Why do we feel jealous? Jealousy is often a complex, catch-all word that encompasses the emotions of fear, anxiety, disappointment, or anger. Some people romanticize this feeling in relationships. Others use jealousy as a justification for controlling and destructive behaviour. On this episode, Sara sits down with Emily, Dedeker, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory Podcast ( https://www.multiamory.com/ ), to unpack the topic of jealousy. We start off by defining what jealousy is, and sharing c...
May 26, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 58
Yoni massage, which has its origins in Tantra, has recently been getting a lot of attention in the sexual wellness space. What is the meaning of Yoni anyway? It’s Sanskrit term that means “sacred portal” and it represents all the female genital parts - the vulva, vagina, womb and feminine essence. On this episode, Sara is joined by her sex-positive friend Will and Viv Kan (https://www.mindfulintimacy.co), a mindful intimacy coach. They discuss the benefits of yoni massage, what the experience is...
Jan 26, 2023•57 min•Season 2Ep. 57
Many of you are busy people with multiple responsibilities and who lead stressful lives. So how do you navigate a good work life, sex life balance? On this episode, Sara talks with Lisa Fei and celebrity matchmaker Carmelia Ray about how to juggle a busy work life and maintain a fulfilling sex life. Respectively, Lisa and Carmelia are the Founder and Head Coach of the relationship wellness app, Clarity ( http://clarityapp.io ) which offers tools for navigating every stage of your relationship jo...
Jan 08, 2023•53 min•Season 2Ep. 56
On this bonus episode, I’m sharing an excerpt of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. In th...
Dec 22, 2022•15 min•Season 2Ep. 55
Curious about attending a sex party, also known as a play party? Think about entering a party with a giant bed, and everyone’s exploring their kinks and fetishes. It’s a smorgasbord of pleasure… On this episode, Sara speaks with a sex-positive couple, James and Kat, who enjoy organizing sex parties. They share their experiences on the ins and outs of planning such a party. James and Kat share the motivations of people in joining a sex party and the kinds of people one might meet at such an event...
Dec 16, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 54
How can you enjoy porn ethically - with more of the pleasure and less of the guilt? Porn is commonly used to accompany masturbation. On this episode, Sara chats with erotic filmmaker Paulita Pappel ( www.paulitapappel.com ) on what constitutes “ethical porn” and how to consume it in a healthy and responsible way. As someone who has been both in front and behind the camera, Paulita shares her journey into erotic filmmaking and how she defines her role as a feminist in the industry. She shares her...
Nov 24, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 53
It’s been called the “Holy Grail” of the woman’s pleasure anatomy. But does the G-spot even exist? It's been a highly debated question. And one that Sara discusses with co-host Kat Leung and guest Vera Lui on this episode. Vera is the founder of Sally Coco (http://sallystoy.com), the first female-friendly sex toy shop in Hong Kong, and a certified sex educator who is happy to share the latest research on the G-spot (or more accurately, G-area), and debunk its biggest myths. Finding and stimulati...
Nov 04, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 52
How do I get my libido back? From antidepressants, to trying to conceive and having kids, Sara invites clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kristin Zeising (http://drzeising.com) on this Sex FAQs episode to tackle the different real-life situations that could cause one’s libido to do a disappearing act. We answer the following questions: “Sex is often over in seconds with my husband. But we ignored these issues because we were great friends. Now I just feel nothing towards him sexually. W...
Oct 09, 2022•35 min•Season 2Ep. 51
Have you heard of the “male G-spot”? It’s another name for the prostate and it’s a major erogenous zone. But it’s an area that has been largely unexplored by most people. On this episode, Sara and Prescott Gaylord (http://prescottgaylord.com), an improv actor and intimacy co-ordinator, go on a journey to explore everything in prostate play. First, we discuss what is a prostate, where you can find it, and the benefits of stimulating it for pleasure. Prescott shares his personal experiences of pro...
Sep 18, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 50
How can you be more mindful with masturbation? Mindfulness has taken off as a wellness practice in recent years, yet most people don’t generally think of using it in the context of masturbation. Mindful masturbation is all about reconnecting with yourself and focusing on what makes you feel good. The practice encourages everyone to slow down, become conscious of pleasure and explore the body more holistically, instead of just focusing on the genitals. On this episode, Sara and co-host Prescott i...
