Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches. I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but through the lens of very grounded, realistic, sustainable self-improvement. I recently found many of the notes and lessons I did within that program. There were around 12 lessons, so today I'm sharing three...
Sep 11, 2023•48 min•Ep. 62
Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come to realise the value of their honesty. Let's be real, sharing openly about this is important. As a writer, I've come to understand the power of seeking feedback. Although I'll admit, at first, it felt li...
Sep 04, 2023•37 min•Ep. 61
Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity. In a world where surveillance is the norm, we can't ignore the hurdles. Think of this episode as your compass, guiding you towards fortifying your self-reputation through self-awareness and introspection. Get ready to trust ...
Aug 21, 2023•52 min•Ep. 60
I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it. Join me as I share personal experiences and lessons, emphasising the importance of well-defined, grounded standards in relationships and in life. I discuss the thin line between healthy expectations and ...
Jul 31, 2023•48 min•Ep. 58
In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts from within, decluttering not just physical spaces but also minds and beliefs. I wholeheartedly recommend listening to this remarkable conversation, as it offers profound insights that will leave you feelin...
Jul 24, 2023•27 min•Ep. 57
Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm. But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In fact, it's important to be honest with ourselves and give ourselves the grace to take things one step at a time. I want you to know that you're not alone in your struggles. We all have our battles, and it's...
Jul 17, 2023•40 min•Ep. 56
This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already famous or in the public eye can struggle with truly being seen. It's as if there's a disconnect between external recognition and internal discomfort. Drawing from my experiences with clients who grapple with visibility, I see the profound impact of self-sabotage and self-censorship on our lives. In this episode, I explore the reasons behind hiding and ...
Jul 10, 2023•39 min•Ep. 55
I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know it's going to be a useful resource for many of you. Navigating the road to sobriety might be challenging, but it's also a ticket to greater self-understanding, more meaningful connections, and a significant drop in shame. In this lively episode, I dive into my personal evolution story like never before, and I generously share valuable tools for personal growt...
Jun 19, 2023•1 hr 3 min
Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential. This is where assertive communication comes in. I discuss different communication styles in this episode, including passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive. Identifying your communication style is crucial to navigating self-censorship, cultural conflicts, and personal relationships effectively. So, the next time you find yourself in a cultural conflict or difficult c...
Jun 05, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 53
Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hidden costs. In today's episode (which is one of my favourites!), I share my experiences and how my attachment style shaped my relationships. Hear a poignant story of how conflict avoidance inhibited intimacy in one of my relationships, for seven years. A story which highlights the power of taking emotional risks and having open conversations. I also...
May 29, 2023•35 min•Ep. 52
Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permission to choose, to let go of past versions of yourself and the ideologies that are not working. I know the struggle of holding onto versions of ourselves that no longer work, but I want to share in this episode the importance of making a decision and reintroducing ourselves to ourselves. I also share where I've been, from celebrating my friend's weddin...
May 15, 2023•18 min•Ep. 51
Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life? I dive deep into this topic with empathy and understanding, exploring the emotional dysregulation that may drive people to take part in these rituals and discussing the idea that cancel culture is a form of collective sabotage. Later in the episode, Veronica joins us to share her wisdom and shed light on the importance of forgiveness and meaningful conversations. She speaks ca...
May 08, 2023•55 min•Ep. 50
Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helping people discover who they truly are. And in this episode, I explore why faking it can be damaging because it takes away from the journey of discovering our true selves. In this episode, I share my insights from my own life on the topic of sex and relationships, as well as lessons I have learned from my work as a coach. I hope that by sharing my experiences, you ...
Apr 24, 2023•36 min•Ep. 49
I’ve never shared anything like this publicly… Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my current journey through the stages of grief; from denial to acceptance. I’ll be offering my insights through real-time sharing - which is new to me in many ways. Join me as I explore the lessons learned from past relationships, the role of timing, and individual growth in building strong partnerships. If you're looking for guidance on how to move through grievin...
Apr 17, 2023•34 min•Ep. 48
Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a transformative process for changing oneself and being honest with others. I talk about how reintroduction is an invitation to meet the person you are becoming, and it's important to reintroduce yourself to yourself and not worry about other people's opinions. I also give tips in this episode on reintroducing yourself to others and encourage you to ma...
Apr 10, 2023•40 min•Ep. 47
Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and doing personal work to understand my fractured relationship with masculinity. I talk about the difference between being controlled and being led in a healthy way and the importance of polarity in relationships. This episode is a must-listen if you want to embrace your desires and honour yourself, even if it means going against what society expects of...
