2: Why Am I So Scared to Be Honest?

Why is honesty so hard sometimes? In this episode Luke breaks down the four responses to danger and highlights how trauma and attachment issues can lead to freezing and fawning behaviors which in turn further hinders openness and honesty. 

Takeaways

• Physiological responses to danger can impact communication and openness.

• The four trauma responses are fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.

• These trauma responses and coping mechanisms can stem from childhood experiences. 

• Building emotional awareness is crucial for authenticity. 

Chapters

• 00:43 Introduction: The Challenge of Honesty and Authenticity

• 02:15 The Four Trauma Responses

• 05:22 Freezing and Fawning Response Explained

• 09:05 Overcoming Freezing and Fawning 

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