S2 Ep15 - Tips to Break Free from Negative Thinking

This season is completely and utterly dedicated to the subject of self-worth and really coming back into your worthiness and living a worthy life . Living a life of high value , a life of high self-esteem , of high confidence and just going after the things that you want .

Today's episode is called Breaking the Pattern of Negative Thinking , and I really thought this was important because on this journey , you know I can be giving you tools and sharing some stories with you in each episode about how to move forward , but we really have to challenge that idea of you know , from time to time , the negative thinking is going to come up .

Life isn't . It's not like you just start planning that it's all going to be like this and it's all sunshine and roses . It isn't that . There are going to be challenges on the way and it's going to sometimes take you into a place of negative thinking about yourself .

So negative thoughts really are so powerful because , as I've mentioned on a few different episodes before , your thinking in repetition becomes beliefs . So let's say , every single morning I wake up and I'm like I am the sexiest girl on this planet and I say that over and over and over in my mind , in repetition over a period of time .

If I say that to myself 20 times a day , I'm the sexiest girl on this planet over and over , and over and over and over , and I say that for sort of 21 days , which is , you know , the average time it takes to really build a habit . But that's my morning routine . This is actually a good one to use .

Then what starts happening is my behavior is going to start reflecting that . I'm going to start behaving like somebody who knows that she's sexy . I'm going to start acting , I'm going to start talking like somebody who's sexy . I'm just going to start talking with this area of like sexy confidence .

The thing is , when you are in a negative pattern of thought , what you're doing is you're waking up each day being like I'm so unattractive you know , my body's gross , I don't like the way that I look and you're saying that in repetition to yourself over and over and over .

And I'm just using body as an example because I think most people can relate to that . But you know , you might be saying things like oh , I'm never going to get that promotion at work . If you're telling yourself , let's use to use that . If you're saying to yourself , I'm never going to get that promotion at work over and over and over again .

Or you're saying to yourself , I'm a really bad parent , I'm a really bad parent , I'm a terrible parent , you're going to start believing it . Repetition , repetition of thought leads to beliefs . Beliefs lead to behavior . So you're going to start behaving as that person who believes that about themselves . So we really need to nip this in the bud .

We really , really need to start nipping it in the bud . So a really good way that I've learned over the like , on and off over the last few years but I've just kind of had it reconfirm back to me is actually by a spiritual healer by tea called teal swan . Some of you might have heard of her .

She's one of those people like I find her fascinating , but she divides people . So you know , I reckon go on YouTube and have a little look at some of her stuff and see what you think . But one of the things that she says is when you find yourself in that pattern of thinking .

So if you find yourself in that pattern of thinking , being like you know , I'm just a really crap person , I'm a terrible friend , I'm not good enough , I'm never going to be good enough , you know , comparing yourself to somebody else , what you need to do is stop what you're doing and you need to say it out loud .

So let's say , for example , I was saying every day , my body's gross . Okay , so in my head I'm saying , I'm looking in the mirror and I'm going my body's disgusting , my body's disgusting , I'm gross , I'm gross , I'm gross . And I'm just saying that in my head . What you do is you say it out loud .

You say I'm thinking in my head over and over and over again that my body is gross . And once you hear yourself say these negative thoughts out loud , it's almost like it . It kind of shocks you out of what you're letting go on inside your mind .

When it's in your mind , it's like in you know , it's like a goldfish balls just going round and round and round and round and round and round . When you actually stop it in its tracks by verbalizing and saying out loud , but also like almost saying , in a way where you're saying the repetitive thought , like even if you said this whole thing .

The repetitive thoughts that I have every single day Are that my body is gross , when in actual fact , my body is incredible . I can walk out of the house , or I can get out of the house . I can do a push up if I want to . I can , you know , I can multitask . I can , you know , put makeup on . I can , you know , comb my hair .

I can pick clothes and like button up clothes . Like your body's absolutely incredible . And just because we have this like exterior idea of what our bodies should be , it doesn't mean that you get to stand in front of the mirror and tell your body that it's gross . It's not . It's absolutely incredible .

Yes , there might be some changes that you want to make to it , but they're not going to happen by you looking at your body and saying you're gross . It's not going to happen . You're going to start believing that you're gross and that's going to make you feel really low and that's going to lower your vibration . That's going to make you feel like crap .

That's going to make you feel Make you feel unworthy . It's going to make you feel unlovable . It's going to make you feel like you've got to compare yourself . It's going to make you feel like you're not enough . It's pretty exhausting , huh .

