What were you taught in sex-ed, and what do you wish you had learned? Often there’s a big difference between the two! Sara and guests Jules Hannaford, teacher and host of the Hong Kong Confidential podcast and comedian Elena Gabrielle of Story Party , talk about the sex education we received, which was shrouded in fear, abstinence and shame. We share our early sexual experiences, and reflect on what we wished we’d known about STI’s, consent and responsibility at that time. We also talk about how...
Mar 26, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Is your perception of BDSM and kink informed by the infamous Fifty Shades of Gray ? Even though the Fifty Shades franchise does a lot to bring BDSM to the mainstream, it also get a lot of things wrong. Particularly one of BDSM’s key principles, negotiating consent. Sara and co-host Kat sit down with Jannus of KinkBites — a veteran kinkster, community organizer, and Hong Kong dungeon manager — to lament the Fifty Shades effect, and the myths and misconceptions around BDSM that it perpetuates. We ...
Mar 16, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Do people with disabilities have a right to be sexual? And what can they teach able-bodied people about intimacy and sexuality? On this episode, Sara and co-host Kat talk to Carmen Yau , a registered social worker with a PhD from Hong Kong Polytechnic University and founder of erotica collection, “Sugar’s XXX Stories”. Having been born with spinal muscular atrophy, Carmen is an iconic spokesperson for the sexual equality of people with disabilities and women. She is very vocal about breaking the...
Feb 27, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 26
How do we keep that initial passion for sex and intimacy alive for the long-haul? Highly sought after sexual/marital psychotherapist and founder of The Academy of Lasting Love , Nikki Green shares some illuminating lessons with Sara and co-host Kat from over 20 years of experience primarily working with women in Hong Kong. She believes that great sex can definitely survive over the long-haul however it’s a myth that it will just happen spontaneously and naturally. Sex is usually full of passion ...
Feb 13, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 25
Ever felt self-conscious about your body during sex? Studies show that shame and anxiety about one's body lead to the avoidance of physical intimacy and reduced sexual satisfaction. On this episode, Sara and co-host Kat follow Curvasian.com founder and body positive advocate Bertha Chan through her journey that led her to thrive as a plus-size woman in Asia. Having never been able to find a dress to fit into growing up—not to mention having to endure judgement from those who were dear to her—a f...
Jan 30, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Season 2Ep. 24
We all love orgasms because they feel good, but are we actually using them to their full potential? Life and business coach Ying Han Cheng or “Hani” from YOLO Abundance believes that we can harness powerful orgasmic energy to create abundance and success in the rest of our lives – including our careers, business and personal lives. On this episode, Hani shares the philosophy behind the YUMMY orgasm, a unique practice brought about by orgasmic meditation, which combines mindfulness and orgasm. Th...
Nov 10, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 23
How has technology changed the world of dating and finding love? In some ways, the Internet has made it easier to meet and connect with people outside our immediate social circle. Yet it’s also exploded our options, and the choices can be paralysing. So finding love could be more challenging. Sara and co-host Prescott (http://prescottgaylord.com), discuss the impact that online dating has had on our psyches, and whether we still believe in romance. Or if ghosting and unsolicited dick pics have g...
Sep 29, 2019•1 hr 14 min•Season 2Ep. 22
We all know that wellness is important, but how about sexual wellness? Sara and co-host Ben are recording from London this episode, and they talk to Billie Quinlan and Anna Hushlak, the creators of Ferly (formerly called Leika at time of recording), an app that guides women through various areas of sexual wellness, aiming to transform their relationship to sex. Billie and Anna introduce the concept of sexual wellness, which is not merely the freedom from sexual dysfunction, but also the ability ...
Sep 05, 2019•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Want more “Secrets of the Bedroom”? Cumming right up! **This sequel episode covers all the material that we’d crowdsourced for the live show but didn’t end up being featured due to time - and public decency - constraints. We recommend that you listen to episode 19 before this episode to get the full Secrets experience.** Jye and Sara are joined by Kat Leung, our live show panelist as we reflect on the highlights of the live show, as well as the entire Better in Bed season. We share more bedroom ...
