BIG FACTS FRIDAY- Pessimism vs. Optimism

know what I'm saying. We always have a word of the day that we explored and we moved that into a topic. So, Jay, what's the word of the day? Hit us? Hit us with it? Okay. So our right of the day is pessimism, And the official textbook definition of pessimism is a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen, a lack of hope or confidence in the future, and or a belief that this world is as bad as it could be, or that evil will ultimately prevail over good.

M So it's pessimism bad which the urban definition. The urban definition is something that I do not have right now, and we can get it in a minute. Okay, so you're not properly prepared, No, I'm not. We do we usually do the RBAN definition. It's it's pessimism bad because obviously the complete opposite of pessimism is optimism. So obviously, to some extent we have to talk about optimism today too. But it's pessimism a bad thing I think personally, Um,

it could be bad and good. It could be good in a sense to where like Black was saying earlier, it may prevent you from being naive and so in situations which could ultimately lead to your downfall. But I feel like it could be a bad thing because it could create unnecessary anxiety and limitations on living in life. You know what I mean. I don't think it could be that bad. Like me, personally, I prepared for the

worst in every situation. So every time I walk into a room or anything happened, I ultimately think of, like, what's the worst that can happen? Like can I deal with the worst? And if I could deal with the worst, I'll deal with the situation. Preparation, deal with the worst and I just take my step back. Yeah, Like, if I think about the worst of the situation, I'm like, you know, I only want to deal with this. I'll take a step back from the whole situation. It's preparation testimism, though,

like you should be. Is it being prepared if you're thinking about the worst all the time? Like preparing short because all I'm preparing for is the worst. I'm not preparing for the actual situation. I'm just preparing for you lock you lock your door at night because somebody could come in your home, right, But is that preparation or pessimism? Preparation? That's preparation, That's what I think. But it's still you're still thinking that the worst can happen. That's why you're

locking the door, right. But I think pessimism to that degree would be you sitting by the door waiting for somebody to come in, like you got all your guns by the door waitings. I'm saying what you're saying, basically, you ain't thinking about it once you lock your dough Yeah, exactly what you're laying in bed like hears right, paris what about the people that that sleep with their gun next to their bed paria. Think that's that's racial. That

ain't nothing. Yeah, still pessimism with no gun. A lot of a lot of people that Yeah, most cons if you break into him, then you're probably gonna get you. If you got your gun on you at all times. And then when you walk through l a, you walk through and you're grabbing it, what you're thinking of the grab and it you're a gun owner. Most gun owners always have their guns with most going on, they'd lock the weight exactly seat risk pessimism right now. You think

you can't go down it anytime. It's preparation to it's being prepared if somebody, if somebody run up, if somebody run up on somebody and they get got, they're gonna be like you were slipping. You weren't prepared, yell. But what I'm saying, I get it. How would you even think that you could slip if you're not thinking the worst? Thank you. That's the point. That's the bank. But what I was saying is, how do we separate preparation with

pessimism and paranoia? Are they all together? If you're preparing for the worst, that means you're a pessimism, right You're a pessimist. You know what I mean, If you're preparing for the worst, that means you're thinking about some bullshit. No, I feel like if you're preparing for the worst, that just means that you're smart. They're saying, they saying what you said. Definition is you think the worst can happen, right, A tendency to see the worst aspect of things. People.

Most people that go by guds got guds just in case. Preparation, preparation personness, pessimism thinking something can happen if precident's prepared to thinking that something can happen, and they want to be prepared to prevent something from happening in that it does. Pessimism is pessimism is also not giving yourself a chance to win per se. So it's like going to play the powerball, right, and you get the ticket, like, man, I know I ain't gonna win. You're thinking the worst situations.

What you call each situation is different, right, because it could be good or bad. It's good that you're preparing for the worst. It's what you're still thinking the worst. I think, what about what about about a realist though? What about a realist? What about the reality that the world. That's certain stuff going on. It's not that's the world. Everybody has a different worlds of the world is funked

up in your mind. That means you're looking at it in a negative white No, that means that's based on that's based on experiences. How'd you looking at the world right now? It's fucked up basically, but based on experience. We're looking at the experience. But everybody, but everybody, everybody, that's what you're not the same on that. Everybody perspecting that the same of that. We look at the worlds. We have funked up experiences. But it's so what that

makes you realist? Realist? But what's the realist? What's the definition? Again? Look at the world? What what I was about? Pensimists? You just said the world? Don't You just said the world? But if you're a pessimist, you're you only think the bad ship is gonna happen. You only think how you go on the club and you outside and night, what are you thinking the worst can happen? You're preparing for

the world to happen, your anxieties up. You don't think you don't think it's gonna happen, though, do you think the bulls's gonna go down, go to a motherfucking cook out. You're thinking every time you got them some drop what you thought a pessimist get on the plane and think the plane gonna crash. But when you get on the plane, When I get on the plane, I in my mind, I know this ship can exactly this is probably start turbulent and shaking it. It's like it's going down. What

roll did more? You ain't thinking like it's just turbulence, no, what not. But what I'm saying is is like, okay, like you just said, when you get on a plane, you're getting on the plane knowing that this plane can crash. You're not on the plane knowing that this plane is gonna crash. Every time I seek, like pop on what you think any going on? It's it's going to be a rocky flight. Now. I can't wait to time. I can't wait to this flight. I can't wait to this

