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talk to me. They roll the week. What's up? Uh So what we're gonna talk about today is, you know, if you're in a relationship and it can be a relationship of we don't know how long, like something that's kind of short, or you you've been in that relationship a long time, and I think you can you can apply this to even some of your friends, to just friends. Like if somebody just completely let theirselfs go, how do you tell them about theirselves? Meaning as in, maybe it's

a woman that used to get her hair done. She don't get a hair done no more, she don't get her nails done no more. Maybe your man don't you know, grow on myself right and getting his haircuts and shaving might not The person might not smell the same way they used to smell. They just don't let themselves go and get comfortable, and they just on some bullshit and you ain't feeling it. How do you talk to them about that? Oh, I think I'm gonna just put them

to the side. And then what I'm saying like just you know, trying to have one of them. You know, when you pull your person to the side, you have one of them deep conversation. Yeah, like you put them to side, set them on the bed, like you know them deep conversations, pull you the side, set you down and let you know. You gotta get right or I make you start. You're gonna find a nigger. I must probably still stay, but I'm gonna just be outside sometime.

You'na be cheating basically, okay, kevi real up top. If you tell somebody and they don't give a fuck and I still love you, now what what? Okay? So if okay, if you if you stop doing that ship, then that's what you expect from the other person. Let me step out at them to like try you know. But yeah, it's only if you want somebody for let yourself go. You're saying you would be okay or you would expect let me clear this up. It depends on why they

let themselves go. If they let themselves go because they're grieving something and they're dealing with like a death or something like that, that's something deep. That's something that I'm just gonna have to wait that out. And just I'm talking about some lazy if you just own some lazy ship, I'm not about to be lazy. Would you get your ship together or if you don't have no motivation to get yourself together either? Like, come, what did this deep

conversation lead to? What you mean, what did the deep conversation lead to? Like you had this deep conversation you pulled him aside, Like what did you say to them? Baby, listen, you've been around this house not doing shit about six months now. I mean, what's the plan? Like, what's the plan if you if the person said, sit there and be like, you know, I'm just trying to I gotta get motivated to go to the gym or blah blah blah, then I'm gonna try to help motivate them. They're like,

I ain't doing ship on me. I'm straight that ship because I think I think the frustrating part is yeah, but relationships changed but it's like, so the person you get with might not be the person that they've become, if that makes sense. Like the person that you get with is the person that you sign up to be with, right, But I think people do need to know that you're gonna learn about people the longer you with them, and there might be some rough patches. I don't have some

rough patches on me. I ain't doing all that ship. I mean, I'm gonna keep my hygiene up, but I might be a little scruffly or some ship I might put on a little extra weight or some ship, you know what I'm saying. I mean that's different not shaving and putting on a little weight. It's different from letting yourself go, not being shipped. But if that's what you expect from me, it is letting myself go. If I'm always fresh, I'm always on point, I'm always this, I'm

always that. That's the standard. But are you going through some depressed stuff or like some life of it prices ain't feeling that ship. You're busy at work and you ain't got time, but you already one way and then you start doing somethinge the way you gotta be at man, something got to be wrong, not necessarily. You could have got comfortable. That's what we're talking about. Yeah, you could have got comfortable. That don't mean something is wrong. Deconnection

come from. Then that's where to sit down. Come from. Baby, you got comfortable and not go It's like you're not you can't gain weight, you just don't care. You comfortable, you're eating whatever, whatever, look at me, it don't matter. That's when you let yourself go, not going through the depression. But depression causes you to let yourself go, right cause. But sometimes it's just negligence, a right thinking. Like if it's depression, I'm gonna write it out. If it's exactly comfort,

that's just the relationship. You know, some people get a happy weight. Think about it relationships, right you ain't you just that was just we're just talking ship. Don't ignore that part said then about taking a bath, said not, you're not babe. Yeah this is camera, so you can't do what you do? We got you be No. But what I was saying is I feel like, man, it depends like all the way back to do what I say. Man, it depends on who it is, Okay, and if you do, you do all this ship to get a person or

get a person's attention. Right, you do this ship, you're fresh this, you fly you on your ship. Then you get the person. And this is one of the reasons why she got She wanted the whole like I'm tricky. She looks in the hell and the club. No, I didn't talk about that. I'm talking more so about the person, really be that person. But they let their self go.