Feb 14, 2019•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 20
What's the secret to.... having a threesome? Having anal sex pleasurably? Using a strap-on? Or keeping sex fresh in a long-term relationship? Everything is on the table at our live podcast, which was recorded on International Women's Day, and featured a panel of our favourite podcast guests and sex experts answering burning questions crowdsourced from our audience, i.e. you! We laughed (and maybe died a little inside) over the awkward sex stories that were shared and some of the things you wishe...
Dec 10, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Is porn harmful or beneficial? With 30million people watching it every second and the average age of exposure being 11 years, porn in today's world has become a pervasive force we can't ignore. On this episode, Sara and Jye are joined by sex-positive friends Taura Edgar and Ross Gawelek to discuss all things porn. We discuss our personal experiences of porn, from how we discovered it to how its evolved, and the resulting impact on our watching habits. By sharing the different types of porn we're...
Nov 19, 2018•57 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Think swinging is just for leathery, old couples swishing around keys in a bowl? Think again. Or maybe swing again... and from that chandelier in the sex club! On this episode, Sara and Jye explore another form of open relationship with married couple, Ben and Fern Bale, who open up about how swinging keeps their relationship fresh and exciting. They also explain basic swinger terminology ("soft swap, anyone?") and protocol, debunk common swinger myths and as well as give newbies tips on out how...
Aug 28, 2018•57 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Why do we always want what we can't have? And want to do the things we shouldn't do? Sara and Jye invite Jayde Lovell, the YouTube host of popular science show SciQ to shed some light from the fascinating world of neuroscience. Jayde helps us understand how the brain is susceptible to the heightened risk and excitement of any forbidden sexual act - thanks dopamine and adrenaline! We discuss how to overcome the shame around our sexual desires and erotic selves, given that what's "forbidden" const...
Jul 16, 2018•54 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Fintech, edtech, healthtech... and now, what is sextech? Sextech refers to any technology or tech-driven venture that enhances the human sexuality experience. Its the US$30 billion industry that you've never heard of... and no, its not just sex robots and VR porn. On this episode, Sara and Jye's worlds collide as we talk all things sextech with Gavin Heaton of Disruptor's Handbook . Together with Bryony Cole, Gavin is also part of the team that hosts the Future of Sex global hackathon and accele...
Jun 17, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 15
How well acquainted are you with ... tops, bottoms, otters, wolves, bears, cubs or twinks? Sara and Jye take a lighthearted look at some of the most common terminology used in the gay world with their guest Tom Attenborough this episode. Tom shares his views on the classic "nature vs nurture" debate, and questions if it really matters. We also discuss the biggest stereotypes about gay people, whether the "gaydar" actually exists, and how the gay scene in Hong Kong compares with the rest of the w...
May 27, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Love it or hate it, we all have to play the dating game to stand a chance of finding love or even getting laid. Sara and Jye discuss the triumphs and travails of dating in today's world with the very entertaining Elena Gabrielle . As a comedienne from touring dating show "Story Party" and host of sex-positive, underground variety show Dirrty Cabaret in Berlin, Elena has heard it all. From stories of bad boys with ankle bracelets, to second cousins and anal speculums, Elena shares the good, bad, ...
Feb 28, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 13
There's lots to feel happy - or even "hysterical" - about on this episode, because its all about sex toys! Sara and Jye record their very first mobile podcast at Hong Kong's female-friendly, intimate lifestyle store Sally Coco , surrounded by all the wonderful things that vibrate, pulsate and oscillate. We follow the personal journey of founder Vera Lui, who talks about how a vibrator changed her life and led her to start Sally Coco. Discover the unlikely origins and evolution of sex toys, as we...
Feb 12, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Need yet another reason this year to hit the gym? Well, tune in and drop it like a squat! On this episode, fitpreneur Mack Pijewski of MackFitt joins Jye and Sara in the studio to deconstruct the link between sex and fitness, and the discussion spans neurochemicals, nutrition, mobility and more. Find out if "coregasms" actually exist, why pelvic floor training is beneficial for both sexes, and whether sex has an impact on performance before a big sporting event. --- Want to get even Better in Be...
Jan 29, 2018•59 min•Season 1Ep. 11
What is female ejaculation, aka squirting? And why is it considered so hot yet so controversial? Sara and Jye are joined in the studio by sex educator Christina Antonyan, founder of Confident Lovers for literally, the juiciest episode on record yet. So don't forget your umbrella! We dive headfirst into the mystery and fantasy surrounding squirting, as well as debate the science behind what female ejaculate consists of. Christina and Sara share their top tips for people who want to explore squirt...
