A Man Keeps His Word… Today’s topic might seem redundant, or too simple, or even silly to some people at first glance, because it is a part of our common language so everyone assumes they know what it means. I’m talking about your word. People use it all the time in phrases like; I give you my word, you have my word on it, my word is my bond, his word is good, I’ll keep my word, etc., etc…you have all heard these phrases before. So, we all know that to keep your word is the same thing as keeping...
May 31, 2016•8 min
A MAN’S PERSONAL HONOR… Today we are discussing a word that is often used; sometimes correctly sometimes not. I think it’s a word that is not that well understood in general. The word is ‘honor’. So what is honor, and how does it apply to our mission of being a better man? What does it mean to live with honor…to be an honorable man? These are the questions I will answer in this episode. Like many english words, honor is used in a few different ways. One way is when it is used to bestow respect o...
May 27, 2016•11 min
Confession Of A Former Bully… Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to...
May 25, 2016•13 min
THE AUTHENTIC MAN Today we are going to talk about authenticity; what it is exactly, and why it is important for a man or anyone, to be authentic. The dictionary tells us that to be authentic is to be real or genuine; not copied or false. Rather to be true and accurate. Basic common sense informs us that to be real, genuine, true and accurate are all good things right? Then why are there so many people in the world who are not authentic? Like with many things I think the answer to that question ...
May 23, 2016•10 min
CELEBRATING 50 EPISODES!! That’s right! This is episode 51. That means there have been 50 episodes before this…which is one half of 100. I don’t know about you, but I find that to be…significant. So, I decided to spend this episode kind of re-capping what we have done together so far you and I. If this is your first time tuning in to the program you might not get it, this is not a regular episode…but there are many other episodes you could listen to, to get a flavor of the show…50 others in fact...
May 20, 2016•8 min
Make A Memory…On Purpose! Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to con...
May 19, 2016•15 min
Meet Larry Winget The Pitt Bull of personal development That is a name he has earned, when you listen to the episode you will understand why. He has spoken to nearly 400 of the fortune 500 companies, and is in the international speaker hall of fame. He has been the host of his own show on A&E. He is a regular contributor on several national news programs talking about business, parenting, personal finance and personal development. Larry is a prolific author of several books, some of my favor...
May 16, 2016•28 min
YOUR UNFAIR ADVANTAGE As we talk about being better men on this program everyday there is a lot of emphasis on fixing things that are wrong, on making note of things we need improvement in…and we do that because it is a critical component to becoming a better man. Today I want to talk about the other side of the coin…Today I would like you all to consider those things about you that are exemplary, special, and unique. These are our particular human gifts, and I believe everybody has some. Just a...
May 13, 2016•9 min
THE NICKEL Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to consider your own ...
May 11, 2016•10 min
MOTHERS DAY!! We naturally spend a lot of time on this show talking about men, about fathers…about male role models and all that manly stuff. But today…it’s mothers day, and a good time I think to reflect for a moment about moms. You know there are a few things that we all have in common. Certain things that we can say without a doubt that we all share regardless of where you come from or what culture you were raised in or what your socio-economic level may be. These are things that transcend re...
May 09, 2016•9 min
The Tears Of A Man! It’s Free For All Friday and I have some things on my mind… The other night my wife and I watched a documentary called the Mask You Live In. It was basically about the state of masculinity in America today. How boys are being raised badly and then they turn into men who are all screwed up. The mask in the title refers to the difference between what guys feel on the inside and what they project to the world…their mask. Like most documentaries it was a little lopsided, it had a...
May 06, 2016•15 min
HOBO NORM Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to consider your own s...
May 04, 2016•15 min
Handling criticism…like a man! Today we will be talking about how to deal with criticism…and deal with it, like a man. Not only that, but also how to effectively deliver criticism. First lets establish that no one really enjoys being criticized, I get it…it’s no fun. But it happens to everyone, everyone on earth from the Pope to the pan-handlers will be criticized at some point, I think it’s fair to say that criticism is something to be expected during our human experience. It is also equally li...
May 02, 2016•12 min
Does heritage matter…that’s the topic of todays episode. Now-a-days there are plenty of people that never even think about heritage, others might think the very concept of heritage is divisive and to them it has become a bad word, other people are huge advocates of heritage. A lot of people start getting nervous when you talk about heritage…because people often equate it with race or ethnicity, and it can have something to do with that…but it doesn’t have to. So, does heritage matter…and what do...
Apr 29, 2016•8 min
Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hungry, Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to ...
Apr 27, 2016•11 min
Who Are Your Friends? Today what I’m talking about is very important, and it affects every one of us without exception, and that is…our friends. Those people in the world who we spend time with of our own free will who are not our blood family. You have probably heard the phrase; “You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends”? Well, it’s really true. We have the ability to choose who our friends are, and that fact is of particular importance when you consider this other saying y...