flight over. I don't just be thinking us over with, we're done for Let me say my final prayer. If you start smelling smoke when you want to play with you, when you're gonna be a little more fearful because you're a realist that glass of wine. The pessimistm is realized the actual. But then y'all trying to justify anything you do being being what is it pessimistic? You do with different words trying to do you're looking at something in a negative way, You're being pessimistic. Okay, I saw another

way to break that. You're a pestimistic person. And I'm saying you have a pessimistic mind something oh certain things. Everybody makes another way, another way to break it down, basically is to say that pessimism is a direct parallel to a negative, self fulfilling prophecy. What get in the car, get in the car and get in the car and assuming or thinking that it's always gonna I'm pessimistic about cars,

about driving them, about just being in cars. I'll be feeling like I'm like every time if we need get close to the curt Special they're driving, like I can't sleep in called by other people driving not really you know, bumped into ship. But I ain't never been a no accident accident. Have you ever seen a big accident? What I'm just saying like that that's comes to a part of that. It's usually it's I think I'm pessimistical anything

that's out of my like. That's what I'm saying. It is what it is, and I think this is a mental disorder too, right PTSD. But this is the thing, right am I speaking of? You called me a lot of time with a lot of optimism, So you're not a pessimistic person you called me, But spit. It depends on what it is, especially when it comes to people. When it comes to people, I see it's you all some bullshit until you prove me to me that you're not. Because dealing with people over the years, I have been

let down by people. That's kind of defense mechanism. Though that's not a defense mechan because in the end of the day I meet you and don't know you, I'm still wondering what you want, well, defending you want to protect yourself, trying to change words, change the words, or if I'm looking at you in a negative way when I meet you. That's what the definition you said. You're protecting yourself yourself just because we get just because you don't want to. But I don't mean that. We're not

being pestimistic. No, we all justifying my actions on white I feel this way doesn't mean I'm being in that situation. In that situation here, you are being pesimist, but it's because of it. Basically, I think the difference. Did I get the underlying issues on why I'm being that way, but I am being like this word. I never knew this word, so I looked it up last night and just start reading like damn this in certain situations. But

the thing. The thing is with pessimism, and like what you're saying about how you meet people, You've been led down in the past. So whenever you meet new people, it's a possible you look at them like expecting the bullshit pessimism you like the reason that you're feeling like that when you meet new people, you're warranted to feel like that because of your previous experiences with other people with pessimism A lot of because because it takes away my pain. No, No, still know what a man is.

What I'm saying is passimism. A lot of times it can't be justified that pessimism. A lot of that's unworranted and stuff like that. It's not situational. Yes, that's just a state. I feel like a situational me personally, I think it's pessimistic and certain ship. It's just what it is. You're gonna look at certain ship in the negative way if you already been through it in a negative way, like the lottery, like y'all said before. But that means because I feel like I ain't gonna win and I

might be the negati get more in it. That's pessimism, thank you. But but you just said that said, I'm optimistic about a lot of ship when I call you. But if you do go buy a ticket, you're gonna feel like you can win. Or you might be like I ain't gonna win, but shot gonna play. You probably win. That's how you are. But she said, it's a state. It is a state. That's pessimis what we're doing. Pessimistic, pimistic that she's saying. If you're being if you that

you that all the way around. If you're being pessimistic, you are all the way around. You're always negative about ship, that you have no reason to be nexatim that's pessimism. You know what I'm saying pessimistic is I could be pessimistic about something right now, like this ain't gonna taste. That's what I'm just going to what we're talking about, pessimism or being pessimistic, and y'all change the word. I

said the word pessimistic. Y'all change the word the word because I'm because pessimism has as a lot more derivatives than pessimistic, because pessimistic is the act of being a pessimist, which derives from the word pessimism. I get pessimism, I'm not talking about I'm talking about pestimistic. Can that be selected? Yes, that's what I'm speaking of. I'm not just I'm not

in a steak well. I'm a pessimism because everything I started, any type of any type of thing that I started business, I see the grade in it before I even started. But when I see a nigga, I'm thinking, what this nigga on? So it's two different things. What I'm trying to get you all, am I Trippet. It's in the same family. But that's what you're saying. You're being pessimistic about the person, the context of context of the situation. But I ain't stuck in in is M I'm whatever, Cimi,

that's me a lot, that's me. Everyone is pessimistic. That's what I'm thinking about. She brought up another word that I'm glad because I just learned two words. She brought up pestimism. No, I'm not that, But am I pestimistic about a lot of ship? Yes, that makes sense perfect senselestims about being in cars, pestimist about people, but I'm not about my ability to do certain She ain't gonny

going to nothing thinking I'm gonna lose. Well, you have more optimism for things involving yourself than you do for other people. That seemism can stop, like Jay saying, pestimism can stop you from even exceling because you're already not trying because you know you're gonna fail. But that goes back. He's pessimistic pretty much primarily about anything that's not within his control. Thank you, thank you, That's all I'm saying, Like, which is worth it because if you can't control that ship,

you don't know what the man happen exactly. That makes sense that being pestimistic about love stop you from loving or being loved. Definitely, Definitely, you wouldn't know how to love, nor would you know how to receive love, because what your love languages, your love language a person being pessimistic about love is usually someone that's either been abused, cheated on, or lied to a lot of times, and they project that pessimism onto their future and next partners. But who's

not who who? What right person in their mind have been through anything that the normal um middle class American, Black American, it's not don't have PTSD every I think a lot of black people have got PTSD and different type of forms. Thank you, That's what I'm saying. So at the end of the day, I can't say that somebody stuck like she was saying. It's two different words. I'm glad that we got to that. I can't say

