Send us a text Pitfalls, betrayal, pride, shame, cycles - While you do the work of becoming whole, these are some of the things that will pull you from your calling. You are made for greatness. And God gave you a vision for what that looks like in Jesus: “We see the original and intended shape of our lives there in Him.” (Romans 8:29 MSG) Keep doing the hard work. You were made for greatness. Don’t you forget it. Highlights: Do we no longer do the hard work of pressing into the subtle, sinister ...
Nov 22, 2022•13 min•Ep. 235
Send us a text Let’s isolate the moment of temptation: Maybe it looks like your fingertips hovering to type in a string of words you know will lead you to that site. Or maybe it looks like driving home a different route so you find yourself rolling slowly past that street. Every bit of you pulses with energy in that moment of temptation. The world is encouraging you to say “Yes” to the urge. Giving in can leave you alone with shame and regret. So, let’s pivot to a different “yes.” This is hard w...
Nov 15, 2022•17 min•Ep. 234
Send us a text A jumble of frayed ends - consider the raw, exposed mess of a jumble of frayed ends. Keep this image in mind as we consider our current cultural belief system. Josh is about to carefully look at each broken strand of thinking and tie them back into one, whole, intentional, truth. God has a good, holy, beautiful design for our sexuality. So, why is sex today a jumble of frayed ends? Let’s find out. Highlights: God could have made the method to produce babies anyway He wanted and He...
Nov 08, 2022•24 min•Ep. 233
Send us a text Let’s go beyond reading words about God’s kindness. If you are wrestling ongoing sexual sin, if you are battling shame, if you are facing past traumas; God is inviting you to experience His kindness. Right now, what if you could hear Jesus saying to you, “I’m right here and I love you.” (be sure to look in the Homework Section for more questions) Highlights: God is near and He loves you. It’s hard to accept God’s love for you in the difficult areas of wrestling with sexual sin. We...
Nov 01, 2022•9 min•Ep. 232
Send us a text We’re going deeper in Part 2. Paying attention to the symbols and story-lines in your sexual fantasies often point towards a treasure within you. Sound twisted? Look to the “Homework” section below for key questions to help you untwist your temptation from your truest desires. Let's dive in. Highlights: Your imagination is given to you by God as a creative force. When your brain stirs up a sexual story line or sexual scenes, even though it’s directing you towards something sinful,...
Oct 25, 2022•17 min•Ep. 231
Send us a text Fantasy looks like the scene you work up in your head from time to time. It seems innocent enough. You may tell yourself the fantasy is just a fleeting thought. But as you add details, you add emotions. Soon enough, your sexual fantasy works itself from your brain to your body amping those thoughts to feelings. In this short series, we want to urge you to take fantasy seriously. This Part One can be your Step One to breaking free from your unwanted sexual habits. (Stay tuned for P...
Oct 18, 2022•11 min•Ep. 230
Send us a text Something in your story made pornography enticing. You didn’t just stumble on it. Have you ever wondered what was happening in your life that made porn seem like a safe place to run? Decades of work in healing from unwanted sexual behaviors lead us to this episode. You are meant to do this work alone and here’s why. Highlights 5 Reasons You Think You CAN Heal on Your Own: Fear asks, “What happens if I get found out? What will I lose? What will people think?” Shame says, “If people...
Oct 11, 2022•15 min•Ep. 229
Send us a text Let’s start with Adam. God went into the garden and asked him a question. Adam pointed to Eve in shame. Are you pointing fingers when it comes to your lust? Are you pointing to the pop up ad? To the woman at the bar? As you are trying to break free from lust, consider what it could look like for you to stop accusing others around you and start acknowledging what’s within you. You are designed out of love and for love, not lust. While you’re working towards sexual wholeness, rememb...
Oct 04, 2022•12 min•Ep. 228
Send us a text Beauty carries a powerful tension. Seeing beauty isn’t enough. C.S. Lewis writes that “We do not want merely to see beauty, though, God knows, even that is bounty enough. We want something else which can hardly be put into words — to be united with the beauty we see, to pass into it, to receive it into ourselves, to bathe in it, to become part of it.” Beauty leads us to wanting more of it. A recent email we received asks, “What place does beauty have in the observance of another h...
Sep 27, 2022•18 min•Ep. 227
Send us a text Before even stepping into the deeper waters of whether a filter shows wisdom or weakness; you can’t ignore the tsunami coming at you. Do I Need a Filter? Listen in as Josh describes the unique age we’re living in as two powerful waves of sexual immorality and digital connectivity crashing on us 24/7. They create floodwaters rushing through your living room, bedroom, locker room, office space, car. Is a filter enough? Let’s find out. Highlights Common Objections to Filters: A filte...