Jan 15, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Parents cringe. Teachers blush. Shame ensues. But why is talking about sex so taboo in Asian culture? Bubbly Hong Kong media personality Alyson Hau (侯嘉明) joins Sara and Jye to discuss what lies behind this cultural taboo, and how Asian attitudes differ from Western views on sex. Discover why Hong Kong has so little sex, and the intriguing Cantonese vocabulary for genitals – birds, flutes, abalone anyone? --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide . Follow us on Instagram Show n...
Dec 18, 2017•58 min•Season 1Ep. 9
There's yet another gender gap to think about, and this one takes place not in the boardroom, but in the bedroom. Men have twice the number of orgasms that women do, and in heterosexual couples, women are four times more likely than men to report that sex in the past year was unpleasant. Sara and Jye talk to Janet Lieberman, founder of feminist sex toy company Dame Products , about why women are being shortchanged on sexual pleasure and what can be done to address this gap. (Hint: it's the clit!...
Dec 06, 2017•46 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Tease? Please? But just don't leave.... before listening to this sizzler of an episode! Sara and Jye are captivated by guest Ea Holm's fascinating journey from hippie flower child to international stripper to aerial arts instructor; and what it has taught her about the power of tease. We talk about how tease is a playful form of seduction that can take many forms, from a lingering caress to cheeky banter. But overall, the true masters of tease are able to arouse and stimulate the body's biggest ...
Nov 20, 2017•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Open relationships may not be for everyone, but neither is monogamy. What types of open relationships exist? And is an open relationship right for you? Sara and Jye crack open this challenging topic with the help of professional relationship and dating coach Valentina Tudose, founder of Happy Ever After . After lifting the veil on the big, "scary" world of non-monogamy, Valentina shares her personal story and what she's learned firsthand about making an open relationship work. --- Want to get ev...
Nov 08, 2017•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Want to get fluent in the language of cunnilingus? Then ditch licking those ABCs and get your earphones on. Jye leads the show this week with the help of fellow cunning linguist Roland, and together they discuss the "innies" and "outies" of delivering the kind of oral pleasure that women want and love. They even manage to teach Sara an interesting thing about the female sexual anatomy... From warming up women who may initially feel shy about oral, to what to do when tongues get tired, Jye and Ro...
Oct 16, 2017•47 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Does the start of kids = the end of your sex life? Sara and Jye invite Zosha Piotrowski, fitness instructor and mum of two kids aged nine and seven, on the show to find out the truth! Zosh shares her survival strategies and sexy date night inspiration to re-ignite the sexual spark after kids - behind very firmly locked doors. A must-listen for people with kids, people planning kids, and even people with a phobia of kids, like Sara! --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide . F...
Oct 09, 2017•48 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Is getting to know the penis as straightforward as it seems? Sara and Jye are joined this week by Christina Antonyan, founder of Confident Lovers to discuss - at length - the male sex organ. Sara and Christina share their top tips for penis pleasure, and talk about what men like most and least about having their penises stimulated. We tackle whether size really matters, circumcised vs uncircumcised penises, and why a blowjob or a hand job really shouldn't be "a job". ---- Want to get even Better...
Oct 03, 2017•56 min•Season 1Ep. 3
We’re revving up our “O” engines by talking about masturbation and its benefits. This week, we invite ex-Passionately Yours event manager, Kat Leung into our Narnian closet of sexual disclosure (i.e. recording studio) to exchange early masturbation memories and fantasies. Sara talks about why women tend to start masturbating later than men, and shares some tips for getting started. So make a “masturbation date” with us, and tune in. But be warned, you may never look at a hairbrush the same way a...
Sep 25, 2017•43 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Let's talk about sex. On this episode, sex coach Sara Tang of Sarasense and co-host Jye Smith talk about how they learned about sex, awkward first time sexual experiences and why on earth they have decided to bring their boisterous audio baby into the world - Better in Bed. --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram . Detailed show notes for this episode here . Produced by Jye Smith (@ jyesmith / [email protected] )...
Feb 09, 2017•40 min•Season 1Ep. 1
