Send us a text Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the countless voices discussing topics like sex, gender, and marriage, and unsure of who to trust? You're not alone! In this episode, we dive into the wisdom of fourth-century theologian Gregory of Nazianus, who faced similar challenges in his time. Listen in as we share some of Gregory's insights on how to navigate these complex and controversial subjects, and how his approach can help us today. We discuss how Gregory believed that being a theologi...
Jun 20, 2023•14 min•Ep. 264
Send us a text Do you ever feel like lust and pornography are taking over your life, and you can't break free from their grasp? What if I told you that lust isn't the real issue at hand, but rather our inability to truly see the world and the people around us? In this eye-opening episode, I share a powerful story from the memoir "The Glass Castle" that illustrates this concept and how it's not lust that we need to overcome, but our clouded vision. Join me as I discuss how God doesn't want us to ...
Jun 13, 2023•12 min•Ep. 263
Send us a text What does Jesus teach us about sex and gender, and how can we apply that to the complex and controversial topic of transgenderism? With humble hearts and minds, we turn to Scripture and the historic teachings of the church to understand how to respond as Christians. Join us as we examine the original plan for creation in Genesis 1 and 2, and explore Jesus's teachings in Matthew 19 to navigate this important conversation. We also contemplate the hope found in the Incarnation, discu...
Jun 06, 2023•18 min•Ep. 262
Send us a text What if we told you that you have the power to redefine beauty and truly appreciate your spouse's appearance, imperfections and all? Join us in this eye-opening episode as we uncover powerful insights on how to retrain our minds, heavily influenced by media and pornography, to recognize and delight in our partner's beauty, even as they age or change. Together, we'll challenge society's expectations of beauty and aim to cultivate a healthier, more loving perspective of our relation...
May 30, 2023•15 min•Ep. 261
Send us a text Do you need to look at your past? If you want freedom from unwanted sexual behavior? Do you need to go back there? Do you need to think about mom and dad and kids at school and wounds you experienced if you want to be free? We're going to talk about that in today's podcast. Now, when we talk about looking at our pasts, we are not talking about blaming wounds we've experienced on our sin, we are responsible for our behaviors. Nonetheless, at Regeneration, we do spend time helping p...
May 23, 2023•16 min•Ep. 260
Send us a text When you find yourself lacking desire for your spouse, I would invite you to look somewhere else. I want to invite you to look at how you feel about yourself. How good I feel about yourself is usually more of the underlying reason why you lack desire for your spouse, then your spouse's. It really has to do with you. So let me unpack that a little bit. When you look in the mirror, are you free from shame? Or maybe when you stand in front of a group of people? Do you feel free from ...
May 16, 2023•12 min•Ep. 259
Send us a text In this podcast, we are talking about your imagination. We who are seeking sexual integrity know the problem of how our mind can get us into trouble with sexual thoughts, sexual fantasies, and sexual imaginings that lead us down a path. It can start with just a small thought that seems to kind of drift into our brain. Then something inside grabs a hold of it. And we muse on it. And it grows and grows, until we're doing things that we promised ourselves and others that we wouldn't ...
May 09, 2023•14 min•Ep. 258
Send us a text So many people have ceilings on how far they can go in life. Some ceilings come from what people say is or isn’t possible as it pertains to change and transformation. In our culture many believe there is a ceiling with those who wrestle with same sex attraction or men in general, that they will always struggle with lust and have no possibility of change. On the other side there are those that resist all ceilings, you can be absolutely healed of everything with no struggle ever aga...
May 02, 2023•13 min•Ep. 257
Send us a text I want to talk today about a little bit of a dichotomy that a lot of people experience in their journey towards sexual integrity. If you've listened to this podcast for any length of time, or been involved in our coaching, groups, or events, I hope that you've picked up on the reality that we seek to bring the love and grace of God into all things. We believe that real life change happens through the kindness of God. It is the kindness of God that leads to repentance. Where sin in...
Apr 25, 2023•11 min•Ep. 256
Send us a text If you are tuning into this podcast you are either wrestling with or striving for sexual integrity or love someone who is struggling with sexual integrity, or you just care about this topic. I believe as we take a look at a small part in Jesus' life we find a very big revelation. God had a design for human beings. They were designed to reflect the image of the invisible God. That image of God is a self giving, self donating loving God who rules over His creation in a loving way. A...
