Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Merch –mugs, t-shirts, canvas wall hangings and more that are great for Christmas gifts and stocking stuffers. Check out our Love & Respect collection , our Biblical Womanhood collection , and especially our Be a Biblical Woman collection ! Our Patreon– join for as little as $5 a month and help support our research! A brief synopsis of the learned helplessness experiments with dogs , and then a run down on the learned helplessness experiment in t...
Dec 01, 2022•56 min•Season 5Ep. 169
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon: Support us for as little as $5 a month to help us branch out and continue this movement! https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/ Our series on our 4 step recovery plan when sex has become a major issue: https://baremarriage.com/2022/11/the-sex-recovery-series-4-point-plan-to-rebuild-your-sex-life/ One story on what recovery looks like: https://baremarriage.com/2022/11/heres-what-recov...
Nov 17, 2022•52 min•Season 5Ep. 168
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon: Support us for as little as $5 a month to help us branch out and continue this movement! https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/ Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted: https://amzn.to/3DOvJgo Jay’s website: https://jay-stringer.com/ Jay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jay_stringer_/ Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are https://amzn.to/3zYymvd Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriag...
Nov 10, 2022•1 hr•Season 5Ep. 167
Send us a text Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree....
Nov 03, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 5Ep. 166
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon ! Support where this blog is going for as little as $5 a month! The Boost Your Libido Course and The Orgasm Course The birth control series where we went over how some contraception methods MAY affect libido How our hormones and our cycle affect libido Our post on how the sexual debut affects libido later Our post on how mental load and division of labor affects libido Our Love AND Respect Merch Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.c...
Oct 27, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 5Ep. 165
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The study on Who Cheats More: https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america The Dennis Prager Facebook Video: https://www.facebook.com/prageru/videos/868111834352628/ The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/ The podcast with Alyssa Wakefield https://baremarriage.com/2022/06/groomed-for-an-abusive-arranged-marriage-alyssa-wakefields-story-podcast/ Th...
Oct 20, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 5Ep. 164
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: See the study ! Want an easier way to read a summary of the study? Read yesterday's post . Previous podcast: are men and women's brains really that different? Previous podcast: Let's talk MODESTY. Follow Meghan Tschanz on Instagram Learn more about The Great Sex Rescue Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex A...
Oct 13, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 5Ep. 163
Send us a text Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree....
Oct 06, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 162
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and fund our ongoing projects The Great Sex Rescue , our book that showed the issues with a lot of evangelical teaching about sex, based on our survey of 20,000 women Our Merch: Check out our Be a Biblical Woman collection The other times we've talked about Josh Howerton, specifically with Josh Howerton plagiarizing others ; and Josh Howerton misrepresenting research. Download our rubric of healthy sex...
Sep 29, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Season 5Ep. 161
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Our patrons have helped us have the time and flexibility to write She Deserves Better (out in April), along with the stats for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Right now Joanna is working on two different peer-reviewed papers, and our next big project we'd like to fund is creating a database of good and bad books. You can support us for as little as $5 a month, and get behind-the-scenes access! Suppor...
Sep 22, 2022•59 min•Season 5Ep. 160
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Natalie’s Flying Free site , and Natalie’s awesome Facebook Page , Instagram , and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to her podcast ! Natalie’s book “Is It Me”? The terrible books Natalie mentioned: Our post about Created To Be His Helpmeet; Julie Anne Smith’s review of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace The book that helped Natalie: Leslie Vernick’s Emotionally Destructive Marriage Patrick Weaver’s I Hate Divorce t-shirts Patrick Weaver on the Malachi ver...
Sep 15, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 5Ep. 159
Send us a text Should pastors be allowed to plagiarize in their sermons? I’ll be frank: I think evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity, as we talked about on last week’s podcast. And I think plagiarism is part of that celebrity. It’s rampant among pastors and authors in evangelicalism, and it allows people to give a false sense of themselves to others to boost their status. It needs to stop. Links to things mentioned: Scot McKnight's book A Church Called TOV Scot McKnight's New Testament Ev...
Sep 08, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 5Ep. 158
Send us a text Evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity culture. I mean, everyone has a problem with celebrity culture. But it can be worse in the church because we’re supposed to put Jesus front and centre, and too oten we’re protecting celebrity and ignoring the way of Christ. Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon ! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to an awesome Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more. Or if you don’t want to support long term, considering leavin...
Sep 01, 2022•53 min•Season 5Ep. 157
Send us a text One of the most frequent questions I’ve had since The Great Sex Rescue was published has been: “Have any of the authors responded to your critiques?” People want to know–has anyone owned their mistakes and made changes? And the quick answer is no. I wanted to have a central place where I can show you what the authors who HAVE said something have said. And I need to say something. This is a personal podcast. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Download our rubric and sc...
Aug 25, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Season 5Ep. 156
Send us a text We’ve got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today–plus a new research study with implications for dating. Today Rebecca and I tell you about two modern day heroes, plus two young women using the gifts God gave them to try to change their world! Then we analyze that Psychology Today article we told you about–the rise of lonely, single men. Listen in! Links to things mentioned: Patreon Our Whole Story Sex & Puberty course An article about Chief Theresa Kachimond...