Sep 20, 2022•13 min•Ep. 226
Send us a text If you have a hard time believing God wants to forgive you; again and again - This episode is for you. If you notice you’re trying to raise yourself up, reducing what you’ve done to receive mercy – This episode is for you. Let’s appreciate God’s gift of mercy as a GIFT, freely and generously given, for you right where you are. Highlights: It can feel difficult to separate the anger you feel with yourself about your own condition and how God feels about you. 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Eve...
Sep 13, 2022•15 min•Ep. 225
Send us a text Read this sentence a few times: Human beings are the crown of creation. What a glorious declaration! Now consider the fact that sexual sin contorts that truth. A building block to sexual integrity is the understanding and appreciation of the inherent value within you and the people around you. Recognize God’s ideal representation of Himself is the man you are, is the woman you are because you are sacred by design. Also, today we are launching “ Sacred by Design ” a new addition to...
Sep 06, 2022•11 min•Ep. 224
Send us a text Considering all the tools you’re working with for sexual wholeness- group work, reading, one on one counseling, software filters - how are your eyes? A key component to your becoming whole is how you are seeing other people. Hashtags, movies, social media scrolls and commercials are at war with the important work you’re doing. Open your eyes to acknowledge the battle for your vision. Then open your heart to pray, “Lord, help me see.” Highlights: We strive in our culture to become ...
Aug 30, 2022•12 min•Ep. 223
Send us a text As your sexual fantasy starts playing out in your head, you might shrug it off as “just my imagination.” But sexual fantasy carries more power than you know. It’s the gateway that leads to everything else you’re battling. So, let’s consider taking a different point of view of your sexual fantasy and taking back some of the power it holds on you. What if you tried more than just putting it out of your mind? What if you could connect the storylines of your fantasy to the storyline o...
Aug 23, 2022•13 min•Ep. 222
Send us a text You are created to be loved by God. You are created to be part of a grand, triumphant story. Your sexual sin doesn’t subtract you from the story. Throughout scripture, we see God choosing and inviting all sorts of characters with all sorts of issues into THE bigger story. Don’t let shame make you believe otherwise. God still wants you. God still chooses you. Your sexual sin doesn’t disqualify you from being chosen, it doesn’t cross you off God’s invite list. Highlights: Our bodies...
Aug 16, 2022•11 min•Ep. 221
Send us a text Battling sexual sin does not mean going to war against your body. Your eyes, hands, feet, your genitals are not the enemy. The Enemy is the enemy. Understanding God loves your body is key in your fight to becoming whole. At the most precious point in the creation story, God created the human body. Your body is not the enemy. Highlights: Your body matters immensely to God. When God sees your body, He sees you. Your body is not an accessory to who you are, it is a fundamental part o...
Aug 09, 2022•12 min•Ep. 220
Send us a text God’s word tells you, “your name is written on the palm of His hand,” and that “He knows the number of hairs on your head,” and that “It was for you He died.” Consider this - The same is true for the porn actress and the man you just swiped left for. God designed you and lives in you. God designed and lives in them. We encounter God when we encounter other people. There’s a lot packed in this short episode, let’s begin. Highlights: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall se...
Aug 02, 2022•10 min•Ep. 219
Send us a text “In this world you will have troubles, but take heart, I have overcome the world.” Temptation is trouble. In fact, temptation is multi-layered trouble because it wants you to believe there’s something bad about you that leads you to be tempted at all. Jesus knows temptation and He knows you. In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” we’re reframing temptation through God’s word and Jesus’ grace. Highlights: Jesus taught us to pray in the Lords Prayer - “And do not lead us into temptati...
Jul 26, 2022•12 min•Ep. 218
Send us a text You’re here now, listening for a reason. Maybe you’re hoping to find a new way, break a habit. Understanding the motivation behind your goal is key to healthy change. In this episode, we’ll explain how shame works. Learning to recognize the sneak and bully Shame is in your work towards wholeness is important. From the outside, your eagerness to volunteer and motivation to serve can look godly and impressive. But, if shame is driving you; that eagerness and motivation can push you ...
Jul 19, 2022•12 min•Ep. 217
Send us a text Tenacious. That’s the kind of grip your sexual addiction can have on you- no matter if it’s porn, masturbation, or hooking up. So, here’s a tough question. While your sexual sin is holding on to you, what are you holding onto? The reality is we are living in an on-demand kind of world. As a Christian battling for sexual freedom, it’s important to recognize if you’re holding onto the hope of instant results or the hope of God. In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” we’ll confront the...