Apr 18, 2023•14 min•Ep. 255
Send us a text When we are pursuing sexual integrity, we all experience this mental combat between sexual sin and our desire for sexual integrity. It’s not just an experience we have in our thought life alone. We feel it in our bodies when they become aroused by things we see, the thoughts we have, and by the longings we have. One of the ways we try to combat and move away from our sexual orientations is by thinking about good things. And so we take our sexually sinful thoughts, we try to train ...
Apr 11, 2023•12 min•Ep. 254
Send us a text In today's podcast, I have three simple mental shifts for you. These three simple changes you can make will help you in your journey toward sexual integrity. It is my aim that these small mental adjustments will help you see how you should approach your journey for sexual integrity in a fresh light. Mental Shifts 1. From this as an opportunity to sin to this as an opportunity to grow. 2. Every time you hear the word I or me in your thoughts, shift to asking the question, “Is it re...
Apr 04, 2023•10 min•Ep. 253
Send us a text Have you ever wanted to stop something so badly, yet couldn’t figure out how to stop. Or even why? Have you tried to stop lusting? In this weeks podcast, just speaks to the importance of learning to love in recovery from unwanted sexual behavior, rather than just focusing on stopping the behavior. Key takeaways: The goal of recovery should be to learn to love in a self-giving way, rather than just stopping the unwanted behavior. God’s mercy flows to the lowest places, and His grac...
Mar 28, 2023•14 min•Ep. 252
Send us a text Living in a digital age, we are faced with the reality that we have tough competition. That the internet is competing for our attention, our affection, for our questions, and our devotion. Today we will talk about this competition and what it provides; especially in the area of sexual integrity. Whether it's a struggle with pornography, or looking for hookups. So often, we are turning to our devices for things that are really, really good. And our devices offer pretty tough compet...
Mar 21, 2023•16 min•Ep. 251
Send us a text To start I want to let you know this podcast will be a little different. One that I hope will be helpful for you. I am going to talk about the difference between arousal and desire. The reason that’s so important for us to recognize is that when we feel arousal towards something that we know we don’t want, it can produce an amount of shame for us. If you’re pursuing sexual integrity, if you’re trying to walk away from unwanted sexual behaviors, the fact that those behaviors are un...
Mar 14, 2023•14 min•Ep. 250
Send us a text In today’s podcast, I’m going to be answering a question that was emailed to us. Is it okay for a man to masturbate while fantasizing about his wife? We encourage you to send us your questions as I really love to answer some of things that you all are experiencing and facing. So the question I got this week was from a guy who's involved in an accountability group. The guys in the group are making good progress. They're leaving their unwanted sexual behaviors behind including mastu...
Mar 07, 2023•15 min•Ep. 249
Send us a text How free can you be? How free? Can you be? In some version or another, this is a question that we get a lot, especially for people who are just starting their journey towards sexual integrity. They've wrestled with their specific attractions and temptations and are wondering, is this going to be a part of my life forever? Can I actually be free? Can real change happen for me? Can I Really Change!?! In some ways, they're asking three different questions. How much change is possible...
Feb 28, 2023•18 min•Ep. 248
Send us a text In Genesis when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and there was a delight to the eyes, and the tree was to be desired to make one wise she took of its fruit and ate. What did she see? The enemy when he tempts us wants us to see something. But the truth is, what he wants us to see is not reality. She saw something that wasn’t actually there. And the enemy does the same thing to us. He gets us pointed at pornography, at an extramarital relationship, masturbation, fantas...
Feb 21, 2023•17 min•Ep. 248
Send us a text At the core of every sexual integrity problem is relational brokenness. Because God created sex to be relational, it is relational down to its core. And so if you are dealing with a sexual issue, you are dealing with a relational issue. What is a partner or group for accountability? It's a certain kind of connection. As a result, if you have a relational brokenness in your life, you may have similar relational issues. Could they prevent you from achieving the level of sexual integ...
Feb 14, 2023•16 min•Ep. 247
Send us a text If you are wrestling with unwanted sexual behaviors or recurring sexual behaviors, and want to get free, you have to know the why behind the what? What is the why, behind your specific what? So for example, if you struggle with pornography, and you're typically looking for a certain kind or genre, types of people, gender, or specific sexual acts in the pornography? What's the why behind those specifics that you're looking for? Or if you're acting out with other people physically, ...