that the motherfucking's stuck being a Debbie down. But in certain situations can trigger you to be a debbute down based off a previous experience, and that's where the anxiety, the paranoia, and the PTSD comes from. We don't think some people are just stuck me and Debbie down. There is like I do, But I don't think nobody at

this table is that. But like I said, like like, but like like when we like a whole bunch of big facts Fridays ago, when we were talking about relationships and like nigga's the deal with women that are gonna nag no matter what, because that's just what's in them. Those type of people are the people that we're speaking about that are consistently, constantly and always pessimistic. But they might just be like that about that situation with that dude, or or they may see better in that person and

trying to push that person to be better off. It's bitches out there that don't matter what the nigga does, no matter what the nigga tries to do, no matter what the nigga thinks about you trying to make it better. Yeah, you already bullshit to her. Know what I'm saying is what if? What if you ain't never done nothing to this bitch and She'sip's what I'm saying, after nigga, before you did that, and she's projecting all of that on you and giving you all of this bullshit because of

what this other nigga put her through. Don't even be here, y'all, shouldn't even be That's on you. But a lot of people, a lot of people don't get that deep into the situation until after they've been together for years or had kids or whatever, and then those type of things make you feel obligated to the situation. So you try to do what you can, muddle through and deal with it. But at the end of the day, this is some

ship that you really can't take man. Like I said, at the end of the day, no matter what you when you come into any relationship, any friendship, anything, you see all the signs of everything you need to see in the beginning. If you choose to ignore them, thinking they're gonna get better, a lot of that thing, whether you're gonna see immediately what it is, what you're dealing with, no matter what, like right the same day, and you're

gonna you like so much other shit about them. You try to ignore that until it starts to increase increase, increase, increase. Then now I can't deal with it. But you I've been like this, or it could be able. How they treat other people, like you will watch how they're treating you and think like, oh, they treat me so great, but you will see that they're treating this other person bullshit.

I am a firm believer that you watch our people treat other people, eventually they're gonna start treating you bullshit. It's gonna come right back around. Like if somebody just treating other people bullshit all the time, but treating you like you just oh so great. Eventually, when you stop giving them what they want and what they desire, you're gonna be on that bullshit side too. Facts. Facts by the time, by the time you trying to look over ship,

now they don't warn you. Now you pestimistic about hood, right yeah, basically, yeah, that's what it is like. But you're gonna allow yourself somebody else to put you in that space when you already know I can't deal with it. Like back to the cigarette ship. Yeah, you already know you like motherfucker's smoke cigarettes, but you're trying to deal with it thinking I can love you enough to you stop smoking cigarettes, or eventually you're gonna love me enough

to stop smoking. Don't go like that. You can't love anybody out of who they truly are like that. They were there before that was then before you got to They're gonna be like that forever. Facts, we're not get big. So as you think like the opposite, like optimism sometimes bad because it makes you like naive, a gullible and let your guard down for all these attacks which is the opposite of pessimism optimism thinking everything is all good.

I think they make Yeah, you don't think everything all good. Some people come the world. When some people come from that world, they ain't never seen that brow you would happen to those people. But okay, so so how you saying and you can't think everything is good? That goes back to what we were saying about reality? What about reality? About thinking of living? Not being necessarily pestimistic, but just being a realist too, because we turn on the knee.

I feel like being pestimistic in certain situations you have to be, Yeah, but because it's because being pestimistic about certin ship would make you prepare like y'all trying to sleep. Yeah, but I'm thinking the worst that somebody could breaking your house at home you and your kids, would make you prepare. Yeah. I'm pretty sure that Kanye and Kim Kardashian and DJ Kali's kids are very optimistic because they haven't experienced no bullshit yet. So they don't know nothing about none of

that ship. You see what I'm saying. They don't know nothing about that. If you grow up in Calabasa's your whole life. You don't know nothing about some of the ship something in calabas So do you believe So okay, well, if y'all are saying that, do you guys believe that your outlook on optimism versus pessimism depends on your environment? For sure? Yes, your product, you're a product of you

definitely aren't. Absolutely. I'm just saying that their environments that we might not have been disposed to people are la la la la la la la. Seeing like they don't have to you, you feel like they don't have a coupe. Yeah, yeah, and to them. So that's two different worlds. Don't talk about our world in the big fast, the big Fast Friday world the listeners who thats up pessimism? They pestimistic down a motherfucker, and we want to get out another line.

We want to get you. I don't want to get you. I want to get you out of the searching ways. If you live, if you're loud, to stop you from searching, That's what I mean. Yes, But other than that, come with it. But don't have the mentality I ain't never gonna be. Don't be that pessimist like you seeing a nigger with the poshter Man song with stick in his hand and you're like, oh, he just got that for protection. Know anybody tell you the lay down man, big fact.

Be optimistic about this photo shoot. That's just like the parking your car in certain spots. You're thinking, the worst can happen. My car window can be busted. Guy. Yeah, they busting every body, the one in that Lanta. But you're gonna be optimistic, like mine ain't gonna get busted,

or you're just prepared for what come with it. You might be cool with it they go buck my winder, But I got the preparing this when they need a car unlocked and then the window down and you just opened and put the plastic bag on the mother and like already, why would you leave your leave your laptopping things on the seat, Because that's an optimistic because a lot of people think about what is very optimistic. I'm just running there. A lot of people think about what

life should be instead of what deal. Well, I should be able to leave my car here. Yeah, I like you're going in the gas with your crow. We used to be able to do that back in the day. Who does that? I used to do that? You can running? Yeah, but it won't. But it weren't like how it is now. People are actually behind these cards from these guys. Yeah, they made this ship into a hustle. So you have to be mindful, yes, mindful, Yeah, not necessarily pessimistic, but mindful.