They got comfortable, like you might. You might be attracted to a woman because let me, she'd be fresh or hair be right, she'd be she got locked, then she coming with you. We figured it out every day. Fuck it, they already got this, nigga. That's different really tripping on that because because by that time you're supposed to be homies lovers. Yeah, you want saying when you get to that, I ain't really tripping on that. We're gonna wipe down when the time to wipe down. Ye okay, you ain't

gotta be like this heady day. No, I ain't saying that every day. I was saying, they ain't never doing it. No, that's no. You don't like like you're saying, you just don't lost show fly. But I can still see that flop under net least shot you doing. For sure, you can wipe that down still like you saying, I don't see it, like you just don't let yourself to doust yourself to the point where it's like they don't give a funk because they think they got the other person.

So you're not just talking about just the fly shing. You're talking about maybe the overweight ship, maybe the grind, maybe the hustle. You're talking about the whole. When you start saying, but see your parents and parents and yourself, you let your hustle go. That's the physical characteristics and character characteristics are two different things. They are, but you can let that go. You can let your hustle go. We know some people used to be on the ship

character and si. People used to be on this ship coming out of their character every day. May you you you see the every day neggat that like sure, I never thought he'd do that exactly. That's different. That's letting yourself go. Though you've been too still. Now you did, Rob, you can let you got a whole nigga like it didn't even been still the whole time. Then my nigga, he still, I know he is still she stip on me. I see him following walking my hand and nigga dick right,

what you do in that situation, let yourself go. You let your reputation though in that situation. What do you do in this situation? If you dating somebody that's doing it, it's hard to come back from that. That's what we said. So okay, that's just that's just like that's just like if I had a nigg and and and I saw him get beat up the depending on the circumstances of the fight, I wouldn't be able to, like anything get

beat up though there ain't no boxer. Yeah, I see you get pumped, yeah, yeah, yeah, I see you get like anything, get beat up. Yeah. You're just like you're doing all the Wolfan and then you get your ass bent up and then you like come home and like try to like talk to me like like I want to beat yours like these niggas just beat your ass.

Beat up and bitching up is a different anything. Beat up Shi Nick Flog getting out right now with the right kne he get his as you know anything, the best best fighter in the world and the beat up Mike Tyson for sure. But you get your ad bitched, like gonna treat you like a hole. You cain't come back from that. But on what the end with I guess if me relationship ship, we're gonna we gotta weird. Yeah,

he's gonna sit down. We got weird, this ship back, let's get this this trainer and we gotta do we gonna figure this. Yeah, for sure, I ain't. I see. I'm not even saying no, no leaving ship. I'm not even saying no cheating ship. I'm saying that. But they

want to sit around smoking niggleweed and cheat up here. Yeah, But I said, if somebody lose themselves and they're not washing their ass, okay, they're just sitting at the house playing video games, not doing shit, like don't want to let the business go, just sitting there, just being a lump on the log like they don't have no motivation or nothing. And I still care for that person. I'm probably gonna But that's how somebody probably got my attention.

I'm just being real winding, like I think a man let themselves go too far, like somebody already got their attention. On the other side of it, if you ain't getting your hair done, if you ain't getting your nails done. You're sitting that home watching and got down Real Housewives or whatever the fund you watch it. When you cook the shrimp fried rice, it don't taste good. When you cook the pancakes, it don't taste good. This ship don't

taste good. That you're saying that, you know you would be okay with somebody's cheating on you if I'm not doing nothing. If you're not doing that, I'm already assuming you're cheating at that point. Ship. If I'm not doing it and I'm at the house just being a lazy I ain't doing ship. They asked and all that, because they already committed to each other and they already together. They might have kids or some ship. Who knows. I

don't know. I'm assuming I'm getting cheated on. If I'm at the house gaining like fifty pounds, I ain't doing shit. I ain't having sex. So when so what is that gonna do? Make you spiral even further out of control? Or you're gonna try to get a grip and get your ship together. I don't know. That ain't gonna be me. I'm an athlete, but I'm saying, ok, I don't ship. I'm assuming I'm getting cheated on at that point. I'm

honestly so, I do. I do think the part of if somebody is losing themselves or letting themselves go, what you should do is talk to the person relationship. Hear it. They're gonna take it as criticism, that's true. But if y'all in a relationship, I feel like y'all in a relationship, If y'all in a relationship, when you if y'all in a relationship and you love this person, when they first started slipping, you're gonna see it and you're gonna start

