My betrayed sisters, if you were given the opportunity to learn the truth about your spouse’s sexual betrayal, would you take it? My fellow betrayers, if there was a safe and judgement free environment where you could get all your secrets out and alleviate your burden of shame, would you go for it? Would you both be willing to do all it takes to reveal and know the truth? Join us today as we give an overview of a very effective process that can give a marriage broken by sexual betrayal a really ...
Apr 29, 2024•33 min
Is your marriage thriving after sexual betrayal? Maybe not. Maybe you are just surviving. You might just be at the beginning of the journey to healing and still don’t even know if you want to stay married. Maybe you and your spouse have been working hard on recovering from this devastation, but you aren’t really connecting in a fulfilling way yet. Or, maybe you have reached a point as a couple where you feel like you have a brand-new marriage, and it’s better than the one you had before betrayal...
Apr 22, 2024•40 min
Wives, has your husband stopped his acting out behavior and is even showing some behaviors that you appreciate, but you still feel like he isn’t a changed man? Do you still feel the distance between you? Like he doesn’t really see you? Husbands, are you doing all the things your wife has requested and feel like you are moving forward in recovery, but she isn’t responding the way you hope or expect? Today we are going to talk about an aspect of sexual betrayal recovery we’ve experienced and are n...
Apr 15, 2024•36 min
Have you been on the healing journey after sexual betrayal and you and your spouse are ready to level up? Do you want to experience more true intimacy? Today we will be talking about 3 simple steps to take that are not easy because it will involve some risk. But, if you are looking for intimacy that goes far beyond anything that our world has to offer, it’s so worth it! So, come spend a little time with us to hear how you can grow closer to your spouse, even if you have already made great progre...
Apr 08, 2024•32 min
Hopefully you’ve heard both sides of our sexual intimacy story, or lack thereof, in episodes 45 and 46. If not, we encourage you to listen to those to gain a better understanding of how we got to the place where our broken marriage got new life after God intervened and recovery began. Now, we share a wonderfully intimate sexual life together, but it wasn’t easy getting here. On today’s show we will run down the progression of our sex life from Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny confess...
Apr 01, 2024•36 min
Men, do you have a secret relationship with pornography and/or others outside of your marriage? Are you consumed by your thought life and hiding things from your wife that you don’t want her to know? Is sex with your wife becoming challenging, difficult, or just too much effort? Do you feel misunderstood? Are you afraid that if she knew everything about you, she would leave you? Last week, Emily shared her perspective on our sexual relationship through the years up until Discovery Day and Disclo...
Mar 25, 2024•35 min
Ladies, have you spent years trying to connect with your husband in a meaningful and fulfilling way only to find that you just couldn’t get there no matter what you did? Has it ever occurred to you that you may be trying to experience intimacy with a sex-addict? Seems oxymoronic, right? Intimacy with a sex- addict. We think so as well. But how many wives are living this nightmare without knowing why? Over the next 3 weeks we will be sharing our perspectives on the pitfalls of trying to achieve i...
Mar 18, 2024•27 min
Ladies, now that you know your husband has been unfaithful and broken covenant with you; maybe through pornography use, maybe it even escalated to being sexually active outside of your marriage, I want to ask you, what is your biggest fear? If you are like me, you are afraid that he will do it again. This is a very real and natural thing to be concerned about. Trust me, if it happened once, it can happen again. Now, if your spouse is in recovery and making good, steady forward progress, it may b...
Mar 11, 2024•51 min
What happens to a marriage, shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, that doesn’t undertake a specific recovery process? What happens to the individuals in that marriage? We believe, it’s likely that this marriage will be devoid of real connection and true intimacy. Sure, it is possible to stay married without recovery. Couples can sweep it under the rug denying it’s impact. Or, one spouse may be unwilling to do the hard work of recovery and leave the other feeling not seen and not secure in the mar...
Mar 04, 2024•37 min
Have you ever experienced a life-changing revelation that compelled you to share it with others and integrate it into your life? This is similar to the impact of embracing recovery and is at the very heart of what we felt when we surrendered to Jesus. Today, we will explore the 12th step of recovery, and how we can actively share our message while living out these steps in our daily lives. So, grab a beverage and something to take notes with and join us as we discuss 7 ways we can share our mess...