May 31, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 49
What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don’t go according to our expectations. On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After ( https://happyeverafter.asia/ ) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include: How do I feel sexy in m y body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer? How can I stop b...
May 15, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 48
Is three always a crowd? Apparently not when it comes to group sex encounters - since studies say that having a threesome is one of the most popular sexual fantasies. On this episode, Sara and co-host Jannus sit down with model and sexy lifestyle events host Vonny Lang ( http://instagram.com/vonnylang ), to chat about our personal experiences around group sex. We explore the different benefits and dynamics of group sex, and why its such a common fantasy. We also discuss the common fears that peo...
Apr 28, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 47
Curious to try an open relationship, but don’t know quite where or how to start? On this episode, Sara chats with relationship coach Valentina Tudose ( http://happyeverafter.asia ) to answer your most common questions about open relationships, such as: What basic ground rules should I set if I’m just starting out with open relationships How can I handle my intense attraction to a new lover since I started to open my relationship with my spouse? I want to have an open relationship, but how do I m...
Mar 22, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 46
Ever been in a sexual situation where your - or your partner's - penis wasn't doing exactly what you wanted it to do? Penis issues are incredibly common, yet they are often accompanied by stress, fear, anxiety, and shame. The penis-owner can feel like a failure, and they can make sex a task instead of a pleasure. That’s why Sara and Jeff Abraham, CEO of sexual health company Promescent ( http://promescent.com ) sit down and answer your most pressing penis questions on this Sex FAQs episode. Topi...
Mar 05, 2022•53 min•Season 2Ep. 45
How does self-love help us have a better sex life? On this uplifting episode, Sara sits down with co-host and relationship coach Valentina Tudose of Happy Ever After to discuss the principles of self-love and how they apply to the bedroom. We start off with a definition of how self-love is about accepting and integrating all parts of ourselves, even the parts that we might ordinarily hide, reject or be ashamed of. When we love ourselves enough, we stop performing in the bedroom, we have more ple...
Feb 19, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 44
How can we rekindle the sexual desire for a long-term partner? Or is desire always destined to fade? On this pre-Valentine’s Day episode, Sara chats with Dr. Kristin Zeising , a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, and co-host Mo from the Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast , and we tackle all things sexual desire. Kristin shares the latest scientific thinking on the sexual response cycle, and we discuss the different styles of sexual desire - spontaneous vs responsive. We learn that sexual de...
Feb 05, 2022•58 min•Season 2Ep. 43
How are you incorporating erotic touch into your sex life? On this sensual episode, Sara chats with sex educator and founder of Confident Lovers , Christina Antonyan and co-host Kat Leung about the art of erotic touch. Touch is fundamentally important to all of us, as a love language and form of communication. It is also one of the key skills to the art of lovemaking. We discuss the different types of touch that lovers typically use to communicate, from sensual, affectionate to sexual. We also s...
Jan 20, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 42
Can sex toys be good for our sexual - and overall - health? Many of us regard sex toys as tools of pleasure, but this informative episode will help you to rethink the possibilities of sex toys, and how you’re using them. Sara chats with Dr. Soum Rakshit, co-founder of Mysteryvibe , a brand that aims to solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way. Mysteryvibe creates FDA-approved medical devices for sexual health, which also do double-duty as sex toys and pleasure products. We explore ...
Dec 18, 2021•36 min•Season 2Ep. 41
How can you be more sexually assertive and dominant in the bedroom? Sara co-hosts this episode with kink coach Jannus , and we chat with guest Mistress Eva Oh , a professional dominatrix about her journey into BDSM. We discuss the psychology behind being assertive and dominant in a BDSM context and the dynamics that come with it. We learn where sexual power comes from, and what we can do to step into that power or give it away. Whether or not you’re into BDSM, sexual assertiveness is something t...
Dec 03, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 40
Why is sex always so hot when you’re on holiday? In this hilarious episode, Sara chats with sex-positive friends Kat and Will, about some fun and exciting holiday sex encounters. Holiday sex brings out a sense of adventure in all of us, it allows us to break from routine and explore something new in a completely different setting. We tend to be less inhibited and experience more anticipation. While the sex may be hotter, we also talk about some of the potential drawbacks of holiday sex and what ...