saying something every day they slip fixed. That's just how I feel. Yeah, I'm sorry if I see if I'm in a relationship, if she'll tell you, if I see us, y'all for ship. I'm gonna talk so much to her every day and she knows, she donna know she'll for ship. It ain't no way they don't gonna be let's see down and talk. I'm gonna say it. It's rule, it's nice, it's calm, it's loud, it's however, the fun I gotta say it. I'm gonna see it every day, and that's

the key to a union and our relationship lasting. But what I'm saying is there's some other, right, and some other people out there they don't fell off. I'm just they don't go do this. Other even talk about if it ain't work because it ain't worth it. That's true too, But about saying if it's not worth it, then why

even do it at all? Millions of people that do this ship every day all that, But I'm just saying, like, logically, like if it's not worth it to you to try to because help your significant person get back, right, then why even like at the end of the day and when y'all saying about going on on a China funk at that, I'm still gonna tell her because I care about her and I ain't gonna be the nigga trying

to tell her something. She needs to do this for me, that you need to do this for yourself because regards of what you can look liked them whoever m mermaid Nick is gonna are you gonna do anyway? I'm telling you this for you like you off your ship, right, I don't even how you look. I'm gonna love you because I already love you. You get what I'm saying, but you're tripping, you tripping. I feel it. I feel it,

I do feel it. I'm just saying that there's some people out there, and I think that's selfish that wouldn't let their partner know about that ship, and that create whole different problems as a whole different episode if they're not telling them. Yeah, that's what I'm saying, or waiting for the excuse to do some bullshit. I'm typing a questions about my ship, like like what this ship look like? What you think I need to do that? What? You know what I'm saying, Let's figure this ship out, man.

Some people are not capable of letting theirselves all the way go. Though I think everybody has moments where they know I might be slipping a little bit, but some people aren't even capable. Like I'm not gonna say humbly, I don't think I would ever just let myself completely go. I don't think nobody in this room with you know what I'm saying, just not not willingly enabled, That's what I'm saying. So I think that that that part, like

Jay was saying, it's a characteristic part. But there are people and I've asked, like there are people who have let themselves go and you ask them, is it because it is? Are you everything straight? No? I don't good. I just maybe some people get exhausted trying to keep up. But some people sometimes really be going through stuff and just don't let other people now too, Like that's really what we're going on, Like just go front line going

through and won't even let themselves. Yeah for real, like when people going through, you could be going through some ship and lying to yourself like you that because people just don't let themselves zero to like I mean a hunted to like zero and you all messed up. You go from being flied to like not washing your asks and all that other ship and just dirty. Nine times out of ten, something's going on mentally, Like if you saying you're fine and you're just comfortable with just being

not shipped and that's different makes sense the world. I don't know how you tell them, but when I just not telling them, Yeah, you gotta just tell them. But like that, you can't beat around the budget because it's going to defeat the purpose and they're not gonna rectify the real issue. Yeah, because you're trying to sugarcoat it

and they're going to think of something else. I think that works for the personalities in this room, but there are some people that are really sensitive and you do have to kind of like break down how you lay

it to them because that's you said Drake. Them would break that down what you mean by Drake like you know, says it but kind of doesn't say it, but kind of makes you feel like not so bad, like how we just talked about, like how he lets you down easy like and not doesn't really like bet you ain't ship with you beautiful, don't like but at the end of the day that you depend on the person you didn't with because if I try to do it like that, it ain't gonna be received, right face ship, Yeah, That's

what I'm saying. Yeah, like that, so this ship must be okay, Yeah, the personalities is just different, That's what I'm saying. Like you know, when you you know, you can't tell everybody the same thing the same way. You see what I'm saying, even in your family, Like, Okay, I tell I can just tell this person that ship straight up. This person, I gotta package it up a little different than deliver it because they might cry and fall on the ground and some bullshit. You know what

I mean. So I think that's the same thing. You gotta know the situation you win. But don't type people. I just put myself in the situation where we don't even need that. Ain't telling ship in the end of the day, I already undid it. But I did it with the mother fucking I know that they take ship certain kind of way, and they got they are already stuck in their own mind, because I'll be stuck in my own ship. So I know how I go. No matter how how how much you try to think you

can getting to me. If I feel how it is, that's what it is. If you if you ain't saying thing to make it make sense to me, like we're seeing the mother all day and talk about this one subject. If you don't never make sense, like you can't make me understand it. If you can't make me understand it, if you don't get it, you don't get it. You don't get it. I don't get it. Bro. You can't make me say that that hat is goddamn. I mean, that shirt is cream. I'm looking at that ship white, bro, right,

