Questions for tonight's show are: 1. Why am I so stagnant? Despite doing poorly in practically all the dimensions of my life (romantic, social, pursuit) I don't take any effective action. I've done an immense amount of therapies from various modalities, worked with many therapists, including numerous other things to no avail. I stew and rage but don't do anything and I don't know why. I also like to feel like a victim so as to not feel the pressure of responsibility. 2. Your explanation of anger...
Sep 19, 2019•58 min•Season 1Ep. 187
We welcome back Dr. Jen Howk for her part 2 debut on the BYG podcast. Dr. Lisle and Howk answer the following questions from listeners: 1. I would describe myself as a 9. I am pretty and fit. I am educated and have a great job. Since I have graduated college I have had an extremely difficult time with dating. 2. If I slept with someone that I like too soon and they are showing less interest in me is there a way to get their interest back? I remember one episode you mentioned looking your best wa...
Sep 12, 2019•52 min•Season 1Ep. 186
Our questions for this show are: 1. Given the profitability of prescribing pills and surgical procedures, do you believe the mainstream medical-industrial-complex will ever reach a tipping point and head in the direction of true health care? As opposed to the current system of what basically boils down to disease maintenance? 2. In church this week I felt very guilty. No one is specifically asking me for nutrition advice but every week we hear about and pray for members of our congregation that ...
Sep 05, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 185
In this episode, we introduce Dr. Jen Howk, who recently earned her PhD from Harvard. She brings a female perspective to our male/female dynamics questions and offers her insights to our show.
Aug 29, 2019•49 min•Season 1Ep. 184
"I'll do it, but not because you told me to" is a common humorous refrain in movies & TV shows. In this show, we explore where this emotion comes from. First, by reviewing a famous study that found that kids spend less time drawing if you tell them that they'll get a good student award for drawing a good picture, compared to if you just let them draw without telling them anything. Then, Dr. Lisle answers the following questions: 1. With regard to the ego and pleasure traps, if you want to in...
Aug 22, 2019•58 min•Season 1Ep. 183
We start this episode with a question about the Enlightenment & Ego Trap - left over from last episode. The rest of the questions are about interacting with children/kids. 1. I have a number of friends who come from difficult backgrounds – a family history of mental illness and/or abuse, poor decision-making, relative poverty and very little work experience. I've found that they're generally unwilling to consider most basic employment options to alleviate their financial difficulties, figuri...
Aug 15, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 182
In this show, we discuss showing weakness as a sexual strategy, then we move to a question about dominance hierarchies vs. competence hierarchy (is there a difference?). Next question is about the mixed perceptions of evolutionary psychology. Finally, Dr. Lisle then takes some time to discuss elements of the ego trap. The questions are as follows: 1. Do you think there are situations where a man showing weakness to a woman can be positive? Can women get away with it easily, or weakness also a si...
Aug 08, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 181
Dr. Lisle goes in depth about why nature has selected for subjective experiences. The question is as follows: What is your take on why a subjective experience would have been selected for, as opposed to animals simply being like machines with no subjective experience inside? More importantly, what is your take on how a subjective experience can possibly be created in the mind? How could neurons firing create a personal experience? Next, he tackles this broad few questions: Why were we given the ...
Aug 01, 2019•47 min•Season 1Ep. 180
Questions tonight are as follows: Can you please talk about the relationship between money and self-esteem and how to learn to enjoy the money one makes? If women in one's social circles, acquaintances, friends, etc. seem receptive to casual mating, should we go for it without much worry, or is it bound to lead to future problems with them and the group? Why does it appear that people make so much up? (at least on TV when asked questions) Am I the oddball for feeling that when you've known someo...
Jul 25, 2019•51 min•Season 1Ep. 179
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality & Social Psychology* attempts to tackle understanding the stress of decision making. Nate G goes over the article and Dr. Lisle offers his take. Can the stress of decision making be explained solely by the personality trait conscientiousness? Dr. Lisle and Nate discuss. The next topic stems from a listener's question: "Can we choose who we want the most esteem from? Is there a way I can care less about the esteem from some people? It is ...