Apr 03, 2023•32 min•Ep. 46
In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community: Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views? Today I'm sharing that live with you so you can hear my views on this question and how different people answer it. Are you being effective with how you communicate or not? Are you willing to die on the hill for every opinion you give? Or are you staying silent in the public eye and showcasing your PR opinion? These are just some of the...
Mar 27, 2023•55 min•Ep. 45
This episode is a MUST LISTEN. It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills for your position. And maybe you're right, but is this really imposter syndrome? Today I'm exploring imposter syndrome in a new light, so when you're listening to this episode, make sure you stay open to what I'm saying! I also share my story of dealing with imposter syndrome and how my lack of experience was right; I wasn't ready, I was overestimating my capab...
Mar 20, 2023•45 min•Ep. 44
Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (strained voice in tow) and a look into my journey of fighting to get my attention span back! I also share some thoughts on the benefits of choosing slow living, getting curious about what success means to me, and landing on a BOOK TITLE. Dive on in. Book mentioned: Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention - Johann Hari If you found this valuable - be sure to...
Mar 13, 2023•22 min•Ep. 43
No option but to get honest...let's talk! Books mentioned: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson Practices mentioned: Pussy Gazing Tantric / Yoni massage If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me dire...
Jan 23, 2023•57 min
Oh man...something tells me more than a few of us need this one. Let's talk about it. To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this month (January 2023) , head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 OH…also, my 12am brain thought this was episode 41 - but it is indeed EPISODE 40😉 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not wi...
Jan 09, 2023•34 min
WHEW! If there was ever a more timely episode...THIS IS IT! To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this month (January 2023) , head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 OH…also, my 12am brain thought this was episode 41 - but it is indeed EPISODE 40😉 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from...
Jan 03, 2023•47 min
Our natural instinct as human beings is to avoid things that will likely cause discomfort or pain - navigating difficult conversations is no different. The issue with avoidance though, is that it tends to make things worse - and it amplifies the feelings of anxiety and stress you might have around the conversation. Let's talk about it! To join the private group I'll be mentoring in January, head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 If you found this valuable ...
Dec 19, 2022•52 min
Look what the cat dragged in....ME! With a whole lot of updates and musings for you. Strap in. To join the private group I'll be mentoring in January, head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on In...
Dec 12, 2022•48 min
This audio is from an IG LIVE I had with the brilliant author and creative director - Kyle Creek, who is widely known for his writing under the alias 'The Captain'. *Please excuse the audio quality for this one, I hope the content of our exchange will make up for it, I'm certain it will* WE COVERED: a call for independent thinking, creating personas that become prisons, “NOT A FUCKING ‘CONTENT CREATOR’”, the rewards of victimhood, personal courage, rejecting the division trap, practical ways to ...
Sep 26, 2022•1 hr 35 min
Are you ready to ruffle your own feathers? Do you have an unrealistic view of yourself and others? Are you self-centred, pretentious, or boastful? Do you get aggressive or defensive in the face of criticism? Do you deny that you have areas of weakness that could be worked on? Let me guess...none of these are you, HA! Well, whether you see yourself in these or not. This episode is going to be GOLD in shining a light on unsavoury behaviours that might indicate an inflated sense of self in you, or ...
Aug 15, 2022•1 hr 12 min
This conversation was a wild f*cking ride. So much so, that nearly a week later I am STILL processing all that took place! We covered it all, and I mean ALL: courage in the face of censorship, courage in the face of your own BS, life beyond cancel culture, the sneaky workings of self-sabotage, refusing to dehumanise other people...& SO MUCH MORE. I mean...words alone cannot convey how important this conversation is. See for yourself! If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subs...
Aug 08, 2022•2 hr 14 min
Let's get honest! What happens when you can no longer relate to the people around you, to your surroundings, and to the old versions of yourself? This one's another instant favourite, you'll hear why. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue...
Aug 01, 2022•1 hr 11 min
FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, I’ll be hosting a very special & intimate LIVE recording of my podcast Beyond the Self. On Saturday 18th of June you’ll be able to find me at the International Women’s Podcast festival (Kings Place, London, Kings Cross - 6:45pm) where I’ll be joined on stage by author, educator, historian, creator of Smarter in Seconds- Blair Imani ( @blairimani ). We’ll be having a free flowing conversation exploring the importance of Choosing integrity & humility over outrage o...
Jun 08, 2022•5 min
In this final episode of the season, we take the opportunity to call our own BS out and shine a light on where we're not being entirely honest with ourselves, and delve into what we can do to get ourselves whole. Let's get into it! You won't want to miss this one. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also ...
May 16, 2022•48 min