Aug 18, 2022•55 min•Season 5Ep. 155
Send us a text Time for another hero of the faith! Well, three, actually! This month we’re telling amazing stories of women that God used in history to fight against injustice and show that God values women. This week Kristin Kobes Du Mez, the author of Jesus and John Wayne, joins us to talk about her biography of Katharine Bushnell. Links to things mentioned: The New Gospel for Women: Katharine Bushnell and the Challenge of Christian Feminism On Purpose: Understanding God's Freedom for Women Th...
Aug 11, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 5Ep. 2
Send us a text Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler? If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known as Florence Nightingale, but history has largely forgotten her. Joanna and I sat down and read Josephine Butler: Patron Saint of Prostitutes, and discussed it today! Links to things mentioned: Josephine Butler, Patron Saint of Prostitutes (it's a great read for the summer!) Join our Patreon and support the podcast transcription--and all the r...
Aug 04, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Season 5Ep. 153
Send us a text What if your wife has been taught toxic things about sex–and you don’t even realize it? Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have been Support our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as little as $5 or $8 a month! Our "Do All Men Struggle with Lust" podcast Our open letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect (at the bottom of this post is links to all of the other things we've said a...
Jul 28, 2022•49 min
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/ And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyF Benjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224 Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift: https://guardthegift.com/ The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/ Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/podcast-marital-rape-consent/...
Jul 21, 2022•57 min
Send us a text Links to things mentioned: The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com 4 Stages of Porn Recovery: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/4-stages-of-porn-recovery-what-porn-recovery-in-marriage-looks-like/ The Bell-curve Modesty Rule: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/new-look-at-christian-modesty-guidelines/ The Whole Story: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/ The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827 Andrew...
Jul 14, 2022•53 min
Send us a text Unconditional respect isn’t a thing. And yet we’re often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love. Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall Paul and Gender: Reclaiming the Apostle's Vision for Men and Women in Christ The Great Sex Rescue Psychology Today article To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., sup...
Jul 07, 2022•56 min
Send us a text We wrap up what can cause women’s libidos to plummet–and what men can do about it! Because it isn’t always men’s fault (in fact, it’s often not). But guys can still be a big part of the solution. And if libido differences are a huge issue in your marriage, it doesn’t mean that there’s nothing that can be done. Asking the hard questions can really help! Links to things Mentioned in This Podcast: The Great Sex Rescue Our totally revamped Boost Your Libido course Elora Dodd on Instag...
Jun 30, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 4Ep. 152
Send us a text Recently John Piper had a podcast telling a woman how to deal with a “harsh” husband. It was atrocious advice–especially since women in emotionally abusive relationships would listen to this advice and think that it pertained to them (since most women in abusive relationships would describe their husbands as harsh). Links to things mentioned: John Piper article on harsh husbands Our original Facebook Live (expanded content from this podcast, extra 13 minutes on end) Our article ta...
Jun 23, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 151
Send us a text Let’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult. That’s Alyssa Wakefield’s conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast! Links to things mentioned: Part 1 of Alyssa's story Wendy Snyder's FREE Parenting Workshop Registration TraumaMAMAS app Sarah McDugal: Instagram Facebook Natalie Hoffman's book Is It Me? To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in t...
Jun 16, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 4Ep. 150
Send us a text What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to? Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages? Today's podcast sounds more like one of those True Crime documentaries. Links to things mentioned: Our podcast on the Gothard movement with Emily Elizabeth Anderson Our podcast on positive parenting with Wendy Snyder Register for our free webi...
Jun 09, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 149
Send us a text Have we made sex–and marriage–into a “Yes Space” for men? And if so, how does this affect libido? Links to things mentioned: The Orgasm Course Podcast where we talked about postpartum sex Review of Married Sex Mental Load Podcast To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation And check out our Merch , or any of our courses ! Support the show J...
Jun 02, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 148
Send us a text Can we have a nuanced discussion about porn and the likelihood of recovery? One of our goals for what we do is to help people have “informed consent”–in other words, before they make a decision, they need to know all the facts. We can’t be afraid of data and evidence. Links to things mentioned: Find Sarah! Trauma Mamas App Sarah's full Noticing vs. Lusting video Knix in the U.S. Knix in Canada The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to supp...
May 26, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 147
Send us a text How do our attachment styles–or love styles–affect our marriage? So often we think that our marriage problems are about communication, or habits, or normal conflicts. But what if they’re rooted in how we learned to connect with people? Links to things mentioned: Yerkovich's Website How We Love The Orgasm Course Our Post on the 5 Love Styles Knix in the U.S. Knix in Canada The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax d...
May 19, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 146
Send us a text What if discipline and spanking aren’t synonyms? What if there was a much more effective way of disciplining your kids where you connect with their heart and it actually BUILDS your relationship? Links to things mentioned: Fresh Start Family Podcast Episode 122 Episode 123 Wendy's site Discipline Class Strong Willed Kids help Logical Discipline Planning Guide Jesus the Gentle Parent Heartfelt Discipline The Mask You Live in Documentary The Whole Story Puberty and Sex Course Angry ...
May 12, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 145
Send us a text In the last of our three podcasts with Joanna where we talk stats, we tackle a few more ways that research is often handled poorly, using the research around spanking as one example. And then we bring on Wendy Snyder from Fresh Start Families to talk about how to use discipline that connects with your child! Links to things mentioned: Find Wendy ! Our articles on Spanking Babies and the research on spanking The Gershoff Meta-Analyses of Spanking The problems with the book Love &am...
May 05, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 144