Feb 26, 2024•33 min
Do you find it difficult to connect with God and know his will for your life? If you said yes, you are not alone. Just like the recovery journey, it takes a lot of persistent and consistent effort to cultivate a close relationship with the Lord. It doesn’t come naturally to us mere humans, but there is a roadmap for discovering how to make connecting with God a priority. It’s found in the Bible. Today we are going to unpack Step 11 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program, which is all abou...
Feb 19, 2024•35 min
Let us be the first to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day! Okay, how did that make you feel? Did you smile? Did it make you cringe? Did it bring up a feeling of excitement, or anger or even dread? We’ve found that Valentine’s Day is a tricky holiday. Well, it’s not a public holiday, but it is a recognized day on the calendar for celebrating love between sweethearts. We’re going to be talking today about the different ways people either love or hate this day that comes around every year with shocki...
Feb 12, 2024•43 min
Do you have a daily practice of self-reflection? Do you ever stop to take stock in how you act, think, and feel when relating to others? Most of us have heard the phrase - wash, rinse, repeat. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest greatest shampoo. Today as we talk about the 10th Step in SSA Recovery we will peel back the layers of what a daily personal inventory can look like and why we should even do it? From the Green Book of Recovery: “In the 10th step we embrace the discipline of regul...
Feb 05, 2024•29 min
Last week we asked the question: Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you hurt them but understood exactly how you hurt them? This week we want to ask: Have you felt any fear or intimidation when making the choice to go back and right that wrong? We have a special guest today who is going to share with us his experience with Step 9 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program. So go ahead and pop in your ear bud and join us! It is time to take action toward those we have...
Jan 29, 2024•45 min
Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you had hurt them, but understood exactly how you hurt them? Today as we cover the 8th step of recovery of Sex Addicts Anonymous, it is time to do the work of making a list of those we've harmed through our destructive sexual behaviors and become willing to make amends. Working this step means finding the willingness to bring resolution to these relationships, regardless of whether or not those involved behaved rightly toward us. This ...
Jan 22, 2024•27 min
Have you come to a place in life where you have been humbled by your own actions and are ready to move forward with hope and integrity? It is time to approach God humbly and ask him do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. From the Green Book of Recovery: "We may wonder why it is necessary to ask humbly. Many of us have confused humility with humiliation. We were more familiar with pleading for, or demanding what we wanted, than with asking. In fact, it takes humility to ask for help. It means...
Jan 15, 2024•29 min
Have you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others? What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes? From the Green Book of Recovery: Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and beliefs that make our lives unma...
Jan 08, 2024•33 min
Have you noticed that New Year’s resolutions don’t last much past January for most people? Statistically, 91% of Americans fail at New Year’s resolutions. That’s not very encouraging. We were going to talk about the reasons why resolutions are so hard to keep in today’s episode, but then Holy Spirit intervened. So, we threw out our outline and just had a candid conversation about our first New Year after sexual betrayal shattered our marriage. Today, on New Year's Day, we want you to know that r...
Jan 01, 2024•28 min
Before you got married, you had in your head an idea of what you wanted your marriage to look like. You had all kinds of hopes and dreams and they were all good, positive things and you made plans according to this picture in your mind. But things didn’t go exactly as planned. This is not the first time this story has played out. God made plans for how he wanted his relationship with mankind to look. Men, God intended for you to have a work to do, a woman to love and a will to obey. Women, God c...
Dec 25, 2023•36 min
Have you gotten to the point in your life where you are ready to tell someone else every terrible thing that you’ve done in your life? If this thought doesn't excite you or possibly even terrifies you, then you’re in good company. Baring our souls to another person is not something we come by naturally. However, the longer we keep secrets locked behind the door of our minds, the longer we will stay trapped in our addictions and true freedom will continue to elude us. From the Green Book of Recov...