Feb 07, 2023•16 min•Ep. 246
Send us a text There are just things you don't talk about at church, right? Absolutely not! I think the church is meant to be a place where we talk about the things that are really the most difficult to talk about in life. If we can't do that in our church community, where will we do it? Certainly, one of those topics is sex. Both in its beautiful, glorious holy intention that God designed sex to be between husband and wife in marriage, and also in the fallen expressions of sex that pervade our ...
Jan 31, 2023•16 min•Ep. 245
Send us a text This week we will talk about breaking the allure of temptation. We will unpack it through the pattern that the enemy uses to tempt us. We can look at our sexual experiences and think that it’s just something that’s before us. But it is actually tempting us. It looks so appealing and harmless. Yet it has this magnetic pull that draws us in. So by talking about the patterns the enemy uses to pull us in, it will provide us the tools to get out of his tractor beam. It will expose the ...
Jan 24, 2023•22 min•Ep. 244
Send us a text This week we will be responding to a question from one our listeners. “How does someone deal with doubts about identity in Christ while struggling with sexual addiction?” There is something about sin in general when it’s habitual and repetitive. When we experience in our bodies that conflict that we do what we don’t want to do, and we keep on doing it. It’s hard to believe that we have a new identity in Jesus. Or in my case, there were worse sexual behaviors that I engaged in afte...
Jan 17, 2023•20 min•Ep. 243
Send us a text You know, it's just interesting, isn't it? That so many women wrestle with self esteem issues around their bodies. And so many men wrestle with lust. And it seems like the enemy just has a hay day there. Because put those two together and it just seems like a recipe for couples really to struggle. Pornography impacts both husband and wife and it certainly impacts their sexual intimacy. Here's what happens. He recognizes that when he looks at porn she feels hurt by him. From that h...
Jan 10, 2023•22 min•Ep. 242
Send us a text Is lust a problem for you that you've been trying to overcome? If so, my guess is that at some point in your life, you've made promises to change. You've promised yourself you would change, you've promised God you would change, and you've promised others that you will change. The problem with making promises to change is that making promises to change is actually a part of the problem. Say that five times fast. I want to explain in this podcast why that is and give you three reaso...
Jan 03, 2023•16 min•Ep. 241
Send us a text Today, I invite you into the healing connection between our wrestling with lust, and the face of Jesus; his visible face. As a parent, especially a mom, you intimately knew your child when you were pregnant. You carried the child in your womb. Even dads know their kids while they are in the womb. And then they were born. We saw their face for the first time, and everything changed. Everything deepened. And of course, that only continues as they grow. As we see new aspects of their...
Dec 27, 2022•14 min•Ep. 240
Send us a text Are you ready to be free? Are you ready for life in the area of sexual integrity? Are you ready for your relationships to be healed, and working the way God intended them? Together we will walk through 8 phases in the journey to sexual wholeness. Through this process, you will know where you are and how to take the next steps. Highlights: Phase 0 – Ground zero In this phase, there is an awareness of sexual addiction. You are living in denial and still enjoying your sin. There is a...
Dec 20, 2022•17 min•Ep. 239
Send us a text As the garland and the lights and the holiday specials and the festivities ramp up, where are you? If you’re feeling temptation take over, you’re not alone. There’s a lot more of just about everything during the holidays. Let’s try to recapture what Jesus has given us. Together, we’ll name 5 things that can distract us from Immanuel. And, we’ll unpack 5 ways to recenter our focus back on our Savior’s birth. Highlights: FACING TEMPTATIONS 1. Busyness Increases Sexual sin is offerin...
Dec 13, 2022•15 min•Ep. 238
Send us a text Is your view of God getting in the way of your pursuit of sexual integrity? God isn’t blocking your healing. But your view of Him, your assumption about God could be an obstacle standing between you and your freedom. Let’s try to understand the theology working in the background of your heart, that may be limiting your progress. Let’s blaze a trail to Jesus when you need Him most. Highlights: Functional belief = what you believe in the moment of pressure When you’re tempted to sin...
Dec 06, 2022•16 min•Ep. 237
Send us a text Struggling with unwanted habits can feel isolating. Your journey to sexual integrity isn’t a common or easy topic of conversation which can leave you feeling alone. Satan seizes your isolation as a perfect opportunity to tell you you’re different, dirty. This belief stacks a wall between you and your healing. Let’s tear down the wall that says you’re chronically unique so you can keep moving towards becoming whole. Highlights: There are so many men and women, who struggle with sex...
Nov 29, 2022•14 min•Ep. 236
