage. Just the final little questions. It's cheating. The worst thing that can happen in the relationship. That's for the lady. No, no, no, no, no, no.

Not to me. A child is not the worst the worst for me. Yeah, that's not the worst for me outside child. To me, I mean it's when I don't feel protection. Yeah, that's the worst for me. Yeah. Protection of the enemy. Yes, when the protection has gone away. Even if I feel like I ain't gonna say the enemy, but I'm sleeping with someone that's just really really mad at me or whatever, I still want to feel protected.

Once the protection is gone, you don't care. If I get hit by bulls or whatever, then we've done any Yeah, there's nothing left so for me protection, Big Big Bang. That's another episode of Big Facts Friday. Make sure you check us out to triple W dot Big facts Pot dot com salute. You're listening to Big Facts with Big Bank and DJ scream Big Facts on social media at Big Facts Pod f Big Fangs and DJ scream Bring you Big Fat Man so well up that merch? Yeah

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