But what could do mindful preparation and all these other words y'all trying to talk around back today, I just feel like pessimism is gloom and doing pessimistic pestimism. Sure, but you can you can start off the day pessimistic about your day. You might not be in a state of pessimism, but them glooming doing people that wake up on some pessimistic ship. But I never be like that, So I guess I'm speaking from the point of things

I can't control. Once again, like I can't control Like if I see code that the day depends on how he is. I don't know what Kode called until he speaks, then okay, yeah, but the real I'm not gonna say to him if he's looking like something's on his mind, until he'd be like bang, oh yeah, because I can't predict how he's gonna go. You know what I've been going through? Yeah, what might switch it up? That's true.

That's true. Yeah, Like I don't know what you got going on, really trying to see if you're gonna punch me. I'm thinking the worst, the niggle who want to shoot up at school. So you don't have no situations, You'll have no situations of optimism, heartaches, huh b optimistic about when you go out that what do I speak about? Big facts, very big, optimist everything that's going on right? Yes, very big? Yes, yes, because when you til I know it,

don't take that. But nothing for me to do that but keep great people around me, with the right people and do my best. And I know I'm gonna do that. But I can't be optimistic about I'm gonna hit the lottery because you can't throw that because I've never done it, and I think it's a scam. I play Sam. I'm just saying, but I don't want to stand. But I knew I could tell me how the funk I'm gonna get that luck. That's I guess. Sistic. I feel like the look that I have is what I'm doing to

be able to work. I don't got the lottery look, hopefully my wife hit it. Realism, realistical, realistic, you know what I'm saying, But you won't have a lottery lucky if you don't play. You don't even play. So you ain't because I ain't. I don't even want to try to waste that look on some ship that I need this slog. But like they said, it's pessimistic. Could be good for gamblers, yeah, because you can win enough money to be like end up losing. The rest of the

ship ain't been win on more eving they quit. So optimism pestimism is both good and doses. You can't have too much of either balance yea, thank you. But you know what I think that makes you? You know what I think that makes you a realist? Right in the middle is a realist. Some bad ships could happen or some good ship could happen, So I'm gonna prepare for both. The realist. Okay, yeah, you kind of religious. End of the episode. Yeah though, Yeah, a realist. But there's also

another word. Okay, we just have to bring this up. But what place does paranoia play in all of this? How detrimental is paranoia? Paranoia? Think would be the negative? My fucking jaw just got stuck. The negative, the negative extreme of the spectrum of pessimism. That's what Yeah, okay, that's what I was coming in there, And those are the people that generally can't function paranoia. Paranoid people are

fucking hypochondriacs. Paranoid people are fucking whatever kind of other acts that I feel like some shit is what helped me with my pessimistic ways for agreements. Definitely, you can't take name personal. You know what I'm saying. You gotta speak your words, you know what I'm saying, like and stand on them. Yeah, like different ship like never y'all ain't never seen that book, read that book, heard that book,

Go get it. Somebody helps you, sure, but the ship that's inside you is not gonna allow you to be naive. So I'm glad for everything I've been through, everything I've seen, Like, I don't feel like he could have made a better nig to me, So I take the good with the bad from customistic, I'm not inselent at all because that's a person that just stuck as a debut downald. Right. No, I don't feel like I don't even allow myself to be around those kind of people, right, But am I

about certain situations? Yes, because I can't fight the feeling? How can you? How can you fight something that when you it's like deja vudo? You yeah, how basically your experiences that's your reality. If a nigga say the same ship that the nigga said, who fucked over you before he did it? How are you not gonna see that ime situations the same cologne, that's the nigger that did something to you. How you don't smell that you're right?

You're gonna be right whatever that situation telling you it is. If a nigga walk like the nigga get something you, how you don't that ain't him? You gotta prove to me that you ain't him. That president is dog whatever it is it is. You know, like you go outside today and you're like, dam it's about the rain, because nig about police when they get behind you. I'm gonna every time every time cars back, thinking he's coming to

get me, you're gonna slow down. Pessimism if you see the motherfucker you can pay about them bits on spread way. If you're thinking, damn, what's I going too fast? People to come getting they could have already pulled somebody here, You're still gonna slow down pessimism. Yeah, nigga, they're gonna be You have a nigga pulled over, You're still gonna

show down. You're gonna think damn they are him. Yeah, you ain't doing ship you legit you everything like you you're calling you smoking the weeds that she calls them Bill pessimism. Huh. Still pessimism that comes from experience and that is PTSD. Yeah, that is just from anybody because just being black, you at risk and that is the reality. What what what what? What? What makes it the other way? You think? Like what they fail that way about us?