Nov 17, 2021•53 min•Season 2Ep. 39
How do you perceive sex work and sex workers? And why does the stigma around sex work exist? Sara and co-host Prescott interview Vanessa Ho of Project X, a non-profit group dedicated to advocating for sex workers' rights in Singapore. Vanessa helps to clarify some of the biggest misconceptions around sex work, and shares with us how the nature of sex work has changed over the years. We discuss the draconian laws in many Asian countries surrounding sex work and the risks and dangers many sex work...
Oct 11, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 38
After a year of lockdowns, what’s being called the “summer of love” is upon us - wherein people are keen to release their pent up sexual energy. So on this Sex FAQs episode, Sara chats with relationship coach and clinical hypnotherapist, Valentina Tudose about all things casual…casual sex that is! Together we tackle common questions crowdsourced from listeners on the following topics: how to transition from a long term relationship to casual sex changing our mindsets about finding the right pers...
Jul 23, 2021•56 min•Season 2Ep. 37
Calling all penis owners and penis lovers! Want to know how to make sex last longer, and avoid finishing too soon? On this episode, Sara chats with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent , who shares some great pointers on one of the most common penis challenges - early or premature ejaculation (PE). We start off by discussing the various ways to manage the anxiety, shame and fear around PE and its impact on penis performance. Some of the strategies include talking openly with our partners, and focusin...
Jun 10, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 36
[This episode was recorded live as part of the Hong Kong Podcast Festival 2021 ] Are you using your pelvic floor to experience better sex and orgasms? On this live episode, Sara is joined by Trista Chan, a Pelvic Health Physiotherapist from Joint Dynamics to discuss the link between the pelvic floor and the role it plays in our sex lives. Trista explains what exactly the pelvic floor is and how to locate these muscles in the body. We also discuss the numerous sexual health benefits of strengthen...
May 13, 2021•24 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Why do we love having sexual fantasies, and what are their benefits? On this episode, Sara chats with guests Mo and Andy, who are stand-up comedians that host the local Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast so be prepared for some big laughs. We discuss how sexual fantasies stimulate arousal, are an escape from reality (like the pandemic), alleviate boredom and can even help us heal from past traumas. We each share a few of our own personal stories around our favourite sexual fantasies and whether the reality...
Apr 29, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 34
What does consent look like, and how do you make it sexy? In this episode, Sara invites sex-positive friends Jessica and Prescott Gaylord to talk about their personal experiences on consent. Prescott is an improv actor and instructor who facilitates consent workshops. And on the show, he gives us practical techniques and exercises on how to establish better consent and boundaries. We talk about our definitions of consent and how our personal feelings towards this concept have evolved over time. ...
Apr 15, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 33
Is long-distance a deal-breaker for your sex and love life, or can it actually make things hotter and better? In this episode, Sara chats with sex-positive friends Helen and James, who have both been in long-term long-distance relationships and are happy to share their experiences. We talk about some of the difficulties couples may experience with intimacy and the misunderstandings that occur over long-distance relationships. But more importantly, we talk about how to keep it sexy and fun! We ex...
Apr 01, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Sexual desire, or libidos, naturally ebb and flow. Sometimes over a course of a single day. So one of the most common challenges that couples face in relationships is a loss of desire or mismatched libidos. Often in these situations, sex begins to feel like a chore or a performance, which leads to further avoidance. On this Sex FAQs episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After tackle common questions crowdsourced from listeners around the topics of desire, and how...
May 24, 2020•53 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Dirty talk usually gets a bad rep. After all, sex isn’t dirty – so why should talking about it be? On this hilarious episode, Sara chats with her sex-positive friends Kat and James, who are never short on things to say, in the bedroom or otherwise. We talk about the many benefits of dirty talk – from building fantasy, increasing arousal, establishing consent, getting validation and connecting more deeply with one’s partner. We explore the many different styles – from flirty, naughty, seductive t...
May 08, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 30
How has the global pandemic affected your sex and love life? And how can you ‘corona-proof’ your relationship against the stress, uncertainty and conflict? A crisis like the one we find ourselves in accelerates the dynamics of any relationship, and you may feel more intense emotions for each other or reach breaking point more quickly. We’re all concerned about staying physically healthy during these times; but it just as important to keep your relationships safe, strong and healthy too. Sara cha...
Apr 09, 2020•42 min•Season 2Ep. 29