what do you say that's white? Right? Right right, so so so one of them trying to explain now because he comes from overseas and they used to cream inside you got a little deep No, that's white. Yeah. Now, so what if a person is past maybe past that point in their life, like you're telling them you seem like you let yourself go. You have that conversation. But

they rebuttal is, this is really who I am. You either gonna try to find a way to love it trash it because if you don't, eventually you're gonna hate it. And it's unfair because that's not the person you met. So they say, that's not really who I am. I was just trying to keep up with keep up with the keep up, but that's not really who I am. Like if you would have known me fifteen years ago

or ten years ago. That's everybody evolved though, so you might just don't evolved into some Luis ship and then and I can't deal with it, or I can deal with it, or I don't know, you need to deal with it or you don't. So you telling them they let theirself go. But to them, they they're happy. Now I wasn't happy with makeup, but you're like you say, you need makeup or ship. You know what I'm saying, like if you, if you, if you tell me in

that way and I believe it, I believe it. Yeah, Like you come tell me like before you even start looking like you feel like you know what this ship I tell like like I have to tell something, get your half. And she hate going to health fixed, hate all that ship, Like I don't care. I'm straight, I don't want to do ship. You get what I'm saying, So I already know. So she's gonna tell me like, man,

I'm going natural, ain't get my help. You've been saying this ship for thirty years that you hate going to the beauty shopping doing all that you're fucking hipping. You know what I'm saying, So I would have to understand that you get what I'm saying. Like that aspect of it. Now you you ain't. You ain't showing me that you just fell off. You showing me that you just who I am. Yeah, Yeah, that's different, right, And I think I think that's respectable because you're being honest about this ship.

This is who I really am. Yeah, because I definitely can you can't be who I want you to be. God damn, you ain't gonna be who you want me to be, right, yeah, yeah, all right. So the solution is keep it real, tell the person about this. Solf ban't gonna ride. If the person come back and tell me that. Man, hey, this is me. Man, I'm chilling. I'm you don't see me putting my hat. I ain't can do nothing to myself. I'm chilling. Whoo whoo, I'm kennon.

I'm good. Yeah, you got respect. That's attractive in itself. It's confidence. What no listen if your wife hold on, buddy, if your wife, being who she is, decided to three sixty tomorrow and go ahead, huh goo, right, okay, she's doing one eighty and she decided to like stop being who she is, stopped going to work, she don't work and being that go get If she stopped like motivating you to do what you do and all that ship, that's different. That's falling off what you mean, she's just

sitting there. Understand what he's saying about when when we say like just it might not be letting yourself go if you change, right, well, that's different saying if if she do all that, say she changed all that, but she's sayin't got now what I like? How you treat me? Yeah, you can't stop doing everything, stopped making sure that you you on time with never told me that, Like I said, I was saying, like hair, yeahs jay Z no more you got the jay z hell like I'm natural. I

gotta respect that. I can't feel like you're falling off because you don't want to never get your different. But but if you got the like, I just want to know you're tripping. That's part of yourself though, that's part of letting yourself part of it. But that's what we initially was talking about. Yeah, but he had said something pertaining.

You see a person, yeah, and they say this is what I am for real, Like I like, I don't like to put on this or when you said that part that would make me say what I said that made sense though, because I mean most women are like that, Like most women have that one thing that they don't like doing, you know what I mean, Like, yes, that's what men like, but they have it like I don't like putting on makeup, but I know if I put on makeup, I look good. Or I don't like going

to get my hair done. But I'm gonna do it because my dude like that. But deep down you really don't want to do that ship everything. Really don't care. That's about deep downs. Really don't care. That's that's that's a lot of times women make you don't need this ship. Yeah, exactly. You know what I'm saying, Like, if you like you

need some enhancements, you need some enhancements. If you don't, don't keep it real with them, thank gonna ride shout, gonna cheat only cheating because it's completely let yourself going. You stop taking a bad I'm waking that. I'm not gonna cheat because all you're gonna do with being the house cussing them out and making him feel worse about himself. Anyways, the motivating that ain't gonna we're gonna feel worth you ain't ship. That's why here the niggas and the next

thing you know, Shy's breaking that I'm leaving leaving. See, I was just saying, what are you going? What I'm saying, what you mean if you do what I'm saying, you all this, they tell me to stop bating doing all this. See I'm making my side hurt. Oh goodness. Not a good episode of Big Facts Fridays. Check us out online, triple w that Big Facts Pod dot Calm. Follow us at Big Fast Pot All social media salution, The Truth,

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