What created that? Police and authorities and paranoise? What he said paranoia? He said, niggas do be doing like why doing it? Why? They said niggas be shooting the two big facts. That's true. A lot of them now ain't don't matter. Niggas just'stimistic about I'm saying a niggas that's what I love. Like we want to go back and

get into that. We're gonna have to go all the way back to slavery probably, but slavery still is still with niggas crossing niggas in the slavery days, we still got own up to what we do, but who in the slavery accountability niggas. Niggas. Niggas could come to motherfucker after the fun with us and nigga we to go, But who your selling? Crockers, So who's calling? If nigga was selling, they couldn't buy the fucking white man. That

you're like a niggas. That's you're like a motherfucker. Come telling me they want to buy my son for slavery. I'm not gonna sell it where together. I don't need again. Niggas, Come telling mother, niggas, I can make you a king just selling me a few of your niggas. Niggas did ye who but whole provided the intemptive for them to be able to do gonna there is no market. Yeah, get our niggas to say, who are gonna who? They're gonna conservated the market though, That's what I'm trying to

get to the point of the niggas. No nigga, how we know it, nig we don't know. As an African, I must say that Africans has servants. Yeah, they had servants. But what I'm saying that yo niggas on the boat and brought him over here. But they were so so so Okay, well we this discussion is not going anywhere. But yeah, before was even out. No, but what I'm saying to you who they're having a bigger scale, those

niggas and niggas and had servants and ship. We're definitely to blame and they're definitely we're talking about in the cause that So that's all we can talk about this, dude, Queen. No, but what that's all we can talk about is the route, queen, not how it expanded. What's it? Dips go forth? Oka't argue with that. Yeah, they nigglas crossed niggas. Man, if we were together on anything, it wouldn't be. That's just the same way they in the case the niggle go

to jail, don't phote on her ship. You tell on your man. Not both of y'all locked up. It don't be nothing until y'all making something like niggas got a start being okay, mother, be like damn, the folk locked you up. Okay, that's their job. It's also their job to prove it. Oh way they gonna prove when y'all start telling on each other the same ship. If you didn't get caught right then doing whatever you're doing, they helped to prove it. Oh j got away because he

did that ship by himself allegedly. I'm just saying if he did. Yeah, the white boy, motorcycle boy. They call all the motorcycle them home. They ain't say ship. Mhm. Right. We put ourselves in every situation we in. Then try to blame Oh the motherfucker to me accountability. That's just my opinion on it. And didn't get mad. Whatever they want to do. But think about it though. It's always different factors from some ship, for sure, and you're speaking

on one of them. You gotta better made bun before you damn man, you're gonna lel me and him, so now you tell it, and especially no media out there at Grandma put the outs up. But you know you mad because he out Yeah, niggas putting their crime on the internet. Time about the police got nicky. You told him who did this ship? Everything now and then we had a whole episode on accountability. But you gotta take accountability like at the end of the day, like mother

can't do none of you. And this is inside job, bro, that's the same ship with slavery ship anything. It gotta be a motherfucker next to you to turn you over. M h. When no Folte walked pulled up them peel lass facing the Africa to my buying some niggas and they pull to show them how this go. We're gonna play like that over here. Fuck on, so they here about got them Old Bob Bob Pete didn't make it back from over there trying to buy the nickel. And to your point, you see what happened there with the

Haiti with that ship. Haitian was going m yea, I just say everything, everything, every every uh action caused a reaction, bro as I look at it, and then we gotta just start from where it started. Like, I can't be mad at my wife that she's paranoid about me when I'm not there. I caused those actions for my actions to play with this man. I'm just being real. Can't she called me on FaceTime to stay around the FaceTime

to see what's going on. I can't follow her. I gotta look into myself and say, what how would you feel? What do you do? You rebuttle that with excuses? No, I don't rebutter excuse I butter I rebutter it with compliancy what's up baby? Let you see everything you ever need to see. A matter of fact, you can come to that's how that's on the way. What else can I do? Get mad that I put you in a place there? Now you got damn doing with the saying things that I don't How can I not like that

when I either one did it right. That's a big fact. That accountability. That's what it takes to be on some real grown up ship. You gotta have that accountability. Accountability definitely lost our society though everybody everything somebody else fun Nigga's broke because another nick if he would have did it,

did what you do for yourself? Because it's hard for a negative to look in the mirror and say, damn, it's really my fault that I ain't on ship, But it's easy for me to say, damn, it's his part. I ain't on ship. I think what it is when people see other people that have helped with certain things and then they want that type of help. They get mad that they don't have that help. You know what I'm saying. Get mad At the end of the day, if it's something worse help helping, somebody's gonna step up

to it because they can see value in it. If it ain't ship. They helped me up, but I pot take you from zero. You get that ship like two percent, and THEGNA started to see it, get the fitted I camp to get to a hundred. Yeah, that's true. Niggas wants you to come get them at zero and take all the way to a hundred. I didn't go. But also you can't compare your race and somebody else's because you don't know what the other person had to go

through to get where where they are exactly. So if I see if I see this other person, like you said, if I've see somebody else with help, I don't know what the fund they went through the to the situation where other people are willing to help them. Facts, But you have to do your own work at the end of the day, and it's so hard to to start that ship. But nothing easy comes nothing good comes easy. That's a fact. So that's what I think. Put the

leg work in. Niggas will catch on eventually. But it happens a lot like in the workplace, like when just say, for instance, like you're working and you have a team and each team member has a different thing that they're supposed to do a different position that they're supposed to play.