Dec 18, 2023•31 min
Have you turned your will and your life over to the care of God? Are you ready to gain an understanding of how you violated your personal moral boundaries and allowed addiction to set into your life? From the Green Book of Recovery: In taking the 4th step, we begin to know ourselves for who we really are. Building on the foundation of the first 3 steps, we take stock of the feelings and patterns that have shaped our lives. We come to realize that our addiction is more than just unmanageable sexu...
Dec 11, 2023•36 min
Is the holiday season hard for you after sexual betrayal? Or any date that reminds you of the devastation that sexual betrayal brings into a marriage? It sure was for us in the beginning. What is a healthy way to deal with these triggers when they occur? Today we are going to have a conversation about how these dubious dates affected our marriage and how we worked through them so that they are no longer as painful as they once were. So, pop in your earbud, grab your favorite Christmas beverage a...
Dec 04, 2023•32 min
Have you admitted your powerlessness over your porn addiction? Have you come to believe that a power greater than yourself can restore you to sanity? These two questions encapsulate steps 1 and 2 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program. In today’s episode we will unpack Step 3. which focuses on surrendering our plans and path. Are you ready to turn EVERY part of your life over to God? At this point in our program, we are simply willing to move forward. We decide to make a commitmen...
Nov 27, 2023•27 min
What does Thanksgiving Day mean to you? Here in the United States, it is recognized as a national holiday on the 3rd Thursday of November each year. Today we want to look beyond what’s considered to be the traditional activities of this special day, such as gathering of family, turkey dinner with all the fixings, football, post dinner food comas, all the pies and of course, leftovers. And while all those are very special traditions; we want to take time today to reflect on what it means to truly...
Nov 20, 2023•32 min
Do you see yourself in this vicious cycle of chaos? When we utilize technology to view pornography and use it for our own sexual satisfaction, then walk away from our devices, it can give us the illusion that we are in control. But how quickly do we shift from promising ourselves that we’re not going to do it again to contemplating what we've seen then anticipating our next opportunity to view only to inevitably return to using pornography to meet our own needs? Last week we introduced the Step ...
Nov 13, 2023•22 min
Does pornography use have a hold on you or someone you love? Today we are talking about Step 1 of the 12-Step Sex Addicts Anonymous recovery program. This is Johnny’s chosen recovery program so we will be sharing what this step entails, how he approached this step and why it is so imperative to start here. We will also be hearing from Emily on how she views the process and progress of Johnny’s 12-Step recovery journey. From the Green Book of Recovery: In our addiction we held onto the belief tha...
Nov 06, 2023•35 min
What if you had been confronted with the fact that your life had become unmanageable and through this revelation you discovered that you were powerless over a major struggle in your life? And what if you came to believe that this major struggle in your life was an addiction? You may be asking, "How did I get here? What do I do about it and how do I get out of it?" If there was a measurable way to reclaim the manageability in your life, would you want to take the steps necessary to repair your br...
Oct 30, 2023•31 min
Up until now, we’ve been talking a lot about taking steps to stabilize, grieve, heal, and renew our marriages after sexual betrayal. We've covered heavy topics like confession, boundaries, apologies, and forgiveness. and in our last episode even dipped our toes into the waters of reigniting sexual connection and what true intimacy looks like. But today, we're switching gears. We're going to take a step back from the weightier topics for something more lighthearted and enjoyable. If you’ve decide...
Oct 23, 2023•34 min
Have you wrestled with this question? Can there still be a meaningful sexual relationship after experiencing sexual betrayal? The short answer is YES, but today, we're not diving into the world of makeup or guilt sex. Instead, we'll be delving into the realm of true intimacy. Intimacy is often misunderstood as just being synonymous with love and sex. While sex is a part of it, there's a deeper layer involved. It's about gradually building a connection with your spouse, one that's rooted in hones...
Oct 16, 2023•49 min
Hello Friend, Have you experienced grief? We normally associate grief with the death and loss of someone we love, and we can also grieve the loss of something we are emotionally attached to like a job or home. But there is also a loss that occurs through betrayal. With this type of loss come the very same emotions that are common to losing someone or something dear to us. After sexual betrayal, the loss of the relationship you thought you had can trigger the grieving process. Finding out about y...
Oct 09, 2023•45 min