So by saying out loud the negative thought and actually really clearly saying in a sentence not saying to myself , not saying out loud I'm gross or my body is gross , saying the repetitive thoughts that I've had for the last 20 minutes have been that my body is gross , can you see the power in that ?

And when you say out loud , you break the pattern , you break it in its tracks and you actually see it for what it is , which is just A series of thoughts spinning around your head and you stop those thoughts .

Now what would be really good at this stage and just using that example of like my body is gross or whatever else , is to actually then change that completely and be like my body can do x y z . You know , this morning already my body has shown me that it can do x y z .

This afternoon I'm going to go and do this and my body is going to allow me to do this . And when you actually start positively reinforcing things or saying , every day my body is getting stronger , every day , like the movement I'm doing makes me feel good .

Every day when I exercise or move my body , I'm getting dopamine and that makes me feel good Every day . I'm just starting to see subtle changes in my strength . Every day , when I choose to eat like really great , healthy , beautiful , fresh vegetables and fruits and healthy things that you know this planet provides , I feel better .

I can feel my skin clearing up , like you know . I can see the positive impact that these tiny little habits that I do every single day now I'm making on my body and it feels great , feels great to know that I'm eating well . It feels great to know that I'm like prioritizing my health .

Can you see the difference , like when you start talking to yourself in a really positive way and just being like I'm being really patient and I know it's coming . I know the body that I want to create is coming and I'm really excited about that .

Can you see , like how , if you woke up in the morning and you said those things to yourself in the mirror instead Number one how good you would feel , but , secondly , how your body is going to respond to those new thoughts ? Because , as you program them in over and over and over again , what you're doing is creating new beliefs . I'm getting healthier .

I love exercising , I love the feeling of exercising and moving my body because it's dopamine and you start to create new beliefs . You start to create new beliefs . I love exercise . I love exercise . I love eating . Well , I love , you know , eating lots of fresh fruit and veggies . I really love being healthy .

I love how my skin starting to look and you start to say those kind of things to yourself . That is , that's amazing . That's the direction you want to go in create new beliefs , new thoughts on repetition . Create new beliefs in your body and then your body can do nothing else but follow , because it knows that you love it .

Follow the excitement , follow the joy , follow the bliss . And when I'm talking about exercise , I know for some people there's so many things around that you know that it can , you know , hold you back . It can be like , oh , but you know I don't want to go to the gym . I'm not talking about going to the gym and talking about moving your body .

Go for a walk if you don't feel comfortable with your body . Go for a walk when it's just a little bit darker . You know if that's going to get you started , if that's going to get you moving , if that's going to get you out of the house , like just , you know , in those little niggly things that come in and kind of prevent you from moving forward .

Just recognize them . It's just resistance . It's just resistance and you've got the power now to move through that because you know it's just that fog . It's just that fog in the way and you can happily just recognize it for what it is . So my tip for today is , when you find yourself in that pattern of negative thinking , say it out loud and state it .

Go the thoughts that I've been having for the last five minutes and not doing me any good . And then this , this , this , I'm comparing myself to this person , this person , this person , and it's not healthy for me and I'm ending it now and instead I'm going to start thinking this , this , this .

But when you verbalize it and say out , you're breaking that pattern and that gives you the opportunity to actually go . What's the opposite of what I'm thinking and that's what I'm going to start thinking now . So breaking the pattern of negative thinking is very easy to do .

When you say it out loud , break that pattern , and that gives you the opportunity and the space to then do a bit of a rethink and actually

go . I want to create new beliefs and to do that I need to start repeating really positive thoughts towards myself , and I'm starting that right now . And it's these changes that you're making every single day , these new thoughts , these new beliefs , that are going to get you moving towards taking that aligned action . Your body is going to start responding .

You're going to start making different decisions , different choices , and that's going to get you moving towards self-esteem . That's going to get you moving towards more confidence . That's going to get you moving towards self-worth , which is what this is all about . So put it into practice today .

Make the commitment today to break that pattern of negative thinking , say it out loud , end it in its tracks and then start thinking about new , repetitive thoughts that are going to get you believing in yourself and moving forward , sending you so much love as always .

Have the most amazing morning , afternoon , evening , wherever you are , as you continue your journey towards self-worth and to becoming your warrior . Thanks for listening today and if this episode helped or inspired you , just remember to share it to friends or family who could also use some inspiration today . We are all about sharing the love .