But then they feel like, Okay, either they can do what this next person is doing, or they feel like they should be compensated just as much as this person because their work or whatever is just as hard, or they feel like they've gone through just as much as

this person. And then they start resenting the other team members and the other workers because of the way that they're being um, what's the word, I'm looking for the web that they're being celebrated for their job and they feel like they're not getting that same type of celebration when at the end of the day, again, you don't know what these people had to go through to make it to the position to get to where they're celebrated, and all the work that they put in and all

the other ship that they've done. So it's kind of like that ship just creates a lot of unnecessary attentions for nothing. Yeah, is what it is. Just a hater. You just want what somebody else got. All you gotta do is keep working. Whatever you do, you keep working, it's gonna show one thing about you go to the gym, you're gonna start againting smaller. You do push up, You're gonna start againting muscles. You keep working. Mother got vengency. Hey,

she don't out grow that position. But people don't want to do the work that is that you can't finally to cut your hell no more. You know that. You say, I need to pull up, cut your health, put up. Watch your cars, like all the car watch niggas got them booge, You're like, she make appointment appointment? I mean, ain't hungry no more? Brother, you don't know watch five cars a week when you can watch on Yeah, then you go home and make excuse your niggas ain't sucking.

But when nigga called you, you would not available. Yeah, I think that that's that's the world that's creative, where everybody like Crez I ain't gonna say more value than what they are, but they're more valuable than what they are, and people think that they deserve more than what they actually should be getting. Do you think social media players gratification? Yeah. You see people go from like nothing to something by

a post. So everybody want to feel like they're part of that every Yeah, everybody wants to be part of that it crowd. So every just think about it all of us. Even with social media, a lot of people run their pages as if they're already there before they even get there, you know what I mean. You got basic people doing big gass photo shoes, doing all this stuff to make themselves look like a certain something because of because of the way social media looks at everybody.

And if you ain't popping, you ain't it on social But you can't. But you can't fat people for doing that because at the end of the day, it's still them putting in their own work to get to where they feel. Like that, you can't believe that you somewhere you're not exactly. No, you're supposed to make it look good, but you can't go to believe in that you already there. Yeah, Like Whennick called you for a show for a thousand Nolan and you that's what you're worth for thouand you

can't be like, no, I need team. Yeah, we'll never get booked, Yeah, because you're just look like goddamn yeah, is that a honey ka following like and I know and I know like you and j women like you've probably seen the difference in how like the hair people like the beauticians and ship start treating themselves like everybody like.

It's a bunch of people claim that their celebrity beauticians and ship now well they feel like they that once they do one celebrity, one celebrity head, all of a sudden, you're a celebrity beautician. So that's just what it is. I don't even like. I've been get my white healthy for a long time, usually to pull up to a shop, but that she's over with. Now you gotta send a deposit. You gotta goddamn wash here. Yeah, your hell got you got them, they'll be ready. Yeah. I don't even deal

with it. No, I ain't gonna wa social media did that. I wish Nigga would tell me to watch my long here. No, you've got something, man, it's just one girl on Instagram. It's just one girl on Instagram. I swear that got her graves our bombs hell. I've been wanting to book her, but literally in her booking process, of course, you got to send a deposit. She wants your nails to be done. I don't know why you hear me. I swear to God in her book, in her book, your nail can

be done and your makeup has to be done. Because after she's done doing you pure, she wants to take these pictures. She wants to bring your hair in the shots and all that. So that's free promo. But at the at the same time, you're paying. Hell yeah, you're paying for files with some braids. But yet she wants your nails and you'll make up to be You got to be on time. Ten minutes is out of here. You're gonna might be quality control though if it's working different,

I'm not either, but I ain never did that. You're never gonna do that. You have to subject yourself to it. But I see where they're going to just walk into the salon hand cousin. Now, for guys, is what fifty sixty dollars we having like dollar haircuts to you at the two? Swear to god you're paying ut it at it for about here just now ty minute before I got him, swear why do you gotta get you some there? Just yeah nah, But nigga's niggas want it's inflation to now.

Yeah's hot. Everybody needs more, including us on God Week week. I try to see that though, so I kind of take that back. If you won't tin thousand for a show stand on it, but don't you got You gotta be prepared. You're doing it for you do it. If you don't take, don't tell nobody tell these folks like you gave me ten, but you gave me that won't broke, won't break a state like fuck up trying to stand on the price. When are you gonna know you're not

worth that price? That's the optimism, though, that's the optimism. But what if one person I'm a firm believer, once one person paid is up, I don't matter. You can get one one show for ten thousand a month, I mean for ten thousand one month, then you shoot, I get tent on show because you got one team, but you're gonna have got five thousand every day of that month.

You're right, that don't make sense? Yeah, I agree. There's some people who think different, but I agree Like you're oh, I don't keep saying I just always have for everything. You know what I'm saying? What you want? Who? You want big bank? You want black? That's a price for all them? Nigga, what's one who? But what do you want me to do? What you want is on what you want me to do when I come into building? What's the most expensive one. What's the most expensive one?

Which you one you like the most book and that's the most pensible. Big facts Bank is the top priority. And then right under him Big Bank Black for a slight discount and then you know we're going down like after that or whatever we can do old school, I can bring back the song the host, how do you

want me to dress? All that plays a factor. Yeah, because we have to include the wardrobe and his booking fell if I'm an drink that night, or how many people coming with me, my security, All that ship plays a factor. That's what you gotta do. You gotta set a price for my fellow on the set a price. You have to scale your ship, scale your ship on how because you don't post turn out no money in this period period unless you don got to that. That

is like the future baby or niggas like that here. Yeah, because you don't want to run yourself dry and you don't want the number spread with bro, he just deg me two. But you want to in my show, you know what I'm saying. So you so when in that situation, I get it. But when you want to come up, bro, you just average or mediocre whatever, Bro, you probably have a price for here. You probly have soft for ever what you want? Know what ye what you want? Usually

got some for everything you think you want. He getting the same kind of money as the mother because he's getting it all. Ye, that's the difference, bro, we're not get big. I've heard a lot of people be like, oh, it's bad for nig as. If Nick asked what the budget is, they're like, oh, what what you're giving me?