Jul 12, 2022•13 min•Ep. 216
Send us a text What if you could watch footage of yourself just as you’re caught in a moment of temptation? No one else knows what’s about to happen, but you: Your finger might be lingering above the “play” button. You might be walking down the specific hallway where you might see her. You might be standing in front of your bedroom door. Hitting pause at that moment would hold a lot of meaning for you in battling your unwanted sexual behavior. And the pattern is deep, the temptation is painfully...
Jul 05, 2022•13 min•Ep. 215
Send us a text Dieting, Parenting, Working - these are just a few of the arenas in our lives in which boundaries are not only necessary but good. These guidelines establish our limits, communicate our comfort levels and set expectations. When it comes to sexuality today, it seems the lines are blurred. Remember, your body is significant to what it means to be a human being. Your body is significant to the story of salvation. We hope you’ll consider this episode of “Becoming Whole” as a reset, re...
Jun 28, 2022•12 min•Ep. 214
Send us a text We believe God is omniscient. And yet, from Genesis 1:1 all the way to Revelation 22:21, there are more than 3,000 questions logged in the Bible. Why? Why would our All-Knowing God shape so much of His Word into questions? Consider how questions serve as a powerful tool to connect, dig and uncover. Perhaps God is asking you questions to connect, dig, and uncover your truest desires with you. Let’s take some time to consider the questions God may be asking. Highlights: Why does God...
Jun 21, 2022•12 min•Ep. 213
Send us a text The enemy is hard at work weaving lies about who you are, hoping to trap you under a suffocating blanket of who you are NOT. Don’t fall in the trap. The fabric of your being is more intricate and intentional than you can imagine. But the world and the enemy are diligent to get you to believe that what you struggle with is you, is your fault, is because of what you’ve done. As you listen, allow the Lord to tug at a few threads with you to discover the lies you might be living under...
Jun 14, 2022•15 min•Ep. 212
Send us a text “Why Can’t I stop watching porn?” This question deserves a 2 part answer, at least. In last week’s episode, we offered a high-level understanding of our neurological mapping. Learning the intricacy and purpose of serotonin, norepinephrine, oxytocin, and dopamine are important to appreciating God’s design for you. We know porn rewires our God-given desires. The on-demand, accessible nature of porn shuts down the detailed work of your Heavenly Father. It’s time to treat yourself as ...
Jun 07, 2022•16 min•Ep. 211
Send us a text Simply put, pornography jumbles up the delicate, powerful wiring of your brain. Neurology is anything but simple. But, let’s try to our look at our neurological mapping for enough understanding to unpack and move forward in our walk towards sexual integrity. Porn rewires our God given desires. Let’s try re-wiring to what God intended for us. “The process of sanctification is an addiction to holiness, a compulsive fixation on Christ and an impulsive pattern of compassion, virtue an...
May 31, 2022•15 min•Ep. 210
Send us a text The journey to sexual integrity is loaded with potholes and detours. Road Hazards to Sexual Integrity. Let’s be honest - It’s easy to come out of one ditch and end up stumbling into another. You’ve been doing such important work walking towards sexual wholeness. When it comes to your lusts, we hope this episode serves to alert you to two pitfalls. As you move forward, be aware of them and be listening for Jesus invitation in it all. Let’s begin. Highlights: Two pitfalls we can fal...
May 24, 2022•17 min•Ep. 209
Send us a text Sex is more than an act. It’s more than a bandaid, more than a habit, more than an excuse. Consider this - one of your deepest needs and desires is to be fully seen, fully known, and fully loved. A bandaid or habit can’t fulfill that kind of need. There is more to sex. In this episode, we’ll hear how to appreciate God’s design for the relational dynamic sex offers a husband and wife. As you’re doing the work towards sexual integrity, it’s important to also understand the integrity...
May 17, 2022•16 min•Ep. 208
Send us a text When it comes to your story, God is the Author. And, you should be aware the enemy is eager to weave lies into every single chapter. So how do we break unholy agreements? When you hear those whispers and believe them to be true; you’re making an unholy agreement. The lies we agree to change our perception, even our experience, of reality. We hope this episode motivates you to ask the Lord to highlight the Truth so you can spot the lies and move through this chapter in true freedom...
May 10, 2022•21 min•Ep. 207
Send us a text The age old question, Who am I? is important and fundamental to each of us. Who are you trusting with the answer? Consider your sources: An internet search will give you more than 11 BILLION ideas to sift through. Social media offers you thousands of hashtags. And libraries are spilling with books full of answers. The world is loud with expressive individualism. Scientific language applied to social theory has trickled its way into some churches. As you do the work of uncovering a...
May 03, 2022•14 min•Ep. 206