Jul 18, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 178
In this episode, we review a new study in the science of happiness. The first, by Bruce Headey called, Happiness and Longevity: Unhappy People Die Young, Otherwise Happiness Probably Makes No Difference, explains what effect happiness has on our longetivity. The first listener question is from a young man whose short love life has allowed him to feel the moods of happiness while in a relationship. Since the most recent breakup, he feels as though he has low self-esteem and is curious about wheth...
Jul 11, 2019•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 177
We start the show with a question about whether a higher extroversion individual would act more introverted due to status loss. Then, we move on to a question about why & what to do when getting ignored or constantly interrupted in an academic setting. Then we move on to a quesiton about whether we have natural, genetic discipline and ambition. Dr. Lisle shares his opinion about a recent book, Blueprint by Robert Plomin.
Jul 04, 2019•51 min•Season 1Ep. 176
Ben Franklin effect, Burying feelings, Bottling up emotions, Internet trolls
Jun 27, 2019•51 min•Season 1Ep. 175
Does casual mating doom pair bond chances? Evo psych & spiritual experience, sibling rivalry
Jun 20, 2019•48 min•Season 1Ep. 174
Being cheap, Loaning money, Alcoholic husband, Influencing others
Jun 13, 2019•55 min•Season 1Ep. 173
Most dating advice tells women that if a man keeps pursuing you, he must really be into you. Dr. Lisle says that's exactly backwards when the man is a salesman. Salesmen are trained to not take no for an answer, and that same wiring shows up in how they chase sex. Relentless pursuit is evidence of strategy, not sincerity. In this on-air session with a 31-year-old caller named Jessie, Dr. Lisle walks through the two problems every health-conscious single woman faces: how to advertise her lifestyl...
Jun 06, 2019•48 min•Season 1Ep. 172
Advice for an indecisive man, Advice for a teacher, Delusional friends
May 30, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 171
Is knitting a sexual display? Is sexual inexperience a turn off?
May 23, 2019•48 min•Season 1Ep. 170
Finding a dream job, Drama at work, Helping parents find happiness
May 16, 2019•49 min•Season 1Ep. 169
Why do suckers get suckered into things, Are emotions contagious?
May 09, 2019•56 min•Season 1Ep. 168
Epigenetics, Stress and health, ego-centric bias while dating
May 02, 2019•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 167
Where does guilt come from? Why do some people have 'body issues'? What's the difference between empathy & compassion? Specifically, in the context of a sociopath? Is there a link between highly-open people & reduced genetic preference?
Apr 25, 2019•53 min•Season 1Ep. 166
Dating down vs. up Do we embarrass to assess mate value? What to do if alcohol becomes the preferred social lubricant? Do pair-bonded agreeable people feel happy together?
Apr 18, 2019•57 min•Season 1Ep. 165
What if your kid doesn't want to go to college? Is there an anti-10 paid dates culture? Why are things "manly"? How to tell if a potential employee is agreeable & conscientious? Why does family discourage physical fitness vs. career success? and more!
Apr 11, 2019•58 min•Season 1Ep. 164
Expectations vs performance, politics questions, business partner conflict
Apr 04, 2019•58 min•Season 1Ep. 163
The second part of a 2-part show explaining the ego trap. In this episode, we take questions from listeners about their own ego trap.
Mar 28, 2019•54 min•Season 1Ep. 162
Explaining the Ego Trap 1 of 2
Mar 21, 2019•59 min•Season 1Ep. 161
Special Episode - Broadcasting on Facebook Live
Mar 14, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 160
Internal audience, public speaking, Hot/cold lovers,Getting over a breakup
Mar 07, 2019•48 min•Season 1Ep. 159
Are women harder on themselves, Stuttering, Marriage problems, Is there a limit to esteem
Feb 28, 2019•52 min•Season 1Ep. 158