Mad promoters Like you're asking what the budget is when they can't afford your first number because at the end of the day they see that you're trying to work with them, and then they'll bring you back again and again and again. But number okay, yeah, yeah, for sure.

How do you tell me your worth? Though? You gotta look at the market price, everything about it's like it's like your worth's internal, Yes, your worth is internal and then realistic though that's not it feel like on the way up, on the way up, it's all it's all paid promo to me, like you ain't already made it. Take whatever to get in from this crowd, to show the next person who's gonna book you what you can

do with the crown. What you get what I'm saying, what the last three people paid ten and there's somebody coming with four or five. Ain't your worth ten out at three? I got something that four or five I ain't even turn it. Well, that's just me. I'm not gonna turned up. If I just did that ten and did five songs, I'm gonna do seven minutes for your last four shows was ten? How long was the show? A regular show? Okay, you're saying that they com four

or five. I got you. I walked through. I'm gonna yeah, I'm gonna do my do my hit. I ain't even to come through and sweat for this, do like once song maybe on the artist the ladies over here? What did that disappoint the fans? That's how artists they want to see Fithers. This is That's where that's where your management and the people you have handling your business come

into play. Because at the end of the day, if these people only have five thousand and you guys have the agreement that you're gonna come and do five thousand illars worth of ship, that advertisement and that promotion for that particular event doesn't need to be performing live all of its hits. It needs to be to walk through or you know what I'm saying. Whatever, Yeah, and then like you surprised him and give him up. And the way he's over here, you got your song playing with

the mic and your yeah, ain't getting swited for this ship? Yeah, Stephen, Mike and the crowd let him saying that ship for that five Yeah. But if you you know what I'm saying, ain't enough. If y'all want to see a real show tail the promoter to give it right now, right yeah, we got New Orleans. Oh god. Uh, pessimism, So don't don't. Don't be in a state of pessimism. That's what we got from the day. You shouldn't be in a state of pessimism, even though some people are, but all of

us are pessimistic. Being in a state of pessimism is death to your future. Oh I totally agree with that, so try to. But being too optimistic, it's optimism, it's naive and what's the other word, being too optimistic could possibly set yourself up for that same failure than being in a state of pessimism can. So they're basically the

same ship. I got a question, So what happens if, like, for example, if It's been known that DJ Scream is some bullshit, right, And I've never met DJ Scream a day in my life, but everybody around me and saying DJ screaming some bullshit. And I meet you and I'm not working with you, does that make me pestimistic based on you? I can't say special follow, it makes you follow to me, you have a pest You don't know. People off reaction for me some straight bullshit and I

can see it. But if you don't treat me that way, I can't hold you to that, and just how I look at it, because I don't know what he saw, what he sought in you to make him be some bullshit to you, until you be some bullshit to me. That's the only way I can say you good that you have always been, Like we asked that long time ago, like can't you do busy with somebody to say a

person do shady busy? Yes, because I'm already pestimistic about doing business with niggas, So watching you already, yeah, I'm already to count they're trying to do some shade ship to you. Know, you get what I'm saying. I'm already to kind of watching you anyway, no matter who it is, you can come clean face suit or you can come

with a scheme mas song. Either way, I'm still watching you because I'm already pestimistical about doing business with people period, right anyway, because there's knowing that you can get fucked by. Got them the pretty face on the ugly face, right, So it don't matter what they're saying about screen. Maybe scream ain't make the right nigga to do business with you and Mama, Yeah, maybe so optimistic about that. Maybe we jailed and this is it's time to prove that,

hey didn't they ain't no bullshit? Maybe I'll be the boys to said she, Well, I just made it on the meal with him. Yeah, because every area you can't name and they get the top, Dan saying some bullshit name one. Yeah, yeah, everybody got some bullshit. Yeah that's truthful. I don't think you get to talk without some bullshit. So who who who finny? Goddamn who fin it? Like you said, who finn't? God damn? Yeah, they got before

you even see. Yeah, like I said, I'm gonna get your chance to prove to me you're good approved me some bullshit, especially if if it's off the word of somebody else. They could have been the bullshit. But but if I get around you start seeing the size immediately, then here you go. You gotta react and then we do what we deal with this ship accordingly, right, react accordingly. Yep, big facts Friday, you know what I'm saying. Freciate everybody

tuning in and rocket with us. Any final words, anybody want to say something, anything on your mind, your heart, your soulier. I don't want to say, man, I really appreciate you all. This ship is like therapy. A lot of these words that I hear, I'll be saying, like, damn, well you best than the motherfucker about ship. You got got them nist traits. I have been a million that made something bad, Like a lot of this ship really helps me, Bro, And you're cognizant of the fact. Okay,

you know you have a lot going on. We all have a lot going on, and we're incorporating this into our daily lives and it's really allowing us to ascend. I look in the mirror every morning and take accountability for my action. That's why I was able to say, I get why should I tell you years the way she is sometimes when she liked that because what I've done, you know what I'm saying, Like I just had to go through the whole ship about oh yeah, and I

told I want to create this. We interview hot boy, and I was like, why don't you think you need to women? Like she took that ship to the max. I wasn't saying, but I probably did. But I don't mean you didn't mean it she took it. I didn't mean it. This is entertainment what you'm on my looking in right entertainment, queen. I am. This ship really helps,

no hope. The way that she helped me is helping people at home and people walk up to us all the time, man walking y'all, y'all, don't go out like that.

