046 – Mothers day

MOTHERS DAY!! We naturally spend a lot of time on this show talking about men, about fathers…about male role models and all that manly stuff.  But today…it’s mothers day, and a good time I think to reflect for a moment about moms. You know there are a few things that we all have in common.  Certain things that we can say without a doubt that we all share regardless of where you come from or what culture you were raised in or what your socio-economic level may be.  These are things that transcend religion, politics, race and creed.  One of these things…is that every single one of us is a son to a mother.  Every one of us were carried inside a woman, during which time she provided us with every drop of sustenance we needed to grow and develop and eventually be born into the world we now inhabit, as the person we have now become.  It is accurate to state that without our mothers, we would not exists. I know many people never got to know their natural mothers.  Some others of you had mothers that were not especially good, or kind, or helpful.  But even those of you who had the most unfortunate of mothers received a profound gift from her…the gift of life itself. I like to believe that unfortunate mothers, bad moms are in the extreme minority though.  Most of our mothers loved us very much.  We were their boys.  Their gift to us did not end with us exiting their womb…on the contrary for many, many of us it was our mothers contribution to our lives that shaped us more than any other force on the earth…even more than our fathers.  Where were our fathers when we needed our diapers changed several times a day?  Where were our fathers when we were hungry, when we fell down and hurt ourself?  Where were our fathers when we came home from school upset with the injustices of the world?  Most of our fathers were probably at work making a living for us, that’s where mine was. I was really fortunate to have an amazing father, but I can tell you…if it wasn’t for my mom I would have not become the man I am today.  It was my mom that taught me how to feel, how to laugh, she taught me how to receive unconditional love and gave me a sense of value as an individual.  As great a man as my dad is…he is the greatest man I know, and even though he was my example of manhood, he was the one I tried to model myself after…still, it was my mother who had the most profound effect on the person I became, she sculpted my personality by recognizing and cultivating my natural gifts and talents, and by loving me without limits or condition.  My mother died in February of 2013.  We all miss her, but every day I am a witness to the legacy she left, her impact on the world, on me, my siblings, on my children and their children…her impact  remains part...