Apr 25, 2016•10 min
BEING WRONG…LIKE A MAN! The topic of today’s show is “being wrong…like a man.” I realize most guys don’t like to talk about being wrong. I definitely don’t like it myself…but, believe it or not, it’s an important skill. To be clear, when I say “wrong” I am not talking about a moral judgement I am using wrong as a synonym for “incorrect”. Wrong has way less syllables so thats what I’m using. It’s an important skill because it involves our relationships, and relationships as I’ve said before, are ...
Apr 22, 2016•9 min
Presented for you to ponder; The Tough Guy. Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I real...
Apr 20, 2016•11 min
EXCUSES DO NOT EXIST! I have mentioned in other episodes how much I dislike excuses, in fact it is even mentioned in the intro of this show that excuses do not exist. It’s really true, I hate excuses with a deep, abiding passion…so that’s what I’m going to talk about today; excuses. Because if we are intent on being a better man today than we were yesterday…it is imperative that we get excuses under control. So if excuses are such a common part of being human, why do I hate them so much? Because...
Apr 18, 2016•12 min
Perseverance & The Theory of Manhood! With special guest: Eric Williams In my opinion, Eric Williams story is one of perseverance and victory in spite of seemingly insurmountable odds. Among many other things, In spite of being severely dyslexic in a world that doesn’t understand dyslexia, he became an accomplished author. He has met the challenges of raising a severely autistic son. As an American he was able to battle and win over the powers that be in the Country of Norway, to create and ...
Apr 15, 2016•33 min
Submitted for your edification; The Power Of Life And Death. Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As ...
Apr 13, 2016•8 min
Being Sober, Like A Man! With special guest Victor Yocco. Today we have a compelling story, told by the man who lived it. It is a story of addiction, followed by the victory of sobriety. My guest, Victor Yocco has become a better man. Since his sobriety two years ago he has accomplished many things; he has written a book, had a baby, written many articles, spoke at international conferences and much more. But perhaps the greatest thing he has done is simply to maintain his sobriety. Being sober,...
Apr 11, 2016•39 min
Shake Hands…Like A Man. Today on Free For All Friday! Everything we do as a man is important, everything has meaning…everything we do or say conveys something about us to someone else, or to ourself, but it’s all important. Even the little things, like shaking hands. I’m not talking about the bro handshake you use in more casual settings, I’m talking about the traditional style hand shake. I have shaken guys hands and it was literally like shaking the hand of a corpse…I got nothing! Zero grip wh...
Apr 08, 2016•9 min
Submitted for your perusal; A Horrible Surprise. Story Time With Alf is here… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing though is that every story has a lesson. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. FACEBOOK LINK: https://w...
Apr 06, 2016•15 min
Manhood Is A Responsibility! What does it mean to be a man? The shortest, most concise answer is this; a man is an example. What kind of example is obviously up to the man himself, but every man is a living, breathing example to someone. Your children, your friends, your co-workers, people on the street you don’t even know…someone is always watching you and in that moment you are the example of what manhood is. Even when you are alone, you are watching you. When thought of this way it becomes ob...
Apr 04, 2016•13 min
COMPLACENCY… Another listener inspired episode from John in Canada! woo hoo!! 30th episode! Milestone reached! Thanks to all of you who listen…thank you. Yes, this is a listener inspired episode. John from Canada went to the website and filled out the YOUR SHOW IDEAS form and came up with this question: The one thing that I can’t understand is why some people don’t have a need to get better. They are just happy living their same daily routine without the need to do something different. I feel so...
Apr 01, 2016•14 min
It’s Story Time! Every Wednesday I depart from the regular format and tell a story from my strange and interesting life. These aren’t just stories for the sake of telling a story…on the contrary, they are relevant to our mission here at Being A Better Man. Some stories may be sad, others funny, some may even be disturbing, but all the stories have some nugget or morsel of wisdom, a lesson that you might be able to apply to your own life. Or, it might remind you of your own story in which valuabl...
Mar 30, 2016•16 min
Handling Conflict…Like a Man! In this episode we talk specifically about conflict that occurs most often; the conflict between you and people you know best, your friends, family and co-workers. Most personal conflict occurs between people who know each other fairly well, like family, friends, co-workers. The very people we really do not want to have a problem with right? But, by virtue of our proximity to these people…those are the very ones that we wind up getting into it with, and it is our ob...
Mar 28, 2016•11 min
Walk Like A MAN! Don’t worry…this episode is not about making fun of the way people walk. In fact it’s not about the mechanics of walking at all, rather it is about the energy we walk with. It’s about doing everything including walking with mindfulness…being mindful of your purpose, your destination, walking like you have somewhere to go. Acting as though you have purpose and intention will give you purpose. Try it out, next time you walk imagine that you are walking to an important destination....
Mar 25, 2016•8 min
Story Time! NAUGHTY BIRD! Every Wednesday we depart from the regular format and we have Story Time. This is where I tell a story from my strange and interesting life, it could be funny, sad, serious, or even disturbing. Afterwards I talk about the moral of the story…the lesson learned that pertains to being a better man. The message is always consistent here regardless of what episode you listen to; be a better man today, than you were yesterday. It is my hope the story leaves you entertained…bu...
Mar 23, 2016•9 min