Man you'll be outside y'all, y'all don't even understand like that should be for real, like every day and having me like almost on the verge of tears, like people come up to me saying, how like our discussions and our talks and ship like basically, for lack of a better way to put it, take them off the edge or off the ledge because they don't be having people to talk to and they don't be having people to

understand what they're going through. And then when they watch us and see all of our different perspectives, it gives them a new outlook on life. So what I'm saying, I'm hearing, and then they feel like they're not the only ones going through the ship. Yeah, you gotta get that ship out. I started meditating, meditating. You told me you start it. Really, don't be working like I told you. Gotta graduate to the hot yoga. You're going to be

different because I can't. Can you get five minutes to yoga? Is gonna meditation music? But you are better try the guy you are meditating. You don't know it though. Yeah, oh now that's it. I'm addicted to it. Yeah, you don't be thinking too much. You kind of exum in the nature you meditate. You called me here, you did called here before I got you hype wheel nature boy. Yeah, we have to yeah, like trails together. You know that ship. Really, that's how I came up with like a lot of ship.

I'll come up with on that trail and help me for real meditation. Yeah, that's meditation. I ain't know that. Yeah, that make your mind. Your mind is working at its highest capacity because you meditate, treating you, being able to focus on the nature and not everything else around you. A lot of it is just about getting away for the phone. Sometimes are definitely real. Yeah Instagram. Ain't even been on Instagram, I really, I probably and they ain't.

They ain't take it. It's just I need I need rest from that ship that should give me anxiety and all the types of get all of it. I think we don't know how much inside it like having your phone, m yeah, to tune in too, tapped in two, tapped in, like mother having your phone. Iman. I ain't never been the type of nigga you just get in touch with. Yeah, nigga dmu bro in the first couple of worlds looked like, Man, I need the openness, the opening, and I just took

my ship now. Yeah, but you know you don't you don't want to be a ass So I don't you know what I'm saying, because these some of these people really just don't understand that the nigga who you knew I ain't him anymore different. Yeah, I'm on big facts and ship now, cameras and lights and ship. I want to talk about the things that I used to want to talk about you want to know the motherfucker I used to know, did he put up when he put

on the phone and it was some bullshit. It's like, I got time for that ship right now, hung up and get back to It's like people, like people you love, have a misunderstanding of that. They don't understand that. It's like and they take it like you're trying to be funny or you know what I'm saying. But it's just I'm in a different space now and I can't afford to go back, so I can't even entertain the ship

that I was entertaining when I was back there. I would thinking, I would think the other day, like like how people how easy for people to start hating you? Right? A motherucking know you all? They lie right and people around them and they circle know that this person knows you all you all your life, but it's like you know him, but he don't know you. So it's like this motherfuker be like, don't you fallot with the niggabite? And first he gonna be like, yo, hey, yeah, my man.

Then they start saying like, bro, they don't see you like you're where you're gonna start saying when the next people here the Hollywood saying but but but when at the end, yeah, when at the end of the day. Not to cut you off, I'm sorry. It's not that you don't funk with the nigga. Butt to outside apparents is because you're not with this nigga every day, or you don't post pictures with this nigg or you're not

on your story with this nigga or whatever. It seems like you're not as close to the nigga as you really are and at the end of the day, like it's still the same, y'all really close that you just don't have to start hating um resentment, yes, because because it's like you go to thinking like this nigga don't funk with me. But whether you fit it in these people life exactly exactly you are supposed to be like all these top big as artism like friends. I don't

talk to these niggas every year every day. I might not talk to one of them till year, but we pick up right when we left off. It's my Yeah. You see, if you see, if you see somebody that know me, you ate till broad love them till bro. We don't have that, And I got your You got my want to talk, but you're doing your things. I'm not. I'm not feeling like, becuse you over here and I'm over here. I gotta hate you. That's you. Some people don't look at it like that. Some people don't even

know how to grasp that. Like people don't know how people can move grow apart. That you can grow apart from somebody and still love them and still have a back. But you just on some different ship right now, and they're on whatever they're on, you know what I'm saying. Some people just don't know how to deal with that and got to be able to celebrate other people's success. Yeah, it's might even necessarily growing apart. You guys are just

on two different levels right now. I mean that's growing up, okay if you're on a different level on them, but the proper things. So it wasn't like y'all were together.

Everything wasn't. I didn't intentionally grow from you. But I'm just growing, yeah, right, And we don't have much to talk about no more, because sometimes you can lose interest in certain things, like for example, like if you're a type of person that used to club with everybody, all y'all do you don't want to do what some people probably looking at that at some funny ship and you just wrote it. You just don't do it, and you ain't on no fund ship. I just rather be chilling. Yeah,

I'm too busy, broth, y'all grown apart. Yeah, any mother, they're going to the club like that ain't for you. Yeah, but a lot of people measure their friendship to you with how much access you allow. Yes, that's what that's you just you just broken down in a good front. You can on fat today that yeah, yeah, you be sleeping. Yeah, and you know, hey, we appreciate y'all tapping into another Big Facts Friday. Make sure you follow us at big facts pot dot com. Sute exactly, don't cat for Fitch